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I (24/F) love baking, and I LOVE sharing my baked goods too. I generally get along with everyone else in the office except for this one guy (36/M) , which I will call Leo (not real name) whom I wasn't on very good terms with because of the events that happened years ago when I first joined the company years ago as a fresh graduate.

Leo complained that I am "lazy", hates "cleaning up after my mistakes" and I made him "vomit blood". I did ask him for mentoring help to generate the reports in the way he expects but he didn't want to. Instead he asked me to look at his report and "follow his style". Fortunately I was redeployed to another role by in the same department with a better mentor. We don't talk to each other since.

My birthday fell on a Sunday. I decided to bake cupcakes for everyone in the office as form of celebration, to be given on Friday of that week.

I considered baking one for him but decided against it because of how tried to share food but was rejected. I believed that even if I made him the cupcake, he would turn it down in way way which will make me "loss face" in front of everyone in the office.

For practical reasons too, I decided to make 24 cupcakes (only have a 12 hole cupcake tray) there would be only 2 rounds of baking. There was 25 people in the office excluding me.

So on Friday, I came into office with a box of cupcakes, which took me the whole night to bake and I also woke up early to put the frosting in.

Right after lunch, I went from table to table offering my colleagues a cupcake each and everyone was appreciative of it. When I reached Leo's table, I tried offering it to him. As expected, he said no, but in manner I find to be pretty respectful.

After distributing the cupcakes, one of my colleague came up to me and asked for the extra cupcake that Leo rejected. I told my colleague I actually baked just enough for the office, excluding Leo, so there was no extra cupcake. My colleague looks shocked so I told her that baking the cupcakes didn't come cheap and since Leo was going to reject it anyway, I didn't bake more. I also told her about the limits of my oven and I just simply didn't have enough time to do three rounds of baking only to be turned down at the end.

When I came back on Monday, word has apparently spread to everyone in my department how Leo didn't "get" a cupcake and I left him out him intentionally. Leo didn't say anything to me about the cupcake thing but I was told by a colleague that he was really upset and he "really loved cupcakes", and would have "came around if I had just left some in the fridge and leave him alone to get it".

So Reddit, am I the rear end in a top hat for baking 24 cupcakes instead of more? I mean I could do just one more round in the oven with ONE or two more cupcakes but it would be a waste of electricity and my time

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for not baking an extra cupcake for my colleague?

Barudak posted:

Why did you ever tell them???? Like its so easy "nope none left" let them try to figure it out.

OP posted:

Hi, thanks for your reply, now to think about it I really be on the spectrum...I have a tendency to over explain myself...Which could be the reason why Leo dislikes me...😅

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Me and my friend are both 17F. We are in the middle of the college application process and I am planning on majoring in computer science for various reasons (mainly financial) and she is planning on majoring in philosophy.

She told me multiple times she doesn’t really know what she wants to do and she’s just picking a major that seems fun and easy. In my opinion she’s being stupid. She’s going to waste so much time and money on going to college just for a degree that won’t get her anywhere in life. I’ve tried explaining this to her in a nice and somewhat subtle way but she really doesn’t care what I have to say.

I tried explaining to her about taking a gap year to figure out what she wants to do but she’s highly against the idea because she said her parents told her multiple times they would disown her if she did. (honestly her parents wouldn’t they’re just trying to scare my friend into going to college right after highschool)

anyways, today at her house we had a major fight because again i was trying to convince her to do something like nursing or finance like something that won’t have her working paycheck to paycheck. i even tried explain to her how she could go to go to law school or med school after her undergrad so she could have a decent salary. but she ignored me. didn’t even look at me for most of it.

i was so mad. I just want my friend to be financially free.

I yelled at told her how stupid she was being, and although she’s rich now she won’t be rich in the future if she majors in philosophy and that if she truly likes philosophy that much she can watch some videos on youtube. I told her that majoring in philosophy sucks and no smart person would ever major in it without even thinking about how much money they would be making in the future.

Lilly, my friend just looked at me and started crying. Of course i felt horrible but it was true. She called her mom and told her what I said. I apologized multiple times so she could stop crying. She didn’t. I was kicked out of her house and she’s blocked me.

Honestly i think I might have been harsh but at the same time her major sucks rear end.

Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA for telling my friend her major sucks and she should pick a different one?

philosophy

Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA for telling my friend her major sucks and she should pick a different one?

Barudak posted:

Surely Tit and Titicaca

Invisible Clergy posted:

Is it true you have to send in a photo with your job application in Europe?

DreamingofRoses posted:

StrangersInTheNight posted:

I hate that I agree that picking philosophy as a major because you just want an easy ride through college is a very bad idea. It's one thing to pursue the degree because you're passionate about it, maybe you could do something with it then, but half-assing a philosophy degree just seems like a recipe for a jobless early young adulthood

Baron von Eevl posted:

Sometimes just having a degree, therefore showing you can dedicate yourself enough to a task at that base minimum level, is enough.

mllaneza posted:

It's this.

A BA qualifies you for any entry-level office job with no other experience. You will have demonstrated that you can:

Work singly and in groups on assigned projects, and present your results.
Plays well with arbitrary members of your peer group.
Do research and report findings.
Succeed at required tasks you didn't personally choose to do.

This is stuff you have to be able to do to contribute in an office environment. Make it a gender or ethic studies degree and our patient advocate group would love to see your resume or meet you at a job faire.

