- therobit
- Aug 19, 2008
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Lol, no. The thing with babysitting is that 99% of the time, it's standard bullshit that you can absolutely check out of and not give a poo poo about. That remaining 1% of the time, the kid has a serious problem (medical, emotional, psych, or whatever) that needs you to be sober to intervene. Assuming that you only need to be sober enough to handle the median situation will absolutely gently caress the kid (and you) up.
Essentially, it's just like parenting, except you're getting money for it and therefore held to a higher standard.
I have bad news for you about the sobriety of parents.
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No, that's my point.
When you're parenting, nobody actually gives a poo poo if you're too drunk to take your kid to the hospital. When you're babysitting, people will lose their poo poo if you're too drunk to take their kid to the hospital. There's a wildly different standard in play, based on whether you're getting paid to do it or if you're doing it for free (and presumptively by choice). There is no world in which babysitting "as well as the parents do" is considered to be acceptable or legal.
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- therobit
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I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time
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No, that's my point.
When you're parenting, nobody actually gives a poo poo if you're too drunk to take your kid to the hospital. When you're babysitting, people will lose their poo poo if you're too drunk to take their kid to the hospital. There's a wildly different standard in play, based on whether you're getting paid to do it or if you're doing it for free (and presumptively by choice). There is no world in which babysitting "as well as the parents do" is considered to be acceptable or legal.
She’s their stepsister, not a professional.
AITAH for leaving money to my girlfriend in my will?
quote:
I (55M) have an arrangement with my wife (54F). We have been married for 32 years and around year 15, the sex life started getting stale. Around that time we were both in our late thirties. Our two kids were in that pre teen funk and my career was accelerating at a speed that I never anticipated while my wife had just gone back to work part time.
All that is to say I was spending a lot of time away from home, my wife didn't seem to mind that, and did not seem to care that nobody was initiating sex anymore.
A few years go by and we wake up at 46 and 47 to realize how much tension there was in our marriage. We finally had the money, house, and friends we wanted, but there was mutual resentment. After trying three therapists we accepted the fact that we were both no longer up to being intimate with each other.
My wife and I agreed that we could both have flings on the side as long as we did not humiliate each other. However, while she did sleep with one other man on and off, she said she was happy being sexless.
Meanwhile, I, 5 years ago, started a discreet relationship with my girlfriend (28F). Over the years I began to have feelings for her. She's had trouble with depression and employment so I pay her rent and buy her some things. My wife isn't thrilled but said she's fine with it as long as the money doesn't make a real dent in our finances.
However, now, maybe as punishment for my unhealthy life choices, I have cancer. That's when I realized a lot of the emotional bonding I've done over the years have been with my girlfriend. I regret the fact that I cannot marry her and wanted to show that I care about the years she's sacrificed for me.
My wife and I signed a prenup because I was going to med school and she in her youth had money problems. It entitled her to half my estate, but the other half I could do what I wished with it. I decided to meet with my lawyer and give 20 percent of my liquid assets to my girlfriend. In addition, she would be given an investment property I had which would yield her about $60,000 a year in rent money.
I told my wife right after I met with my lawyer and she was furious. She said that she tolerated this girlfriend but leaving her money went too far. She said that her main concern was that I was taking away from our kids and they would have to find out about this. I told her that my girlfriend means something to me, even when I tried to not let that happen. And reminded her that she agreed to the arrangement and she would still be getting the bulk of my estate.
AITAH? I manage our finances and a lot of the money given to my girlfriend she will be the only one besides me and my lawyer to have access to. My wife will also get her fair share. And no there are no alienation of affection laws in our state.
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AITA for telling my gf the reason she’s always sick of because of her poor hygiene?
quote:I don’t think I’m in the wrong here but maybe I’m being unreasonable, I don’t know.
