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That sucks, OP is genuinely being considerate of what the step daughter wants and it sounds like the two of them have a pretty good relationship and mutual respect for each other, which is a hell of a lot better than most of this thread gets. But apparently since their relationship doesn't look like traditional mother/daughter and they aren't biologically related, grandma is entitled to pull the "you could never understand how much I care" card because... biotruths? e: Content for snipe; this one is kind of boring but I just like the title AITA for claiming I drew a children’s drawing? quote:The building I work in has a reception desk that I man once or twice a week when I work the day shift, behind the desk someone hung a drawing their kid drew of us all. It’s a typical scribbled toddlers drawing. Last we were having some people come through and I jokingly asked them if they liked the drawing I did of us all, but hey laughed because it was obviously a kid. MK-Ultramarathon fucked around with this message at 16:42 on Jul 21, 2022 |
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Captain Hygiene posted:AITA for refusing to put my fiance on the house title after he kept handing me empty pens as a prank? The only reason for him to demand to be added to the deed is so he can walk with half the house when he feels like it. Pushing for it to happen before the wedding, and even before he's put anything towards the mortgage, reads like he's already got an eye on the exit.
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Jul 21, 2022 16:58
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The Bramble posted:It can be an elective let's make it a full on bachelor's major
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Jul 21, 2022 17:05
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Bit of the ol' peggy-weggy
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Jul 21, 2022 17:13
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AITA because I use my lacrosse skills for evilquote:My wife says I'm being a huge AH. Drop poo poo, get hit (with poo poo)
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA because I use my lacrosse skills for evil lmao dude owns
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA because I use my lacrosse skills for evil I did the same thing with a shovel. Finding their dog's poo poo on their car got the message across
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If I'm going to get pegged to Grieg, I feel that "In the hall of the Mountain King" would be more appropriate.
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I was thinking about doing that but the guy had threatened me when I complained that he was walking his excitable fully grown German shepherd in a dense suburb without a leash just because it was running up to kids and knocking them over and jumping on them, so I decided I didn't want to get shot. He had the dog taken away shortly after that anyway.
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA because I use my lacrosse skills for evil My neighbor'd kids used to throw their little sibling's used diapers into my backyard. I never played lacrosse but have a mean hook with a shovel. Sent most of them back into the yard, but a few times got on the roof. AITA for moving my family to another state after my parents bought our first home for us in the midwest? quote:I grew up in the midwest, and after I left I had no desire to return. Unfortunately, home prices where I want to live are insane right now, and have been for a while. My parents generously offered to buy us a house about 5 years ago, the caveat that it had to be in Ohio.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for moving my family to another state after my parents bought our first home for us in the midwest? Totally understandable, I moved from the Midwest up into the Rockies, and it's just rough to imagine going back to live in cornfield central after that. It's nice to live around grandparents, but it's not even like that's a given for a lot of families anyway.
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Jul 21, 2022 18:24
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for moving my family to another state after my parents bought our first home for us in the midwest? apparently a lot of reddit commenters think it's okay to put strings on a gift as long as it costs enough if the parents had bought them an ugly engagement ring or something they'd all agree OP was NTA for selling it, but a house is just too much i guess
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Jul 21, 2022 18:28
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bell jar posted:What the hell kind of metaphor is this The beaver that broke the camel's back sometimes isn't the brightest crayon in the tool shed
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Jul 21, 2022 18:32
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Foo Diddley posted:apparently a lot of reddit commenters think it's okay to put strings on a gift as long as it costs enough Depending on how the parents feel about Colorado, how much of a relationship he wants with them, and their situation it might be worth asking them if they'd be interested in something like an in-law suite or a guest house on their property they can live in. I have some extended family in Colorado and where they are the houses themselves are moderately expensive but they're all on huge lots, there might be room to expand and they could channel some of that "gift" money from the house towards something for the parents to shut them up and give them a chance to be with the grandkids.
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Foo Diddley posted:apparently a lot of reddit commenters think it's okay to put strings on a gift as long as it costs enough Five years, too! They lived there for five years. Not like it was six months and they were like “yeah thanks but no thanks.” They stuck it out for plenty of time imo.
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Cowslips Warren posted:My neighbor'd kids used to throw their little sibling's used diapers into my backyard. I never played lacrosse but have a mean hook with a shovel. Sent most of them back into the yard, but a few times got on the roof. 
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Foo Diddley posted:apparently a lot of reddit commenters think it's okay to put strings on a gift as long as it costs enough  What? Like if I gave a friend $500 to help with a car payment and they turned around and used that money to buy Warhammer miniatures, I would be unbelievably pissed. There's degrees of dickishness, but the dude did pretty clearly take advantage of his parents' generosity.e: Like, I'm not saying that his family should have stayed in Ohio forever, no one should live there, but imo the way he did it was extremely inconsiderate. Acebuckeye13 fucked around with this message at 19:03 on Jul 21, 2022 |
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Acebuckeye13 posted:
You give your friend a car payment, they drive it for five years, and then sell it. Do you feel like you were scammed in that situation? Warhammer figurines, Jesus, what a terrible metaphor for what actually happened.
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Acebuckeye13 posted:
That bought a house and lived in it for years, it'd be a very different question if they just took the money and moved to Colorado.
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Five years though. Like if I help someone with a car payment and then five years later they sell the car and buy miniatures…ok, sure why not
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sephiRoth IRA posted:You give your friend a car payment, they drive it for five years, and then sell it. Do you feel like you were scammed in that situation? Sell it because they're upgrading to a new car, even.
