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Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

LeeMajors posted:

So many folks in my neighborhood and surrounding neighborhoods got robbed this weekend, because we have so many dudes with lifted trucks that leave their doors unlocked. Several guns stolen too. The south, baby.

there was a rash of thefts in my neighborhood a few years back where entire lifted trucks were vanishing and everyone was like, good

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limp dick calvin: Sep 1, 2006; Strepitoso. Vedete? Una meraviglia.

I had a friend that used to leave her purse with the car keys in it because it was more convenient. For her and the burglar

# ? Apr 19, 2023 01:01

MagusofStars: Mar 31, 2012

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for yelling at my husband after I left his car unlocked and someone stole his watch?
I acknowledge this wasn�t an �accident� but it�s a lesson I had to learn the hard way

loving lol at this logic. It's locking a goddamned door, not some complex concept that requires hard-won experience to comprehend. It's literally on the level of a child ignoring their parents and touching the hot stove, except that she's a 28-year old woman rather than a five-year old.

# ? Apr 19, 2023 01:12

Malcolm Excellent: May 20, 2007; Buglord

I used to work with a guy that took the doors off his jeep in the summer, and would just leave poo poo in the open cab. He said nobody ever bothered to steal anything.

I think everyone just has to remove their doors

# ? Apr 19, 2023 01:18

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

Foo Diddley posted:

a puppy is the gift that keeps on giving

to the animal shelter, in this case

Anyone who gives an animal as a gift should be neutered or spayed.

Pets are a commitment that everyone involved should have a say in.

# ? Apr 19, 2023 01:23

LeeMajors: Jan 20, 2005; I've gotta stop fantasizing about Lee Majors...
Ah, one more!

Malcolm Excellent posted:

I used to work with a guy that took the doors off his jeep in the summer, and would just leave poo poo in the open cab. He said nobody ever bothered to steal anything.

I think everyone just has to remove their doors

I lock my doors and also I never leave valuables in there. It�s funny how securing your poo poo is a pretty good deterrent to theft.

# ? Apr 19, 2023 01:28

DeeplyConcerned: Apr 29, 2008; I can fit 3 whole bud light cans now, ask me how!

Owns an expensive watch?

Verdict: SHINK!

Next case!

# ? Apr 19, 2023 01:29

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

Beachcomber posted:

Anyone who gives an animal as a gift should be neutered or spayed.

Pets are a commitment that everyone involved should have a say in.

especially if you ask someone and they say no

"surprise! i got you a dozen+ years of responsibility and bills even though you explicity told me not to!"

# ? Apr 19, 2023 01:30

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

DeeplyConcerned posted:

Owns an expensive watch?

Verdict: SHINK!

Next case!

Not to mention their third car they don't use.

# ? Apr 19, 2023 01:32

Barudak: May 7, 2007

I store all my valuables inside a sandy cave in the shape of a cats head. Absolute bastard to maintain but thats the cost of peace of mind.

# ? Apr 19, 2023 01:32

BrigadierSensible: Feb 16, 2012; I've got a pocket full of cheese🧀, and a garden full of trees🌴.

Foo Diddley posted:

AITA for telling my ILs they behaved worse than my kids ever have after they were jealous of my sons?

good kids

and good parents

I have a slightly different take on this. I don't think it's jealousy so much. And I also see some homophobia/"gender roles" stuff here. Although I could be reaching there.

Because if they have only seen the kids 6-8 times in 8 years, then they don't care so much about how much the kids 'love' them compared to each other.

But the grandparents going to the parents, "you should stop these kids from behaving this way with each other", to me reads as "boys shouldn't hug. boys shouldn't show affection towards other boys! You are raising sissies!" kind of talk. But I feel this is a little bit of a reach.

Either way, kids are good, parents are good, grandparents are arseholes. (Do we ever get a reason for why they have only seen their grand kids once or so a year for their entire lives?) And it is a good thing for an 8 year old to hug his sick 4 year old brother because he loves him.