I 24F have been with my gf 22F for about 2 years now. She’s wonderful and I love her a lot. On our very first date, something I noticed was that she didn’t seem very concerned with cleanliness. Something to note is that masks were still mandatory where we live and so covid concerns were still very much a thing. We ended our date by grabbing a snack that she wanted us to bring back to her place. We got there and she immediately started taking everything out without washing her hands. Maybe I’m just a clean freak, but this surprised me a little. I brushed it off until she excitedly tried to get me to try some charcuterie jelly she had. She did this by dipping her finger directly into the jar and holding it out for me to try. At this point I felt pretty icky about it and jokingly said something like “and get a taste of all that stuff we were touching earlier?” (We were out and about, public transit, etc). She seemed a little embarrassed but agreed that was a little gross, but still didn’t wash her hands. This was the first day we knew each other.
To this day, I have not witnessed her wash her hands with anything more than water. And even that takes me asking multiple times. She will go about her whole day, use the washroom, etc. without washing her hands. She loves finding “treasures” when we’re walking around, like abandoned toys, household stuff, clothes, etc even if they are visibly very dirty. She touches everything and anything, doesn’t wash her hands. She also showers maybe twice a week, doesn’t use soap there either. The ONLY time she washes her hair or uses soap to clean her body is when I literally do it for her, which she says she enjoys. This wouldn’t bother me so much if it weren’t for a few things: she likes to cook for me, she loves to dip her fingers into jars and drink straight from bottles instead of using silverware and cups, she touches my face a lot, and to be honest, she stinks. And onto my main point, she is ALWAYS sick.
She tends to be very sensitive and gets very upset if she thinks that I’m implying that she’s gross in any way, so I try to be as gentle as possible when encouraging her to wash herself. Eventually, I guess I got fed up when she was complaining about being sick again, and said that maybe the reason she keeps getting colds, covid, etc. is because her hygiene isn’t very good. She got really quiet, cried a bit, and now she thinks that I think she is disgusting and cries whenever I bring up washing hands or anything like that. She used to just laugh and brush it off but now she seems to be really upset by it. I don’t know what else to do, and I feel like a jerk. But I don’t think I did anything wrong either.
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Jun 24, 2023 06:34
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AITA for kicking my sister out on her ear after she found and exposed my secret to our family?
So here is the backstory first Im 36 and live in the UK, I bought my home with some compensation money i recieved about 7 years ago, It was enough to allow me to buy a decently sized home with a little extra for a rainy day. I work part time to pay the regular bills and give me some spending money, Im not super well off but im alot better off then most are. During covid my sister lost her job and ended up moving in with me. Im the only one of our family in the area and the arrangement made was that I would allow her to stay in exchange for her covering half of the utilities and some token rent once she got a new job (that all happened).
For the last few years this has all worked well, but recently she ended up discovering a secret of mine which is very embarassing to have others know of, but only has impact on me and is really no one elses business, this week told our other sisters and our mum about it causing me a significant amount of embarassment, stress and feelings of betrayal.Since ive now been effectively outed as a freak and a weirdo to the rest of my family Ive given her until Sunday to leave before i change the locks.
Shes complaining that she has no where to go (no one else lives locally enough to take her in and let her keep her new job). I told her that since for the past few years shes only been paying minimal rent she should have plenty saved up to put at least a rental deposit down. Shes saying im being an rear end in a top hat for giving her no time but i just dont want her here anymore after taking someting so private to me and just casually dropping it to all the people i care about.
So my question is AITA?
I can't really fault the sister for this. Finding out your sibling is into anal vore is so shocking, I would have told everyone.
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Jun 24, 2023 07:32
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- therobit
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I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time
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OK, this one is bizarre:
I'm F 39 and he is M 46 - Am I overreacting?
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Throwaway account.
My partner and I had a big fight last week and it has really upset me. Partner thinks he's in the right and I think he's wrong.
The fight started over a vacuum cleaner I bought last week, I brought it home and tried it and it didn't work (no suction) after trying for hours (both of us) to get it to work we gave up and decided it doesn't work. It cost me $200 and I said to my partner I am going to return it the next day for either a replacement or refund.
