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Elissimpark posted:While this is somewhat true, there are legit, evidence-based reasons to avoid hospitals if you're expecting a pretty straightforward birth. I'm all ears on how a first time (anti vax crystal clutching) mother can reasonably "expect" that. Maybe I spent too many years as an EMT/medic. Because I've been on that call a few times already.
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I know completely non-woo people who have had home births with midwives. It's what they were comfortable with and went very well. It is riskier than doing so in a medical facility, but I really don't like to hear pregnant people being shamed for how and where they choose to give birth. Different beliefs, different bodies, different circumstances. If it's a high risk pregnancy and they are ignoring medical advice, or if in that post the house was just filthy covered in dog hair and poo poo, then sure that deserves some judgment.
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run on sentience posted:I know completely non-woo people who have had home births with midwives. It's what they were comfortable with and went very well. It is riskier than doing so in a medical facility, but I really don't like to hear pregnant people being shamed for how and where they choose to give birth. Different beliefs, different bodies, different circumstances. If it's a high risk pregnancy and they are ignoring medical advice, or if in that post the house was just filthy covered in dog hair and poo poo, then sure that deserves some judgment. Serious question, have you ever cleaned up after one of these that has gone wrong and known that it would have been a completely benign event if they were actually giving birth in a properly equipped and staffed care facility? Because I'm 100% fine with shaming people for being willfully reckless. This isn't the old west frontier. We have easily accessible appropriate levels of care which in fact have reduced our infant mortality rate by quite a lot.
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Jul 4, 2022 23:00
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Dear Prudence has the lowest stakes thing I've seen in a while. quote:Recently my brother-in-law told a “joke” about how the local supermarket chain must think his dead grandmother has an incredible appetite for a 107-year-old because he still uses her discount card (technically he keys in her old phone number) when he goes shopping. I've actually had the cashier ask to use my card for a little old lady who forgot hers/didn't have one. I got the fuel points, she got the discounts, everyone was happy.
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Jul 4, 2022 23:27
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Your partner's a loving cop.
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blackmet posted:Dear Prudence has the lowest stakes thing I've seen in a while. You monster. You swine. Have you for one second thought about that supermarkets marketing department
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Jul 4, 2022 23:30
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big dyke energy posted:Your partner's a loving cop. Even worse: a MARKETING COP
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AITA For Not Letting My Sister in Law Wear My Wedding Dress to Prom?quote:I (25F) got married to my husband (24M) a year ago. He has a sister (16F). I went a little non traditional with my dress. I got a big light yellow dress, and a beautiful strapy top with lace. The dress was gorgeous, and of course very expensive. This was definitely my dream dress. just when i thought the entitlement had peaked that last paragraph came up. have fun with your new family, OP
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Jul 4, 2022 23:34
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big dyke energy posted:Your partner's a loving cop. I was like "He's a security specialist, thank you." Because that is literally what he does. Then I realized you were talking about the letter writer.
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Motronic posted:Serious question, have you ever cleaned up after one of these that has gone wrong and known that it would have been a completely benign event if they were actually giving birth in a properly equipped and staffed care facility? meanwhile, in America,
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Honestly I might not trust American doctors all that much more than a doula considering the rate of unnecessary c-sections performed in general and specifically on black women.
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blackmet posted:She says it’s considered fraud to use someone else’s discount card because it creates bad data for the supermarket’s marketing purposes, lol won't somebody please think of the marketing department! 
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Motronic posted:Serious question, have you ever cleaned up after one of these that has gone wrong and known that it would have been a completely benign event if they were actually giving birth in a properly equipped and staffed care facility? I genuinely love someone getting all "HAVE YOU EVER LOOKED A DEAD BABY IN THE FACE KNOWING YOU KILLED THEM BY NOT FORCING SOMEONE TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL???" when we're talking about (assumedly at least) American births. Don't look up stats for mortality in hospital births here, and super especially don't sort by race/income!
