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reignonyourparade posted:I mean, if you look at it from the lens of "he knows what he's doing," walking her home with full understanding of the implications involved and then NOT doing anything is actually kinda lovely. From that perspective it's not really "got rejected in the most mild manner possible" it's "he's playing around with her feelings." For plenty of people, a walk home is a chance to get to know one another and steal one last private moment together. It's an invitation to possibly deepen the relationship by spending time around one another, and if it goes well it can lead to sex, but it is definitely not a promise of sex. Now, you could argue his insisting to walk her gave her the wrong idea, and possibly so, but nowhere does he say he wasn't interested in her as a potential partner in the future, so IMO she got upset too early just because it turned out he actually wanted to walk her home. I maintain that 'actually being a sincere gentleman and not wanting to gently caress just bc between-the-lines situation might suggest it could happen' is not really a valid reason to get upset at someone! StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 12:49 on Aug 15, 2022 |
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Cythereal posted:My (18F) roommate (19F) keeps flirting with me in Animal Crossing and I don’t know how to feel go for it you confused angel.
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Walking someone home is good because you might get to see a wild skunk together.Cythereal posted:My (18F) roommate (19F) keeps flirting with me in Animal Crossing and I don’t know how to feel Wasn't this from a couple years ago, early in the pandemic? The part about bullying her favorite Animal Crossing character looks familiar to me. AITA? Keeper of the gender quote:Throwaway account because I’m superstitious. I have an extremely guilty conscious. It's not much of a gender reveal party if a friendship is the only thing getting blown up.
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Gender was a mistake.
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Grape posted:Walking a girl home is not an inherently sexual act lmao. It's not like there was no other possibility here. Yeah it's not like he was carrying a printer or anything. If that happens then all bets are off
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WIBTA if I ask my terminally-ill nephew to send a message to my late husband?quote:(this is a throwaway)
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reignonyourparade posted:I mean, if you look at it from the lens of "he knows what he's doing," walking her home with full understanding of the implications involved and then NOT doing anything is actually kinda lovely. If you look at this comment through the lens of "I am a normal human being who doesn't assume that general overtures of friendliness mean you are obligated to bed someone," this is a blisteringly creepy hot take. "The implications." Jesus Christ Dennis.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:WIBTA if I ask my terminally-ill nephew to send a message to my late husband? Holy poo poo I'm glad that lady got sense talked into her.
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The Bramble posted:Holy poo poo I'm glad that lady got sense talked into her. Seriously, that's just so
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AITA for Ruining a Friend’s Prank?quote:So, this is a few years old but it bothers me still. Just a little stealing between friends, why are you so sensitive?
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Castaign posted:If you look at this comment through the lens of "I am a normal human being who doesn't assume that general overtures of friendliness mean you are obligated to bed someone," this is a blisteringly creepy hot take. A straightforward reading of the original post is that he was attempting to be polite and had no understanding that his actions could be misconstrued as a romantic advance, nor that he invitation to him was what she considered a reciprocation. When she offered for him to come up, he saidhe didn't want to be a bother and left. To her, this was a romantic rejection (which will always sing a little) and was compounded by her belief that he was flirting. She felt disappointed and maybe a little led on. Her friends deemed him a jerk because they are probably a little protective and he hurt her feelings, albeit inadvertently. There's nothing to indicate he was intentionally turning her down in a gentle manner, nor anything indicating that she asked her friends to harass him. This was a fairly common human interaction, even if oblivious on his part.
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reignonyourparade posted:I mean, if you look at it from the lens of "he knows what he's doing," walking her home with full understanding of the implications involved and then NOT doing anything is actually kinda lovely. From that perspective it's not really "got rejected in the most mild manner possible" it's "he's playing around with her feelings." Why the hell would she think that instead of "He didn't get the message and was being polite"? The only reason to think that is if you think the only reason for a guy to walk a girl home is loving.
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Baron von Eevl posted:This was a fairly common human interaction, even if oblivious on his part. Yes, which is why I maintain that it is weird and creepy for reignonyourparade to suggest that there is any way this dude's actions could be construed as "lovely" or as "playing around with [the girl's] feelings."
