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cock hero flux
Apr 17, 2011



FMguru posted:

Wacky jokester likes to dish it out - but can he take it?

AITA for calling my brother out for the large age gap with his partner when he kept trashing on my marriage?

Nope.

that's a proper thermonuclear exchange, usually it's one person throwing rocks and then getting hit with the ICBM but there were truly no survivors in this one

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therobit
Aug 19, 2008

I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Barudak posted:

Dont come at me with your vegan lifestyle unless you live nude and your wife is a river

Don’t you think it’s a little risky calling out Vishnu?

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.

cock hero flux posted:

that's a proper thermonuclear exchange, usually it's one person throwing rocks and then getting hit with the ICBM but there were truly no survivors in this one

There are definitely times when decorum actually serves a purpose.

Strep Vote
May 5, 2004

أنا أحب حليب الشوكولاتة

Bright Bart posted:

What's actually weird is what I hear from teachers which is that they see more and more children in kindergarten and occasionally in the first grade who are still needing diaper changes. That's for children without officially noted delays and apparently that very rarely happened in the past.

I did a bunch of reading about this and it's easier to train a baby as soon as they can walk rather than wait until after two. My son was poo-trained in a week at 15 months, then fully nap trained around 2 (no more drips just before waking up, never a full bed), and then woke up completely dry in the morning at 2 years 4 months and never reverted. It's an American thing to let kids get to first grade still making GBS threads themselves and it's gross and unnecessary.

Arsenic Lupin
Apr 12, 2012

This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.


I have read/heard that the switch from cloth to disposable diapers has made babies less aware of when they pee. The bottom doesn't get cold and wet, so you don't have an "I just peed" signal starting in infancy. Thus less awareness of body signals, thus harder to recognize "I need to/am about to pee/poop."

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.

Strep Vote posted:

I did a bunch of reading about this and it's easier to train a baby as soon as they can walk rather than wait until after two. My son was poo-trained in a week at 15 months, then fully nap trained around 2 (no more drips just before waking up, never a full bed), and then woke up completely dry in the morning at 2 years 4 months and never reverted. It's an American thing to let kids get to first grade still making GBS threads themselves and it's gross and unnecessary.

Wouldn't surprise me, one of those things where once they're able to move around reliably under their own power you want to get the habits ingrained as soon as you can before they start getting stubborn.

the holy poopacy
May 16, 2009

hey! check this out
Fun Shoe

MisterOblivious posted:

My old roommate couldn't understand why I didn't use the hot tub. It's quite simple: his stinky teenage boys and their stinky friends would hop in after school without showering beforehand. It wasn't so much a hot tub as a communal bathtub full of teen boys' dirty bathwater. I'd be surprised if they weren't pissing in it.

Apparently there's just not as much of a market for Gamer Boy Water.

ApplesandOranges
Jun 22, 2012

Thankee kindly.

Bright Bart posted:

The subs haven't so much formed a Union as presented OP with a Magna Carta. Although he's not such much the king of his little kingdom but one of those despots who can personally boss around any citizen but can be overuled or deposed by unanimous vote of the populace. I guess the tyrant of some ancient Greek city-states or a despot President in some republics?

Kudos for subverting the dom-sub relationship.

BRB cheating an app for that.

In a proper sub-dom relationship, the sub is the one with the power. They act out the fantasy but only within the boundaries in which the sub feels safe.

It's when it gets abusive that... well, yeah.

Bright Bart
Apr 27, 2020

False. There is only one electron and it has never stopped
I wonder if that celebrity actually bathed in the water she sold. Or just ran a bath with body wash or had her assistant do it and sold that mixture because the thought of nerds touching themselves while sniffing her dirt & grime repulsed her.

If you act in porn you can't exactly pretend the viewer isn't being intimate with themselves while watching you on screen. And faking used underwear requires some effort (plus underwear itself isn't free or nearly free). But bath water?

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Bright Bart posted:

I wonder if that celebrity actually bathed in the water she sold. Or just ran a bath with body wash or had her assistant do it and sold that mixture because the thought of nerds touching themselves while sniffing her dirt & grime repulsed her.

If you act in porn you can't exactly pretend the viewer isn't being intimate with themselves while watching you on screen. And faking used underwear requires some effort (plus underwear itself isn't free or nearly free). But bath water?

