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Relyssa posted:I moved from the US to the UK a few years ago and it took a long while for "You alright?" to stop sounding like the asker thought something was actually wrong with me instead of just being the generic phatic greeting. Not sure if it's a West Coast or City Person Thing (tm), but when I moved to a more rural/conservative area, people (especially older folks) were aghast when I would say "what's up?" as a response to "Hey how are you?" or "good morning" or whatever. The worst was when they would actually tell me what was up.
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I've been working in a mixed cultural setting for a while now and I've given up worrying about it. When people say "hey, how are you?" at work I just say "good-thanks-and-yourself", flash them an empty smile, and generally that lets us move on to whatever work they're gonna dump on me with a minimum of time wasted and feathers ruffled In non-work contexts when people say "hey, how are you?" I instead reply "you can't even imagine" and then take a generous 15 minutes to explain in careful detail everything that's wrong with my life, so that they don't have to imagine. That's called being a courteous fellow customer at the bakery
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This is a great picture of me I didn't even know about or recall happening quite that way (I didn't think I had that jacket when my hair was that short) but thank you for finding it all the same.
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FEMA summer camp posted:This is a great picture of me I didn't even know about or recall happening quite that way (I didn't think I had that jacket when my hair was that short) but thank you for finding it all the same. But I dont see hair or a jacket on the pervasive rot
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FEMA summer camp posted:This is a great picture of me I didn't even know about or recall happening quite that way (I didn't think I had that jacket when my hair was that short) but thank you for finding it all the same. Oh poo poo that was you? I'm the skullmoon! edit Grassy Knowles posted:But I dont see hair or a jacket on the pervasive rot no you have it backwards
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Guildencrantz posted:Huh. It's fascinating how English speakers have developed ways to get around the norm that "how are you"/"how's it going" is a generic greeting where you expect a positive answer. So I guess instead you have canned noncommittal answers that sound positive, but are code for "things are poo poo but I won't say it out loud". Coming from a culture where "ugh, don't even get me started on this horrible week" is considered a perfectly acceptable response, the Anglophone aversion to complaining in casual conversation keeps tripping me up. I can’t speak for all, or even a notable, percentage of American English speakers, but here in my area of the Midwest we don’t really know how to process intimate negativity, even if it’s a healthy expression of dismay. You can be an entertaining bellyacher, but you have to commit to that identity and people are going to treat you like a strong personality whose company should be consumed responsibly and in small measure, plus your complaints won’t be taken seriously because that’s just how you are. Honestly I think our political fuckedness dovetails with this. I can’t complain with my family about my financial or emotional issues, but if I adopt the right farcical political beliefs I can spend all night bitching about shadowy cabals of the wrong kind of people who ruin everything for everyone, thereby netting the kind of catharsis and familial closeness that otherwise eludes me when I follow social conventions.
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mysterious frankie posted:I can’t speak for all, or even a notable, percentage of American English speakers, but here in my area of the Midwest we don’t really know how to process intimate negativity, even if it’s a healthy expression of dismay. You can be an entertaining bellyacher, but you have to commit to that identity and people are going to treat you like a strong personality whose company should be consumed responsibly and in small measure, plus your complaints won’t be taken seriously because that’s just how you are. hello, fellow midwesterner
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Relyssa posted:I moved from the US to the UK a few years ago and it took a long while for "You alright?" to stop sounding like the asker thought something was actually wrong with me instead of just being the generic phatic greeting. Awright m8?
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Relyssa posted:I moved from the US to the UK a few years ago and it took a long while for "You alright?" to stop sounding like the asker thought something was actually wrong with me instead of just being the generic phatic greeting. I ran afoul of that while backpacking. I also wasn't alright at the time, so the poor stranger got a slightly panicked, defensive, "what? Yes, I'm alright! Why wouldn't I be?!"
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S.J. posted:hello, fellow midwesterner I’ve released a defensive cloud of ink and darted off.
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Hyperlynx posted:Huh! Its very good. Mine was expensive but worth every penny because it also boosted the effectiveness of regular talk therapy
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Jezza of OZPOS posted:Its very good. Mine was expensive but worth every penny because it also boosted the effectiveness of regular talk therapy Nice! I was sceptical when it said "better than CBT*" but from the wiki page it really sounds like it. *Yes, yes. We know.
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Wait till you learn about EBT and FBT.
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mysterious frankie posted:I’ve released a defensive cloud of ink and darted off. you're still standing at the doorway, one foot on the front step, one foot still in the entryway, leaned against the door frame with one hand
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Baron von Eevl posted:Oh poo poo that was you? I'm the skullmoon! Sorry about trying to shoot you btw
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bawk posted:you're still standing at the doorway, one foot on the front step, one foot still in the entryway, leaned against the door frame with one hand And that wasn't ink
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Relyssa posted:I moved from the US to the UK a few years ago and it took a long while for "You alright?" to stop sounding like the asker thought something was actually wrong with me instead of just being the generic phatic greeting.  here but at the end of last year I casually in passing asked someone if they were alright and they said no - turned out they were quietly having a heart attack and I had to call an ambulance for them and hang out for hour waiting for it to arrive. I'm not asking that loving question again, let me tell you.
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Riven posted:Holy crap. Can you imagine being the guy who thought up This is Fine AND Dickbutt??? 
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Milo and POTUS posted:Is that a real mechanic in the game? Yeah, Geralt can reflect any projectile with a frame-perfect button press and uses his rear end to do it.
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Hollandia posted:
Me: *having a heart attack* Stranger: You alright? Me: Fine, how are you?       
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Are they going to gently caress the stove?
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OwlFancier posted:Are they going to gently caress the stove? Buddy,
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Crap the turbolift broke down, sorry guys
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OwlFancier posted:Are they going to gently caress the stove? I didn't gently caress my stove. I didn't cum on my stove. I didn't put my dick anywhere near my stove. I've never done anything weird with my stove.
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Das sieht nicht wie aus Schauspielerin Gina Lollobrigida
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Son of Thunderbeast posted:I didn't gently caress my stove. I didn't cum on my stove. I didn't put my dick anywhere near my stove. I've never done anything weird with my stove. Pretty good burn (on your dick)
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Son of Thunderbeast posted:I didn't gently caress my stove. I didn't cum on my stove. I didn't put my dick anywhere near my stove. I've never done anything weird with my stove. That's one side of the story. Let's hear from the stove.
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What's with borzois all of a sudden, they seem to be everywhere
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How do I download tumblr videos on mobile because there’s a couple of group chats I need to post that in
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Heath posted:What's with borzois all of a sudden, they seem to be everywhere Not much, what's borzoi with you?
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Heath posted:What's with borzois all of a sudden, they seem to be everywhere They are my favourite bloodborne boss.
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Re: greeting discussion, around 2006 at my first job, I had an American counterpart. He phoned me one day and asked me how I was, to which I responded "I'm okay" and he seriously found that worrying, so I had to explain to him that it meant I was literally "okay" and not about to throw myself off the nearest bridge.
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