quote:Since we aren’t going to get married or anything I don’t understand why he thinks I would be okay with him living for free with his two kids. I’m happy to have romance and companionship but shared assets and finances are not something I want in life, I don’t want to support a man.
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Invisible Clergy posted:https://hard-drive.net/hd/video-games/gaming-comedy-podcast-now-two-solid-hours-of-incomprehensible-inside-jokes/ I want to say this is probably what would happen if the Big Bang Theory ever had a podcast.
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Agrikk posted:… Google ‘charter school CSP Fraud’ and marvel at the private companies that got up-front federal grants to open or expand charter schools and did neither. I’m not engaging with your other claims or derailing but that statement above wow.
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Remulak posted:Do you live in a different county or a different universe? I’m in the USA on Earth-1218, the one where superheroes are fictional, even those played by Maggie Gyllenhaal in movies funded by right-wing ghouls. There are also a lot of public charter schools that are run by local school districts.
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Less talk about Charter Schools, and more discussion about Farter Schools. Flatulence education does not get the funding nor respect it deserves.
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BrigadierSensible posted:Less talk about Charter Schools, and more discussion about Farter Schools. Flatulent earth theory deserves equal time!
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Clocks posted:It's for the best that they broke up because she didn't particularly seem to want to live with him and his two children, and since the relationship wasn't going further she didn't want to merge finances. I personally think that's a valid point of view. Perhaps if she had liked him more she'd be down to actually support him. That's how I read it, and it seems like he's pretty lukewarm on the relationship too. Either way it's probably good they didn't move in together.
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A poly story that goes places: My (25 M) girlfriends (26 F) close friend (27 M) asked us to open our relationship so he could pursue her. Now I am not comfortable with her still being around him quote:All names are fake Mystery solved, in a very depressing way: My ex-girlfriend has been leading a neurodivergent man on for over a decade to scam money out of him, even while we were together quote:I wasted the last 4 years of my life with a girl we'll call Emily. I thought she was a good and honest person, boy was I wrong. Emily had a close friend named Jeff. I never understood it. Jeff is a creepy and pathetic man who has orbited her since middle school. He's neurodivergent, at least that's what their friend group has used as an excuse for his actions. He's always had a crush on Emily. According to ex-friends, he's tried his hardest to get her to like him since they met. Emily does not like Jeff any more than a friend. Even then, the way she talks about him to me makes me feel she's completely disgusted by him physically. Along with her "honesty," it made me never question their friendship, even if Jeff was obviously orbiting waiting for us to break up.
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WaywardWoodwose posted:Hey i get it, I think they should break up too, but it still feels mean as poo poo to say things like that in a relationship with the kind of power imbalance like one person making four times as much as the other. Yeah, her edit about “I listened to you all and broke up with him. He’s just a deadbeat loser who wanted my money, get hosed!” was really gross. Dude is clearly a struggling dad trying to make ends meet and she’s insanely privileged and treated him as a disposable novelty that she could toss away as soon as she got bored. It’s true that she doesn’t have to let him live there for free and even as unfair as it was it still would’ve been to his advantage to live there and pay what she asked, but her response to the situation is ugly as gently caress
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Kit Walker posted:Yeah, her edit about “I listened to you all and broke up with him. He’s just a deadbeat loser who wanted my money, get hosed!” was really gross. Dude is clearly a struggling dad trying to make ends meet and she’s insanely privileged and treated him as a disposable novelty that she could toss away as soon as she got bored. It’s true that she doesn’t have to let him live there for free and even as unfair as it was it still would’ve been to his advantage to live there and pay what she asked, but her response to the situation is ugly as gently caress Everyone can suck in a situation. That guy was an idiot for thinking he should get to live for free (along with his family!) and she sucks for tossing him aside when he was extremely vulnerable.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:It's one of those last-minute power trips like the teacher scolding the kid at graduation because his little brother wandered up on the stage. Can't let them leave with a smile on their face, don't they know the world is a giant ball of flaming poo poo? This vid makes me happy. Petty tyrant mofos https://twitter.com/deep_dab/status/1662901598010351620/mediaViewer?currentTweet=1662901598010351620¤tTweetUser=deep_dab
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AITA for telling people my dad "died"?quote:My(23F) father(48M) and I had a wonderful relationship while I was growing up. Good, get wrecked.