IIRC someone sent it for testing to ensure it had human residue in it

Remulak
Jun 8, 2001
I can't count to four.
Yams Fan

Beachcomber posted:

What was the reason?
She really wanted to go to preschool and was required. We also really wanted her to go to preschool because that kid was a bundle of can’t stop moving.

Pomme de Terror
Sep 30, 2021

Well, one of us must have killed him!
AITA for dying my hair in a way that upset my stepmom and refusing to dye it to a different color?

quote:

Hi, so I (17non-binary) live 50/50 with my mom and my dad/stepmom. I recently asked my stepmom to drive me to the drug store to buy hair dye (I don’t have a license). She said yes and when we got there I picked out some silver hair dye. She got a sour look on her face and tried to convince me to go with any other color, but I said no because I wanted silver.

I asked her why she was so insistent, and she said that silver hair was making fun of old people (she’s in her late 40s and has a fair amount of natural gray hair). She said that if I died my hair silver she would take my phone until I dyed it a different color. I told we her that she couldn’t do that because my mom pays for my phone, not her or my dad. She said that it doesn’t matter because she’s my parent and can discipline me however she wants. I said fine and we left without buying any hair dye.

Well a few days later I went to my mom’s house and she helped me dye my hair silver anyway. She didn’t say anything about it being offensive and even said it looked great.

I got back to my dad’s house the other day with my silver hair, and my stepmom freaked out. She did try to take my phone but my dad stopped her because (surprise surprise) my mom pays for it and she can’t just take it without talking to my mom. She huffed and called me a “disrespectful spoiled brat” (her exact words) because I “ran to (my mom) to avoid the rules”.

My dad later asked me in private to dye my hair to a different color to keep the peace, and he even said he would pay for the dye if I just let my stepmom think she won. I said no, and threatened to stay with my mom full time if she tried to punish me for my hair. My dad called me stubborn.

They’re both being cold to me and now I’m wondering if I really am being entitled. AITA?

fondue
Jul 14, 2002

Strep Vote posted:

I did a bunch of reading about this and it's easier to train a baby as soon as they can walk rather than wait until after two. My son was poo-trained in a week at 15 months, then fully nap trained around 2 (no more drips just before waking up, never a full bed), and then woke up completely dry in the morning at 2 years 4 months and never reverted. It's an American thing to let kids get to first grade still making GBS threads themselves and it's gross and unnecessary.

Wish we'd known that when raising our kids

The Lone Badger
Sep 24, 2007

I didn't even know you could dye hair silver.

therobit
Aug 19, 2008

I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

The Lone Badger posted:

I didn't even know you could dye hair silver.

You have to bleach the gently caress out of it first.

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


used to not be a thing and it's rad to see these days
i had a hell of a time trying to get my hair silver-ish back in the day for cosplays but now you can just buy dye

Bright Bart
Apr 27, 2020

False. There is only one electron and it has never stopped

Pomme de Terror posted:

AITA for dying my hair in a way that upset my stepmom and refusing to dye it to a different color?

There is the off chance OP really was making fun of old people and stepmom knows the kid well enough to be certain of this. Even so the cool old people who don't deserve to be mocked wouldn't take silver hair dye as a personal snub and if OP let them know explicitly they would just laugh along with (or at) them.

Maybe OP was doing it to mock stepmom in particular. But then she should be the adult in the situation and reaction proportionately.

If the intention wasn't mockery but stepmom is just sensitive, well... I'm no expert on parenting but it seems like parents shouldn't limit their kids' self-expression due to their own insecurities. If a parent forbid their kid from taking up piano because they used to be a beautiful player themselves until they got arthritis it'd be ridiculous.

Bright Bart fucked around with this message at 08:38 on Jun 15, 2023

therobit
Aug 19, 2008

I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Mx. posted:

used to not be a thing and it's rad to see these days
i had a hell of a time trying to get my hair silver-ish back in the day for cosplays but now you can just buy dye

When I had it done in 97 it took some time at a salon and was not cheap. Pretty cool if it is easy to accomplish with grocery store due now.

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


AITA For Not Allowing Alcohol at my Wedding?

quote:

I (25F) am getting married May of next year. I’m currently planning the reception and I have already secured a venue. I was having a discussion with my fiancé (27F) about possible food options (catering or cooking, what types of food, buffet style or served, etc.) and my mother (60F) and one of my aunts (56F) were visiting. They threw in some thoughts and advice, as they’ve had weddings, which I really appreciate. The topic of drinking came up, and my aunt asked what kind of cocktails we’d be serving. I told her we wouldn’t be serving alcohol at the wedding. She was shocked and asked what everyone was going to drink. I told her there would be water, sweet tea, lemonade, fruit-punch, and soda available.

