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wheatpuppy: Apr 25, 2008; YOU HAVE MY POST!

sugar free jazz posted:

Immediately going no contact just because someone was an rear end in a top hat is likely not wise and jumping immediately to that is unhealthy. People can and very often do reconcile over even large issues. No contact is an at times appropriate but still really extreme pathway that really shouldn�t be taken lightly.

On the other hand, when someone displays the same repeated behaviors and is unwilling to change or even acknowledge that they may be in the wrong, continuing to interact with that person will only encourage them to continue their behaviors. It can be hard, especially when others in your social circle are still willing to interact with the person. But sometimes you just need to recognize that for the sake of your own mental health it's ok to take a stand and press Add User to Ignore List.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 07:15

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therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Only cowards use the ignore function.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 07:20

edogawa rando: Mar 20, 2007

Captain Hygiene posted:

Forget all this infighting, here's an rear end in a top hat to yell at

Who is to blame for clogged toilet?

"Well so what if I planted those land mines, it's actually your fault for walking onto them"

How much toilet paper would it take to clog a loo? I've never managed, nor can I say I've ever really tried to either.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 07:27

the holy poopacy: May 16, 2009; hey! check this out; Fun Shoe

sugar free jazz posted:

Immediately going no contact just because someone was an rear end in a top hat is likely not wise and jumping immediately to that is unhealthy. People can and very often do reconcile over even large issues. No contact is an at times appropriate but still really extreme pathway that really shouldn�t be taken lightly.

"No contact" covers a whole range of reactions from "I'm not going to bother reaching out" to "I'm doing everything in my power to make sure you can't contact me." You don't always need to salt the earth but it's also not your responsibility to rebuild the bridges that others burned down. If they want to reconcile, let them. Otherwise, there's seven billion other people on this rock, you don't have to be friends with every single one of them.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 07:27

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

Hey everyone,

I don�t know if there�s a gas leak or we are all synced like a period to endure some real awful posting today, because wow, some just impressively dumb takes that I had to read.

Anyhow, if you keep bleating your comedically out of touch take after many, many others tell you �you�re being loving stupid� take it as a hint before I take you out back.

You�ll be going NC whether you goddamn like it or not. Get some loving empathy for people in situations that you�ve yet to endure or had to endure differently or get the gently caress out. You are not the main character, but I have no hesitation in becoming the villain.

There will be no second warnings,
tw

# ? Feb 14, 2023 08:03

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

E: quote is not edit, Christ awful.app

# ? Feb 14, 2023 08:04

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA for asking a guy for proof when he came to pick up someone at a club?

quote:

Throwaway, we're all 24-28. I'm posting because I've got people telling me I was genuinely in the wrong here

So last week me, my friends 'Alice' and 'Tara', as well as Tara's cousin 'Kate' were meant to go clubbing together. Tara was sick on the day so she couldn't make it, and the 3 of us went. I don't know Kate very well- I've seen her sometimes at Tara's place but that's about it, because she's plain, usually kind of quiet and shy (honestly didn't think clubbing was her thing).

I heard Kate got married but I had no idea what her husband looked like. Neither did Alice.

After a bit Kate got pretty drunk. She actually didn't have that many drinks but I guess her alcohol tolerance is low. She was having a hard time even standing upright and incoherent, so me and Alice took her to sit down. I thought we could call someone from Kate's phone but it was obviously locked, so Alice called Tara and told her the situation. She said she couldn't come, but she'd text Kate's husband 'Alex'.

Now the thing is, we were talking pretty loudly to hear over the music, so anyone around could've heard the info that the drunk girl's name was Kate and her husband's Alex.

After a bit a pretty polished, good-looking guy comes up saying he's Alex, Kate's husband. I had a bit of a hard time believing that so I asked if he had any proof? He eventually showed his lock screen, which was a picture of Kate from their wedding, but by herself and he wasn't in it. Alice went to stay that's okay and he can take Kate, but I said I would rather see a photo of them together. He got pissed and eventually managed to show a photo, and after I called Tara to confirm, he and Kate left.

