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Solkanar512 posted:And holy poo poo, the comments on the date story are just insane. A bunch of lovely people reliving the times they were turned down at dates and projecting their anger at the OP. And of course, the thread is now closed. That and I think any story about teachers will bring people out of the woods to lose their loving mind about a lovely teacher they had when they were in middle school.
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My best friend shares my texts to him with his wife, BUT this is a thing we all agreed we were OK with. Sharing personal poo poo without the agreement of all of the people involved is hosed up.
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AITA for being mad my sister-in-law sprayed me with breast milk?quote:So my(24F) SIL (23F) and I were sitting in the back seat of a car with our husbands up front and she was breast feeling her baby (the car was parked). Now she is kind of obsessed with her breast milk. Always talks about pumping and has zero shame with whipping them out in public which doesn’t bother me at all but she kind of makes a big deal out of it. She also always asks people if they want to try drinking it, which is an absolute no from me. I barely like cow milk. 
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Aug 17, 2022 19:11
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hawowanlawow posted:yes I know but literally standing up and leaving in the middle of dinner is uncool and comparing it to bad vibes is also uncool Yeah, it's rude to up and go. Now there will be times when you can justify being rude, like if he was being racist or misogynostic. But being dumb enough to admit to having no hobbies besides gaming doesn't register as red flag behavior. Remember that Prudence from a few days ago when op's date up and left as soon she saw how trashed up his home was? People cheered her on because she got to see how much of a trash goblin he was. But this aita poster kinda jumped the gun on her date. Its her right to judge her potential dates, but they get the right to judge her for being rude in turn. Kuros posted:AITA for being mad my sister-in-law sprayed me with breast milk? Ewwwww
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Aug 17, 2022 19:22
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Love to spray people with bodily fluids as a joke.
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Aug 17, 2022 19:24
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Abruptly ending a date because you're just not interested (not because the other person was creepy or offensive) feels like a breach of etiquette. Most people, if they have that happen to them, would be left wondering if they'd done something to offend the other person. It's a little unfortunate, because I don't actually want someone to feel like they have to waste a bunch of time on my behalf when they're not enjoying themselves, but it's how it is.
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Aug 17, 2022 19:24
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Eat the food.
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This is why the ideal first date is a coffee and a walk somewhere public, or drinks at a bar. The option to say 'sorry, can't stay for another' regularly comes up without needing to embarass the other person.
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Aug 17, 2022 19:34
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Yeah back when I was doing casual dating, first meetup I always went for drinks. The main drawback to that is you have too many bad dates at one specific bar and then you have a lingering feeling of vague awkwardness every time you go back there for the rest of your life.
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Kuros posted:AITA for being mad my sister-in-law sprayed me with breast milk? That's roughly equivalent to spitting on someone.
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Aug 17, 2022 19:40
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at least it wasn't a movie date at a theater
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:Yeah back when I was doing casual dating, first meetup I always went for drinks. The main drawback to that is you have too many bad dates at one specific bar and then you have a lingering feeling of vague awkwardness every time you go back there for the rest of your life. This is why I almost never take a first date to the same place twice, and especially not a place I plan on frequenting, which is pretty easy in Denver where you can't throw a rock without hitting like five breweries This has the added bonus that most of the time neither of us has been to the brewery in question so you get to do the "trying out a new brewery" thing
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Aug 17, 2022 19:42
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:AITA for feeling betrayed that my bff lets her husband read my texts? I don't know how common this is but I've seen at least 2 or 3 cases with people getting re-married later in life after divorce or death of a spouse, and just having no loving boundaries at all with the new partner. Like my mom was talking to one of her longest friends on the phone and suddenly realized she was on speakerphone with the new boyfriend in the room (who hadn't said anything) while my mom was talking about something pretty personal. My FIL (who is a piece of poo poo for various reasons) literally cannot / will not talk to my wife on the phone without his new wife being on the call too. It's so loving weird.