My aunt said that having soda was a bad idea because it’s so unhealthy, and so is sweet tea and overly sugary lemonade and fruit-punch. I told her if was so concerned about sugar content she could stick with water, and we’re planning on having plenty of fresh fruit she could add to it. We’d also have unsweet tea for my diabetic family members, or they’re welcome to request or bring a desirable alternative. She asked why alcohol couldn’t be a request. I told her I simply didn’t want to serve any at my wedding. My fiancé and I would be financially responsible for the purchase (and alcohol would frankly be out of our budget) and we would feel responsible for their actions. She asked if she and the other drinkers of the family could bring their own beer and said it really wouldn’t be a party without one. I said no, again, because it’s my wedding and fiancé and I would feel responsible for drunk guests. We also want to have a wedding that’s fun and happy because everyone there loves each other and is happy to celebrate their family/our union.

She said it was already a shame I wasn’t getting married in a church and the least I could do was make up for it with a good reception. I told her if she can’t go one evening without drinking then maybe she’s the one with a problem. At this point my mom jumped in and told me I need to apologize, I said no, I don’t appreciate how my aunt has spoken to me and she needs to leave. They ended up going, but then my aunt complained the next day on Facebook about my “dry wedding” and said she wasn’t going to torture herself driving an hour and a half to my venue just to have a bad time. She also explained how the conversation went the day before and said I called her a drunk for being healthy. I’ve been getting a lot of messages, some supportive, some on the fence, and some very angry that I want to “ruin a good reception by acting like it’s the prohibition era”. I’m honestly confused here, am I the rear end in a top hat?

Edit: my aunt’s health comment wasn’t about beer, it was about wine. She believes a glass a day is important for maintaining health and she drinks at least one glass every single day. She’s also hopped on the intermittent fasting trend, so I take her “health advice” with a grain of salt. Especially since she probably meets the medical threshold for alcoholism.

Also, another reason I don’t want alcohol is because this is a specifically kid friendly event. I want my little cousins and nieces/nephews and my fiancé’s younger family members to be able to attend. I don’t feel comfortable hosting an all-ages event with lots of alcohol and drunk adults present. A lot of my family members do not behave when they’re drunk.

EDIT 2: For those saying I should make the “dry” part clear in advance, I planned on having the entire food and drink situation for the wedding figured out and announced six months before the date. I wasn’t going to spring it on people last minute. Everyone was going to be informed and then further reminded on the Save-The-Date’s and the invites! I’m also not anti-alcohol or something. I like drinking, there are just too many concerning factors and liabilities with allowing it at my wedding, including the incredibly expensive cost of providing the alcohol.

Edit 3: To everyone suggesting a cash bar, that would invariably make this situation worse. My relatives expect me to provide alcohol for free. If I tell them they have to pay they will complain more. One of my uncles was arrested last year because the price of his favorite brand of beer went up and he stole his next 12-pack because “he deserved it after how much money he gave to that company”. He still thinks the cops and the store were in the wrong.

Edit 4: Very tired of people not reading or simply ignoring what I’ve already made clear and twisting my words. I’ve explained my case. Most of you agree with me. I am done responding to comments and explaining/answering questions.

AceClown
Sep 11, 2005

Lol saw that on reddit earlier and that edit 3 is just pure chefs kiss

Pirate Radar
Apr 18, 2008

You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!

Mx. posted:

AITA For Not Allowing Alcohol at my Wedding?

aunt sounds annoying, uncle sounds cool, no opinion on the OP

Shifty Pony
Dec 28, 2004

Up ta somethin'


Ghost Leviathan posted:

A lot of people apparently just became feral during covid.

Parents of young kids were really really hosed over during the initial response to Covid in the US.

Daycares either closed or enacted extremely strict restrictions on attendance such as "negative PCR test or 10 days absence for any fever, cough, or other signs of respiratory illness" (which with how often kids in daycare get colds and runny noses is effectively "three days of daycare, maybe, then two weeks home, repeat"). Places for socialization/play were closed and events at places like the library were canceled. If you are lucky you can WFH but good loving luck being productive with a kid <5 in the house. Can't have grandparents help since they might die.

One near-constant in human history has been some amount of communal child raising and two parents, kids, and nobody else basically never happened except for extreme situations. Turns out there's a drat good reason for that!

