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The women with the autistic son trying to raise her two kids to make up for her having no plans for Jack after they pass away is some classic 'how do I ruin the family for ey and cause festering lifelong resentments' poo poo She couldn't have done worse if she was trying
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 19:51 |
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The thing that's particularly wild to me in that one is the son is only 11 and doesn't seem to have behavioral or mobility issues that make it impossible for his parents to care for him right now. It would be one thing if he was 25 and his parents were both in their 70s but it sounds like the poster still has time to do some serious research on future housing solutions for the son, she just... would rather alienate her other two children instead, and ultimately end up with a situation where all her children are miserable, including the autistic son because I'm sure he also would rather not be cared for by a sibling who resents him?
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 19:56 |
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StrangersInTheNight posted:The women with the autistic son trying to raise her two kids to make up for her having no plans for Jack after they pass away is some classic 'how do I ruin the family for ey and cause festering lifelong resentments' poo poo "Whatever plans you have, you're going to have to put on hold because I'm going to burden you with 24/7 care for your brother. Also, if you grumble about it, I will scream like a banshee at you about it." Yeah, nah, gently caress off, mum.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 20:11 |
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:Content, I just found the tone of this post funny: This person sounds rad, I'd be their roommate "Casper's silly toy playing rear end"
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 20:22 |
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:The thing that's particularly wild to me in that one is the son is only 11 and doesn't seem to have behavioral or mobility issues that make it impossible for his parents to care for him right now. It would be one thing if he was 25 and his parents were both in their 70s but it sounds like the poster still has time to do some serious research on future housing solutions for the son, she just... would rather alienate her other two children instead, and ultimately end up with a situation where all her children are miserable, including the autistic son because I'm sure he also would rather not be cared for by a sibling who resents him? says she is also not using any of the available community support options or even considered filing for disability because "ONLY FAMILY CAN HELP FAMILY." And with the comment of "he's not violent at all" another says JackJake absolutely destroyed several/many of the older kids' possessions as a toddler.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 20:29 |
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My brother audited a large old school English company directors expense accounts (something about another firm having paid for hookers and blow on expense accounts for years had all of them auditing accounts). The guy on millions of pounds a year submitted his handwritten and duly receipted expense claim for cups of tea he had whenever out of the office for a pound or two each and every time. At work we get business class travel home and due to roster, that meant about four trips a year costing about $US8 - $US10k each. Company policy was that you could spend it on other flights and for family - a few of us that didn't fly home each rotation would travel the world comfortably with the policy and I flew my parents on their first international flight in 40 years Singapore Airlines Business class. It was sweet and it was pretty loose. A lot of the time the full amount was not claimed but a few times they were over and it was all good. We had a new Commercial manager that changed the rules to include stuff other than flights (hotel rooms, etc)* and it become known that he made sure he hit every last cent every rotation. Then a number of other guys got in on it and then they worked out that if they waited as late as possible to quote up their home flight, they could get even more money to then proudly with spreadsheets present to our former accountant GM claiming every last penny! How sweet is this? Yes, they changed the policy and the new commercial manager got sacked. Happily for me I got grandfathered in on the original rules and flew my family business class for years afterwards but that was a special deal. *because then his wife would not see the hotel rooms, tours, meals etc for his mistress come out of his salary.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 20:31 |
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Electric Wrigglies posted:My brother audited a large old school English company directors expense accounts (something about another firm having paid for hookers and blow on expense accounts for years had all of them auditing accounts). The guy on millions of pounds a year submitted his handwritten and duly receipted expense claim for cups of tea he had whenever out of the office for a pound or two each and every time.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 20:33 |
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AITA for having a craving of something that makes my partner sick?quote:I (25f) recently found out I was pregnant with my partner Lyle's (26m) baby. We've been together for three years and we live together. Why not make him eat some of the banana while you're at it? Also, this dude has untreated ADHD and literally the only thing that bothers you is his aversion to bananas?? Do you not notice how loving annoying we get when we're not medicated? Are there not a million and one half-started projects scattered around the house? Don't you miss long and thoughtful conversations about a single topic? Christ what I could do if my only symptom of ADHD were "not liking bananas". Solkanar512 fucked around with this message at 20:59 on Aug 16, 2022 |
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I don't think craving bananas is your unborn baby wanting potassium
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 20:57 |
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Yeah, like... is it really necessary for her to justify it as "well the baby needs it because I'm craving it", she's pregnant, she's allowed to just say "I'm craving x because of all these crazy hormones." His banana aversion does seem extreme to the point where it seems like he might need some better coping mechanisms for it, but making him cut the banana for her seems super passive aggressive when it's extremely easy to peel and eat a banana by yourself, while remaining on the couch, assuming you have full use of your hands, which I assume she does or it probably would have come up in the post.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 21:04 |
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Who the gently caress cuts up a banana to eat it unless they're doing so as to make it an ingredient in a recipe?
