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AITA for walking out on my mom after she called my condition "god's punishment"?quote:According to my family I am overreacting. To explain, I have a chronic illness that I've been dealing with since I've been born. We live in a country where healthcare is pretty well taken care off and I was always able to find suitable doctors to treat me. Meaning we never had high medical bills. However, it is still a burden on me. Most hours of the day I have to use a wheelchair and rely on my medication to get me through it all. I don't want to get further into it - my point is, it sucks, but I'm alive and I've done well for myself. I work from home as much as I can and live with my partner. AITA for getting angry my sis and BIL robbed me of treating my mom for Mother’s Day? quote:Planning for Mother’s Day and my mama has everything. She repeatedly insists I not buy her a gift. I finally get her to agree to let me take her for a meal (restaurant of her choosing) for Saturday before Mother’s Day. She says she wants me to invite my sister and BIL. 3 wks prior, I text sis and inform her I’m taking mom out for Mother’s Day and she is welcome to join if she wants.
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Admiral Joeslop posted:AITA for walking out on my mom after she called my condition "god's punishment"? The acid vat is too good for this family.
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May 14, 2023 19:21
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Xenocides posted:The advice there is often complete garbage. I might be biased as I am bisexual and they are also very biphobic. What advice are they giving OP? I am curious but not enough to log into reddit and check for myself. Everyone is entitled to their desires and preferences. That US gay men care a whole lot about foreskins is a trope. And straight women and bisexual people can care as well. Even lesbian women and straight men can have opinions about one looking nice and the other gross. But are you truly reaching your full gay potential if all uncircumsized penises disgust you and none turn you on? Even on your partner of six months?
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May 14, 2023 19:22
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What do you clamp with a clothespin to keep the pee in if you don't have foreskin?
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May 14, 2023 19:27
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Batterypowered7 posted:What do you clamp with a clothespin to keep the pee in if you don't have foreskin? Locking vice grips.
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Batterypowered7 posted:What do you clamp with a clothespin to keep the pee in if you don't have foreskin? Your nose
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A visitor from Carolyn Hax's Washington Post column:quote:Dear Carolyn: My wife and I live almost 900 miles away from our son, his wife and their 2 1/2-year-old daughter. Since we retired shortly after our granddaughter was born, our hope was to spend time with them at least four times a year. We recently stayed at their home and offered to take care of our granddaughter while they both worked. Our son insisted their daughter needed to go to day care to keep her in her routine and for socialization. We asked for only one day, but he said as the parent, his decision was final.
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May 14, 2023 19:39
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AITA for calling my girlfriend mommy?quote:Don't judge me for what I call my girlfriend in bed. Anyways, today is Mother's Day and I had a big lunch with my parents, my girlfriend's parents and our siblings. I bought for my mom a nice gift and also bought for my girlfriend's mom a gift and they loved it. As ever with guys like this, what's the joke?
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May 14, 2023 19:58
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Adult children who get off on pissing on boundaries, sometimes literally
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Armitag3 posted:anime used to be much better You're in luck, Pom Poko is on Netflix
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Bright Bart posted:What advice are they giving OP? I am curious but not enough to log into reddit and check for myself. As a kid, I only knew that bisexual people liked both men and women, so that meant they had to have one of each in a relationship. Sounded like a cool deal to me. I was not a smart kid.
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May 14, 2023 20:12
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Arsenic Lupin posted:A visitor from Carolyn Hax's Washington Post column: Now why would only time spent alone with your grand child count as quality time, I wonder
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haveblue posted:Rename George to Baxter and teach him to use a phone Deepest cut I've seen in a long time, nice.
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May 14, 2023 21:21
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Man, is today's AITA making me grateful neither my mother nor I gave a poo poo about Mother's Day. AITA for not wanting my girlfriend to go to a party because her ex will be there? quote:My (M26) girlfriend (F24) plans on going to a friend (F24) birthday party on Wednesday. It’s supposed to be a girls only party stuff so I’m obviously not going. Betcha  he thinks bi people are more likely to cheat, or that anybody with the choice between a woman and a man would always pick the woman, or some other stereotype.