Nocheez
Sep 5, 2000

Can you spare a little cheddar?
Nap Ghost

Shifty Pony posted:

..., and nobody else basically never happened except for extreme situations. Turns out there's a drat good reason for that!
I've read this over and over and I still don't understand what you were going for.

i am a moron
Nov 12, 2020

"I think if there’s one thing we can all agree on it’s that Penn State and Michigan both suck and are garbage and it’s hilarious Michigan fans are freaking out thinking this is their natty window when they can’t even beat a B12 team in the playoffs lmao"
My wife and I both WFH’d during the pandemic and our kids were doing the Lord of the Flies thing. It was a loving mess and one of the worst periods of my entire life and I was in a literal war in the aughts. That being said, yea developmental differences mean sometimes a kid is making GBS threads their britches til late 2’s/early 3’s and goddamn is it nasty. But there’s a point where you can just potty train them too. I have never heard of a kindergartner still using diapers and you can put aside any external factors (special needs is a different story) besides the parents in that case. Wouldn’t be surprised if it’s some kinda stupid Facebook poo poo if it’s actually happening.

Edit: I also don’t think it’s true tbh. You can’t even get kids into older preschool classes at my daycare unless they’re potty trained. There is no way a public school administration is having teachers change kids diapers. And a kid constantly going in a diaper would not escape the notice of their peers.

i am a moron fucked around with this message at 12:35 on Jun 15, 2023

taiyoko
Jan 10, 2008


Nocheez posted:

I've read this over and over and I still don't understand what you were going for.

Read it as:

quote:

One near-constant in human history has been some amount of communal child raising and "two parents, kids, and nobody else" basically never happened except for extreme situations

and I'm sure it'll make more sense

Lusty Grundles
Jun 9, 2023

There was a tangible shift. All I know is from folks in my friend group who are also manbabies like myself and nowhere near marriage or kids. People just act differently now, it's in so many different ways that it's noticeable but probably not really worth mentioning.

Would've hated to have raised kids in that situation. Heard 'sorry' more on Zoom calls from frazzled parent-colleagues than in the many many years preceding that.

Invisible Clergy
Sep 25, 2015

"Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

MisterOblivious posted:

My old roommate couldn't understand why I didn't use the hot tub. It's quite simple: his stinky teenage boys and their stinky friends would hop in after school without showering beforehand. It wasn't so much a hot tub as a communal bathtub full of teen boys' dirty bathwater. I'd be surprised if they weren't pissing in it.

Did anyone get divorced in it?

Shifty Pony
Dec 28, 2004

Up ta somethin'


Nocheez posted:

I've read this over and over and I still don't understand what you were going for.

I should have made two sentences there, sorry.

"two parents, kids, and nobody else" -subject

"basically never happened" - predicate

"except for extreme situations." - modifier

I was saying that the situation during Covid was extremely unusual historically. It was the sort of thing that only happened when it couldn't be avoided, like when a single family was the last remaining people at a remote settlement.

Pope Corky the IX
Dec 18, 2006

What are you looking at?
Are we diagramming sentences now? loving awesome.

Clocks
Oct 2, 2007



therobit posted:

When I had it done in 97 it took some time at a salon and was not cheap. Pretty cool if it is easy to accomplish with grocery store due now.

I just want to note that grocery store dyes are still... grocery store dyes. The "platinum blonde" one I tried out basically just made my hair orange for a while. :downs: If you're not going for a "fun" color then I still recommend saving up and going to a good stylist.

Nocheez
Sep 5, 2000

Can you spare a little cheddar?
Nap Ghost

Shifty Pony posted:

I should have made two sentences there, sorry.

"two parents, kids, and nobody else" -subject

"basically never happened" - predicate

"except for extreme situations." - modifier

I was saying that the situation during Covid was extremely unusual historically. It was the sort of thing that only happened when it couldn't be avoided, like when a single family was the last remaining people at a remote settlement.

Ah, gotcha.

We had our first in 2018, and he turned 2 right as COVID broke out. Why we decided a second child was a smart idea in 2021, that I cannot explain.

Daycare during COVID was only possible because my wife was WFH and I could take the older child into my office when I wasn't traveling. There were times the entire classroom was closed due to teachers being sick, and many other stupid scenarios that made it so difficult.

And now we're paying 660 bucks a week for the privilege. At least until the end of August, when my oldest starts public school.

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.