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 21:12 |
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:Yeah, like... is it really necessary for her to justify it as "well the baby needs it because I'm craving it", she's pregnant, she's allowed to just say "I'm craving x because of all these crazy hormones." Yeah, it's absolutely something he should get some help with just to make his life easier. Oh poo poo, another person has entered the ring! quote:Hey guys, its Kyle here, Jessica's boyfriend. Yes, she literally changed my name from "Kyle" to "Lyle" and thought that was good enough. One of her friends sent me this and I want to set the record straight because I am beyond pissed off. quote:"Lyle" here. So my ADHD is treated. Just not to my girlfriend's liking. quote:Oh don't worry, I have this whole thing saved already because I'm sure I'll need it in the future and I'm about 95% sure I'm done with the relationship.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 21:12 |
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Desert Bus posted:Who the gently caress cuts up a banana to eat it unless they're doing so as to make it an ingredient in a recipe? no one, she was being a deliberate arsehole because she refuses to respect his aversion. Pregnancy is just plausibly deniability.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 21:14 |
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im not an expert but im pretty sure you can't meditate your way out of chemical imbalances
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 21:14 |
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Grape posted:Most of all I'm... how severe is the autism? Being aspergy with ADHD in of itself... like I work with a bunch of kids with that exact mix and they got problems like heck, but not "needs one on one personal care for life" or even close to it. There are some people with autism who do indeed need 24/7 care their entire lives. It's a spectrum and it can be way more severe than "aspergy with adhd". It's rough! I've met a few and the families frequently self destruct over it. I think therapists typically suggest finding long term assisted living solutions early because otherwise the "parents (or parent, divorce is common) care for the person until they die, at which point the long since alienated siblings want nothing to do with the situation" pattern is pretty common.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 21:15 |
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I have ADHD and feel pretty much exactly the same as that guy about bananas, so even without the extra context I can completely sympathize with him. And yeah I'm pretty sure there's no evidence to support a link between craving and deficiency.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 22:09 |
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pregnant OP sounds like she has been getting some very bad advice in general
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 22:11 |
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even if the baby undeniably wanted potassium, like kicked out a request in morse code, mom could have had an avocado or something
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 22:12 |
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Foo Diddley posted:even if the baby undeniably wanted potassium, like kicked out a request in morse code, mom could have had an avocado or something Or said "thanks for getting these honey, I really appreciate it" and then stood up from the couch and gotten her own drat banana.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 22:21 |
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Both of those people sound exhausting
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 22:23 |
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one has a brain thing and the other chooses to be a jerk
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 22:32 |
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good thing they've got a baby on the way; not even a breakup can keep them apart now
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 22:45 |
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Upgrade posted:Both of those people sound exhausting That's how I feel about people with peanut "allergies". Jeez, we get it, you'll "die" if you eat "anything" with just a tiny bit of "peanut oil" on it, whatever Stop making such a big deal about what I mix when I'm cooking, and get over here so I can satisfy my peanut butter craving by licking it off your bare fingers
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 22:46 |
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for trying to maximise my meal allowance on my business trip? As a frequent business traveler, just claim the per diem rate? I've never spent all the way to the per diem rate. And I think ours are government rates, so they're not especially generous even. I think in the last year I've seen as high as $220/day for Reykjavik and as low as $81 for Cape Town, and both of those were more than enough. Just claim that and gently caress itemizing? I mean, do people do itemized expenses for basic poo poo like that?
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 22:49 |
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Yeah I worked for a place with a food allowance, but required me to submit receipts for everything and would reimburse me for what was spent rather than just giving me X$*Ydays. It was pretty annoying.
