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Biplane posted:Easily solvable by denying white men religion. Yes, we can all trust a white male atheist to behave well around women.
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AITA for telling my husband if my sister-in-law doesn’t move out of our apartment, I will?quote:Me (34f) and my husband, Harry got married last month. His sister, Sally (25f) had moved in with us in Feb-22. I was not comfortable with the arrangement as I am someone who really needs personal space. I had been living alone for a long time before I moved in with Harry in Jan-22.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:Yes, we can all trust a white male atheist to behave well around women. White male atheism is just religion by a longer route.
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I'm not sure what is so hard about honoring a request from a report to have someone else in an isolated interview/feedback session. There is no need to spend time thinking about whether this (Muslim lady asking for another lady/white gent asking for a mate/ foreign language national requesting a translator / union member asking for a shop steward) is trying to gently caress with you as the manager. Just organize someone agreeable within reason to the report and get on with life. Normalising a worker having an advocate in a private meeting with a boss is a good thing.
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PiratePrentice posted:It depends where you live, I'm sure in major/wealthy cities it's the standard but in the rest of the world we kinda have to make do with what we've got since new things don't really get built that often. You don't need to build a whole new building to remodel the interior. Not even all of it, just a couple of meeting rooms.
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Drunk Nerds posted:How did this weenie even land a girl so far out of his wheelhouse? The fact that a stallion is a boy horse makes it all more hilarious. But in fairness, growing up without the internet, I remember sneaking my mom's Western romance novels where the male protagonist was usually half native, but in a sexy way, not a my people have suffered way, and the female protagonist was some and I quote, lively spitfire, and was always his job to tame her down into a respectable wife. This was pretty much the underlying theme of every single romance novel but thankfully I learned that that is not the case, least of all because we don't live in the wild west anymore, but it is a thing we see a lot in romcoms and the like. We don't really see the inverse as much, where the dude is wild and needs to be tamed down because well that's the culture we live in. And also to be fair, when I was growing up what actually snap me out of that thought was hearing Melissa etheridge was a lesbian, because this is right when she first came out, and I still remember my first thought of seeing her in her music videos was man, it's going to take a really strong man to tame her down, and then finding out that lesbians existed was like flipping off a switch in my mind and realizing that there were other options out there, and was not my job to be tamed down by some dude. As for the HR dude, I remember a small groups communication class I had in college, and the teacher was discussing religious objections in the small group communication setting. She said she had a class last year or there were a lot more women than men, and so one of the groups was one dude with four women, but he objected to this seeing it was against his religion to work with women in any setting. She ended up swapping him, but there was a lot of irritation in the class because of it. I still wonder exactly what kind of degree and job he was hoping for where he never had to work with women at all. AITA for throwing away the elf on the shelf and "ruining Christmas" for my kids after my husband's prank? quote:For context, this year was the first time we would try the "elf on the shelf" with our kids. We have 3 kids, Lucas (9M), Andy (8M), and Claire (5F). Where Lucas and Andy are from our past relationships. However, Miles (my husband M37) has accepted Andy as his, and so did I (F35) Lucas. AITA for potentially getting a teacher fired over a joke? quote:My brother (23) and I (22f) have raised our younger siblings together for the past few years (both our parents have died). Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 14:17 on Dec 28, 2022 |
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I just wanted to thank you for posting this as it's a really great (and underrated, IMO) song
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for throwing away the elf on the shelf and "ruining Christmas" for my kids after my husband's prank? quote:AITA for potentially getting a teacher fired over a joke?
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Sydney Bottocks posted:I just wanted to thank you for posting this as it's a really great (and underrated, IMO) song Honestly it’s RLYLs best and I will derail to continue talking about the weather (The day there’s a gloomy little post punk karaoke near me is the day my life changes, changes)
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Yeah, it’s hilarious to poke fun of the orphan and imply his siblings gently caress each other. Great comedy for a room of teens.
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Cowslips Warren posted:
It's maybe deliberate, but it is really odd to be so (rightfully for encouraging bullying) pissed about joking about FitA type relationship and then repeatedly refer to the younger siblings as "our 16 yr old / my 14 yr old". In any event, maybe a different book is in order, the 14 yr old can start going by the nickname Ponyboy and telling bully teacher just watch out for Johnny.