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sexpig by night posted:I genuinely love someone getting all "HAVE YOU EVER LOOKED A DEAD BABY IN THE FACE KNOWING YOU KILLED THEM BY NOT FORCING SOMEONE TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL???" when we're talking about (assumedly at least) American births. Don't look up stats for mortality in hospital births here, and super especially don't sort by race/income! I did, and was amazed https://www.nber.org/bah/2015no1/why-infant-mortality-higher-us-europe
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Jul 5, 2022 02:00
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bltzn posted:lol The marketing department does not give one hot gay gently caress, because to them grandma could have become a syndicate of sentient space slugs as long as they can track her purchases and determine what she'd want next.
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Jul 5, 2022 02:00
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for cancelling the family trip after I found out that my wife cancelled my son's ticket? Love it when the trash takes itself out; hope it stays that way. This doesn't apply here because the stepmother treated the boys well for a while, at least until they were married -- maybe it's because I'm a divorced dad who found a wife who's also a kick-rear end stepmom and wouldn't have brought her into my daughter's life and kept her there if I didn't think she'd be a net positive for my daughter, but I'm usually more pissed off at the birth parent than the stepparent in these stories. The latter may be selfish and shallow, but the former is making the active choice to accept that over their own children, which is more selfish and shallower by a significant degree.
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Barudak posted:The marketing department does not give one hot gay gently caress, because to them grandma could have become a syndicate of sentient space slugs as long as they can track her purchases and determine what she'd want next. I still use my mom's card at Food Lion, and she's been dead for 9 years.
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sexpig by night posted:I genuinely love someone getting all "HAVE YOU EVER LOOKED A DEAD BABY IN THE FACE KNOWING YOU KILLED THEM BY NOT FORCING SOMEONE TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL???" when we're talking about (assumedly at least) American births. Don't look up stats for mortality in hospital births here, and super especially don't sort by race/income! https://www.reuters.com/article/us-health-homebirths-newborn-mortality-idUSKBN20N0R0 https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35108404/ Out of hospital births seem to be more dangerous in the US.
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Silly Newbie posted:https://www.reuters.com/article/us-health-homebirths-newborn-mortality-idUSKBN20N0R0 otoh, giving birth in your bathtub won't bankrupt you, so it's impossible to say which is better
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Stories about how doctors dismiss and downplay women's concerns are incredibly loving common and yeah I don't blame women for losing trust in the system. Sure a hospital is safer, but having to pay a fortune while also worring about a doctor doing uneccessary operations such as stiching up your crotch so its ~more fuckable~ after childbirth is pretty scary. https://www.healthline.com/health-news/husband-stitch-is-not-just-myth
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Xun posted:Stories about how doctors dismiss and downplay women's concerns are incredibly loving common and yeah I don't blame women for losing trust in the system. Sure a hospital is safer, but having to pay a fortune while also worring about a doctor doing uneccessary operations such as stiching up your crotch so its ~more fuckable~ after childbirth is pretty scary. Yeah I really can't imagine any reason someone wouldn't want to be subject to an abusive and extractive medical system to facilitate a process that's been happening for literally 200 million years, they must just be stupid hippies.
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Xun posted:Stories about how doctors dismiss and downplay women's concerns are incredibly loving common and yeah I don't blame women for losing trust in the system. Sure a hospital is safer, but having to pay a fortune while also worring about a doctor doing uneccessary operations such as stiching up your crotch so its ~more fuckable~ after childbirth is pretty scary. wasn't there a story in one of these threads about a husband who got himself thrown out of the delivery room for requesting that?
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Foo Diddley posted:wasn't there a story in one of these threads about a husband who got himself thrown out of the delivery room for requesting that? Tragically, my husband was suddenly replaced with a rapidly-dispersing red mist shortly after my child was born. Yes, it's very sad.
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gay frog chemicals posted:Yeah I really can't imagine any reason someone wouldn't want to be subject to an abusive and extractive medical system to facilitate a process that's been happening for literally 200 million years, they must just be stupid hippies. Do you have an opinion about vaccines
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They're safe and effective and usually free, unlike most of the American medical establishment. Truly it is every pregnant woman's duty to be unnecessarily cut open and have their abdominal muscles damaged so that their profit driven hospital can charge extra money to their insurance company, which might tell them to get hosed and pay the $50k themselves. Anyone who thinks otherwise is just a conspiracy theorist. gay frog chemicals fucked around with this message at 02:52 on Jul 5, 2022 |
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Brawnfire posted:Tragically, my husband was suddenly replaced with a rapidly-dispersing red mist shortly after my child was born. Yes, it's very sad. No body, no crime. Case closed as a missing persons.