I didn't think much of it, but the next day Kate texted (kind of passive aggressive) saying thanks for helping her, but "why the hell I made such a big deal in front of everyone".

Tara and Alice are also saying I went overboard but I don't think so.

I told this hot guy, "You're with *HER*?!?!! In a dismissive voice, AITA?"

# ? Feb 14, 2023 08:09

Ghost Leviathan: Mar 2, 2017; Exploration is ill-advised.

Despite what a lot of people seem to think, going NC with people who you've spent your entire life with and raised and conditioned to consider irreplaceable precious parts of your life isn't an easy thing to do! Pretty much anyone who's actually done it can give you many many reasons why!

The Rejected Parents thread has a lot of great examples of what it looks like from the other end of the no contact, and I think you'll be quite surprised what you find out.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 08:12

edogawa rando: Mar 20, 2007

Hughlander posted:

AITA for asking a guy for proof when he came to pick up someone at a club?

I told this hot guy, "You're with *HER*?!?!! In a dismissive voice, AITA?"

I guess Ann Veal is pretty good at pulling lads.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 08:14

ponzicar: Mar 17, 2008

therobit posted:

Good on PP for not putting up with poo poo but she should get some ladybugs to help with that ARFID.

Ladybugs?

# ? Feb 14, 2023 08:22

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

Ghost Leviathan posted:

Despite what a lot of people seem to think, going NC with people who you've spent your entire life with and raised and conditioned to consider irreplaceable precious parts of your life isn't an easy thing to do! Pretty much anyone who's actually done it can give you many many reasons why!

The Rejected Parents thread has a lot of great examples of what it looks like from the other end of the no contact, and I think you'll be quite surprised what you find out.

Going NC is awful and yes, for those who just can�t seem to get it, I recommend reading the Rejected Parents thread and try to understand how it really works.

teen witch fucked around with this message at 08:30 on Feb 14, 2023

# ? Feb 14, 2023 08:22

Charity Porno: Aug 2, 2021; by Hand Knit

Hughlander posted:

AITA for asking a guy for proof when he came to pick up someone at a club?

Lol at the idea a stranger found a wedding photo of random drunk lady on the fly

# ? Feb 14, 2023 08:24

edogawa rando: Mar 20, 2007

AITA for accidentally outing my student?

quote:

I 39m work as a highschool history teacher. There is a boy in one of my classes who is constantly openly hitting on, flirting with other guys in my classroom. Even making dirty comments to other boys in my class. A few of my students hes hit on have said they didn�t like it and have actually talked to me about their schedule being switched. It happens very often, almost everyday, and I have warned him many of times.

It�s recently gotten out of hand, and he has ignored his warnings so the guidance counselor and I had set up a meeting with his parents to discuss this behavior because at this point it is harassment.

It all was going well, until his parents heard he was flirting with other males. His parents didn�t know he was gay, and his father was very unpleased with this information. He now sits quietly in my class, but I do feel very guilty for outing him to his parents. My wife thinks maybe we should�ve left the gender roles out, but that isn�t really optional in a school report. But how was I to know his parents didn�t know?

Info: In our schools we have a report the guidance counselor will write, basically documentation of what was said, and the things the student had said were mentions of things to do with a man, comment he made that clearly exposed gender.

Seems like a case of that meme where a title that makes you think the OP is a poo poo turns out to be misleading.

It's lovely that he outed this kid to his parents, but the way he was behaving, which he was warned about repeatedly, made it necessary to have a sit-down with them to begin with.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 08:31

trickybiscuits: Jan 13, 2008; yospos

FMguru posted:

AITA for not eating the work provided food?

I'm just astounded that someone (who wasn't even OP's supervisor) blew up their job (that they desperately needed because they're a single parent) because they absolutely had to police someone's eating habit.

No, see, them needing this job because they're a single parent means they can't be fired, because if you fire them their children will starve and it's all your fault.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 08:51

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

There's very little chance that they were fired for just that one incident. There was probably a paper trail going back months of weird aggressive poo poo that guy did.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 08:54

DeeplyConcerned: Apr 29, 2008; I can fit 3 whole bud light cans now, ask me how!