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Foo Diddley posted:these folks are going to be astonished when she vanishes forever let's hope part of her not going is so she can move without them guilt-tripping her mind the walrus posted:Then he's either careless or naïve, because "I don't care what you think" isn't the same thing as "so I'm going to do things that have a high likelihood of pissing your vain rear end off." - He tried to maintain the peace until the ex or her partner ended up spilling the beans. Not his fault, not his problem. - Ex got so upset that she decided to not buy/keep any gifts nor celebrate because of her own narcissism & inability to admit fault - He's free to post family pictures on social media & clearly wasn't bad mouthing her, so "provocation" in this context is complete bullshit OP did nothing wrong, had the ex not cheated none of this would even be an issue. Play stupid games...
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PiratePrentice posted:Yeah uh somehow I think nobody would have a problem with it if it was a muslim woman asking to have a female HR rep present. As hard as it is to come to terms with, sometimes religious rights have to go to the religion you don't like as well as the ones you do lol What if I don't like any of them?
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Electric Wrigglies posted:I'm not sure what is so hard about honoring a request from a report to have someone else in an isolated interview/feedback session. There is no need to spend time thinking about whether this (Muslim lady asking for another lady/white gent asking for a mate/ foreign language national requesting a translator / union member asking for a shop steward) is trying to gently caress with you as the manager. Just organize someone agreeable within reason to the report and get on with life. Normalising a worker having an advocate in a private meeting with a boss is a good thing. It is a good thing. It's also not always an option. If you work in a 3-shift operation, it's unlikely that HR is around to support 2nd or 3rd shift, in my experience. While they would send someone in for the rare extremely sensitive issue, 99% of my one-on-one reviews and corrective actions were just between myself and the folks who reported to me. I did encourage them to record the conversations, and often did the same.
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Agents are GO! posted:What if I don't like any of them? Then you should never be in a position of power.
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Cowslips Warren posted:
Reddit, say the line! quote:Be Civil. Diagnosing OP's husband as a psychopath/sociopath/any other path is uncivil. Calling him manchild/man baby/any other insult is uncivil.
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Silly Newbie posted:I'm gonna go against the thread on weirdo conservative Christian guy bait post - no one, in a professional setting, should be forced to be in one on one meetings where they feel uncomfortable or contravenes their beliefs. Hold the one on one over teams and record it giving both sides a copy if you want. It's probably incel bait, but the overall principal of human dignity should stand - don't make people do things that cause them psychic damage because of work. "Psychic damage?" Grow the gently caress up
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Nobody really feels any cognitive dissonance on defending one religion's practicioners but attacking another's for asking literally the exact same accomodations? Really?
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Halloween Jack posted:"Psychic damage?" Grow the gently caress up What do you mean by this
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Pirate Radar posted:What do you mean by this
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I had no idea pirates were so scared of girls.
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Don’t know this one, sorry.
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PiratePrentice posted:Nobody really feels any cognitive dissonance on defending one religion's practicioners but attacking another's for asking literally the exact same accomodations? Even if it's MRA bait-and-switch bullshit as some goons are suggesting, I'm with you. Either accommodate everyone reasonably or don't accommodate anyone. People picking and choosing which religion/gender combos are more acceptable to tolerate are exactly why anti-discrimination laws exist.
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workers should be allowed accommodations when meeting with superiors, that's a pretty basic thing. You can think he's a weird little dude for being all 'yea what if people think you wanna gently caress me if we have a one on one meeting????' about it but even idiots and weirdos deserve fairly simple accommodations in the workplace.
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Shartin Mad posted:workers should be allowed accommodations when meeting with superiors, that's a pretty basic thing. You can think he's a weird little dude for being all 'yea what if people think you wanna gently caress me if we have a one on one meeting????' about it but even idiots and weirdos deserve fairly simple accommodations in the workplace. Especially when the accommodation here is so straightforward. This is a solved problem. And even if the OP that caused this derail was being a weenie about it, there are plenty of reasons why someone wouldn't want to be in a room with one other person that no one else can see into. There are plenty of non-religious women who wouldn't want to spend more time than necessary out of sight of everyone else with That Guy HR won't do anything about. AreWeDrunkYet fucked around with this message at 17:02 on Dec 28, 2022 |
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Woozie66 posted:Then you should never be in a position of power. You have to like a religion to be in a position of power?