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Goes to podium, collects scroll, starts to dab, gets chokeslammed by ten perfect cops.
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keep punching joe posted:Goes to podium, collects scroll, starts to dab, gets chokeslammed by ten perfect cops. The graduate was subject to an officer involved chokeslamming. The police department also regrets that somehow four K9 officers got shot, but thankfully the event remained dab free.
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One from BORU. Posting it more for the circumstances than the conflict; I didn't know Indian Railways did that and it's pretty cool: AITA for calling my roommate's family a bunch of misogynists and asking her to move out? quote:RM = roommate in this post Relevant Comments: quote:For those confused about how OOP took over her dad's job: Update Post: May 26, 2023 (1 week later) quote:I've read the comments on my post, and while most were supportive, thank you all for that, I've seen some suggest my RM possibly having problems within her family. I have to admit, I haven't given a thought in that direction. I'm privileged enough to come from a family that doesn't believe in gender norms, so my mind didn't go in that direction. Also some of you suggested RM's father could have been abusive towards her mother or her. Considering all that, I decided to have a talk with her.
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Runcible Cat posted:One from BORU. Posting it more for the circumstances than the conflict; I didn't know Indian Railways did that and it's pretty cool: Why do even bother calling fake on things like being offered a position on their dad's death? Yeah it's a weird detail but also it doesn't really pertain to the story, it's not like the story falls apart without this one random fact.
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It's not too far from how you can join a carpenter's union or lucrative municipal job that here in the States
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Here's like the opposite end of an OP being taken advantage of when it comes to mortgages: WIBTA if I don’t co-sign a mortgage loan with my sister? quote:Hello all, first time writer and a long time reader. I’m on mobile and flustered so sorry I’m advance. I (26f) need some thoughts on a situation going on between my parents, older sister (28f), her fiancé (28m) and I.
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trickybiscuits posted:D'Angelo Wallace did a video on Andrew Tate about a month ago and the part where he puts together numerous bits of video of Tate and his shiny bald head announcing that he's not emotional while visibly holding back hysterics is a thing of beauty. Thanks for the heads up on that video. Forgot Wallace had come back. And that was a hell of a video. Also, finding out that Tate's big break was being a contestant on the UK's version of Big Brother puts loving everything into perspective. He's the male version of Katie Hopkins. Link for the curious with time to spare: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rIHHv5eQmwE Megillah Gorilla fucked around with this message at 14:57 on Jun 2, 2023 |
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Remulak posted:Do you live in a different county or a different universe? I’m in the USA on Earth-1218, the one where superheroes are fictional, even those played by Maggie Gyllenhaal in movies funded by right-wing ghouls. Yes, I live on earth,in the USA, on the west coast where public charter schools are regulated and audited on the regular. I am adjacent to dozens of people who work in this space who bust their asses every day for organizations that give children the education that can and does get kids into colleges who wouldn’t have otherwise had that opportunity. I’m not saying that these frauds didn’t happen but I am saying that your “all charter schools steal public education funds” stance is uninformed and does a great injustice to all of the people working to make a difference.
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Shageletic posted:It's not too far from how you can join a carpenter's union or lucrative municipal job that here in the States Yeah it’s kind of an antiquated but hard-fought labor protection from the bad old days. Not surprised it’s tied to a national railway, even in India. In this case the policy protected the standard of living of an entire family who depended on the salary of someone who died doing the job. Plus put a chink in the institutional misogyny of the workplace and expanded the horizons slightly of a roommate who’s mother has controlled her access to the world until recently. All in all I’d say the policy is working great.