He got mad at me and said to forget about it. I asked what he meant and he said don't waste your time (the shop is a 5 minute drive from home) asking for a refund or replacement. $200 for me is a fair bit of money to throw away and he told me to just accept that sometimes you buy things and they don't work and just live with it.
The fight continued for hours as I purchased with my own money and because the item doesn't work I think I deserve a replacement or refund and he thinks I'm going too far. This is what the entire argument has been about.
What are your thoughts, please?
TLDR - I bought a vacuum cleaner that doesn't work and partner thinks I'm going too far wanting to take it back to get a refund and we had a huge fight over this. Am I overreacting?
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What is the aggressive defeatism is that about? Too cowardly to even seek what you bought for yourself, but actively hostile to someone else doing it. Let's companies walk all over him but has to stand up to wife.
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- Evil Willow
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AITA for trying to calm myself under stress?
quote:My wife was in the hospital having emergency surgery and I watched porn while she was recovering in the hospital. I was in the same room with her and she was asleep and had no idea. I got horny and needed to take care of it. She obviously couldn't help me out with that. I ended up telling her after she asked me about something unrelated. I misunderstood what she said and basically ended up telling on myself. She is so mad and says that she is heartbroken. I didn't do anything wrong. Why is she so angry? I was stressed out and needed a release.
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- limp dick calvin
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Strepitoso. Vedete? Una meraviglia.
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- Elissimpark
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Jeez, Shinji, what's with you and hospital rooms?
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- Malachite_Dragon
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Weaving Merry Christmas magic
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You don't understand! Sasha Grey is the only way I can destress!
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"I'm made up of the memories of my parents and my grandparents, all my ancestors. They're in the way I look, in the colour of my hair. And I'm made up of everyone I've ever met who's changed the way I think"
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She’s their stepsister, not a professional.
AITAH for leaving money to my girlfriend in my will?
Back in the 40s [Spain, divorce was illegal here], my great-aunt was the official lover of a doctor. He was married, her wife couldn't or wouldn't have children, she gave him one. This seems to have been considered normal if not socially accepted, because he did pay for their housing, paid for his child's superior education and when he passed he officially left her and her (by then adult) son the house in his will. I'm guessing he didn't give a crap to ask his wife for permission, though.
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- Eshettar
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*whispers*
yospos, bithc
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quote:AITA for offending my ex's parents after they tried to get us back together?
I am 38f. I was in a relationship with Mark (42m) for 9 years. Mark was a widower with two kids when we met. His kids were not able to handle Mark moving on, so we discussed going slow and giving them room to accept it and if not, when they were both out of the house we could proceed at a faster pace. I was fine with that because I never wanted to push. So we dated but didn't live together or anything. Mark did therapy with the kids and had them speak to individual therapists to try and help them deal with their grief and to help them understand that he deserved to be happy.
The kids were always very distant and cold toward me. I never pushed, but I did attempt to form a bond with them. But it always felt like I was being dismissed.
Fast forward to both of them being out of the house and they had expressed that they were uncomfortable with visiting the home if I were to move in, and that they would not be able to treat me like part of their family. Mark wanted us to give it a little more time and maybe go out to visit as a couple before things progressed.
So a couple of months after that we went out, along with his parents, to see his kids and to spend time all together. They ignored me for the most part. The one time I wasn't ignored, someone mistook me for their mom and the younger of the two kids snapped at me for not being quicker with my no in response. They attempted to take everyone out for dinner except for me. When the night came they claimed they could only get a table for five, not six, and that it was a family dinner so it should be me left out.
It was after this I realized, despite Mark standing up for me, that I could not do it. I told him his kids would never be okay with me and I had waited for 9 years and they were still treating me like some pushy intruder who didn't even deserve casual friendliness.