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Nancy posted:You have to like a religion to be in a position of power? I mean...you have to at least respect fairly simple accommodations and requirements for them if you're managing others that may include people in those communities, yes?
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Horror_Business posted:Even if it's MRA bait-and-switch bullshit as some goons are suggesting, I'm with you. Either accommodate everyone reasonably or don't accommodate anyone. People picking and choosing which religion/gender combos are more acceptable to tolerate are exactly why anti-discrimination laws exist. apropos, a commenter on the post on reddit pointed out that this would make it problematic if the OP ever became anyone's manager. Except of course he could then give them and himself whatever accommodations needed.
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Pirate Radar posted:Don’t know this one, sorry. It's a scene from the movie Scanners, the guy on the left is giving the guy on the right one hell of a headache with his mind. Don't look up what happens next if you're squeamish.
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I mean honestly I think the major abrahamic religions (as well as most others) are extremely regressive and gross when practiced in anything approaching orthodoxy, but like having an HR person present in a meeting with a superior isn't exactly a difficult request at all. I don't think it's super hard to like play nice with people's dumb beliefs when you're at work, nobody's forcing you to be friends with any of these people in the rest of your life. I feel like some people don't spend a lot of time talking to anyone who isn't like a liberal American and have no idea what it means to actually be religiously tolerant lolchampagne posting posted:apropos, a commenter on the post on reddit pointed out that this would make it problematic if the OP ever became anyone's manager. Except of course he could then give them and himself whatever accommodations needed. I mean yeah he could just have an HR person come in when/if a face-to-face meeting is needed, it'd be no different.
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If only we had had like two years of practice working when no one was one-on-one face-to-face to maybe formulate some kind of strategy for this.
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Shartin Mad posted:I mean...you have to at least respect fairly simple accommodations and requirements for them if you're managing others that may include people in those communities, yes? Sure, but I think you can not like religions and still respect religious individuals.
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Nancy posted:Sure, but I think you can not like religions and still do that. Yea I guess but it does feel like the guy making a point to answer 'basic religious accommodation is kinda a universally accepted thing actually' with 'actually I don't like them' isn't going to be the most eager to engage in good faith and all. Like, yea no poo poo you don't have to 'like' them who gives a poo poo what you like or don't like in general in things like this? It's not about 'liking' them either way.
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champagne posting posted:apropos, a commenter on the post on reddit pointed out that this would make it problematic if the OP ever became anyone's manager. Except of course he could then give them and himself whatever accommodations needed. Valid. There's a point where things start to seem ridiculous (say, guy needs a guy present and lady needs a lady present for every meeting between the two) but a competent HR department should be able to figure it out.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:It's a scene from the movie Scanners, the guy on the left is giving the guy on the right one hell of a headache with his mind. Don't look up what happens next if you're squeamish. Oh it’s the head explode scene! Yeah I know that, sorry. What was the joke?
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Shartin Mad posted:Yea I guess but it does feel like the guy making a point to answer 'basic religious accommodation is kinda a universally accepted thing actually' with 'actually I don't like them' isn't going to be the most eager to engage in good faith and all. Like, yea no poo poo you don't have to 'like' them who gives a poo poo what you like or don't like in general in things like this? It's not about 'liking' them either way. Word, I get you. Similar to "I hate everyone" "jokes."
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Pirate Radar posted:Oh it’s the head explode scene! Yeah I know that, sorry. its psychic damage
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Horror_Business posted:Valid. There's a point where things start to seem ridiculous (say, guy needs a guy present and lady needs a lady present for every meeting between the two) but a competent HR department should be able to figure it out. The guy doesn't need a male HR rep, he just doesn't want to be alone with a woman who's not his wife or family, the HR rep can be whatever gender. Obviously a zoom meeting would be easier but like if the office was interesting in accomodation they wouldn't have this problem in the first place.
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I think the guy is being a little dorky, but making HR/management's life slightly more difficult is good so WHO CAN SAY.
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PiratePrentice posted:Yeah uh somehow I think nobody would have a problem with it if it was a muslim woman asking to have a female HR rep present. As hard as it is to come to terms with, sometimes religious rights have to go to the religion you don't like as well as the ones you do lol When a religion is a misogynist cult maybe it shouldn't get those kinds of accommodations. Oh wait....that's almost all of them, isn't it?
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