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May 14, 2023 21:22
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I always look forward to AITA after a holiday. It's AITA Superbowl so many times a year. AITA for being disappointed on mother’s day? quote:My husband works a 12 hour shift today, and this is my first Mother’s Day since our daughter was born a few months ago. I mean seriously the bar is pretty low for most moms, especially for first one. A card, some flowers or an air plant (gently caress, any grocery store has a ton out the days before too) loving Doordash her favorite meal. AITA for “embarrassing” my cousin and getting us kicked out of a restaurant? quote:I F(25) don’t have kids yet. I never really wanted them growing up but I figure I’ll eventually have kids in the future once I get my life together. My cousin Sarah (29) has two bad behaved kids from a previous relationship and a newborn baby with her boyfriend MJ (40). Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 22:00 on May 14, 2023 |
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May 14, 2023 21:51
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Batterypowered7 posted:What do you clamp with a clothespin to keep the pee in if you don't have foreskin? The upper part of the balls
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Cowslips Warren posted:
I don't think either of them are an rear end in a top hat here. If she'd communicated beforehand that she was really looking forward to it, it'd be one thing, but you can't expect people to be mind readers. Like, I don't celebrate any of the corporate holidays, but I talk to partners about what they celebrate early on, and I'll definitely make the compromise if Valentines or xmas is a big deal for them. Dinner or something would have been an easy win unless she'd still have been disappointed. Best case outcome is he learns and makes a bigger deal next year.
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May 14, 2023 22:11
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Horror_Business posted:I don't think either of them are an rear end in a top hat here. If she'd communicated beforehand that she was really looking forward to it, it'd be one thing, but you can't expect people to be mind readers. Like, I don't celebrate any of the corporate holidays, but I talk to partners about what they celebrate early on, and I'll definitely make the compromise if Valentines or xmas is a big deal for them. Yeah, she says that she mentioned a number of times that mother's day is coming up, but that's different from explicitly saying, "hey, mother's day is coming up and I want it to be a special day so can we do something for it?" The husband kind of sucks for responding with "I'm tired of being criticized" but we don't really know enough about their dynamic to do more than speculate
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May 14, 2023 22:28
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I think the default American expectation on Mother's Day is that a fuss must be made; how big a fuss depends on lots of unspoken expectations. At least he could have made the drat coffee himself and brought it to her. The default on Father's Day is just ... buy him something manly? I guess?
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May 14, 2023 22:32
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Arsenic Lupin posted:I think the default American expectation on Mother's Day is that a fuss must be made; how big a fuss depends on lots of unspoken expectations. At least he could have made the drat coffee himself and brought it to her. If you want something special to happen on a special day then you need to talk to people about it
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Pretty much what I was getting at. Whatever your opinion of the default is, if you don't say what you expect, you're just assuming the other person has the same default. Over and over, this thread has shown examples of people just assuming other people knew they wanted to celebrate their birthday all month or dedicate a week to their parents' anniversary or whatever. Just talk to people if it's a big deal to you.
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May 14, 2023 22:55
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xLlsjEP7L-k
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The one idea that refuses to die is the belief that something can't be romantic or special if you have to ask for it. It's total bullshit, of course, as no one can read minds, but it keeps giving people impossible expectations and making them feel bad when they don't get what they want
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She should absolutely have communicated but quote:I was really looking forward to some appreciation since I do all the cooking, cleaning, and childcare
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QuarkJets posted:The upper part of the balls Does a pee crystal form between the balls and the peehole during cold weather to keep the pee in, since the scrotum (aka where the balls are, aka where the pee is stored) shrinks during cold weather? Asking for a friend.