# ? Apr 19, 2023 01:35

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

BrigadierSensible posted:

I have a slightly different take on this. I don't think it's jealousy so much. And I also see some homophobia/"gender roles" stuff here. Although I could be reaching there.

Because if they have only seen the kids 6-8 times in 8 years, then they don't care so much about how much the kids 'love' them compared to each other.

But the grandparents going to the parents, "you should stop these kids from behaving this way with each other", to me reads as "boys shouldn't hug. boys shouldn't show affection towards other boys! You are raising sissies!" kind of talk. But I feel this is a little bit of a reach.

Either way, kids are good, parents are good, grandparents are arseholes. (Do we ever get a reason for why they have only seen their grand kids once or so a year for their entire lives?) And it is a good thing for an 8 year old to hug his sick 4 year old brother because he loves him.

it's quite possible. my guess was that the grandparents don't believe that the younger child's medical issues are real, though there really isn't anything to support that either

# ? Apr 19, 2023 01:43

Lottery of Babylon: Apr 25, 2012; STRAIGHT TROPIN'

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for yelling at my husband after I left his car unlocked and someone stole his watch?

My husband (M32) has been telling me (F28) to lock up our car doors plenty of times in the 10 years we�ve been married.

Not a fan of the math on this. If that's when they got married, how young was she when they started dating?

# ? Apr 19, 2023 02:06

Human Tornada: Mar 4, 2005; I been wantin to see a honkey dance.

I can't believe her feeble "well it looks like I learned a really good lesson so there's no need to be mad at me" couldn't maneuver her away from admonishment!

# ? Apr 19, 2023 02:25

edogawa rando: Mar 20, 2007

Lottery of Babylon posted:

Not a fan of the math on this. If that's when they got married, how young was she when they started dating?

32 - 10 =?

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well why not: Feb 10, 2009

getting married at 22 / 18, lol

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TheDeadlyShoe: Feb 14, 2014

i think the point was 'started dating' which starts to look like 21/17....

# ? Apr 19, 2023 02:31

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

AITA for punishing my son for what he said during family therapy

quote:

I married my wife two years ago, but she and my stepchildren moved in three years ago. I have one son (15) from my ex, who's still in the picture and sees him every weekend. My wife has two children (17F, 12M) from her prior relationship. Suffice to say that the transition has not been smooth for my biological son.

He made it very clear when he was introduced to his stepmother (before she was his stepmother of course) that she would never be a mother or mother figure to him, which while fair enough, I don't think needed be be said so bluntly. He'll admit that he doesn't like his siblings, he just calls them "my dad's wife's kids). They've tried to warm up to him, and treat him like they do eachother, but he's even said "I don't" when my daughter said that she loves him.

We've been in family therapy since before we moved together, but we're still at stage one. He refuses to warm up to them or bond at all. We have an hour of family time a week, no screens, we just talk about our day and stuff like that. My son for two years straight, has just told us "My week is none of your business, I'm not telling you anything and I don't care about what you do." or something like that, while pouting the entire hour.

Last week in therapy, he went too far. The therapist asked him why he acts so hostile to his family. My son told us, in front of his entire family, that he doesn't care about any of them besides me. He said he doesn't understand why he should be expected to love and care about, and I quote "The lady who he has sex with and her kids"

I lost it the second we left the office. I grounded him until further notice, and called my ex to let her know. She told me that I shouldn't be punishing him for something he said to a therapist, but I don't think therapy is an excuse to say whatever thought comes into your head. Either way she's refusing to punish him over there, and he's refusing to come home. I really would rather him stay away if he's going to speak that way to his siblings, but maybe I'm wrong to be so harsh.