Clocks posted:

I just want to note that grocery store dyes are still... grocery store dyes. The "platinum blonde" one I tried out basically just made my hair orange for a while. :downs: If you're not going for a "fun" color then I still recommend saving up and going to a good stylist.

I've seen it happen in high school. Sometimes the roll of the dice is just part of the fun.

And yeah, the nuclear family we've been told is an eternal constant of humanity is literally just an invention of the 50s, and like many things of that type not something that stands up to reality outside the most favourable circumstances possible.

It also became clear to the point of openly admitted that the purpose of public schools is to warehouse children while their parents work. With a side of teaching them to work factory jobs that no longer exist.

cake bunny
Oct 29, 2011

i am a moron posted:


Edit: I also don’t think it’s true tbh. You can’t even get kids into older preschool classes at my daycare unless they’re potty trained. There is no way a public school administration is having teachers change kids diapers. And a kid constantly going in a diaper would not escape the notice of their peers.

loving lol if you think that public k-12 schools in the US are allowed to turn students away for not being potty trained or that teachers aren't changing diapers for the ones who aren't able to change themselves. It mostly occurs in the under 2nd grade years, though it can happen after, too. After early elementary school, it's more likely to be teachers aides/paraprofessionals or clinic staff handling that if the student can't change themselves, unless the student is in a largely self-contained special education program, in which case the teacher themselves is just as likely to be elbow deep in diapers regardless of the age of the students.

No, the school is not going to care about anything other than there being medical documentation that the student is not yet potty trained, and then they will make arrangements to support the student's medical needs while at school. Yes, not sitting in your own waste will qualify as a medical need and no, it is not generally considered as so beyond the pale that the teacher or other regular classroom staff won't be asked to deal with it themselves in many circumstances. Also yes, the other students will totally notice the diaper wearing and it may or may not make much of an impact on how they are treated, depending on where on the Lord of the Flies scale that the school's culture falls and if the rest of the kids generally like the non-potty trained kid or not for other reasons.

Daycares are private businesses, not public schools, and do not have to follow all of the same laws about what they have to allow.

Fatty
Sep 13, 2004
Not really fat

Cowslips Warren posted:

That is loving perfect and should be used in every anti-union protest.

I'm sure reading about BDSM will really help change minds on shop floors.

InediblePenguin
Sep 27, 2004

I'm strong. And a giant penguin. Please don't eat me. No, really. Don't try.

Bright Bart posted:



Maybe more like if a Luddite was wilfully ignorant of when certain technologies were invented or sometimes gave into temptation and went to see a film in IMAX 3D. Still a Luddite but also not.
do you think the luddites were folks who randomly picked a date after which technology was evil lol

Malachite_Dragon
Mar 31, 2010

Weaving Merry Christmas magic

Mx. posted:

AITA For Not Allowing Alcohol at my Wedding?

NTA, the alcoholics can sit at home and drink.

Cowslips Warren
Oct 29, 2005

What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?

Grimey Drawer
AITA for calling my friend an alcoholic and letting her secret out in front of her fiancé?

quote:

I apologise for any mistakes, English is my second language. Oh and I'm using fake names which is something I've seen people do here? so that I can explain with more clarity..

My friend Emma (26F) and I (26F) have been friends since the first year of uni. We used to be closer but she is still a good friend.

Emma and her fiancé recently kept a small dinner at her place to start planning stuff for the wedding. Just a few family members and my husband, Jason and I.

Dinner was nice up until Emma started getting tipsy.

The thing about Emma is that she loves to drink. Even in Uni her thing was going to pubs or clubs and just having fun like that. I'm the total opposite and I hate drinking and clubbing. This never bothered me much because I don't have anything against what she does and why should I, its perfectly normal.

The problem comes when Emma disagrees with how I live.

I got together with my husband quite young which Emma thinks is boring because I should have explored more, Emma thinks me not drinking is like a crime because she needs someone to drink with. Basically a lot of our convos consist of her trying to get me to be a party animal.

Tom didn't like it in the beginning that Emma used to get drunk at least twice a week or even smoke. He was about to end things because of this when they were only dating for a few months but then Emma swore that she'd only drink socially, quit smoking and the clubbing stuff and that she never liked doing that much anyways.

The truth is though, she still does drink. When we have our girls night she drinks a lot but gets home late enough so Tom won't understand. She smokes at work and when she tells him she's with me for dinner she's actually with her other friends at pubs.

