PiratePrentice posted:

You don't understand, the most important thing is to defend the honor of the reactionary shitheads of the mormon church because...

uh well I'm sure there's some reason

rotinaj posted:

Are you really pearlclutching and bringing up your dead mom to “win” a discussion on loving something awful

Go outside

Pomme de Terror posted:

This one might be fake, but picturing it amuses me so here we are

AITA for getting myself kicked out of Sunday School?

rotinaj posted:

Are you really pearlclutching and bringing up your dead mom to “win” a discussion on loving something awful

Go outside

PizzaProwler posted:

pentyne posted:

Tell me you're from a family of alcoholics without telling me.

Also, how loving insanely rude is it to gift someone a bottle, then take it from them to open it and pour drinks for everyone else at the party?

Piell posted:

AITA for throwing away the expensive whiskey my brother got me for my 40th?

FMguru posted:

It's an entire family of alcoholics, and when the OP got himself straight and put his life back together and was kind of a wet (dry?) blanket at parties, they interpret that as him acting like he was better than them, and so this whole event was meant to take him down a peg, get him off his high horse. It was absolutely an attempt to sabotage his sobriety.

Lt. Danger posted:

last time this came up I believe some people said it would be rude not to open the bottle and share with the gifter

Lt. Danger posted:

last time this came up I believe some people said it would be rude not to open the bottle and share with the gifter

Lt. Danger posted:

last time this came up I believe some people said it would be rude not to open the bottle and share with the gifter

teen witch posted:

Oh wow that’s a formatting nightmare so I’m going to copy paste and y’all can figure it out, I have a flight to catch

Neglectful moron alienates his daughter by trying to play dad

ended by saying I would not be ignored in my own house (as a commenter on my previous post pointed out).

She is free to make her own mistakes, as people on reddit pointed out.

quote:

Since having our first kid (we now have three), my in-laws (let’s call them mimi and papa) have become very possessive over my children and seem to think that they’re my kids’ actual parents, not grandparents. I often feel like I just exist to bring them grandchildren. With both my pregnancies (I have twins), they thanked me for caring their grandkids.

At first I couldn’t figure out why it bothered me so much that they thanked me for caring my own kids but then I realized why it bothered me: I felt like just a surrogate for their grand babies. With our kids it’s always about their side of the family—they look like my husband, they have Mimi’s chin, they like the same favorite colors, they carry on their family name, etc etc. when my girls came out very white skinned (they’re Hispanic and I’m not), Papa commented that they don’t look like the family. They sent me a ton of books to read with my son when he was born and you’d expect them to maybe send some “mommy and me” or “daddy and me” books but no—they were all about “grandpa loves me” or “Grandma is my whole world” type books. They made themselves grandparent t-shirts and mugs but never once have they given me a mother to my child type gift. They bought matching pjs and took a Christmas picture with just my son, not including us as the parents.

Papa is the one whose behaviors bother me most. He literally needs my kids to love him. A lot of the gifts he gives my kids are somehow related to his interests and likes, not even things my kids would ask for or want but he just wants them to think of him always. He tells our son to call him if he has any issues with us or to know that papa loves him most. He talked about how needy he was going to be of our new kids before they were born, especially if they were girls. Well we did have twin girls and he has continued his obsessive behaviors. He has genuinely cried because we put a cute big eye filter on our babies and told us we can’t do that because we’re “making fun of them” but we would never—it’s just cute and funny and something we’d do to our own faces. He made an ornament with all three of our kids and then just Mimi and papa, as if that’s the family tree.

My final straw in feeling weirded out by his actions was a comment he made when my newborn girl’s onesie sleeve was pulled down, revealing her shoulder. When I noticed her shoulder was exposed my reaction was “oh she’s going to get cold, let’s fix that.” what was his thought? He said “wow I don’t want my granddaughter showing skin, gotta cover up girl.” Why would you even think that way with a newborn? Anyways, AITA for wanting to address these behaviors?