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The Bramble posted:Holy poo poo I'm glad that lady got sense talked into her. Why would it have been a bad thing to do? Assuming the kid already knows his situation is terminal, it's at worst just a waste of his time and helps OP. And if he's having trouble wrapping his head around dying, having a "responsibility" involving his adult uncle who recently also died could create a point of reference for what has to be a scary unknown. Anything has to help going into a situation that no adult in your life can really answer any questions about. Clear it with the parents like anything involving a 9 y/o, but why not? Is it the risk of a ghost if he can't find the uncle?
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If he knew she was going to consider it an advance and didn't steer away from that until they got to her place it would have been minorly lovely, just kind of rude.
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Why would it have been a bad thing to do? Assuming the kid already knows his situation is terminal, it's at worst just a waste of his time and helps OP. And if he's having trouble wrapping his head around dying, having a "responsibility" involving his adult uncle who recently also died could create a point of reference for what has to be a scary unknown. Anything has to help going into a situation that no adult in your life can really answer any questions about. lol what in the gently caress is wrong with you
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Why would it have been a bad thing to do? Assuming the kid already knows his situation is terminal, it's at worst just a waste of his time and helps OP. And if he's having trouble wrapping his head around dying, having a "responsibility" involving his adult uncle who recently also died could create a point of reference for what has to be a scary unknown. Anything has to help going into a situation that no adult in your life can really answer any questions about. The kid has enough poo poo to worry about and deal with because *their life is ending way too early*. There's no need to add to the pile of poo poo with your own poo poo.
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Clear it with the parents like anything involving a 9 y/o, but why not? Is it the risk of a ghost if he can't find the uncle? "Hello, Nephew. We both know you're going to die, so let's talk about your afterlife and give you some responsibilities in it. Oh, you have issues? Sorry, not here to talk about that." When you have a dying kid, your focus should be on 1. the dying kid. 2. the dying kid's parents. The important thing is to support the kid, and the parents, as best you can. Telling the dying kid that no, they have responsibilities to you, distracts them from concentrating on their own needs. Coping with personal death is devastating for all except the most religious. It is not a good time to say "Yeah, I know you're dying, but can you run some errands for me?"
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We both know you're going to be gone soon, so I'm going to give you an EXTRA SPECIAL job that only a special dying boy can do! *puts hat labeled GHOST HERO on his head*. Are you ready? Soon to be Ghost Hero? I want you to find the wailing car crash specter of my ex somewhere in the howling nether where you will soon be!
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Why would it have been a bad thing to do? Assuming the kid already knows his situation is terminal, it's at worst just a waste of his time and helps OP. And if he's having trouble wrapping his head around dying, having a "responsibility" involving his adult uncle who recently also died could create a point of reference for what has to be a scary unknown. Anything has to help going into a situation that no adult in your life can really answer any questions about. in a situation where everyone was really cool and chill and totally emotionally healthy and had mostly reached a state of acceptance wrt their respective situations (editorial note: incredibly unlikely in this case), it's possible OP could say true things that would also be reassuring things -- "I still feel like the dead person I love is around," and "I still love him very much," and "he doesn't need to worry about me", things someone could take with them to apply to their own situation, and then maybe add an "if you see him, tell him I love him?" at the end, and it would overall not suck or even be a positive conversation for a certain type of person OP instead intended to burden a scared, dying child with the task of being a posthumous relationship counselor for his grieving aunt ed: spent too long writing this, then got in the weeds editing for clarification, while others already made the point better Tjadeth fucked around with this message at 03:47 on Aug 15, 2022 |
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"Honestly, it's a huge relief to me that you got terminal cancer, otherwise this message could have taken years to be delivered."
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look kid, i can't figure out a ouija board so it's all up to you
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And while we're on the subject, don't forget to complete all your plans in life, lest you be doomed to wander eternally between the realms, forever unfulfilled!
