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deety: Aug 2, 2004; zombies + sharks = fun

greazeball posted:

I had one mate get super bent out of shape after I dumped him when he trashed his marriage (and lied to me as well when I was helping him salvage it). He seemed genuinely surprised that we weren't bros anymore and so his clever rhyming line was no longer applicable. Another friend blew up his marriage by cheating but he was remorseful, took a back seat or skipped events his ex was going to, did a lot of individual and couples counselling and generally worked with each of their common friend group to figure out if/how they could stay friends with his ex and their daughter as well as him. It mostly worked and in cases where it didn't there's just an absence of a relationship rather than open hostility.

The only time (we know of) that a friend of ours cheated, it was this weird situation where his marriage was already struggling because he wanted to leave their church. Between that and the fact that I didn't really know his ex, I decided that the way he left his relationship wasn't really my business. I did question him on how practical some of his lifestyle choices would be for co-parenting his kids, and he had smooth answers that made it seem like he'd thought all that over. We moved a few hours away and only saw him for long weekends after that, so we missed the fact that he was slowly alienating all his old friends through constant efforts to drag all the men into single life party mode.

A couple of years later, his lovely morals became my business when my husband told me that the guy had started trying to hook him up with escorts on work trips and would not drop the subject. I felt like a total loving chump because I'd been trying to offer nonjudgemental support to someone who was trying to screw up my marriage for kicks. My husband switched projects at work and we distanced ourselves. Despite being directly told that the friendship doesn't work for us anymore, the guy keeps trying to reach out, mostly to introduce us to women he's seeing. I guess he's hoping to win some of his old crowd back over by proving that he's more settled? But last I heard, he's mostly estranged from his kids and the only serious relationship he's had since leaving his wife broke up when his girlfriend found out about the secret baby that he hid from his immediate family until his divorce was finalized.

Next time, I'm going to just treat a cheater as suspicious until proven otherwise. That whole experience made me think a lot more about what I want my friendships to be, and no amount of shared history or fun times is worth watching a grown-rear end adult compromise themselves over chasing pleasure.

# ? Aug 26, 2022 15:35

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haveblue: Aug 15, 2005; Toilet Rascal

Neito posted:

Nobody's getting an immediate seven days notice just for some loving tuna. Dude's definitely had problems before and they were just looking for a paper trail to deny him unemployment.

Probably has something to do with screaming and cursing at coworkers

# ? Aug 26, 2022 15:40

DemoneeHo: Nov 9, 2017; Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca

Does anyone have that reddit post where op finds his old truck from his teenage years and then spends $30K on the piece of junk? I could do with a laugh.

# ? Aug 26, 2022 15:45

snergle: Aug 3, 2013; A kind little mouse!

DemoneeHo posted:

Does anyone have that reddit post where op finds his old truck from his teenage years and then spends $30K on the piece of junk? I could do with a laugh.

wasnt it 30k plus he had to go pick it up and his so told him not to do it?

# ? Aug 26, 2022 15:49

Dr. Stab: Sep 12, 2010; 👨🏻‍⚕️🩺🔪🙀😱🙀

Cerekk posted:

He shouldn't have to take sides because there were no sides to take until the bride decided to make other people's drama her business.

The groom would be perfectly happy to not exclude anyone, and as far as we know the groomsman and bridesmaid are willing to be adults around each other for a day. The bride is the one who is demanding someone be excluded, and his response of "exclude Bridesmaid then" is a response to that demand.

Abusers don't mind being around the people they abused, while the abused don't want to be around the abuser. This doesn't make the abuser more adult. And it doesn't make the abused childish.

# ? Aug 26, 2022 15:50

Brawnfire: Jul 13, 2004; 🎧Listen to Cylindricule!🎵
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haveblue posted:

Probably has something to do with screaming and cursing at coworkers

"I'll eat whatever the gently caress I want, piss off" is absolutely professional-grade parlance.

# ? Aug 26, 2022 15:53

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA for using money we "earmarked" for our 6 month old's college fund to buy back the exact 1972 Ford Bronco I owned as a teenager?