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She asked me out three months ago. I was surprised but said yes. Fast forward to today and it’s only now that I know she only asked me out because other girls on the football team forced her to. They forced her to ask out and date me, a dork, as a way of punishing her for making our school lose an important match.

I overheard her friends saying this and confronted her about this. She admitted that this was why she asked me out but she might have started to catch real feelings for me. She doesn’t know what she really feels yet. I don’t know if I can trust her again after this though. How do I determine if I can trust her again?

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I [20M] have known her [20F] since we were 12. We went to the same highschool and were already friends back then, but not that close. Ironically, once highschool ended and we went to different universities, we grew much closer to the point where we call each other best friends now.

Well, these past few months I have been catching feelings for her to the point where now I'm constantly thinking about her all day, waiting for the next time we hang out, etc. you know the deal. Lately I have been gathering the courage to confess my feelings because I need to let it out, but I'm worried I'll be making everything harder for her.

Her mother has cancer and it doesn't look too good. She underwent surgery 2 weeks ago and will start chemotherapy soon and this has her very stressed, specially taking into account she lives with her only. On top of that her mother isn't the easiest person to deal with which frequently leads to arguments that make everything harder. She's also been very stressed with work and university, has very little free time and hasn't had holidays in over a year.

I'm pretty sure she doesn't feel the same for me and I guess it's not easy to deal with your best friend telling you he's basically in love with you when it's not mutual. I feel like it'd be selfish from me to add that to her already tough situation but at the same time I feel like I need to let it out.

So, WIBTA?

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My sister and her first husband divorced when my nephew (17) was ten. She ended up moving out of state and last year they moved back home. I’ve been spending a lot of time with my nephew and niece she has with her now husband.

I was going to do some last-minute shopping for dinner when my sister asked would I pick up my nephew from a friend’s and bring him home. Since the store is on the way to her house, I took my nephew with me. Well, I get the things I need, and we get in line. I noticed my nephew staring off and I try to look to see what he’s looking at, but I’m only 5’4, while he towers at 6’4. He takes off in the direction he’s looking in an aggressive manner.

I take off behind him because my intuition and the signs he was giving off said something was about to happen. Nephew has a deep voice, so it carries, I hear him cursing someone explicitly out, calling them all kinds of mf bums, sorry mf’s, you’re a sorry p*ssy! It’s none other than my sister’s ex husband who is standing in line with his wife and their children, who are terrified and crying. It dawned on me my sister hadn’t told him the truth. It took some minutes because he was that livid, thankfully my pleas of begging him to stop subdued him. I apologized to the ex and his wife and grabbed my nephew’s hand and pulled him out the store, but by this time the police had been called.

Thankfully they understood it was a misunderstanding. The ex-had no hard feelings. The police spoke to all parties involved and we were let go. I explained to my nephew that the ex isn’t his father, leaving the brash details of everything out. (My sister had an affair while married, got pregnant, and passed my nephew off on her husband as if he was his. Husband found out which resulted in divorce.)

My nephew has been under the impression that this man just up and left them to start another family. Well, my nephew confronts her about it, as so did I. I had to explain to her that things could have gone very bad for us, especially him if I hadn’t been there all because she chose to live with a lie. My nephew is so full of rage, which is nothing more than emotional torture of thinking his father left him and his mother. I told her she was wrong and that she dropped the ball on being a mother.

She got our immediate family involved. They sided with me, even her husband, who I have learned has taken their daughter and left because she had painted the ex in a bad light. Now I do have some aunts and cousins who felt it wasn’t my place to tell my nephew the truth. That I crossed a boundary. AITA?

mllaneza posted:

It's this.

A BA qualifies you for any entry-level office job with no other experience. You will have demonstrated that you can:

Work singly and in groups on assigned projects, and present your results.
Plays well with arbitrary members of your peer group.
Do research and report findings.
Succeed at required tasks you didn't personally choose to do.

This is stuff you have to be able to do to contribute in an office environment. Make it a gender or ethic studies degree and our patient advocate group would love to see your resume or meet you at a job faire.

Kuiperdolin posted:

I knew it was lib Arts but I would have bet on English or History because of the "fun and easy" part. I'm sure some people can find philosophy fun but mostly it's folks who are already into it, not those who "don't know what they want to do". Eng or history sound more accessible (of course advanced classes can be tough - to an extent)

Biplane posted:

You also learn all that stuff in elementary school

Cowslips Warren posted:

WIBTA if I confess my feelings to my best friend when she's going through a pretty rough patch?

Do it. Do it. Throw a loving grenade on your friendship.


AITA for telling my nephew the truth about his father and possibly ruining my sister’s marriage?

Bonster posted:

You know, when you raise a kid for ten years as his father, you're the kid's father as far as they're concerned. It's cold as hell to just abandon them. I mean, I get that it would be super painful as a spouse, but I can't imagine loving a kid for ten years and then noping out on them because they don't share my genetics.

Remulak posted:

As an adoptive parent I agree with this 100%. But wow I can't imagine the sense of betrayal here, 10 years of his wife lying to him, not knowing which of her family/friends knew the truth, CHRIST that's painful just to imagine.

Also love the (ex) wife keeping up the lying poo poo with the kid. Jesus.

Seth Pecksniff posted:

I will say, however, I have no clue what the hell you do with a philosophy major unless you're intent on going into academia