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ReidRansom posted:I mean, do people do itemized expenses for basic poo poo like that? Yes. Per diem is not a thing every company just does. In particular in most countries you (the company) can't write that off as a business expense, which is why the receipts are required. misguided rage posted:Yeah I worked for a place with a per diem, but required me to submit receipts for everything and would reimburse me for what was spent rather than just giving me X$*Ydays. It was pretty annoying. That's not at all a "per diem" and just the maximum allowable amount you can expense per day.
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ReidRansom posted:As a frequent business traveler, just claim the per diem rate? I've never spent all the way to the per diem rate. And I think ours are government rates, so they're not especially generous even. I think in the last year I've seen as high as $220/day for Reykjavik and as low as $81 for Cape Town, and both of those were more than enough. Just claim that and gently caress itemizing? I'm a frequent traveler for a major corporation and we don't have per diem, it's just "whatever's reasonable." But we don't have to have a receipt for under $50 per meal, so I either keep it just under $50 or have them run $49 on my corporate card and pay the rest myself to avoid needing the itemized receipt.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 22:57 |
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i was never told how much i can spend on meals or client entertainment and i aint ever gonna ask. as long as my expense reports keep going through.
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Motronic posted:
You caught me mid edit! But yes I agree.
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lol i just looked it up. there are no limits of any kind lol. this is a multi billion dollar corp and im positively frugal unless i have a whole bunch of people with me.
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misguided rage posted:Yeah I worked for a place with a food allowance, but required me to submit receipts for everything and would reimburse me for what was spent rather than just giving me X$*Ydays. It was pretty annoying. I had to do this too, plus just a receipt wasn't enough, I had to put in an itemized list of food and who I was with (presumably if I was with a client I would be able to get away with more?) which seemed like a lot of hoops to jump through. Still, at that point I was committed to get my money back for "One (1) frozen pizza, eaten alone".
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 23:03 |
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I guess I maybe underestimate how generous our travel policy is. I don't think we even need a receipt for any single expense under $75 while traveling.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 23:04 |
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i have literally filed an expense report for like several thousand dollars worth of tequila, in guadalajara closing out a bar for a project close. i cant imagine being asked about who drank what
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TehRedWheelbarrow posted:i have literally filed an expense report for like several thousand dollars worth of tequila, in guadalajara closing out a bar for a project close. This sounds like a sales expense report. Or at least one at a sales-culture-heavy company. It's pretty great, I've been places like that.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 23:10 |
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i do IT stuff. i just like to be on site for mergers/acquisitions flips etc.
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Not only do I need to submit scanned receipts, but I have a hard deadline to submit them within twelve hours of my plane landing back home. This last travel I did, the twelfth hour was the middle of a federal holiday. I would have needed to drive into the office to scan and email on that holiday, and the office was closed. I submitted first thing the next day and was denied. I would have been screwed if my boss hadn't cut me a personal check for the $400 in receipts. I'm committed to never traveling again for this org.
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# ? Aug 16, 2022 23:12 |
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It's like a glimpse into an alien world.
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AITA for “uninviting” my friend to my wedding after he lost his arm in an accident?quote:Me (32M) and my future wife Alice (25F) have been dating for 5 years. We have a mutual friend, his name is Ezra (30M). A few months ago, Ezra had an accident, he was hit by a drunk driver, he survived but he sadly lost most of his arm. Luckily, he had a great recovery and he’s doing better now.
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Mx. posted:AITA for “uninviting” my friend to my wedding after he lost his arm in an accident? cut off both of the bride's arms so that she'll get more attention than the guy who only lost one
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Mx. posted:AITA for “uninviting” my friend to my wedding after he lost his arm in an accident? Reminds me of this classic prudence Keeping Up Appearances quote:I am 27 years old and engaged to an amazing guy. When I was a little girl, my dad was involved in a really bad accident and was burned over a large portion of his body. He lost part of one limb and has some serious disfigurement. He has been a great dad and I never think about it. A few weeks ago, my fiancé started acting strange when we talked about the wedding. I asked him what was up and he avoided the question. Then his mom called me out of the blue and told me that she didn’t think that my dad should come to the wedding. She thinks that he will upset the guests and “traumatize” any children who might be there. She is suggesting that we have a private family ceremony before the big blowout. I got upset and my mom asked why. When I told her, she said that she and my dad understand, which only makes me feel worse. Maybe my future MIL has a point, but I would really rather disinvite HER than my dad.
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