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Evil Willow posted:AITA for living within my wife's means instead of my own? it's unfair because he can just pay for the fancy new car "above her means" that he wants but she can't do the same thing for herself, hth atomicdream posted:From 1 year ago... at least there are some decent people in the world, this was a tear-jerker
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ilmucche posted:Wait what's this about you be as uninteresting as possible, like a grey rock, so that you don't give the rear end in a top hat the reaction that they're looking for
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Finally caught up in this thread. Does anyone have links to the previous ones?
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MK-Ultramarathon posted:I love no-stakes dishwashing drama! I think if you live alone this is perfectly fine. I learned as a teenager it's bad to keep things in the oven. My grandmother use to use the oven as extra storage space for pots and pans. I would constantly start preheating the oven forgetting things were in there. So in my oven there is nothing but a pizza pan and a thermometer. It shouldn't be his/her roommates problem to always check to see if something is in there before turning the oven on. Even though the complaint was he is worried it could damage the dishes. Just having to wait for everything to cool back down after preheating to take everything out, and then preheat things again is a bitch because now you have to wait longer to eat, also it's a waste of gas/electric nunsexmonkrock fucked around with this message at 01:11 on Jan 31, 2023 |
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DeeplyConcerned posted:maybe she can wear a giant dinosaur costume and then put the gold jewelry on top of that. The pictures would be hilarious.. olylifter posted:Don gives a pack of these to Peggy in Mad Men and references them being his father's favourite candy. I never knew the booze connection but drat if that isn't some deep level Matthew Weiner type noise.
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As long as you don't do the peak american stupid thing of storing loaded handguns in the oven yall are fine
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AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch?quote:My wife and I got married last summer. Her family lives across the country from us, so up until this point I had never actually visited them, but I had met them a handful of times and we've always gotten along fine. well your marriage lasted almost a year, not bad for a first try
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? How does the wife not have their partner's (bad) back on this one
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ilmucche posted:How does the wife not have their partner's (bad) back on this one Same thing that leads to lovely husbands backing their own mother over their wife and claiming "you're not respecting my family" when the idea that you now have a 'new' family dynamic is completely alien to them
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Foo Diddley posted:yeah also she's going to be working at walmart until the day she dies because "living within her means" means that she's spending 100% of her money and he's the only one who's putting anything away for retirement. somehow i don't think he's going to get generous later on What does he think money is for exactly? Women live longer than men on average, and there's no mention of kids or any other sort of legacy he's trying to set up. Just throwing his quality of life down the drain for his commitment to fairness.
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trickybiscuits posted:
Didn’t he at least know him well enough to remember seeing him get kicked in the head by a horse and die?
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:What does he think money is for exactly? Women live longer than men on average, and there's no mention of kids or any other sort of legacy he's trying to set up. Just throwing his quality of life down the drain for his commitment to fairness. He may honestly just value fairness more than money. That isn’t always a virtuous trait.
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? What do the parents want this bloke to apologize for? The said "You can't sleep in the same bed as your wife.", he went "OK. But I can't sleep on your couch coz of my bad back. So I will respect your rules and sleep elsewhere." That seems reasonable. And they want him to apologize to them? Also, if he doesn't apologize, and continues to respect their rules by sleeping comfortably elsewhere he is not welcome in their house? gently caress these parents. And gently caress the "this is just how they are. You should cave and always do what they say to keep the peace" sisters. Bloke was even prepared to make the face saving apology, even though he knows he did nothing wrong, but they had to push further.
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BrigadierSensible posted:What do the parents want this bloke to apologize for? they were trying to hurt and humiliate him in order to demonstrate their control over him, so when he avoided all that while still staying within the letter of their "rules", of course this enraged them. they want him to apologize and sleep on the couch so that he will be humiliated and hurt and controlled, because to people like that, "compromise" means "you give me everything that i want". the wife and sisters want him to go along with this because they've spent their entire lives making "compromises" like that with their parents hopefully the dude's wife wakes up because of this, but i ain't holding by breath waiting for it to happen
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Foo Diddley posted:they were trying to hurt and humiliate him in order to demonstrate their control over him, so when he avoided all that while still staying within the letter of their "rules", of course this enraged them. they want him to apologize and sleep on the couch so that he will be humiliated and hurt and controlled, because to people like that, "compromise" means "you give me everything that i want". the wife and sisters want him to go along with this because they've spent their entire lives making "compromises" like that with their parents rock_the_boat.txt
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Is a flagon a flat dragon like a flagel? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WzmnSyqv37A
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But you don't understand, it was disrespectful for him to not put up with that level of disrespect
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Pity he didn't suggest his wife sleep on the couch. The reaction would have been telling.
