Evil Willow posted:

AITA For getting a lock for my office door after what my husband did?.

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I (22M) stay with my sister (26F) while I’m in university.

We have always been close.

I am not interested in a relationship right now and have been hooking up with girls.

I bring a girl home often after I go out drinking. My sister works but she never said anything until recently.

The next morning after a girl left, my sister told me how she was kind of uncomfortable with all these girls “she doesn’t know” coming over. I told her no problem.

The next time when I had a girl come over I knocked on her bedroom door and introduced the girl I was with to her. She didn’t really say anything and we both went back to my room. I did this 2-3 times with different girls.

The next morning after the third, my sister started yelling at me and the girl I was with quietly left.

My sister yelled at me and said I needed to stop and I was embarrassing her in her own house.

Normally I would just dismiss what she was saying as sibling fights but she really seemed angry with me.

So AITA?

Foo Diddley posted:

AITA for introducing my hookup partners to my sister every time they come over?

so OP's either breathtakingly loving stupid or a complete rear end in a top hat. probably both

Foo Diddley posted:

AITA for introducing my hookup partners to my sister every time they come over?

so OP's either breathtakingly loving stupid or a complete rear end in a top hat. probably both

Foo Diddley posted:

AITA for introducing my hookup partners to my sister every time they come over?

so OP's either breathtakingly loving stupid or a complete rear end in a top hat. probably both

Midnight Voyager posted:

Replies: an rear end in a top hat.

I mean, he indicates that he was being a prick about it but also is just really dismissive of everyone. Apparently he and his sister pull "jabs and stunts like this" at each other all the time.

Nerdlord Actual posted:

I found this one from 2 years ago:

AITA for locking the door to my home office and refusing to let my daughter and wife visit during the workday?

Foo Diddley posted:

a good "jab and stunt" would be, the next time he introduces a girl, his sister goes "oh, so your tests came back negative then?"

Biplane posted:

He's a finance bro, gently caress him. I hope his wife ruins him.

Pope Corky the IX posted:

And yet you use finance.

Mx. posted:

we are a lesbian couple. I'm not a controlling womanizer man lol I just think it's gross even if she cleans the sink

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I (24f) have been dating Jack (29m) for 6 months. We get along great and I love almost everything about him except for his selfishness. In our times together, I’ve never seen him give anything to any cause even though he makes good money.

We’ve been to the grocery stores together many times and when the cashiers ask if he wants to donate, he always said no. One time we got into an argument because the cashier asked if I wanted to donate $1 to a children hospital and he said no. Who doesn’t donate to the children hospital?!? Whenever we are stop at a red light, he never gives anything to the people at the corner asking for money. Never, not once.

Recently a friend of mine got pregnant and her boyfriend bailed. Her parents said she’s old enough to figure things out for herself so they’re not helping her. She’s 25 but they’re still AH for that. Anyway, I threw her a baby shower because I know she’ll need things as a single mother. Jack came and brought literally the cheapest thing on the registry, a bag of diapers. I was disappointed in him as I previously told him it’d be nice if he got her the bugaboo stroller or the clek car seat, you know, something she really needs. We got into an argument about that too.

I was at his house the other day when he got a package in. He opened it and showed me it was a new bottle of cologne and had me smell it. Although it smelled fantastic, I was speechless when I saw the invoice. He paid $450 for a bottle of cologne when all he bought for my friend was a bag of diapers. I saw red and went off on him.

I know I’m the better person and right but my sister is telling me I was being too harsh because he can spend his money anyway he wants to. I said told her he can do better.

AITA?

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While under normal circumstances I would try to communicate my feelings to my wife, I am at my wits' end for how to handle this situation, as I have exhausted all of the typical conflict resolution means.

Being a teacher, I am currently giving lessons over Zoom. I recognize that studying math over Zoom isn't the most exciting thing in the world for students, and I can barely get them to even pretend to be interested in my lessons when we're in the classroom, but they have done an admirable job of staying focused. My wife is making it extremely difficult on my end, though.

Several months ago when my lessons began, I went from working long hours to being at home all day. Unfortunately my wife does not seem to understand that while I am at home, and while I can occasionally help out with a chore or two, I still have actual work to do. Between lesson prep, grading, and meetings, my schedule is quite full.

