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I thought the issue was the mother being unsympathetic.
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sephiRoth IRA posted:AITA for making my son hug his grandmother goodnight?
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:21 |
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I think my favorite kind of story to hate on is the "change something about yourself so I feel less insecure" style, like turbo-dweeb up there with the ripped wife
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:27 |
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The post is pretty meh, but I love this person's approach to asking AITA for help AITA for not wanting to invite certain relatives to my wedding quote:Hey jerks,
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:30 |
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WoodrowSkillson posted:YOU took me to bad hairstylist on purpose this is your fault I HATE YOU MOM My Mom did something like that when I was 8, had waist-length hair and decided I wanted a crop hair cut like Mary Lou Retton (I'm old, okay?). Mom tried to talk me out of it, then said that if I really wanted it, she would take me to get my hair cut. She was right, it was awful and everyone thought I was a boy, but I didn't blame my Mom, who was sympathetic and bought me some ribbons. Having an empathetic parent helps.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:34 |
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WoodrowSkillson posted:YOU took me to bad hairstylist on purpose this is your fault I HATE YOU MOM Yeah, sometimes 10-year-olds are unreasonable. Nobody's saying there was something the mom could've done to make everyone happy.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:36 |
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I think it's up to the kid. She wanted bangs, not like she wanted an 80s punk mo-hawke or anything. Just explain to her that you think it's a bad idea and if she doesn't like it she has to live with it until it grows out. Maybe the kid would have blamed you, maybe they wouldn't, but they blame you now anyway with an even worse haircut. I expect though kids being kids, there's a good chance she would have been happy with the bangs even if they did look ridiculous.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:39 |
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Groundskeeper Silly posted:Yeah, sometimes 10-year-olds are unreasonable. Nobody's saying there was something the mom could've done to make everyone happy. Yeah, exactly. It's so crazy to me to have a kid this age and then be like 'it will be a minor inconvenience that they're upset about, so no'. the kid might be upset and bratty after a bad haircut, but they're going to be either way - you're an adult raising a kid, be brave enough to handle the 'inconvenience' of their emotions from time to time. instead of 'no you can't because you'll gently caress up your hair, THERE SEE, this is what you deserve!' it could have been 'ok well let's see how this looks, oh no it looks terrible I'm so sorry sweetie' and then comforting her, fixing as best as they could, and moving on. it's always weird to see adults grind into a child, with glee, that their childhood decisions were not great. You can support your kid and help them learn how to make good decisions without crushing them every time they make one that isn't the brightest.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:40 |
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Captain Hygiene posted:AITA for asking my ripped wife to stop working out? I like that working out with his wife and getting some muscle tone isn't an option he is considering.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:42 |
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AITA for giving our youngest child a “better” life than the older kids?quote:My husband and I have a combined total of 3 kids, 2 from his previous marriage (John 18 and Mia 19) and 1 together (Ryan 8). My husband had a rough life growing up and when I met him 10 years ago he was newly divorced (ex abandoned him and the kids), his credit was in the 400’s, and he was working hard but at a minimum wage job due to no GED or diploma. I wasn’t making great money, but was a few dollar above minimum wage and was getting my degree at the time. This one is annoying me a bit because everyone is focusing on John's outburst as though it's an actionable and likely option rather than just venting and feeling legitimately frustrated at not having the same opportunities as Ryan. Obviously you don't pull Ryan out of the nice school and keep sending him to science camp, but at least acknowledge the sort of opportunities that only open up to the sort of kids given these options in the first place.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:48 |
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limp_cheese posted:I like that working out with his wife and getting some muscle tone isn't an option he is considering. I don't understand the mentality of hearing "haha your wife is yoked" or "haha your wife brings you lunch" and thinking that something good about your wife makes you, as a man, look bad as opposed to "yeah my wife owns, you jealous schmucks" but I guess that's why I'm married to a bodybuilding lunchbringer Tea Bone posted:80s punk mo-hawke HOW OLD ARE YOU Solkanar512 posted:AITA for giving our youngest child a “better” life than the older kids? ah yes the two genders "i'm glad you don't have to suffer like i suffered" and "i suffered therefore YOU MUST SUFFER" captainOrbital fucked around with this message at 16:55 on Jul 28, 2022 |
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StrangersInTheNight posted:what lol gently caress, my bad, thought i edited out a part of your post but then had to run away from the computer. anyway, nah the mom shouldn't've paid for a professional to do it. she already spoke with her cousin, the professional hairstylist, who both told her and showed her the faceapp thing or whatever, that it was a bad idea. if the mom didn't explain that to the kid and/or show the faceapp thing, yeah, she could've done better there. but then the kid saw some tiktok thing of kids cutting their own hair and did it anyway. so your point is moot because of dumb tiktok, sorry and the kid is learning and growing from this, so...