# ? Apr 19, 2023 02:43

Literally A Person: Jan 1, 1970; Smugworth Wuz Here

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for punishing my son for what he said during family therapy

She told me that I shouldn't be punishing him for something he said to a therapist, but I don't think therapy is an excuse to say whatever thought comes into your head

lol 4eva

# ? Apr 19, 2023 02:47

i am a moron: Nov 12, 2020; "I think if there’s one thing we can all agree on it’s that Penn State and Michigan both suck and are garbage and it’s hilarious Michigan fans are freaking out thinking this is their natty window when they can’t even beat a B12 team in the playoffs lmao"

Sounds fair to me whats this dudes problem. His son should kick his rear end honestly

# ? Apr 19, 2023 02:50

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

I notice he only lost it when he left the office, not in front of the therapist.

# ? Apr 19, 2023 02:52

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

I am so loving glad I was a legal adult when my parents divorced, and I didn't meet my stepbrothers until about 6 years after the divorce, and even that was a brief thing. We never had to move in together or deal with any of that poo poo; I see them once a year now, get to be the cool aunt, and everything is fine.

Now when my mom's ex-bf moved in with his rear end in a top hat daughter, that reminds me more of these Reddit stories, down to the part where she never showered, left streaks of dirt (and poo poo) on the couch, chairs, her bed, etc. I avoided her and her dad as much as possible. The words 'family therapy' never came about.

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Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

ughh why won't the therapist force my kid to feel the way i want him to

# ? Apr 19, 2023 02:54

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

Therapy: making people who disagree with you, agree with you, by mind magic!*

*Lobotomies not covered by most health insurances.

# ? Apr 19, 2023 02:58

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

at least the kid got away when dad decided it was time to step up to punishments 'cuz the therapy wasn't going his way

# ? Apr 19, 2023 03:03

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

AITA for yelling at my BIL for following me to a party?

quote:

I'm in college finishing my first year. I moved in with my sister and her husband after losing my campus housing first semester. I try to be a good housemate but sometimes get annoyed because they try to act like my parents on occasion. Our agreement is that they're supposed to treat me like an adult roommate, not their child.

Case and point. I went to a college party Sunday night. I was also posting on SnapChat and stupidly had maps on for all my friends which includes my sister and BIL. It was about 12 midnight or so, long after they go to bed and I posted some snaps I meant as JOKES like "get me out of this party" "this is the worst" "I just want to go homeeee" because we all were doing it as like an inside joke that came out of the party but I was 100% fine. I guess my sister saw them and texted and asked if I was okay but I didn't see the text til much later. I don't mind that she did this.

Well around 1 AM who do I see walking in the door but my lovely BIL and my sister is waiting in their car. He said he saw the snaps and asked if I was okay. He also told me to give him my car key and to get an Uber home. I called him controlling and a creep for coming to a college party when he graduated years ago and is a d*mn adult man. He wouldn't leave until I gave him my key even though I kept yelling at him. He finally left when I gave him my car key. My sister of course got pissed trying to say he was just looking out for me but I think they need to mind their business.

AITA?

# ? Apr 19, 2023 03:05

Remulak: Jun 8, 2001; I can't count to four.; Yams Fan

Stepfamily trauma: my 83 year old widowed mother wants to get married and my brother won�t even talk to her now. Or me apparently for pointing out she�s got a limited amount of time to actually walk down the aisle.

That poo poo cuts deep.

# ? Apr 19, 2023 03:08

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for yelling at my BIL for following me to a party?

OP's one of those child prodigies that got admitted to college at age 14, yeah? or maybe this is a clown college or something. 'cuz this is dumb even for a college kid

# ? Apr 19, 2023 03:18

Vegetable: Oct 22, 2010

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for yelling at my BIL for following me to a party?

As a young person I might have been mad too but for real this person is lucky to have them in her life

# ? Apr 19, 2023 03:18

Cerekk: Sep 24, 2004; Oh my god, JC!

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for yelling at my BIL for following me to a party?

AITA? Pranked village into thinking there was a wolf, now dealing with livestock predation and no one will help me.