The first time she interrupted my lesson, she abruptly opened the door to the room where I was teaching and loudly asked me to do the dishes. This was unbelievably awkward as I was in the middle of teaching three dozen tenth graders geometry. I told her we would talk about it later, but not being deterred, she asked if that was a "yes" or a "no." I said it was a "yes," but that I was in the middle of a lesson. Without a word she closed the door. I got some chuckles from the students but a bit of red-cheeked embarrassment was the extent of the damage.

The next time, two days later, she again barged in holding a pair of my pants that I left on the floor of our bedroom. She loudly stated "you need to pick up after yourself." This time, before responding, I muted my mic and turned off my camera telling her that I was in the middle of a lesson. Again, she walked away without a word.

At this point I moved my setup into the basement of our house so I could avoid further interruption. Since my basement looks like it probably has a few dead bodies buried in it, my students have begun to call me "Basement Dad," which is endearing, but I would rather teach in a room where I'm not going to get asbestos in my lungs. The trouble really began when I started locking the door to prevent interruptions.

My wife will begin by rattling the door a few times, followed by pounding on it. Then she'll groan loudly and say something negative about me. After that I can hear her walking around the house slamming doors.

A few weeks ago, she was literally jumping up and down, stomping her feet, in the room above mine. In the first months of these online lessons I set up a hotkey to mute my mic and disable my camera instantly when needed, and luckily my reflexes honed from Counter-Strike in my teens has paid off. But there have been times where she has sneaked in an embarrassing moment for me.

Every time I have patiently explained to her that I need complete quiet to teach my lessons, and she says "yeah yeah yeah OK." Then in the next lesson, without fail, she'll find something new to complain about and throw a tantrum, trying to humiliate me in front of my students. While my mute game is on point, students have recognized something is wrong. One of my 9th graders even sent me an email asking if everything was OK. I had to make up a lame excuse about needing to mute my mic because of a sudden grinding noise that happens in my old basement. There's no way she bought that.

Since I'm unable to go out, unable to even enter the school grounds, and have no place to go to avoid my wife, I'm unbelievably anxious when I teach. I have tried talking to her calmly, and I even tried to get angry at her. When I yelled at her for forcefully sliding plastic files under the door so they'd float down in the background during my lessons, she expected me to apologize for getting angry at her.

How can I even approach this kind of problem?

TL;DR: my wife is acting ridiculous when I'm teaching lessons over Zoom. Most of the rest of the day she's normal, but during lessons she does everything in her power to sabotage me.

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My first lesson after making that post, my wife went straight back to her old antics. I was in the lesson room as students gradually joined, talking to a student who was interested in luxury cars. At some point during the conversation, I said “yeah I think I’d have to go with the Lamborghini there.” I heard from behind the door in the basement where I was teaching “LaMBorGhiNi” in the sarcastic exaggerated tone of voice that kids will use to mock you. I realized she was being childish again, but figured she’d eventually tire herself out.

A few minutes after the lesson started, I used the word “circumference” to describe a word problem. I then heard “ciRCuMFeREnCe” from behind the door at the top of the stairs, followed by giggling. Since the timing was right, as I was about to have the students take a shot at a problem, I set them to the task, muted my mic/disabled my camera, and quietly crept up the stairs. I suddenly opened the door to find my wife with a cup over her ear pushed against the door so she could hear me.

I whisper-shouted at her for her behavior for about a minute. I asked if she was five years old and what the hell was wrong with her. She feigned fear and shock as if I had held her against the wall with my hands wrapped around her throat, which made me just sigh and go back downstairs to finish my lesson.

For the rest of the lesson she was quiet, but after it I went upstairs to bring up what she did. She started asking if I was going to yell at her again. I responded that I wouldn't, and I tried to get back on topic, but no matter what I said about her behavior, her response was the same. When I brought up her stomping in the room above before, “are you going to yell at me again?” When I brought up her sliding plastic files under the door during a lesson before, “oh, are you going to yell at me again?” When I brought up anything she has done during lessons, the answer was the same, over and over again.

There is absolutely no way to broach the topic with her now. I called her doctor and said that her behavior is erratic, and that she might have PPD. The doctor said that he could ask about it when she came in, but there is not much else he could do. The next day I tried to sit my wife down for a calm discussion about the possibility of her having PPD, to which she responded she had PTSD from my “abusive shouting.” Right. When I suggested therapy, together, she said “oh, to fix your anger management problems? Sounds good.”