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Megillah Gorilla posted:Also, finding out that Tate's big break was being a contestant on the UK's version of Big Brother puts loving everything into perspective. He's the male version of Katie Hopkins. Mother FUCKER, i did not realize she was just a fuckin’ reality tv contestant
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The Bramble posted:Yeah it’s kind of an antiquated but hard-fought labor protection from the bad old days. Not surprised it’s tied to a national railway, even in India. In this case the policy protected the standard of living of an entire family who depended on the salary of someone who died doing the job. Plus put a chink in the institutional misogyny of the workplace and expanded the horizons slightly of a roommate who’s mother has controlled her access to the world until recently. All in all I’d say the policy is working great. Yeah seems more fair and equitable than how ppl get jobs in the private sphere.
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Clocks posted:Here's like the opposite end of an OP being taken advantage of when it comes to mortgages: Where the gently caress are they getting those kinds of interest rates without an absurd downpayment?
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Kit Walker posted:Yeah, her edit about “I listened to you all and broke up with him. He’s just a deadbeat loser who wanted my money, get hosed!” was really gross. Dude is clearly a struggling dad trying to make ends meet and she’s insanely privileged and treated him as a disposable novelty that she could toss away as soon as she got bored. It’s true that she doesn’t have to let him live there for free and even as unfair as it was it still would’ve been to his advantage to live there and pay what she asked, but her response to the situation is ugly as gently caress 30 year old father of two berates significantly younger girlfriend and demands she pay his living expenses while he contributes nothing to the relationship. “Wow this girl is a brokebrain landlord, super gross, ugly as gently caress” the thread says.
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Coca Koala posted:30 year old father of two berates significantly younger girlfriend and demands she pay his living expenses while he contributes nothing to the relationship. “Wow this girl is a brokebrain landlord, super gross, ugly as gently caress” the thread says. You don't understand, she makes more money than him so she's obligated to let him and his horde of children live with her rent free.
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Coca Koala posted:30 year old father of two berates significantly younger girlfriend and demands she pay his living expenses while he contributes nothing to the relationship. “Wow this girl is a brokebrain landlord, super gross, ugly as gently caress” the thread says. It's, uh, pretty normal to support a romantic partner when there's a large income disparity. Her mortgage was low enough that half of the utilities & groceries might very well be a proportionate share of the household expenses for him, although the debate between proportionate vs. equal expenses is a proven relationship killer. But putting more than half of the household expenses on the partner who earns 1/4 as much while the higher-earning partner earns 100% of the home equity is not fair or equitable in any sense. Her resistance to the idea of not turning him into positive cashflow speaks to her viewing him more as an asset to be exploited than as a partner. And to some extent, yeah, it sounds like he's not much of a partner so she can hardly be blamed for not viewing him as one. I dunno, I just feel like the appropriate reaction to that is "wow, I should stop dating this loser" instead of "I should continue dating this loser so he can help pay off my very affordable mortgage."
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Take out a new mortgage on the home and invest that money, now you have a mortage that you can charge this guy half of! Why am I the only one who thought of this? Follow me for more life hacks.
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Agrikk posted:Yes, I live on earth,in the USA, on the west coast where public charter schools are regulated and audited on the regular. I am adjacent to dozens of people who work in this space who bust their asses every day for organizations that give children the education that can and does get kids into colleges who wouldn’t have otherwise had that opportunity. Charter schools that take public funding take funds out of public education, that's just tautological. That's not to say people working there can't have good intentions, but even in the best case scenario it splinters public funding to school systems and leaves less resources to the students who are left behind from the charter system. As a bonus to profit margins, disabled kids are often left behind by charter schools since they tend to have less legal obligations there. And even if individual charter schools can do good things, charter schools as a whole in the US are tied into the "school choice" political effort that's transparently about getting money out of public systems and into the pockets of business owners and churches. Anybody advocating charters should be under careful scrutiny as any stated education advocacy is often disingenuous.
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the holy poopacy posted:
This is a huge leap and not my impression from how she describes it. 700$/month is in no way exploitative, instead it's clearly a much much better deal than he can get elsewhere. It also would be different if he was alone, but you seem to forget his kids. You probably wouldn't have reacted this way if her mortgage was much higher, but does that mean he must get a better deal only because she took a smaller loan when buying her house?