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Aug 17, 2022 20:07
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sephiRoth IRA posted:I talk to my wife about most things my friends say just because they're her friends too, and occasionally I'll show her a text string, but every text?! I don’t show my wife most texts but she has the passcode to my phone and I have the passcode to Hera, plus there is a family laptop that we share. We don’t just go reading through each other’s texts (or I don’t, and I don’t think she does). If there is something I don’t want her to see I tell her not to look at whatever location (usually Amazon orders around gifting holidays), but there are any number of legitimate reasons one of us might read the other’s texts. For instance, our kids’ schools assume that the mother is the involved parent they should contact about stuff, even though I have repeatedly told them that I work from home and should be primary contact on anything they need dealt with in a timely manner. Also, any time we drive more than an hour away I hand her my phone for GPS and/or replying to anything urgent that might come through. I generally assume that if I communicate something to someone and they are married or have an SO that they have built a life with, there is a good chance that other person will see or hear it unless I request they not tell their SO. With the expense report post, I feel like it doesn’t take a genius to understand that just because they gave you a generous limit they aren’t expecting you to try and max it out and be a dick about it. Have a few nice meals but keep it reasonable unless you are entertaining clients or stakeholders. If someone doesn’t have the judgement to understand that and also doesn’t ask, I’m not sure that’s someone I want to work with anyway.
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Aug 17, 2022 20:08
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I am a huge gossip and my wife is more than happy to indulge me.
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i don't even want to read my own goddamn text messages
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Aug 17, 2022 20:15
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pentyne posted:That and I think any story about teachers will bring people out of the woods to lose their loving mind about a lovely teacher they had when they were in middle school. A friend of mine has noticed a decent number of profiles on dating sites that say "no teachers" and we've been trying to figure out if it's those sorts of experiences sticking with people or a euphemism for not being legally allowed near children.
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hawowanlawow posted:yeah well he just said he likes videogames so not really a good example there Uh... headbump the bricks and see if coins come out?
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Bruceski posted:A friend of mine has noticed a decent number of profiles on dating sites that say "no teachers" and we've been trying to figure out if it's those sorts of experiences sticking with people or a euphemism for not being legally allowed near children. it's probably some maga bullshit
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AITA for not giving my FBIL a +1 for our wedding?quote:Throwaway, names changed. A bit of background at the beginning, thanksgiving's gonna be a fuckin blast with these people
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for not giving my FBIL a +1 for our wedding? quote:She's nice enough and very beautiful (although she doesn't utilize it at all/doesn't dress up), These are some weird loving details to include here. 
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for not giving my FBIL a +1 for our wedding? Oh, no, not a +1 who will stay with her date all wedding and not talk to you. Edit: OP posted:Okay everyone's making GBS threads on me but here's the thing - it's not just me, Harry also agrees. Same with some of his family members (sisters, step dad etc.) that Liz makes no effort. Jack is also generally pretty distant from us so I guess it's not fair to blame Liz entirely. I remember the first time I met her, there was a spider or something near her and she asked Jack to come over. Instead of communicating like adults, he literally encouraged her - stroking her hair, saying it's going to 'be okay' (again just a spider) etc like a child. Things like this. Absurd Alhazred fucked around with this message at 20:53 on Aug 17, 2022 |
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We're all very family oriented...but only for the good ones
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This feels like a 6 foot party sub guy origin story. AITA for eating most of my sister’s cake? quote:so on Saturday it was my sisters 16th birthday and my parents wanted to host a birthday party for her. Oh nothing just eating 2 large pieces of cake so guests can’t get any. (And having poo poo parents that enable it, and a poo poo family that treats them like poo poo).
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Hughlander posted:
Way to go mom and dad! Stuff some more cake down their throat, that'll help them feel better! 
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Aug 17, 2022 21:29
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for not giving my FBIL a +1 for our wedding? I get the feeling that Liz or her parents are either not from the same country as the OP, or have a very different skin tone.
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Hughlander posted:This feels like a 6 foot party sub guy origin story. Death to everyone for that Lizzo jab. She’d run circles around me while playing the flute.