Beachcomber posted:

There's very little chance that they were fired for just that one incident. There was probably a paper trail going back months of weird aggressive poo poo that guy did.

Yeah, anybody who tells you you're not leaving this room until you eat this goddamn sandwich has some serious loving problems

# ? Feb 14, 2023 09:21

Malachite_Dragon: Mar 31, 2010; Weaving Merry Christmas magic

edogawa rando posted:

AITA for accidentally outing my student?

Seems like a case of that meme where a title that makes you think the OP is a poo poo turns out to be misleading.

It's lovely that he outed this kid to his parents, but the way he was behaving, which he was warned about repeatedly, made it necessary to have a sit-down with them to begin with.

Being in the closet does not give you carte blanche to sexually harass people of your preferred gender, kid. A reminder that heteros do not have a monopoly on being lovely people, just a majority.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 09:38

BrigadierSensible: Feb 16, 2012; I've got a pocket full of cheese🧀, and a garden full of trees🌴.

DeeplyConcerned posted:

Yeah, anybody who tells you you're not leaving this room until you eat this goddamn sandwich has some serious loving problems

I'd also argue anyone with 3 witnesses eager to snitch on him also has a history of being an arsehole to others.

But to me the great thing about that story is how easily prepared OP was to just go "I'm not taking your poo poo, and I'm going to HR."

# ? Feb 14, 2023 09:42

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

AITA for wanting my son to move back closer to his family?

quote:

Hi, this is my 1st post on Reddit, and English is not my language so I apologize for the mistakes I will probably make.

I'm 56F and I live with my husband (64M). We only have 1 son, 33M, who currently lives abroad and we see once a year, as it's very far away and expensive to go.

We live in a small town, he moved away when he was 18 for college and never came back. We expected him to move back after he graduated, but he decided to stay where he was, since he already had a job and a girlfriend there (they got married).

Our town is close to our state�s capital where his work field is very strong. Ever since his senior year in college I've been trying to convince him to move closer for a better career and to stay close to his family, he never showed interest, which I find it odd, specially since his wife also works on the same field.

4 years ago, they moved abroad. I felt betrayed when he told me, he was already living 3 hours away from us, why would he choose to go even further to another country, but not the city right next to us?

I never told anything besides let them know me and his father are always here if they needed us.

Until recently, things were "fine", I miss him a lot, we text everyday but we don't get to speak to each other often. The problem is my father (84M) whose health took a dive and is very fragile. And with my son living so far, he is missing a precious time he could be spending right here, his grandad is not likely to live many years now. I told the news to my son and he was sad about it, and he came to see us and left a week ago.

I was honest with him, I said his grandfather will not stay with us for so long, and since he lives so far away, he will lose the opportunity to stay close and enjoy the time he has left.

He was not happy about me touching this matter, he said I was trying to guilt him into moving back.

I asked him why he was doing this to me, why doesn�t he miss me and his dad? We are getting old and he is only seeing us once or twice a year. It�s cruel to us.

He said he missed us, but he is happy where he is and does not plan on moving back, and he and his wife are already making plans on buying a house where they live.

I couldn't take it and I burst out crying, I told him I felt abandoned, that he didn't seem to care for us and he should enjoy his family while he can because we will not be here forever.

I asked what makes him think he cannot be happy living here, he didn't respond. The few days after this were very awkward and after he left, he seems to be even more distant, avoiding me and being very short on his texts.

Yesterday his wife called and said my son was feeling bad and told her what happened. She called me an AH and said I had no right trying to manipulate him like that, and I should be ashamed.

I don�t think I�m the AH for wanting my son closer to me, they are the AH for abandoning family behind. And I�m including her as well, since she did the same (I talk to her mother often and she is on my side)

The holes OP has dug, my word, all over.

quote:

I guess it can be true, I don�t deny being a needy mother, but I only have him as a son, of course I care about him, and I want to participate in his life as much as possible

quote:

I did ask him why he moved away, he said he wanted to live somewhere he would feel safe raising kids and also safe for his wife, he said where they live now he is able to walk around without the constant fear of getting mugged but I find this exaggerated.