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the holy poopacy posted:It's, uh, pretty normal to support a romantic partner when there's a large income disparity. Only if you want to. He was good enough to date, but moving in is a bigger step. He doesn't look so hot, if you have to pay heavily for it and have to become step-mommy for two in your 20:s
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oh my loving god you're back on this again https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7QZgH1eP2o AITA for unintentionally acting deaf? quote:(throwaway acc because my friend's follow my main acc)
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the holy poopacy posted:It's, uh, pretty normal to support a romantic partner when there's a large income disparity. Her mortgage was low enough that half of the utilities & groceries might very well be a proportionate share of the household expenses for him, although the debate between proportionate vs. equal expenses is a proven relationship killer. But putting more than half of the household expenses on the partner who earns 1/4 as much while the higher-earning partner earns 100% of the home equity is not fair or equitable in any sense. She was going to pay for internet and trash, they weren’t going to share groceries, so if he’s got zero rent his sole contribution is half the utilities, which she figured would cover the increase from three people moving into the house. She offered support to her romantic partner by giving him a sweetheart deal on rent - half what he was paying before, and over a thousand dollars a month less than what he’d be able to find somewhere else. He demanded free rent, shouted at her about how she spends her own money, and insisted that she was wrong because he wants to be able spend more money on things like name brand cereal for his kids that she won’t even get to share because again, they’re doing separate groceries. You don’t get to demand your girlfriend of one year give you half the space in her house for free and stop spending money on herself, even if it’s because you want to buy your two kids name brand cereal. She was fine dating him when their finances were separate, he insisted on comingling them, so she dumped him. There’s nothing gross or exploitative about what she did.
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the holy poopacy posted:I dunno, I just feel like the appropriate reaction to that is "wow, I should stop dating this loser" instead of "I should continue dating this loser so he can help pay off my very affordable mortgage." Yeah, I think the gap between "I like this person enough and am serious about our relationship enough to let them move in with me" and "I like/love this person enough and value our relationship enough to not charge them full rent" is pretty small. Seems like this dude just fell into that little space. Then again we've seen stories like 'Wife (39f) was laid off and lost her dental plan. Now needs a root canal. AITA for buying a PS5 instead of leading her the money?'
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Honestly my impression is there were severe enough problems in the relationship already, if his reaction was really just about having money to provide for his kids then moving in would have given him a lot more disposable income to redirect to them. At no point am I arguing that the current state of the housing market is fair, but when you break the scenario down to be about the relationship between OP and the ex, it comes down to her not trusting him to contribute non-financially enough to make moving 3 other people into her space worth it, and him immediately blowing up a chance to live with his girlfriend and save a significant amount of money because he felt entitled to more than what she was offering, despite what would have actually been better for his kids (if the relationship was good). Then you get into things like, having two kids move into your space is also an entirely different situation than just having your boyfriend move in, which could be part of her hesitation to offer a different split, and on his side is it really better to uproot your kids from the space they're used to so they can move in with a girlfriend who wasn't enthusiastic about having them there and might resent them? Is that just going to cause more distress for them when the relationship ends and they have to move yet again but can't get their old place back? So, uh, yeah, housing is a basic human right and people shouldn't be going broke trying to make rent, but I think the fact that he's a dad also changes the equation in ways that make it a good thing he didn't move in if the relationship wasn't actually stable. PetraCore fucked around with this message at 16:31 on Jun 2, 2023 |
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AITA for shaving my nieces hair off?quote:I’ll try to keep this short, my sister has a daughter and she is 4 years old. Lexi has super curly hair and needs her hair to be taken care of constantly. My sisters husband ended up in the hospital and she has been a wreck. He has only been a week but she is destroyed and stopped brushing Lexis hair.