Piell posted:

AITA for wanting to tell my in-laws to stop acting like my kids are theirs?

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quote:

Throwaway.

My girlfriend (26F) and I (27M) have been together for just over a year. She’ll be graduating in January from graduate school and has a well paying job lined up.

Her parents bought an apartment years ago as an investment property and she’ll be living in it and taking over the mortgage. It’s a very spacious two bedroom that will be a total of $2300/month (average in our area). It’s pretty pricey and costs over half of her monthly income so I was concerned about her living there alone.

This is when I suggested that I move in. It’s a great space and we would have our own rooms and we’d get to live together and she would be able to have a more affordable rent. I currently live by myself and my rent is $2k a month, so it would help me too. So basically, win win win.

She said she’s always lived at home and so she wants to “be by herself before deciding if she wanted to live with anyone else” for a while and not to worry about it and she’d figure it out. I thought maybe her parents would help out with rent and I dropped it.

She just told me last week about how she was excited to move in soon and then told me she’d gotten a roomate and they’d been furniture shopping together. Her roomate is a girl she completed grad school with.

Obviously, I was hurt. I offered to move in first and we’re dating which I think means more than a classmate. I also said how having a roomate is not very “be by herself” of her.

She said she thought we were too early in our relationship to live together (???) and living with a partner is different from living with a friend (???). I think she’s just making excuses for blindsiding me.

I said she should have at least considered me and that I was hurt that she put a friend above me when I honestly and genuinely tried to help her.

I’ve kinda accepted that she’s moving in with her classmate and I’ve been cordial about it so she can be excited about this move and her new job but I’m still hurt

AITA?

quote:

I want to reply to this and defend myself a little. When I asked her about WHY she wanted the friend and not me she said that it’s so they can “hang out” and have “girl time” and “host parties together”. I get that she’s not had a lot of freedoms for those things growing up but it’s not like she would be unable to do those things with me! I want her to enjoy her life. So I feel like I’m justified in my hurt, she’s also said I love you and that she can see herself marrying me so I feel like this undermines our relationship because if she’s SO sure about our future then why is taking a step forward together a bag thing? Finally I offered to move in knowing it would help both of us with rent, chores, household responsibilities, etc. I cook and clean so it’s not like she’s burdened with me so I don’t get why IM considering how I can help HER and she’s not reciprocating that for ME

Foo Diddley posted:

AITA for telling my girlfriend she should’ve asked me to move in?



but what about ME, this was supposed to lower MY rent and give ME more room

hallo spacedog posted:

This is the dude trying to make himself look good so girlfriend should run for the hills asap

quote:

For context I 30F have been dating my boyfriend 31M going on a year. When we first met he let me know that he is divorced with 3 children 6M 4F and a stepson 8M that he considers his son.

He also let me know his situation was unique and he was okay if I didn’t want to continue dating. Him and his ex wife are great friends, they simple got married to young and realized they were different people. Neither wanted to split custody so they turned their home into a duplex, that way they could both see the kids everyday and if his son wanted to see him he could just come over.

I can not have children and he explained he would not have more. Although it was a unique situation he’s a great guy so I kept it going.

Now onto a year he still is a great guy and I love him. However I can’t help but feel like I’m on the side of the real “family”. His ex still comes to all the holidays, the kids knock and can come in whenever. One of the kids is not really even his but still has open access to him. I think now that we’re serious things need to change.

I suggested he moves so that we can maintain a life outside of the “family” and he can move on. Well he blew up and called me an AH for suggesting it. He said he isn’t and never will be a “weekend” dad. But I’m just trying to look out for us and start our family. My sister agrees I’m the AH since he was upfront but am I really? Would having him move out really be an AH thing?

Commenter posted:

But the way you've worded your post makes it sound like you have a problem with his involvement with his kids. Is that true?

OP posted:

I have a problem that he needs for them to have access to him daily. I don’t see that as realistic.