I get that I might be a bit needy as a mother, but I only have him, and he chose to leave.

I don�t disagree that where they live now might be a better place for future children, but honestly, it comes with the fact that his family is now in another hemisphere, and if he lived in our town (which is peaceful and a very good place for kids) he would be able to work in the capital while living right next to us, we could see each other every weekend, how could living 10000km west possibly outweigh everything I said?

quote:

I guess that�s just how I was raised. I always made my decisions while keeping the idea I would stay close to my family, I can�t understand why someone would choose not to.

It�s not that he would be sacrificing his career if he lived near us, he would basically have everything he has now PLUS his family nearby.

I just don�t get it how easy it was for him to just never look back. If I stay more than two weeks without seeing my parents, I feel horrible and miss them. Why is it so easy for him to just forget about us?

quote:

Of course I want him to be happy.

What i can�t understand is WHY does he need to be happy in another hemisphere, when he could be just as happy where he was, or closer to us

quote:

Of course I want him to be independent, me and my husband supported his idea to move away for college, but we expected him to move back afterwards, as I mentioned his field is very strong in our area.

And my husband feels the same as me, he wants our son closer, but he never says anything to him.

quote:

I guess we do have similar backgrounds. Yes I think you nailed it when you said I supported and spoiled him all his life, all just so he could focus on school and becoming successful, and there is this almost subliminal expectation that he would be grateful for all of this and choose to stay near us.

It never happened. He just stayed away and moved even further.

No, I never had this clear conversation with him, about my expectations, because I simply assumed he would do it.

WHY WOULD SUCH A SON LEAVE SUCH A MOM???????

# ? Feb 14, 2023 09:54

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

Oh Jesus gently caress I didn�t think I could go a second time oh god hng

AITA for not giving my son my car to pay off his debt?

quote:

Let�s start from the very beginning. Over 20 years ago I divorced from my then wife. I had two kids with her; my oldest son and my youngest daughter. I always had a very good relationship with my son. He was my one and only.

At age seventeen, my son moved in with me and my girlfriend. I always tried to get my daughter to move in, too, but she refused. I tried to make it nice for us. But soon I realized that having another mouth to feed was emptying my bank account faster than I could see. I soon jumped from workplace to workplace and asked all my friends for money, which I barely was able to pay back.

So I started asking my son for money. He paid for groceries here and there over the years, then he helped me with some bills and even got a credit card on his name for us to use, since I couldn�t get one due to my debt. It went well for a bunch of years. But still, my money was always on the low. I forgot to pay my car insurance for a few months and they ended my contract. So, I created a new one with my son�s name on it. I asked him of course, as always, so he always knew what he was getting himself into.

Soon, he moved out and moved in with his girlfriend. She was a very nice girl. Or so I thought.

He soon asked me to pay him back some money, since he now had some credit card debt. He did the math and it summed up to around $10,000. I really didn�t have that kind of money and he knew that. He soon went no contact.

He visited me and we talked normally for some time. Then he started asking me for my car; he asked me if I could give him my car, so he could sell it to pay off his debts. I told him no, immediately. I needed the car for my new job, since it was in the neighboring city. He told me to take the train and bus and that there were cheap tickets any my job could help me get a permanent ticket. I told him that I couldn�t do that.

That was at the end of 2021. I told him if I didn�t have the money for his debt until January of 2022, he could have the car. After that conversation, he went no contact.

January came and I didn�t have the money. I really couldn�t bring it up and I told him that. He asked about my promise and the car, but I know I didn�t promise him anything. I told him I still need the car. We had a long fight over the phone in which his girlfriend said, that a loving father wouldn�t do something like that to his son, with which she meant all the money I "took" from him. And with that statement, she was dead to me.