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AITA for not asking my ex for help when my daughter had her period?quote:EDIT I do not in any way shape or form limit contact or communication between my ex and our kids. AITA for telling my friends mom she is trying to get pregnant? quote:Im 21 my friend is 20. I remember talking to an old coworker once, and she said she was seeing a new dude, and it had been a few months, and he wanted them to have a baby. Because he super loved her. And his two rear end in a top hat exes wouldn't let him see his other kids no matter what and even got the courts involved and it wasn't fair. So let's have a new one! I don't know what happened after that. Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 02:53 on Jan 31, 2023 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for telling my friends mom she is trying to get pregnant? it'll be like when a kid promises, promises, promises that they'll take care of the new puppy and then, surprise surprise, doesn't, except with a whole-rear end human child. mom ain't droppin that off at the pound and saying it went to live on a farm upstate
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AITA for telling my fiancee that if he wants to cling onto his sister so much, he can marry her instead?quote:Backstory: Fiancee (33M) and I (34F) proposed 3 weeks ago and are planning on getting married in a few months, we met 3 years ago, hit it off, and now are planning a future. Fiancee had a horrible childhood, and sister was the only one to raise him. She practically views his sister as his role model, and is his best friend. I'm not sure how I think, but he says that his will to live was because of his sister, and how his whole life was only to begin with his sister". Sister is currently in medical school overseas, hasn't seen him in person for over 5 years and came to visit for a week. Here's where the problem starts:
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my fiancee that if he wants to cling onto his sister so much, he can marry her instead? he hadn't seen the person who raised him in five years. did OP even give him 5 days before she blew up at him?
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my fiancee that if he wants to cling onto his sister so much, he can marry her instead? I’m not going to say that dude has a healthy relationship with his sister but it’s a single week and the OP is having a meltdown about not being her fiancées focus.
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Evil Willow posted:A few pages ago, but I appreciate this a lot. I can never understand couples like this. A marriage is literally a union, how on earth could anyone believe that financially bettering both of their lives together isn't going to make them both happier? I knew a couple like this, dude had a mortgage and his partner moved in and he demanded that she pay half the mortgage payment as rent, despite maintaining the home in his name only. I mean, the other person in these situations is spineless but there has to be more to it than that, some underlying power dynamic and toxicity/toxic co-dependency. Even common law without a shared bank account I've always shared financial info with a partner and vice versa so there is never any shame in asking for help or paying an extra bill or rent once in a while. It takes a lot of potential tension out of a relationship. Also, I was married for about a decade and one of the best things about it was sharing finances, so we could take turns going to grad school and then my partner got an awesome job and we went on a bunch of amazing vacations. When we split (amicably - gay) there was never a hint of alimony, we were even roommates for a year or so and split the rent of a pricier 2 bdrm 1/3 to 2/3. A couple of years later when I had moved into a new place solo I was struggling for a short while and she paid my rent for two months and insisted on it being a gift, and now takes me out for dinner regularly when I go out with her and her friends.
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trickybiscuits posted:I will not have a wedding unless at least one person wears a giant dinosaur costume. from this scene where he's telling firstbobby about the man who he saw as his father,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-XT6Mw5D9M I wasn't trying to get into the nuances of Dick Whitman's family situation man what can I tell you
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Foo Diddley posted:he hadn't seen the person who raised him in five years. did OP even give him 5 days before she blew up at him?
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my fiancee that if he wants to cling onto his sister so much, he can marry her instead? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UVznerpOkTI
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my fiancee that if he wants to cling onto his sister so much, he can marry her instead? Throw that whole fuckin' woman out.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my fiancee that if he wants to cling onto his sister so much, he can marry her instead? I dunno about this one. Even the sister was saying that her brother would be okay without her for a hot second. Maybe sister was just being polite or maybe the sister was trying to get a loving break without kicking a puppy.
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quote:Did you talk to your fiance about this before you blew up at him? Or was this something you brought up beforehand? OP posted:During the week quote:And what did he say? OP posted:The only time I talked to him about this was during the movie, thats all so the only time she "talked" to him was when she exploded. this is def someone to build a life with
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"if you want to cling to your goddamn kids so much then you should just marry them instead"
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Foo Diddley posted:so the only time she "talked" to him was when she exploded. this is def someone to build a life with Seems like two very, very needy people found each other and are keeping the dating pool safe. God bless them and God bless America.
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Pirate Radar posted:He may honestly just value fairness more than money. That isn’t always a virtuous trait. I'd be really curious to know if this guy's commitment to 50/50 extends to their chore split.
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deety posted:I'd be really curious to know if this guy's commitment to 50/50 extends to their chore split. No, see, because if she was living on her own she'd have to do all the cooking and cleaning, whereas he could afford to eat out all the time, so it's only fair that she keep doing that work. Wouldn't want her to profit in any way from being in a relationship.
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deety posted:I'd be really curious to know if this guy's commitment to 50/50 extends to their chore split. I'd be curious what he brings to the table, other than being a prick, that his wife puts up with him. Seems like abuse to me.
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quantumwell posted:I'd be curious what he brings to the table, other than being a prick, that his wife puts up with him. Seems like abuse to me. What do you mean, "bring to the table"? Sounds an awful lot like letting her taking advantage of him. That's not how you win!
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