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Yes but the pee crystal is sold separately
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AITA: Mother's day for myself not SILquote:My brother is unfortunately handsome and probably has histrionic personality disorder. He's fathered 6 kids by 3 women and has not raised any of the kids past 4 years old when the relationships destruct (he destructs them everytime). My Mom is a religious woman who is horrified and embarrassed and yet he's also the golden child, athletic, tall,handsome, looks good on paper, mom just adores him, brags about him and absolutelt overcompensates for his lovely parenting. Now for the issues, my Mom wants me to spend Mother's Day driving around taking gifts/flowers to the women (2 to 3 hours out of my day). My Mom is 80. She prefers if I drive er. I'm a single Mom who has entertained guests my Mom had for the past 4 days and would just like to sit on the beach with my kid all day. I want today off. So aita if I say no and she has to drive herself? She does drive, just not at night and prefers I do. EDIT: Brother works fighting wildfires and is now gone until Sept. I'm torn between r/relationships: unfortunately handsome and probably has histrionic personality disorder and r/relationships: he destructs them everytime
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Arsenic Lupin posted:I think the default American expectation on Mother's Day is that a fuss must be made; how big a fuss depends on lots of unspoken expectations. At least he could have made the drat coffee himself and brought it to her. Sounds like this Father’s Day is leaving a beer out for him.
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Nebrilos posted:I'm shocked that it wasn't gay fanfiction. “I’ll act out your favorite scenes”, my guy you do not know what you just agreed to.
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AmiYumi posted:I’m glad someone else caught that; what woman with 11+ years of fanfic experience is writing - from a first-person male perspective! - het? Did I miss something? I got the impression she was writing it first person from her perspective. For the record, in recent CW shows, both Snart and his actor are gay, so it still has a bit of the taboo titillation fanfic is known for to write him as getting spicy with a lady.
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Cowslips Warren posted:I always look forward to AITA after a holiday. It's AITA Superbowl so many times a year. I've learned later in life that inter-familial dynamics push the myth of age inequity hard to establish and maintain a pecking order, especially towards the youngest in early adulthood by the "successful" and slightly older family members/siblings/cousin in this case. And this relationship is, above, clearly toxic in one direction, and this is clearly tolerated and reinforced by the extended. Also, the cousin is in an age disparate relationship which further reinforces the superiority/authority paradigm that older moms in families try to implement as a means of control and power, not to mention shaming. I have a lot of younger moms in my family who come from deeply conservative backgrounds and have no post-sec education by conscious choice, and have loud, imperious opinions in any given situation because motherhood is this deeply revered institution in their culture, simply by default of having been pregnant and birthed a child. Meanwhile their children are mostly obnoxious if not completely traumatized, or totally demure, anxious creatures who are afraid to speak to adults. Shaming someone for needing help with chopsticks, forsooth.
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Huggybear posted:Shaming someone for needing help with chopsticks, forsooth.
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Huggybear posted:I've learned later in life that inter-familial dynamics push the myth of age inequity hard to establish and maintain a pecking order, especially towards the youngest in early adulthood by the "successful" and slightly older family members/siblings/cousin in this case. And this relationship is, above, clearly toxic in one direction, and this is clearly tolerated and reinforced by the extended. Also, the cousin is in an age disparate relationship which further reinforces the superiority/authority paradigm that older moms in families try to implement as a means of control and power, not to mention shaming. I have a lot of younger moms in my family who come from deeply conservative backgrounds and have no post-sec education by conscious choice, and have loud, imperious opinions in any given situation because motherhood is this deeply revered institution in their culture, simply by default of having been pregnant and birthed a child. Meanwhile their children are mostly obnoxious if not completely traumatized, or totally demure, anxious creatures who are afraid to speak to adults. And who the gently caress uses chopsticks for sushi?
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Cowslips Warren posted:And who the gently caress uses chopsticks for sushi?  what....do you use?
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Cowslips Warren posted:And who the gently caress uses chopsticks for sushi? Is that...not normal? I haven't gone out for sushi that many times, but I thought most of the folks in those groups went for chopsticks.
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SyNack Sassimov posted:
I got ten of them on the end of my hands- forks, there was a tragic dishwashing accident
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You could in Japan traditionally use your hands to eat Sushi (but not sashimi) but it's such a rapid shift to eating sushi with chopsticks that a lot of people will look at you weird if you're finger fooding it now.
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Like a normal person, I eat sushi by opening my mouth and extruding the second set of specialized jaws that evolved specifically for eating sushi
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