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Captain Hygiene posted:And while we're on the subject, don't forget to complete all your plans in life, lest you be doomed to wander eternally between the realms, forever unfulfilled! On the other hand I have my wandering spot all picked out. Lovely stretch of river, perfect for an eternity trapped among the living.
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Thing is that pretty much all society's traditional default assumptions about romantic and sexual boundaries are so incredibly toxic and awful that things like consent and communication pretty much have to be taught starting over from base principles, and people still running on the old assumptions end up nearly incomprehensible at best. Also extra lol if you're neurodivergent or even just sheltered. Or have dealt with teasing, pranks and bullying enough to assume any apparent interest in you is feigned for a cheap laugh.
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AITA for trying to set my coworker up?quote:Earlier today, this guy I (27F) work with I'll call Kai (29M) has supposedly reported me to HR for something I did. Everyone agrees I'm the star who gets to remake other people's lives as I see fit, why can't he accept that??
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AITA for kicking my mom & her pet pig out of my weddingquote:My mom has a huge potbelly pig as a pet, she rescued him from a farm, he's 7 years old I believe.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:AITA for kicking my mom & her pet pig out of my wedding It's probably not fair of me but every time I hear/read "emotional support animal" and it's not a dog or a cat I just assume it's some boomer or CHUD trying to either game the system or make some chuddy point.
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the pig supported her to smash a ton of glass, it's a support animal
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8one6 posted:It's probably not fair of me but every time I hear/read "emotional support animal" and it's not a dog or a cat I just assume it's some boomer or CHUD trying to either game the system or make some chuddy point. In general almost always trying to get attention of any possible kind.
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8one6 posted:It's probably not fair of me but every time I hear/read "emotional support animal" and it's not a dog or a cat I just assume it's some boomer or CHUD trying to either game the system or make some chuddy point. I was torn between assuming that was the case, and being entertained by the idea of bringing a pig to a wedding only to have it go hog wild
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Her husband being from a culture that considers pigs unclean makes me think she did it for some good old racism. I wonder if she got it after they started dating?
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for Ruining a Friend’s Prank? Had a friend do this to me at work because it was 'irresponsible of me to leave it plugged in where the other in-shops could mess with it', including the pinging it and having it just a few feet away after an hour and a half of panicking thinking I'd lost the only reasonable way to contact my family on the other coast. It was a real crack ping moment about the friendship.
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AITA for blasting my sister's insults about my kids names on social media?quote:My sister and I have always kinda been opposites in a lot of ways. She was closer to our dad while I was closer to our mom and we are more like the parent we are closer to. Sometimes it led to some friction. She used to say mom and I had a weird obsession with being different. Which for her came because mom gave me an unusual name which I loved, and because she and I were hugely into horror and video games which to her is teenage guy stuff. Sister is definitely an rear end in a top hat but since OP won't post the names I can't help but assume they've named their children Swallow and Amazon.
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Surely Tit and Titicaca
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Lottery of Babylon posted:AITA for blasting my sister's insults about my kids names on social media? Hm, named after an animal and water, you say?
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olylifter posted:I got to contribute to this as well because I'm a moron Ooof! I had a girl who I had a crush on come sit in my lap every single day of homeroom because "she didn't like her chair." She would also sit next to me on the bus every day and 'fall asleep' while leaning into me. She said she liked the way my jacket smelled. I, an oblivious boy, had no clue that this utterly obvious power move on her part signified she liked me. This went on for about 6 loving months before her friends basically forced me into taking her out through trickery. They invited me out and then none of them showed up but her, and it still took me several hours to realize that this was some sort of date. Never underestimate the idiocy of boys. I think most women don't understand this because they probably have to spend a good part of their lives fending off unwanted attention from overconfident assholes that will take even the slightest kindness to be a sign of sexual interest that they don't realize there is a whole subset of dudes who are incapable of reading anything but the most blatant signs.
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I feel like if the names were acceptable, OP would have mentioned it as part of her defense. "Others have these names without issue." Robin is totally normal. River isn't unheard of. OP has not said this though.
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Here are my kids Horned Screamer and Lumpsucker
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Im sorry, my son is also named Dordogne at Bort les Orgues
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