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So how to begin with this...I realize that on paper I am totally the rear end in a top hat but when you dig deeper into my motivations I'm hoping its more of a grey area that anything else and maybe even I did the right thing.

When I was a teenager my dad bought me a classic 1972 Ford Bronco. It was my true passion and I don't recall a memory from high school that somehow doesn't involve that truck. Plus my dad and I would spend hours and hours working on it together and we went through that especially father/son rough patch when I was teenager it was always that Bronco that brought us back together. I made a huge mistake and sold the truck when I turned 19 and my dad died of a heart attack two months later so while not logical, I've always felt a karmic connection between the two events.

We had a baby in early February. she is our first and the light of my life. My wife is doing well but she's back at work and she's realized that she hates all the day cares we've tried and really wants to be a stay at home mom and plus she's still very hormonal from delivery, lack of sleep and breastfeeding so she's having a rough time and is angry a lot. I guess I need to say this.

Two weeks ago I was driving through our town's warehouse district and saw a Bronco that was pretty beat up but resembled mine. I stopped just for nostalgias sake and the owner came out and let me take a look inside. My dad and I had glued a wheat penny under the dash as sort of security measure so I just sort of checked and goddamned if it wasn't MY BRONCO!

I asked him if he'd ever consider selling it, he said actually someone was on I-25 as we spoke from Colorado to buy it for $21000. I freaked out and asked him if I could buy it right then and there for $23000. He said if I could come up with the cash, yes. I had been procrastinating setting up a 529 so I had $12000 in savings that my wife's parents had given us, I maxed out my credit card to Venmo and my mom bought down a check for $4000 and I loving drove away in my old car. It was like a dream come true. Like a literal dream come true. It needs a lot of work I can't afford right now but it's mine. Like in my driveway mine. Again. I can't even describe what a joy this is.

My wife and her parents are furious with me. They feel I was deceptive, that a "real" man would have sacrificed anything and everything so my wife could go stay at home with his kids and that's setting aside that they gave us the money for a college fund. My point is my daughter is only 6 months old, we have 18 years to set up a college fund of her. But this Bronco means everything to me and if I wouldn't have acted it would have been gone forever. Now it can be that same connection between me and my kids. To me it's the literal meaning of happiness.

Like I said on paper--rear end in a top hat...whole story--grey area. How do you guys see it?

Edit: had no idea this would go so one way. I guess I messed up. I talked with my mom and she is basically going to buy the bronco from me in order to refill the college fund and pay off the credit card. The $4k will be a gift and she�s going to give me whatever I need to restore it. She�s always been awesome to me and she�s rather the money be spent now than wait for me and my sisters inheritance. Sorry to get everyone so mad at me, I was thinking with my emotions and acted badly

edit2: are the �mommy bailed you out� comments really necessary ? I found a solution and it�s coming from me and my sisters inheritance so it�s not like I�m not paying for it on my own eventually.

Edit 3: my inbox is so buried I have no idea what those icons are that are where gold used to be. Does anyone know what those are ?

Edit4: I�m getting a 403 error whenever I try to respond, not sure what that means but I�m still reading because honestly I�m afraid to go home even with the great news I know my wife is going to be upset for one reason or another

Edit5: does anyone know what 403 error means? I messaged the moderators but they must be busy /u/SnausageFest since you�re a mod, do you know? I can�t respond to any posts and get the �status 403� whenever I try. Thanks!

Edit in the morning: I couldn�t figure out why I was getting so many private�s but I guess this must be locked now. I didn�t tell my wife that my mom bailed me out and lied and Said I found a buyer for the bronco. I�ll figure out how to cross that bridge when I get there but my wife was so relieved that I �had come to your senses� I don�t want to disappoint her. It�s going to take all my lying skills to pull this one off over the next few years.

# ? Aug 26, 2022 15:58

Malachite_Dragon: Mar 31, 2010; Weaving Merry Christmas magic

Always that one goon weirdly- suspiciously, even- defensive of the cheater. It's only a little adultery, come on, what's the harm really

# ? Aug 26, 2022 16:01

DemoneeHo: Nov 9, 2017; Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca

Hughlander posted:

AITA for using money we "earmarked" for our 6 month old's college fund to buy back the exact 1972 Ford Bronco I owned as a teenager?

so good

I especially love the detail of op paying more than what the guy was offering

# ? Aug 26, 2022 16:08

Pope Corky the IX: Dec 18, 2006; What are you looking at?