# ? Apr 19, 2023 03:28

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

Vegetable posted:

As a young person I might have been mad too but for real this person is lucky to have them in her life

No kidding. "This party is so horrible, all these weird guys keep talking about roofieing me, I wish someone would get me out of here."

Cue surprise when your loving calvary shows up.

# ? Apr 19, 2023 03:31

Huggybear: Jun 17, 2005; I got the jimjams

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for punishing my son for what he said during family therapy

Note the complete lack of detail about the relationship between the stepmom and the guy's son. Teenagers need a lot of patience and empathy

# ? Apr 19, 2023 03:31

Pomme de Terror: Sep 30, 2021; Well, one of us must have killed him!

AITA for assuming my friend was keeping her partner away because I didn�t like him when actually he didn�t like me?

quote:

I (38f) have known �Ally� (40f) for 15 years. We first met at work when were single and the youngest people there. We became good friends and socialised together and still do.

Ally then met her partner �Matt� who she is still with years later.

He does not share her interests. He is an avid football supporter (UK) and very anti the rival football team. Even when he doesn�t go to watch matches live, he watches at the pub with male friends. He plays sport with his friends. She�s a football widow. She likes going to the theatre and to dinner. He�ll go to dinner with her but doesn�t much enjoy the theatre unless it�s a serious play (she likes musicals) and she ends up going with female friends. She says she doesn�t mind, they aren�t joined at the hip and she has plenty of friends and relatives who enjoy going to the theatre with her and that she doesn�t want to go to football. I wonder�

I am known for being brutally honest. When she introduced me to Matt, she asked my opinion and I gave it. I didn�t really see them together. I didn�t like that he drinks and swears. He has a professional job but isn�t very �refined� unlike her and I found him a bit difficult to connect to.

At the time she was hurt but got over it and generally just engineered it so I never really saw him. He was always �busy� when I organised a party etc. They now have 2 young boys and he looks after them when she comes out with her friends.

TBH more recently my opinion of him has improved. He seems to be a really good daddy to the boys and they clearly adore him. They are also football mad!

It took me longer to meet my SO �Edward� but I now have and we have just got engaged. Ally and Matt both attended our engagement party. Edward actually also likes football and ended up getting on really well with Matt.

Later I asked Ally if she�d be up for doing something as couples, as Edward and Matt got on well. She was non-committal. A few weeks later I tried to arrange something and she accepted for herself but �Matt was busy�. I explained I wanted to do something with the 4 of us when he was free. She kept stalling. I pushed it (maybe I shouldn�t have) and she said it wasn�t a good idea because he and I didn�t get on. I said it was ok, I�d changed my opinion more recently and Edward liked him. She looked surprised and then awkwardly let me know it was because he didn�t really like me! She �thought I knew�!

I didn�t and I was upset - this was news. I asked her why. She was embarrassed but said he found me judgmental and �too much�. I don�t even know what that means. A few other examples as well!

I was hurt and told her I had assumed she kept us apart because I didn�t like him not the reverse. She said that we didn�t get on so what difference did it make. I�m beyond hurt and did react badly and told her some home truths about him. I regret this now and tried to apologise but she won�t return my calls.

AITA?

# ? Apr 19, 2023 03:31

Pirate Radar: Apr 18, 2008; You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!

Foo Diddley posted:

OP's one of those child prodigies that got admitted to college at age 14, yeah? or maybe this is a clown college or something. 'cuz this is dumb even for a college kid

Any college is clown college if you act like a god drat clown

# ? Apr 19, 2023 03:32

Punkinhead: Apr 2, 2015

Pomme de Terror posted:

I�m beyond hurt and did react badly and told her some home truths about him.

lol, lmao

# ? Apr 19, 2023 03:34

Pirate Radar: Apr 18, 2008; You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!

quote:

She was embarrassed but said he found me judgmental and �too much�. I don�t even know what that means.

Okay, so it�s true then.