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DeeplyConcerned posted:No body, no crime. That's what habeas corpus means, right?
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I (and my mother) literally would have died if she hadn't been in a hospital when I was born, so
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I kramered out my mom like six weeks early and had to spend a few weeks in an incubator, but I'm also Canadian so the hospital was an easy choice for my parents
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I didn't mean to cause a derail about such an awful subject but some of the stuff mentioned is what I'm talking about when I say it's not fair to judge people who have home births as crazy. I'll shut up after this but to add a couple more examples, where I live many women are still coerced to consent to sterilization after the baby is born. Some babies are taken immediately upon birth and the mother needs to prove she can take care of it. This happens mainly to people who have had mental health or addictions issues who are flagged and it's also just sometimes plain old racial profiling. It happens way disproportionately to indigenous women because Canada has never stopped stealing indigenous children from their communities. Edit to add link https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/manitoba/birth-alerts-manitoba-data-1.6477872
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Pigsfeet on Rye posted:I still use my mom's card at Food Lion, and she's been dead for 9 years. I just got off the phone with the FBI, they assured me that they would look into it before hanging up. They were laughing, I presume because of how much trouble you're in!!!
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Post content pls and thx u
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Im trying to imagine a single person in marketing who gives a poo poo about what they do outside of whatever baseline is necessary to draw salary and I can't do it, the impossible can't be imagined
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Seth Pecksniff posted:Post content pls and thx u Is this content for a regular occasion or for a wedding?
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AITA for giving my husband’s car a flat tire because I didn’t want him to go on a trip with his friends?quote:I (31F) have a husband (33M) who has been planning a trip to California with his friends for the past month. I have been completely fine with the fact that they would be gone for 3 weeks up until 2 days before the trip. I told my husband that I didn’t feel comfortable staying home alone for 3 weeks while him and his friends were having fun in California, so I asked him if I could go. I thought he would have been okay with it, but he said no. I was shocked by this answer. He told me that him and his friends were planning the trip for a while and they can’t change the plans up by letting someone else go on such short notice. I was mad that he didn’t let me go, so the night before he was supposed to drive to airport, I snuck into the garage and used an air pump to release all of the air in one of his tires. The next morning when he was about to leave, he noticed that one of his tires were flat. He asked me if I knew what happened, and I told him that I flattened it because he didn’t let me go on the trip. He exploded by my statement, he said that I was an rear end in a top hat for being selfish and jealous that I couldn’t go on the trip. His friends couldn’t pick him up because they wouldn’t make it to the airport in time before the plane took off. He had to stay home and miss the trip. He stopped talking to me for a while after that. I feel like I didn’t do anything wrong but he says otherwise. AITA?
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Soon to be ex-husband, I hope.
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AITA for telling my husband to stop changing the receipes?quote:My (30F) husband (33M) does majority of the cooking - like 90%. This is specifically because he’s a picky eater and I have given up cooking for him (I just clean up afterwards and watch the baby while he cooks).
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Absurd Alhazred posted:AITA for giving my husband’s car a flat tire because I didn’t want him to go on a trip with his friends? I want to yell fake but I've known people like this and the response to why did you do this is "well I didn't want to hurt him" and it dawns on you they mean physically. Mx. posted:AITA for telling my husband to stop changing the receipes? Where is he getting his calories from if hes not eating dinner? Son a bitch has a side-course doesn't he? Probably a whole nother tasting menu across town.
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WIBTA if I refuse to move my wedding date even if it means my future MIL cannot attend?quote:I am marrying the love of my life in 2 weeks. For context, I have saved for this wedding for over a year, even before I proposed, because Janice ( my fiancée) wants to get married in Queenstown, NZ. Kinda pricey but I believe she deserves it.
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Mx. posted:WIBTA if I refuse to move my wedding date even if it means my future MIL cannot attend? I've been in the potential jury pool for a couple six month blocks now and my notices just said to notify them in writing ahead of time if I was going to be out of town, I'm kinda curious how universal that is. I never got checked on it, but I always sent in the notices well ahead of time.
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