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Acebuckeye13 posted:
It looks like they've been living in the house for five years, it's not like they grabbed the deed from their parents' hands and then slapped down a For Sale sign and rode off into the sunset. How long should they be required to live in this one house in Ohio before they're allowed to leave? efb by like five different people because of how bad this equivalence is
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Anyway here's a different one AITA for telling my sister I'm sick of her hypothetical pregnancy? quote:For the past year my sister has been trying to get pregnant, a journey on which I fully support her. However, she's been kind of obnoxious about it. She's always bringing up how she might be pregnant. "No wine for me, I might be pregnant. I can't keep the fast today, might be pregnant. I miss sushi, but I have to abstain because I might be pregnant." She's been pregnant and not pregnant for so long that I'm starting to worry she'll give birth to a cat. Mostly I just can't stop laughing at the phrase "Shrodinger's pregnancy"
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I wonder why Ohio has become the official dump-on state? I mean, Indiana is much worse. There was a period when the state government in Indiana was dominated by the Ku Klux Klan.
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sephiRoth IRA posted:You give your friend a car payment, they drive it for five years, and then sell it. Do you feel like you were scammed in that situation? It's a direct response to "you can't put strings on a gift" by using a deliberately exaggerated metaphor.
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Honestly even if it was a super quick flip then NTA. Life is too short to spend it in Ohio & the parents should be happy their kid & his family got out. edit: also something with strings isn't a "gift." It can be a bribe, purchase, manipulation, trade, blackmail, etc. etc. but it isn't a gift. Nancy fucked around with this message at 19:10 on Jul 21, 2022 |
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Foo Diddley posted:apparently a lot of reddit commenters think it's okay to put strings on a gift as long as it costs enough If that happened though, I'm pretty sure he'd turn the offer down.
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Didn't we have another post a week or so ago where someone from the Rockies was dumping on Ohio? Maybe it was another of those boring states/provinces on the Prairies, either way it's a neat theme
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Captain Hygiene posted:Anyway here's a different one One of those ones where I’m YTA at the top but by the end I’m like “actually you have a point, that’s kinda douche” Re: gifts, idk putting strings on em even if they’re big really seems like a recipe for disaster. If you’re not ok with people using your gifts however the gently caress you want…don’t give them the gift. If I were the parents in this sitch I’d probably be a little hurt but I wouldn’t take it out on my kid, more like a “welp lesson learned” kinda thing
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DaysBefore posted:Didn't we have another post a week or so ago where someone from the Rockies was dumping on Ohio? Maybe it was another of those boring states/provinces on the Prairies, either way it's a neat theme Was that the "gently caress ohio boyfriend, imma climb mountains" girl?
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So the issue here is the difference between "I have bought a house and you can live in it rent free as long as you pay the bills" and "I have bought you a house to live in and have passed ownership to you" where the person making the gift clearly didn't think there would be a difference between the two. At a minimum there should have been a conversation along the lines of 'we have decided to sell up and move away, obviously given you bought this house we would like to pay you back a reasonable amount'. e: \/ there are probably some warhammer minis that literally have more value than a house in ohio
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I dunno, owning warhammer minis has more value than living in the state of ohio
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Alchenar posted:So the issue here is the difference between "I have bought a house and you can live in it rent free as long as you pay the bills" and "I have bought you a house to live in and have passed ownership to you" where the person making the gift clearly didn't think there would be a difference between the two. Reads to me like they did talk about it, mom seems to have a normal reaction, sad but understands. Dad seems to be cooking off though.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:I wonder why Ohio has become the official dump-on state? I mean, Indiana is much worse. There was a period when the state government in Indiana was dominated by the Ku Klux Klan. Indiana is so bland that it frankly should not exist. It's a monument to nihilism. You can't get angry at Indiana. It's like getting angry at a drop of water.
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Nancy posted:Reads to me like they did talk about it, mom seems to have a normal reaction, sad but understands. Yeah the vibe I get is that the conversation was had and parents went “well yeah but I would never do that, so they won’t either” and put it out of their mind
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Nancy posted:Reads to me like they did talk about it, mom seems to have a normal reaction, sad but understands. imo it reads to me like he'd talked about doing it in a general sense without any specific timeframe (As in "Oh, I'd love to move back out to Colorado one day"), but then when they decided to do it just up and sold the house and flew out west unilaterally.
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Seth Pecksniff posted:Indiana is so bland that it frankly should not exist. It's a monument to nihilism. You can't get angry at Indiana. It's like getting angry at a drop of water. Indiana has one purpose: to be Chicago's guns and fireworks store.
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Nae posted:Indiana has one purpose: to be Chicago's guns and fireworks store. And abortion facility!  For the moment.
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Acebuckeye13 posted:imo it reads to me like he'd talked about doing it in a general sense without any specific timeframe (As in "Oh, I'd love to move back out to Colorado one day"), but then when they decided to do it just up and sold the house and flew out west unilaterally. lmao at this use of "unilaterally" like it's a bad thing that the couple gets to decide where the couple lives as if everyone else deserves an equal vote too 
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I was hoping house seller clarified some of the timeline in the comments but no dice. It's interesting that the dad just sort of handed him a bunch of cash thoughquote:It is thankfully not a legal question. He gave the money to us, as in it was in our accounts. He didn't have anything to do with the buying process, thankfully.
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