# ? Apr 19, 2023 03:35

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

just astonished that a person who i've been "brutally honest" about for years thinks i'm an rear end in a top hat

# ? Apr 19, 2023 03:56

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

WIBTA My (38M) mother (74F) disowned me but still wants to see my son (2M) and I don�t want to let her

quote:

My child has a hyphenated last name of Wife-Mine, my wife and I also sometimes put that as our last names even though legally we never changed them from Wife and Mine.

My mother saw the hyphenated last name for me on something, and flipped out. She disowned me and said I�m not her son until I change it back. I showed her my license and passport and paystubs all still say Mine as last name and not Wife-Mine, she called me a liar and told me not to text her anymore.

Three days later she texted asking to see my child, and I said I didn�t want that until we had a chat about her reaction.

Allegedly, she thinks disowning just means that I don�t get an inheritance, but that it will all go to my child. She also denied having said I�m no longer her son.

Her stance is now that I�ve weaponized my son, and am holding their relationship hostage because I�m mad at her. I keep reiterating that she said she�s disowned me, and she says she hasn�t disowned my child.

AITA for not letting her see him?

i wonder what she's going to do when she finds out what the kid's name is

# ? Apr 19, 2023 04:00

Arsenic Lupin: Apr 12, 2012; This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.

AITA for telling my wife we can no longer afford to give our dog an allowance?

quote:

We got a dog a few years ago and training him was rough. He was already a full grown dog and had never lived inside.

Anyway, we�d give him treats and encouragement and eventually he stopped being so wild inside and chewing things up and he now uses the bathroom outside etc.

Like I said, we already give him treats for doing good things or listening to commands etc.

But in the midst of the initial training, my wife came up with the idea that we should give him a weekly �allowance� for being good and not having accidents, etc.

This was set at $25 a week. Obviously we didn�t give him the cash lol. Instead she�d take him to PetSmart and whatever he started sniffing or seemed to like she�d buy, or she�ll get him special treats beyond what we already have at home.

I thought it was silly then, but whatever, I was just happy when we�d go a week without piss on the carpet or a chewed up pillow. So I agreed.

And it�s been this way for years. But now money is tight. We can�t really afford to $100 a month extra. Not only that but that money takes priority over our own �allowances�

For instance, I wanted to go out to eat last week, but because I have to set aside $50 every pay check, my wife said we couldn�t go otherwise we wouldn�t be able to essentially pay our dog.

Not to mention going outside to potty or not chewing things up is second nature for him now. And it�s not like I don�t want to buy him stuff, but we are barely making ends meet at the moment. $50 a check is a big expense.

I brought this up with her last night and she got very upset that I would even suggest not rewarding him. That I was being selfish for wanting to spend the money on myself.

I told her we already buy him food, and treats, and he already has 30+ chew toys, and that he doesn�t need a bigger bone every week, he doesn�t need gourmet food all the time. None of this is even including relatively frequent dog spa visits.

She told me I shouldn�t have let her get the dog if I �didn�t want to take care of him�

But I do take care of him. We go on walks, play in the back yard, he has a whole room in our house with chew toys and a big bed.

I think it is unfair to say I�m not taking care of him because I can�t afford to give him a luxurious lifestyle anymore, or that I�d like to go out to eat and have a little luxury myself every once in a while.

But maybe I am wrong?

AITA?

Edit: Additional info I meant to mention.

My wife cannot have kids due to a medical issue that would put her at high risk and was devastated when she found out, as was I. But we also cannot afford to adopt or even have that desire right now to be honest. Our dog I think was her way of coping with this and being a mother in some sense. So he is like her child. I love him too but she is attached to him in a way that is much deeper than what I would say is typical.

Edit 2:

She does not believe the allowance is teaching him anything. It is just her way of doting on him. She knows that he is not associating it with good behavior. So it is not an attempt at teaching him anything. More of �he�s been good so we should do something good for him�

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run on sentience: Mar 22, 2022

I feel bad for Edward, who is probably not allowed to have any of his own hobbies or friendships either.

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