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:52 |
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captainOrbital posted:I don't understand the mentality of hearing "haha your wife is yoked" or "haha your wife brings you lunch" and thinking that something good about your wife makes you, as a man, look bad as opposed to "yeah my wife owns, you jealous schmucks" but I guess that's why I'm married to a bodybuilding lunchbringer "It's awesome asking her to move heavy poo poo for me", yeah give me a loving break and get some thicker skin or better friends. gently caress, go lift weights with her. It's way more fun and interesting than going for a run or some poo poo, christ.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:52 |
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Johnny Truant posted:lol gently caress, my bad, thought i edited out a part of your post but then had to run away from the computer. Now she knows that it looks bad when she does it herself. What if she liked it if it was done professionally? She learned something, but it wasn't the right thing. And now her mom is rubbing it in on top of it. I say this as someone who was dogpiled on to not cut my long hair as a kid. I had to fight hair stylists to cut it short. I love how it looks short, gently caress them.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:56 |
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Solkanar512 posted:"It's awesome asking her to move heavy poo poo for me", yeah give me a loving break and get some thicker skin or better friends. gently caress, go lift weights with her. It's way more fun and interesting than going for a run or some poo poo, christ. a rising wife lifts all spouses
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:57 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:She learned something, but it wasn't the right thing. Midnight Voyager posted:Now she knows that it looks bad when she does it herself. and yeah i'm not agreeing with the mom rubbing it in, but this kid has hopefully learned multiple lessons from this incident, lol
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 16:59 |
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Johnny Truant posted:
...Or she could have gotten a professional to do it and possibly liked it. There's really no reason to NOT get a professional to do it. It doesn't hurt anybody. It's extremely low stakes. If the kid didn't like it, hair grows out and it'd surely look better than if she did it herself. And she learns that a professional hairstylist probably knows what she's doing. If the kid likes it, she likes it. It's a better situation for everyone involved. Is there some reason you're actually opposing getting a professional to do it?
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 17:02 |
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captainOrbital posted:I don't understand the mentality of hearing "haha your wife is yoked" or "haha your wife brings you lunch" and thinking that something good about your wife makes you, as a man, look bad as opposed to "yeah my wife owns, you jealous schmucks" but I guess that's why I'm married to a bodybuilding lunchbringer I also enjoyed the mention of people constantly staring at them in the street, which I assume is either largely an exaggeration or he's actually some kind of unhealthily skinny triglodyte irl.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 17:07 |
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greazeball posted:Imagine the decorating choices made by someone who spent the last 40 years working in the pentagon DC, MD, VA metro area
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Midnight Voyager posted:...Or she could have gotten a professional to do it and possibly liked it. There's really no reason to NOT get a professional to do it. It doesn't hurt anybody. It's extremely low stakes. If the kid didn't like it, hair grows out and it'd surely look better than if she did it herself. And she learns that a professional hairstylist probably knows what she's doing. If the kid likes it, she likes it. It's a better situation for everyone involved. Is there some reason you're actually opposing getting a professional to do it? cousin professional hairstylist: this will look bad in my professional opinion, and here's a mockup of it. mom: okay *tells kid* kid: *cuts hair due to tiktok video* a lesson here is hey, maybe listen to a professional when they say it will look bad? i'm assuming the mom both explained the cousin said it would look bad, and showed the mockup, which to be fair, is probably a big assumption, cause... reddit. it's also still extremely low stakes despit not going to a professional first, so...
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Captain Hygiene posted:I also enjoyed the mention of people constantly staring at them in the street, which I assume is either largely an exaggeration or he's actually some kind of unhealthily skinny triglodyte irl. Just replace it with "People check out the hot woman in a midriff with abs."
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 17:15 |
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"It looked bad when I did it with kitchen scissors" is actually not the same as "I had a professional cut it and it looked bad". The kid cut her bangs an inch long, which a professional wouldn't have done. AITA for going to bed for a few hours while my wife has the flu? quote:My wife is currently sick with the flu, she’s pretty sick and is having fevers, muscle aches, her chest hurts from coughing, she’s also about 8 weeks pregnant. Our 2 year old is also quite sick with it. I took a week off work to help out at home while she recovers. From comments, it turns out the 2-year-old is immunocompromised.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 17:56 |
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Captain Hygiene posted:Don't care, buy a robot or something to figure out your problems LOL Barudak posted:Pay someone full time to give a poo poo about your problems LMAO
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 18:01 |
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Arsenic Lupin posted:AITA for going to bed for a few hours while my wife has the flu? This guy isn't even trying to come across as not an rear end in a top hat. Groundskeeper Silly fucked around with this message at 18:25 on Jul 28, 2022 |
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AITA for telling my ex his lack of money is not my issue?quote:I (36F) have a daughter Sadie (12) with my ex-husband John (39). We got divorced 5 years ago and I have primary custody while he sees her two weekends a month. Last year, he got married to Amy who has sole custody of her kids (10&8F) from a previous marriage. Amanda is a SAHM (not for any health reasons or so on, she just doesn't want to work) while John works at a 9 to 5. He makes good money to support them, but not enough to live in luxury. And what about the friend? quote:Yeah, I don't see us talk much after this, surprisingly. The only reason I even listened is because we've known each other for so long, but with all these comments, I feel justified in my decision to cut him off.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 18:24 |