But her habit of forcing me to try drinking and smoking was annoying me a lot recently, just because I feel like for a long time I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt, but the amount she was doing that increased and I just felt so forced to be someone I'm not. I just didn't like that I had respect her lifestyle but she didn't respect mine.

I'll admit, id already had a bad day so maybe I overreacted (why I think I'm the ah) but when she kept forcing me to drink over that day (despite me saying no especially when she literally held the glass to my mouth) I snapped, I told her that I don't want to end up an alcoholic like her sneaking drinks and lying to tom about doing so. I also told her something about being disrespectful. Tom was just stunned and just asked us to leave.

The next day Tom texted Jason saying Emma had told him everything and that he's taking a break from her. Emma and her friends texted me a lot blaming me and just insulting me.

At first I didn't feel like I did something wrong, especially with Jason supporting me, but since yesterday I have started doubting myself..idk I'm confused

tldr: friend was forcing me to drink, so I snapped and told her I don't want be an alcoholic like her who lies to her bf in front of said bf.

dieselfruit
Feb 21, 2013

quote:

AITA For not giving back a leather jacket that was given to me over 10 years ago?
So, 10 years ago a friend of mine (lets call her Jackie) offered me a leather biker jacket that her grandfather had given her. The jacket was too big for Jackie and she doesn't wear stuff like that anyway. I was watching SOA at the time and Terminator 2 was one of my favorite movies growing up so I was ecstatic about the offer and immediately said yes. She said she was happy that someone was going to be wearing it instead of just sitting in the closet. On several occasions she said she was happy to see me wearing it.
For 10 years I wore this jacket. I would get excited to wear it when the weather got cold out. I became known to wear this jacket. I spent all of my 20s in it and into my 30s. I have made countless memories in it. Went through a 9 year relationship with it. Dozens of pictures of me in this jacket etc. I have owned more than twice as long as Jackie has and maybe even longer than her grandfather had at this point. For all intents and purposes it is my jacket now.
Just recently Jackie's grandfather has been having health issues and he may not be with us for much longer. She asked for it back, stating that when she gave it to me she didn't understand the importance of him giving it to her and that it the only she has of his. It's not that I am unsympathetic to this but, I fail to see how having a jacket that she wont wear and will sit in her closet will make her grandfather passing easier. Also her grandfather hasn't passed yet and there's plenty of opportunity for her to ask for something else to remember him by. Maybe even something that she could actually use or keep on display.I told them that I feel bad about the situation but I don't want to give the jacket back because of my own sentimental attachment to the jacket both the memories I have made in it and the fact that she gave it to me.

Top comments were all typical ledditor "NTA, finders keepers she shoulda thought about it when she was a dumb teenager who didn't appreciate mortality." Further down thread OP was arguing with people telling him YTA for prioritizing a piece of clothing over a woman's grieving, and said that his feeling of loss over this coat he apparently hasn't ever taken off is greater than her loss of her grandfather. Was bullied until he admitted that he really just didn't want to lose a cool jacket and isn't that sentimental about this one specifically, threw poo poo everywhere, and nuked his account.

Irisi
Feb 18, 2009

Strep Vote posted:

It's an American thing to let kids get to first grade still making GBS threads themselves and it's gross and unnecessary.

Not just American. My friend teaches Primary One (so children aged 5) here in the UK, and over the Covid period has noticed a massive shift in how prepared the kids are to come to school.

Mums taking their dummies/pacifiers off them at the school gates, dads pushing their 5 year olds in buggies/pushchairs because the kid doesn't like to walk far. 5 year olds who have almost never interacted with another kid and have no idea how to share or play together. Kids not toilet trained, kids who don't know how to use cutlery and lack even the manual dexterity to hold a crayon or pencil because they've never been given them, they've just been provided with a tablet to watch. Kids who still speak in toddler-gibberish because their mum thinks its' cute and they've not had any interaction with other kids or adults that would guide them into speaking in a more understandable fashion.

Covid-babies, I feel for everyone concerned, especially their teachers. She is 100% sure that it's a timebomb waiting to explode horribly in their teenage years in a decades time.

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FoolyCharged
Oct 11, 2012

Cheating at a raffle? I sentence you to 1 year in jail! No! Two years! Three! Four! Five years! Ah! Ah! Ah! Ah!
Somebody call for an ant?

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for calling my friend an alcoholic and letting her secret out in front of her fiancé?

Not the rear end in a top hat. I have no idea what it is about alcohol, but so many people don't understand no means no with it.

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