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teen witch posted:Death to everyone for that Lizzo jab. She’d run circles around me while playing the flute.
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for not giving my FBIL a +1 for our wedding? Yeah, why can't Jack understand he shouldn't want to spend time with his fiancé?
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Cythereal posted:I get the feeling that Liz or her parents are either not from the same country as the OP, or have a very different skin tone. That's exactly what I was thinking and would wager a decent amount of money that that's the case
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Kurieg posted:He wanted her to erupt at him in a screaming rage so he could be smug and be the bigger man and prove that she overreacted. But she acted like an adult. Then he wanted her to grovel and apologize for not giving him the reaction he wanted, but that isn't happening either. It really pisses me off that so many people think the only appropriate way to be upset is to wail and gnash your teeth like you're being paid to attend a pharaoh's funeral. I'm going to go stare off into mid distance about it for awhile.
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AITA for telling my roommate to bring a cup to me if they want a cold drink since they always drink out of the containers?quote:I have a new roommate Natalie and she's a good roommate except for one issue- she drinks straight from the containers. Milk, tea, juices, whatever. The first time I saw her do this I asked her to please not do it because it was unhygienic and a risk to my and any of our guests' health. She apologized and said she wasn't used to having to live with others. It stopped for all of a day before she started doing it again. I've had multiple talks with her about it and asking her to stop and it hasn't stopped. After that, I started buying an extra container of some things. Put my name on it. I thought this worked for a little while but it turned out Natalie wasn't looking at which container she grabbed before drinking. This has to be some sort of weird power move, right? I lived alone for a long time but like, I never in my life drank straight from the container where it was some shared staple that other people would probably use.
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The Moon Monster posted:It really pisses me off that so many people think the only appropriate way to be upset is to wail and gnash your teeth like you're being paid to attend a pharaoh's funeral. I'm going to go stare off into mid distance about it for awhile. It's ok mate. Don't be afraid to cry. Don't let toxic masculinity hold you back. Let it go. You will be better for it. Let your feelings go and free your mind from them. gonna steel the pharaoh's funeral line though..
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The Moon Monster posted:It really pisses me off that so many people think the only appropriate way to be upset is to wail and gnash your teeth like you're being paid to attend a pharaoh's funeral. I'm going to go stare off into mid distance about it for awhile. Yeah, I've had two breakups now where both guys claimed to be blindsided because I never screamed or yelled at them. They didn't realize that the multiple sit-down conversations i had where I outlined how their behavior hurt me and what I needed them to do in the future were actually me being mad at them. Everybody got three tries and that was it. While talking, they would agree to everything I asked for (stuff like, "please text me if you're going to be more than a few minutes late") and then never do any of the things they agreed to. Then, a week or two later when I would dump them, they would not seem to put 2 and 2 together to understand that yes, I was angry in those conversations, and no, I wasn't going to put up with it forever. Now I'm down to one try. If we have to have a Talk and no changes, I'm out. I'm not going to throw a tantrum just to get you to pay attention.
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teen witch posted:Death to everyone for that Lizzo jab. She’d run circles around me while playing the flute. 
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AITA for not wanting to go to a vegetarian restaurant every time?quote:I work in a small workplace where we are really close, and we go out for drinks or a meal roughly once a month.
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"she doesn't look very wow OP, i can't believe reddit cracked the code there, you were being so sneaky about it e: lol gently caress this guy OP posted:Okay one, I don't even know if that is her religion, some people also suggested she is Muslim and doesn't care about alcohol rules or is even Buddhist. Two, antisemitism isn't a thing here anymore. If anything, Jewish people have more rights than other people (as you explained in how people would side with her if she is a Jew).
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edgeman83 posted:AITA for not wanting to go to a vegetarian restaurant every time? Quite possibly clueless, I've run into stuff that I thought was obvious because I grew up exposed to it that outsiders had no idea about. But yeah when you know that's a thing it's obvious that's the thing.
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Foo Diddley posted:"she doesn't look very ...okay I officially retract any goodwill I extended, screw this guy.
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