I got diagnosed with depression due to the situation. I do regret my mistakes but I think he made me suffer enough. I miss my son but until he apologizes for treating me like this, I don�t want to have anything to do with him either. I feel so torn. My daughter isn�t there for me either. AITA?

Tldr: I refused to give my son my car to pay off his debt, blaming me for everything, even though he always knew what he�s getting himself into and now doesn�t talk to me. AITA?

Meanwhile in the comments the daughter appears

quote:

My father (OP) sent me his post so I can defend him in the comments. I won�t be doing that tho. lol

quote:

Let me tell you something. My brother took my father to court together with a computer firm. My father bought a $800 screen under my brothers name but couldn�t pay for it, so the company sued my brother. He then went to a lawyer who showed him other things hes done under my brothers and even MY name, things he didn�t even know about. He could clear his name and is now going to court with the company against my father.

quote:

I mean if were already put our problems out for the public to judge them -

Guess why I didn�t want to move in with him. He always made it very clear he preferred my brother over me. He even told me straight up once. Now that my brother is not in the picture anymore, he wonders why I side with my brother and not with him and therefore do not seek contact.

His gf always calls and texts me, telling me I should drop everything and come take care of my dad and that I literally �should slap some sense� into my brother for treating my dad this way. 🤭

quote:

Trust me, this has happened in my family and I will tell you the details my dad conveniently left out.

My father is the most dramatic person in the world, if you knew him, you�d understand.

The car�s insurance was in my brothers name and the car itself was registered under my fathers name. My brother tried for months to get his name off the insurance after they fought, but to do that, he has to have the registration papers which my father refused to give out.

Also, my brother didn�t leave because he was obviously manipulated and gaslit. He loved my father dearly and only wanted best for him. He told me my dad always promised to pay him back once the money came, and if it didn�t, he�d always have an excuse ready. He trusted him, until he disappointed him in the end.

My mother and I didn�t know about this until around christmas time 2021, when he told us after he went no contact. I�m sure if my brother told us from the beginning, we could�ve talked some sense into him but he had to promise my dad to not tell our mom, because he was "embarrassed"

I told my father to make this post, with the thought that the internet could maybe talk some sense into him. Mean, yes but I don�t regret it.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 10:05

teen witch: Oct 9, 2012

Anyway here�s why you should never go NC

# ? Feb 14, 2023 10:05

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Happy Valentines day, thread, make sure to wow that special someone with a bizarre story no one else will ever believe happened.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 10:08

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

teen witch posted:

Oh Jesus gently caress I didn�t think I could go a second time oh god hng

AITA for not giving my son my car to pay off his debt?

Meanwhile in the comments the daughter appears

lollllllllllll i saw that one earlier today, can't believe that dipshit honestly thought his daughter, whose identity he also stole, would defend his honour

good on her for telling him he should make that post to produce such incredible content

# ? Feb 14, 2023 10:11

ReelBigLizard: Feb 27, 2003; Fallen Rib

FMguru posted:

AITA for not eating the work provided food?

I'm just astounded that someone (who wasn't even OP's supervisor) blew up their job (that they desperately needed because they're a single parent) because they absolutely had to police someone's eating habit.

The three coworkers/witnesses accompanying OP to HR was a nice detail.

100% this guy was an absolute floater of a team leader chosen by management and the group was itching to pull the flush. Good on OP for giving them the handle.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 10:12

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

AITA for continuing to hold a grudge against my wife even after she apologized?

quote:

I [25m] have been married to my wife [27f] for six months.

At our house, I do most of the cooking. I have formal training as a cook and a lot of confidence in my kitchen skills. On the other hand, per her own admission, she could burn water.

Two months ago, one Sunday morning I asked if my wife wanted blueberry pancakes for breakfast. She agreed and so I got to work. Around that time, my wife had expressed interest in being a better cook, and so I was teaching her the steps. After making the batter, I poured the blueberries into it.

My wife threw a weird sort of fit, asking me "What the hell are you doing??" very aggressively. I responded that I was making blueberry pancakes. She then informed me that the blueberries aren't supposed to go in the batter, but rather they're a topping. I then responded that this is how they're made and I'm sure she'll enjoy them.