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Agrikk posted:Yes, I live on earth,in the USA, on the west coast where public charter schools are regulated and audited on the regular. I am adjacent to dozens of people who work in this space who bust their asses every day for organizations that give children the education that can and does get kids into colleges who wouldn’t have otherwise had that opportunity. AreWeDrunkYet posted:Charter schools that take public funding take funds out of public education, that's just tautological. That's not to say people working there can't have good intentions, but even in the best case scenario it splinters public funding to school systems and leaves less resources to the students who are left behind from the charter system. As a bonus to profit margins, disabled kids are often left behind by charter schools since they tend to have less legal obligations there. From the "two things can be true!" camp, having spent over ten years teaching at a charter: Plenty of people where I worked busted their asses to be the best they could be, not just because it was a razor's edge to a school score drop (an absolute kiss of death for a longtime strong-performing charter) but because they genuinely loved the kids. I was given the opportunity to try anything I could possibly cook up to teach my kids. I miss them a lot. I do not miss the very clear politics and corporate nature of the beast that loom as the elephants in the room. Without doxxing myself or who I used to work for, the company responsible for my network did not originate as educational in nature, but found it profitable to do so. The company now has political connections that I abhor (both the people AND the politics). And administration, in pursuit of the "scores = money/prestige" dragon, will do anything it takes at the expense of their own staff, but that's nothing new. anyway back to laughing at train wrecks
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Walh Hara posted:This is a huge leap and not my impression from how she describes it. 700$/month is in no way exploitative, instead it's clearly a much much better deal than he can get elsewhere. ...yes, that means exactly that, because that's literally how living together in a relationship works? Under her scheme she's out a modest increase in utilities in exchange for a cool $700 break in her mortgage, so yes, she absolutely wants to turn him into a cash-generating asset for herself. It is still a win-win since he gets a break in his rent as well but she's arranged the expenses so that she reaps more of the benefits of the arrangement than he does. Issaries posted:Only if you want to. Nobody said she had to pay for it. She pays the same mortgage whether or not he moves in. She could easily make him pay his own way on utilities & groceries and contribute some for wear & tear on the house, and then she wouldn't have to pay a dime for him without having to charge him a full 70% of the mortgage. Again, if she doesn't want to be in a relationship with a broke father of 2, that's very understandable. But have the respect for yourself and your partner to just dump them instead of trying to monetize them. Coca Koala posted:She was going to pay for internet and trash, they weren’t going to share groceries, so if he’s got zero rent his sole contribution is half the utilities, which she figured would cover the increase from three people moving into the house. The guy isn't a catch and he reacted badly as well, but having the person you thought of as a partner tell you that you are more valuable to them as a cash-generating asset than a partner is a pretty big gently caress you. If she had charged even half of the mortgage then she'd have come out looking a lot better. Charging 50% of the living expenses to the guy bringing in 20% of the household money is a rough carry and I'd have doubts about the longevity of that relationship, but at least it has the veneer of fairness. And yeah, she deserves some cushion against being taken advantage of. But charging him the lion's share of the mortgage on a house he doesn't own while also expecting him to pay most of his own way on other expenses is pure profit-seeking behavior. PetraCore posted:Honestly my impression is there were severe enough problems in the relationship already, if his reaction was really just about having money to provide for his kids then moving in would have given him a lot more disposable income to redirect to them. At no point am I arguing that the current state of the housing market is fair, but when you break the scenario down to be about the relationship between OP and the ex, it comes down to her not trusting him to contribute non-financially enough to make moving 3 other people into her space worth it, and him immediately blowing up a chance to live with his girlfriend and save a significant amount of money because he felt entitled to more than what she was offering, despite what would have actually been better for his kids (if the relationship was good). Then you get into things like, having two kids move into your space is also an entirely different situation than just having your boyfriend move in, which could be part of her hesitation to offer a different split, and on his side is it really better to uproot your kids from the space they're used to so they can move in with a girlfriend who wasn't enthusiastic about having them there and might resent them? Is that just going to cause more distress for them when the relationship ends and they have to move yet again but can't get their old place back? I agree with all of this 100%. But also if putting up with his kids in your house makes you want to charge him an annoyance tax above and beyond the actual increased expenses then I think the relationship is dead the instant the topic of moving in arises.
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MagusofStars posted:Absolutely and you know this because "surprise appraisal as a gift" is laughably bullshit. After what Jay pulled I'd absolutely get them appraised for insurance
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the holy poopacy posted:I agree with all of this 100%. But also if putting up with his kids in your house makes you want to charge him an annoyance tax above and beyond the actual increased expenses then I think the relationship is dead the instant the topic of moving in arises.
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