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Bonster posted:My Mom did something like that when I was 8, had waist-length hair and decided I wanted a crop hair cut like Mary Lou Retton (I'm old, okay?). Mom tried to talk me out of it, then said that if I really wanted it, she would take me to get my hair cut. She was right, it was awful and everyone thought I was a boy, but I didn't blame my Mom, who was sympathetic and bought me some ribbons. Having an empathetic parent helps. I loved my waist-length hair when I was like 10, but my mum was bored of looking after it so she shamed me into getting a haircut by saying I looked like a witch
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killerwhat posted:I loved my waist-length hair when I was like 10, but my mum was bored of looking after it so she shamed me into getting a haircut by saying I looked like a witch
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Absurd Alhazred posted:What a Kafkaesque situation. Please, no meat touching sir.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 18:46 |
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a dispute about customer skills is tearing apart my agrotourism businessquote:My two business partners (and their spouses) and I operate a successful agrotourism business, including an inn where guests come to enjoy delicious food, luxury accommodations, and the chance to do light agricultural work while being outside in the sunshine and fresh air. I own 70% of the company and they split the remaining 30%. This project was our dream; we left successful city careers to make this happen. We employ about 20 other people, but I’m overall in charge. There’s my partner, Alice (chief agricultural officer), and her wife Amy (head of guest services), and my partner John (CFO) and his wife Jenn (executive chef). Business is booming and the heart of it is the inn. None of that would happen without Amy and Jenn. Therein lies the problem.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 18:57 |
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I trimmed my own bangs once at like, age 6 and it wasn't totally terrible? They were getting in my eyes and I had some sense of how to trim them evenly. Overall my hair was kept super short as a young child but I hated having my hair combed so it was necessary. IMO take the kid to the pro, let the pro discuss that it will look bad, if the kid still wants it let the pro do it. Unless they're refusing outright. Let kids experiment with their look but don't let them half-rear end it. You want to dye your hair green? If the dress code permits and you have professional dye money then go nuts and book an appointment. Get ready to maintain your hair. You want to pierce your navel? Better save up to visit a professional and be ready to care for the new piercing.
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Solkanar512 posted:AITA for giving our youngest child a “better” life than the older kids? My parents were drug addicts almost their whole life. They had 4 kids (me being youngest). I was actually born while my mom was in prison then lived with my dad from hotel to hotel until while I was a child and my brother was a teenager. Eventually my mom got out of prison. Got clean and got custody of me when I was around 8 and my brother was about 20. He used to bully me mercilessly because I had a better teenage life growing up then ended up attacking my mom when I was 11 then forced to move out. So I don't have a lot of sympathy for this kind of story and it really sticks in my craw.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 18:59 |
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Ensign Expendable posted:The wife should find a horrible vintage CRT TV to put in there if he likes the 70s so much. Force the dickhead to watch Fahrenheit 451. It's "retro." It predicted massive 16:9 screens in the living room.
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I'm terrible bc I understand vintage 70s living room guy wanting to keep it looking legit, but then I'd say move the whole collectible setup out of the actual living room and put it in a side room you use less often. Communal areas gotta be just that....communal. The moment your collectibles start taking up so much space they affect your living areas, is when they're a problem.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:I'm terrible bc I understand vintage 70s living room guy wanting to keep it looking legit, but then I'd say move the whole collectible setup out of the actual living room and put it in a side room you use less often. Communal areas gotta be just that....communal. The moment your collectibles start taking up so much space they affect your living areas, is when they're a problem.
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DemoneeHo posted:a dispute about customer skills is tearing apart my agrotourism business Tell Jenn she can never cook the same dish twice.
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 19:18 |
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how are you gonna be a good executive chef and spend enough time out of the kitchen to get sick of the customer spiel
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# ? Jul 28, 2022 19:23 |
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"But you don't understand, Amy doing her job is disrespectful to me!"
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Fatty posted:Tell Jenn she can never cook the same dish twice. I'm sick of these slight variations on cooked chicken, jenn. I don't care that you dress it up in new sauces or seasoning, never serve chicken again!
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RenegadeStyle1 posted:My parents were drug addicts almost their whole life. They had 4 kids (me being youngest). I was actually born while my mom was in prison then lived with my dad from hotel to hotel until while I was a child and my brother was a teenager. Eventually my mom got out of prison. Got clean and got custody of me when I was around 8 and my brother was about 20. He used to bully me mercilessly because I had a better teenage life growing up then ended up attacking my mom when I was 11 then forced to move out. So I don't have a lot of sympathy for this kind of story and it really sticks in my craw. With good reason. It's a perfect bucket of crabs scenario, with the older brother trying to drag the younger down. I can't understand how anyone could entertain for a second the idea of keeping all the children down to the lowest level - it's insane.
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DemoneeHo posted:a dispute about customer skills is tearing apart my agrotourism business This thread is a rich vein of stupid problems but this one is in a league of its own. "How dare Amy focus more on the customers than her coworkers" just wtf?
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