I put the next 20 minutes into making the pancakes with bacon, eggs, and orange juice. When I got everything to the table my wife blank stared at the pancakes I gave her for a while, not putting any syrup on them. Then she slowly raised one to her mouth, smelled it, and took the tiniest possible nibble off the side. She didn't get anywhere near any of the blueberries in it, and yet she immediately gave a theatrical dry-heave, throwing the pancake down violently. She repeatedly called it the "most nastiest" thing she had ever eaten.

I was honestly very hurt over this. The next meal, I made a portion for myself and none for her. The next, again, I made her nothing. Two months have passed and the only thing I've made her was Christmas dinner. In this interim she has been eating mostly microwave meals and fast food.

Last week she finally broke and apologized to me over it, saying that she overreacted. I responded that I'm glad she finally apologized, and that night made dinner for myself and none for her again. She keeps repeating that I'm being too petty but I just wonder why it took her two months to finally apologize.

Am I wrong to not drop it?

lol. dude's spent one third of his whole marriage passive-aggressively not cooking for his wife

# ? Feb 14, 2023 10:15

Admiral Joeslop: Jul 8, 2010

teen witch posted:

AITA for wanting my son to move back closer to his family?

The holes OP has dug, my word, all over.

WHY WOULD SUCH A SON LEAVE SUCH A MOM???????

When "Being A Mom Is Your Personality" comes back to bite you.

Mx. posted:

AITA for continuing to hold a grudge against my wife even after she apologized?

lol. dude's spent one third of his whole marriage passive-aggressively not cooking for his wife

This marriage sucks but what the gently caress is with dry heaving at the idea of trying a blueberry pancake because the blueberries were cooked with it, as you're supposed to do??

# ? Feb 14, 2023 10:21

DoctorTristan: Mar 11, 2006; I would look up into your lifeless eyes and wave, like this. Can you and your associates arrange that for me, Mr. Morden?

Barudak posted:

Happy Valentines day, thread, make sure to wow that special someone with a bizarre story no one else will ever believe happened.

I�m in a healthy, happy long-term relationship where we listen to each other and talk through any disagreements like grownups

# ? Feb 14, 2023 10:22

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

Admiral Joeslop posted:

When "Being A Mom Is Your Personality" comes back to bite you.

This marriage sucks but what the gently caress is with dry heaving at the idea of trying a blueberry pancake because the blueberries were cooked with it, as you're supposed to do??

yeah the wife is a loving moron too

a hilarious marriage

# ? Feb 14, 2023 10:24

ReelBigLizard: Feb 27, 2003; Fallen Rib

Mx. posted:

AITA for continuing to hold a grudge against my wife even after she apologized?

lol. dude's spent one third of his whole marriage passive-aggressively not cooking for his wife

We had a similar cooking skills dynamic when my wife and I moved in together. I read this out to her this morning and she just asked why he married a child.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 10:33

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

Mx. posted:

AITA for continuing to hold a grudge against my wife even after she apologized?

How hard is it to google blueberry pancakes and look at the loving pictures?

Though I think best practice is to pour the batter onto the griddle and drop the blueberries in individually to ensure an even spread and avoid color bleed.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 10:37

Clocks: Oct 2, 2007

Admiral Joeslop posted:

This marriage sucks but what the gently caress is with dry heaving at the idea of trying a blueberry pancake because the blueberries were cooked with it, as you're supposed to do??

yeah this is so over the top I can't blame the guy for how he handled it. lady your husband is a professional cook, he probably can't gently caress up your pancakes that bad. just an absolutely bizarre way to put down your partner.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 11:43

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Blueberry Pancakes meaning blueberries ontop of pancakes versus blueberries within pancakes has been a hot button issue in my life before that I genuinely thought this story would be a cute lil misunderstanding and then she fake dry heaved.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 11:52

nonathlon: Jul 9, 2004; And yet, somehow, now it's my fault ...

teen witch posted:

AITA for wanting my son to move back closer to his family?