I think we're about done with the cheating wedding story. I really don't feel like spending my Friday morning going through stupid reports about idiocy because one of you decided to be a stupid idiot.

# ? Aug 26, 2022 16:09

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Meskhenet posted:

Im going to chip in.

My ex wife's family always used to do this.
It was pretty common for her mother to cook 'dinner' at about 10pm, leave everything uncovered on the stove, and then just turn the stove top back on 7pm the next day and serve that. I always thought it was insane.

Meat, chicken, didnt matter, just leave it over night. Nope, dont cover it......

I now personally dont do left overs at all due to this, ......been sitting in the fridge properly stored in a container for a few hours?, nar bin that...

(The ONLY, leave it for a day or 2 on the stove she makes that i will actually eat is home made Pho, and thats because it tastes better on day 2.)

My parents had a close friend back in the 70s who had gotten married and the first thanksgiving he and his wife had together they cooked a huge thanksgiving meal with a really big turkey. Being a musician, the man was lazy and decided that since they needed to put it back in the oven to heat it up, and they didn�t have room in the refrigerator, they would just leave the turkey in its roasting pan in the oven. There were only two of them and they had a lot of meat. Every evening for a week they turned on the oven and reheated the turkey until the 7th day when instead of smelling like roasting turkey it started smelling like rotting meat.

Cowslips Warren posted:

I am having Lady Problems right now and any little thing will set me off bawling. I scuffed a car the other day because the dude parked so close I couldn't get my door open, and I spent hours last night agonizing over it, in between crying over cramps, the fact I couldn't get a bowl clean, and the dog wouldn't go outside to piss.

Any time you return to your car and can�t open the door because someone has parked so close, you are justified in giving them the mother of all door dings on your way back into the car. They have assumed the risk with their lovely parking job and door dings are a fact of life.

# ? Aug 26, 2022 16:11

FMguru: Sep 10, 2003; peed on;
sexually

Neito posted:

Nobody's getting an immediate seven days notice just for some loving tuna. Dude's definitely had problems before and they were just looking for a paper trail to deny him unemployment.

The fact that even HR was like "what the gently caress is that smell?" probably helped expedite the process.

# ? Aug 26, 2022 16:12

snergle: Aug 3, 2013; A kind little mouse!

icecastle posted:

It was a massive gently caress up from the nurse. Imagine missing the birth of your child and being away from your wife when she needs you as support because of the crimes of being a big person and pacing because you're nervous.

i dont think he was pacing. he was alternating between watching whats going on and going to his wifes side. so he wasnt constantly moving just moving sometimes. she just didnt like seeing him out the corner of her eye. when he was kicked out he went to his wifes side and she was starting to push and thats sort of where youre told to go when that happens.

# ? Aug 26, 2022 16:13

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA- for eating food that I made?

I assume this is not actually a marriage and that OP just happens to be living with a three-year-old named hubs

# ? Aug 26, 2022 16:13

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

teen witch posted:

AITA for going to HR?

The punishment for microwaving tuna in the workplace should be death.

# ? Aug 26, 2022 16:15

Traxus IV: Sep 11, 2001; it's our time now
let's get this shit started

whoop just saw the edict, nm

# ? Aug 26, 2022 16:16

massive spider: Dec 6, 2006

AceClown posted:

honestly, no, if I found out one of my friends had been cheating I'd probably raise an eyebrow or something but I'm not about to go burning 20 year friendships over it. it's just not my business

Even if youre not prepared to make a stand for someone else on moral grounds, on pure self interested ones- you've just discovered that your friend is someone willing to gently caress you over the second you turn your back on them.

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# ? Aug 26, 2022 16:24

Pope Corky the IX: Dec 18, 2006; What are you looking at?

Don't gently caress with me when I'm edicting.

# ? Aug 26, 2022 16:26

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

AITA for not letting my stepsister paint the room I�m letting her stay in?