OP posted:

Because sometimes it’s supposed to be just us and his son will walk in (has a key) and sit on the couch with us. Or tell him he has a really hard Lego set.

OP posted:

Because he is divorced, it’s only going to hurt the kids more that he won’t act like it. The kids barely understand that they are separated. The 8 year constantly includes his mother in plans.

"OP" posted:

No she is a nice lady and never tries to get in the way. But that’s the thing, she is extremely comfortable. She doesn’t care about me at all. She says things without acknowledging I might have an opinion. She jumps to do something for his parents without thinking I might want to. When his grandma was dying she sat by her side and then sat in the family side. I feel like I’m in a poly relationship.

Involuntary Sparkle posted:

The comments on this are something else. This person can get yeeted into an acid vat the size of the sun

AITA for telling my boyfriend he needs to move?

Horror_Business posted:

My read is it's the wife who's making the argument that husband would have been a nazi, because most Germans fell in line, not husband making some calm Hitler treatise.

PiratePrentice posted:

I mean it's not that hard to live next door to someone that you're not emotionally or physically intimate with in any way.

I feel like the idea that anything non-heteronormative must be toxic is a very strange one that comes up a lot even in this thread.

AceClown posted:

It's easy to see how the girlfriend feels like the mistress in this situation

AceClown posted:

It's easy to see how the girlfriend feels like the mistress in this situation

from the read on it it does sound like he's doing everything but the sex with the ex wife and girlfriend is just there to fulfil that need

Kitfox88 posted:

On the other hand he was entirely up front about that and said if she didn't like it he understood and wouldn't make a fuss, so...

Involuntary Sparkle posted:

The thing I'm stuck on is how incredibly upset she is that he wants to see his kids daily. She thinks it's not normal for fathers to see their kids daily, things she says in the comments.

Halloween Jack posted:

This thread is only fun if you assume every story is probably fake, but that's exactly the kind of thing I would have said at 16

AceClown posted:

Thing is, it's not normal for divorced parents to see their kids daily, I know quite a few divorced folks and not a single one of them sees their kids every single day regardless of gender.

quote:

My boyfriend, who we can call Hugo, is all things lovely the majority of the time. We’ve known each other for six wonderful months and he never fails to be supportive of my endeavours, until December 16th.

Every year, I review a Christmas advent calendar. I video myself opening the advent calendar each day whilst giving my verdict. At the end of December, I compile a report and the videos and send it off to the company for that very important consumer feedback. As Hugo is in my life this year, I managed to get him on board with the review. I have small team, myself and my best friend usually doing it but it seemed even better that Hugo would now participate.

Anyway, a lot has happened in the build up to Christmas; The daily grind of work, getting my 10,000 steps in and battling a cycle of colds. This has meant I was delayed in sending Hugo his advent calendar to review. He did not actually receive it until the 16th of December. My request to him was that he still filmed himself opening it whilst staging that it was different days to try and keep the review as holistic as possible. We wouldn’t want the company knowing the first of his 16 days were all done in the space of 6 hours right?

Hugo was distressed by this thought, he was completely unreasonable and making such a scene saying he did not have time to film all of this. I advised him he’d made a commitment to this and couldn’t back out just because it got hard. In the end he did the video reviews but I just know he thinks I’m a complete nugget now.

I do kind of think I’m in the right here, AITA?

SulfurMonoxideCute posted:

There's a place up the street from me that has an incredible Taiwanese ruby milk tea with cheese foam and you milk tea haters sound like stuffy old British squares.

DemoneeHo posted:

It might not be normal. But is it wrong?

StrangersInTheNight posted:

I liked how the dad thought it was mystical tea magic to steep it before adding anything which would cool it down, causing all the tea drinkers to have a collective stroke. Did he ever back off on that one?

DemoneeHo posted:

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to catch up with reviewing his advent calendar when I sent it to him late?