I don’t deny being a needy mother, but

I feel that this is another one of the grand tropes of r/relationships: "Sure I have PERSONAL PROBLEM but anyway here's why everyone needs to accomodate it"

# ? Feb 14, 2023 12:07

Failed Imagineer: Sep 22, 2018

Picky eaters are truly pathetic, but within them is a stratum of even more pathetic people that fake retch at food that isn't tendies

# ? Feb 14, 2023 12:17

Ravenfood: Nov 4, 2011

How long did they date before getting married and why, exactly, are they in a relationship together?

# ? Feb 14, 2023 12:24

MagusofStars: Mar 31, 2012

Mx. posted:

AITA for continuing to hold a grudge against my wife even after she apologized?
my wife blank stared at the pancakes I gave her for a while, not putting any syrup on them. Then she slowly raised one to her mouth, smelled it, and took the tiniest possible nibble off the side. She didn't get anywhere near any of the blueberries in it, and yet she immediately gave a theatrical dry-heave, throwing the pancake down violently.

In kindergarten, this is very normal.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 12:37

Runcible Cat: May 28, 2007; Ignoring this post

teen witch posted:

Oh Jesus gently caress I didn�t think I could go a second time oh god hng

AITA for not giving my son my car to pay off his debt?

Meanwhile in the comments the daughter appears

r/relationships: Mean, yes but I don�t regret it

# ? Feb 14, 2023 12:52

Gnoman: Feb 12, 2014; Come, all you fair and tender maids
Who flourish in your pri-ime
Beware, take care, keep your garden fair
Let Gnoman steal your thy-y-me
Le-et Gnoman steal your thyme

edogawa rando posted:

AITA for accidentally outing my student?

Seems like a case of that meme where a title that makes you think the OP is a poo poo turns out to be misleading.

It's lovely that he outed this kid to his parents, but the way he was behaving, which he was warned about repeatedly, made it necessary to have a sit-down with them to begin with.

God, I wish I'd had someone like OP when I was in high school. Our administration's reaction to the same situation was to tell us "play along - if you pretend to like it he'll get creeped out".

# ? Feb 14, 2023 12:55

DemoneeHo: Nov 9, 2017; Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca

AITA because I (36F) said it was cute that my niece got my brother�s (42M) eyes?

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The title is the tldr, that�s the story.

This weekend the entire family was together celebrating my great grandmother�s 98th birthday!! My cousin came with her baby, and it�s the first time many of the extended family has seen her. We were ogling the new little one, commenting she has my cousins nose, her dads ears, and so on. Another one of my cousins joked that since her kids are all the spitting image of their father that she teases him when they�re acting up, saying that�s from him too. Well, this carried on and I said to my brother I though it�s so sweet his daughter has his baby blue eyes.

I could tell immediately he was annoyed about it. He doesn�t like when we comment about how his daughter looks, because he feels like we�re speculating or something nefarious. So I let him know I don�t mean anything by it and asked him to relax, it�s no big deal.

Well, I guess it is a big deal. He texted me tonight and asked me to please not say things like that because it�s othering to his husband. We can all tell very easily that she�s related to us, so why be weird about it? It was only an innocent comment.

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They know who it is. Not to mention, if you take one look at them and her you�d know. They must believe we�re blind if they think we really couldn�t tell.

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He�s a wonderful man. The family warmed up to him and his southern charm quickly. It�s due to some poor taste comments on race from our mother while they were in the process of having their eldest daughter that I think they decided not to reveal which of them was the father and to maintain that precedent.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 13:53

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# ? May 29, 2024 16:35

3D Megadoodoo: Nov 25, 2010

Mx. posted:

AITA for continuing to hold a grudge against my wife even after she apologized?

lol. dude's spent one third of his whole marriage passive-aggressively not cooking for his wife

I wonder if she'd assume spinach pancakes were pancakes with spinach on top. e: or stinging nettle pancakes lol.

# ? Feb 14, 2023 14:33

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