I teach in my car in front of a Starbucks now. Outside of lesson time we haven't really had any issues, and now that I'm outside the house teaching, we are strained but stable. I know this is not a very satisfactory outcome, but I think she has deep underlying issues that are going to need professional intervention. When I said I would happily go to therapy with her to find a solution to our communication issues, she told me that I should go alone. I think that may actually be a good step because having a neutral party to listen to my worries and guide me towards better de-escalation tactics would be highly beneficial. I could also try to entice her to join gradually.

TL;DR: my wife has no desire to change. I’m going to start therapy alone and see if I can’t get her to join. Her doctor will bring up the possibility of PPD in her next appointment.

TheMathyFolf posted:

My [33m] wife [25f] constantly makes a conscious effort to humiliate me during my lessons over Zoom

Update from a week later

TheMathyFolf posted:

My [33m] wife [25f] constantly makes a conscious effort to humiliate me during my lessons over Zoom

Update from a week later

limp_cheese posted:

We happily let him choose where ro spend the holidays! Unless he makes the wrong choice.

Total Meatlove posted:

I’ll side with recipe dude, having had that thing with a partner of agreeing youd have that carbonara recipe tonight but they subbed out the black pepper for garlic salt and the guincale for some chicken she wanted to use but still insisted it’s a carbonara

Aramoro posted:

... the whole no true Scotsman thing is bullshit...

TheMathyFolf posted:

My [33m] wife [25f] constantly makes a conscious effort to humiliate me during my lessons over Zoom

Update from a week later

teen witch posted:

Negative Blowjob? Didn’t they open for Big Black in 88?

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I’m 20 and taking the semester off of college so staying at my parents house while I kind of decide what to do next.

My dad had a conference in Anaheim and my mom wanted to go so they asked me to stay so I could feed the dogs and just be present in the house. They were gone for 1.5 weeks.

They got home yesterday and my dad started accusing me of driving his 1960s porsche and leaving it at friends house. The car is his baby and he’s the second owner, the first was my grandpa. I’ve driven it once in my life and it made me so nervous I never wanted to drive it again. I promised him I didn’t drive it but the car was gone. We called the police and they came out and discovered that the cameras by the garage had been broken. And with ring footage from the neighbors and the data from our cameras the car had been stolen about a week ago. My dad is despondent because I guess the longer a car theft goes the harder it is to find it. I feel so bad.

He’s so mad at me (my mom is too) because I park my XTerra right next to the Porsche and I did not see that it was gone for the entire week. I should have noticed but I just didn’t. Obviously we know the date it was stolen and I must have pulled in and out and parked next to the empty spot dozens of times and I just didn’t notice.

I think my dad wants to kick me out. Aita?

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I 21F am in a huge predicament and it might have some serious effects. My boyfriend is very very hurt and upset.

Basically a good friend of mine has a fetish for a certain body part that isn’t really considered sexual by most people (it’s not feet). I’m one of the few people who even knows about this with him.

My friend straight up asked me if I’d send a pic of this part of me to him. His reasoning was it’s not like most people would find it inappropriate. At the time I didn’t see the big deal and he’s ,y friend so I said screw it and sent him the picture.

My bf knows my friend and knows we talk a lot. I was texting him back while laying with my bf and that’s when he saw the pic because I had to scroll up for something.

When he got upset I asked if he found the pic in appropriate. He said technically no but I still helped the guy get off.

He’s not speaking to me currently. I feel awful as I am starting to see his reasoning.

Am I the rear end in a top hat?

AKA Pseudonym posted:

AITA for not noticing that my dad’s Porsche was stolen out of our garage?

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for sending a picture to a guy friend of something he likes?

AKA Pseudonym posted:

AITA for not noticing that my dad’s Porsche was stolen out of our garage?

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for sending a picture to a guy friend of something he likes?

Kurieg posted:

AITA for telling my son that he ruined Christmas for me and his stepdad when he decided to spend it with his dad?

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Last year he spend Christmas with me, Nathan and my inlaws and he complained that the experience was "terrible" because he said Nathan and his family had little to no accomodation for his food choices (I'm not defending them but my inlaws are quite traditional when it comes to food and a bit ignorant to what types of foods Mason eats)

DeeplyConcerned posted:

John Murdoch posted:

Though adding to the dad being dumb, what good were those cameras if they were also taken out without anyone noticing?

John Murdoch posted:

Not OP's fault for it being stolen, but how DO you fail to notice something like that going missing?

Ashye posted:

Its earlobes or something isn't it? Hot and sexy ears and those dangly lobes!