He was devastated, his parents were upset, and on and off since our breakup they were in touch to check on how I was doing. They then tried to set me up on a date with Mark a few weeks ago. I told them they needed to put that to rest because it was not going to happen. That I was moving on with my life and they needed to let us all do the same because it was not healthy for us to be together. They said Mark and I love each other and I said we did, but that I loved myself enough not to tie myself forever to a man who has kids who will never, ever come to terms with his moving on. That I had my dreams of a family and it was not something I would sacrifice or carry out with someone who has family who would treat them badly.
They said I was unfairly blaming the kids and took offense to my not loving Mark enough to endure it. I felt bad because maybe I was too harsh?
AITA?
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AITA for not asking my father to walk me down the aisle?
quote:Throwaway for personal reasons.
I (27F) am engaged, planning to get married to my partner (30F) of 3yrs next year. Since I came out as bi (when I was 15) my dad hasn't been supportive of me. He was upset when I first told him about my fiancee & has made it clear he doesn’t approve of me being with a woman. He’s v distant when I take her to my parents’ home for dinner, won't talk to her when making conversation at the dinner table. When my fiancee isn't around he's made a lot of subtle cutting comments about her/our relationship despite me telling him to back off, he makes it v clear in general that he doesn’t see her as family. Basically he's been casually homophobic my entire life, you know the type. He's not providing any financial support for the wedding & when I asked if he would actually be attending the wedding he just gave me a snide "we'll see" so I honestly wasn't even expecting he would turn up.
Part of our intended wedding ceremony will involve me being walked down the aisle & given away, I enjoy a lot of the classic wedding traditions & that's one I really want to carry out. I assumed my dad wouldn't want to walk me down the aisle, tbh I don't want him to either, so I asked a male friend (58M) instead (1 week ago). This man has known me for almost half my life, he's like a mentor to me & honestly has been more of a father figure to me than my actual dad has, I love him like a paternal figure. We met when I was 16, he was teaching an acting class I signed up for (we both work in theatre). He's provided lots of emotional support over the years & been openly supportive of my relationship from the start. He has two sons around my age & has said before he sees me a bit like the daughter he never had. He said he'd be honoured to give me away.
My dad learned of this fact recently, I’m not sure how. He's FURIOUS, he says I’m undermining his authority as a parent & making him look like an rear end in a top hat/fool to everyone who attends the wedding & if I insist on going through with this he won’t attend at all, there’s no way he’s going to sit at a table & watch some other man give me away. He's pissed I didn't ask him. After he said that I asked if he would have said yes, he dodged the question & yelled at me & eventually hung up on me.
I admit I didn't consider asking him & I honestly didn't see the need to. I guess it'll be embarrassing for my dad if he comes but considering his behaviour towards me & my fiancee over the course of our relationship I don’t feel like he’s justified to make this demand.
Am I the rear end in a top hat for not asking my actual dad to walk me down the aisle?
UPDATE: AITA for not asking my father to walk me down the aisle?
quote:Hi AITA, I posted here 3 years ago. This update is obviously LONG overdue but things have been intense the past few years so I forgot about this account for a long time. I remembered it while browsing some other subreddits & thought I would share my update because things are better than I ever thought they could be back in 2020.
So COVID obviously scuppered our wedding plans, it was meant to be in Jan 2021, but by that time our country still wasn’t in stable enough condition to throw the big wedding with friends & family we wanted. I also lost my job because my company closed, so we wanted to watch our budget.
My dad got COVID early in the pandemic & it was bad enough that he ended up in hospital. Visiting rules were v strict & only my mom could visit him & they were both actually really scared he might die. He didn’t but it affected him for a long time afterward. He started going back to church when things opened up a bit (both my parents are Catholic but my mom was always the more religious one, he was a bit more lapsed) & you guys will not believe this - my wife & I were SHOCKED - that was what made him realise he was a bit of a homophobic AH?!?! The church he went to is quite progressive & is big on the whole ‘accept everyone exactly as they are because that is how God made us & only God can judge’ stuff, & the ‘almost dying from COVID’ thing apparently gave him a different outlook on things. Cut a long story short, we started seeing each other more, we had a lot of long emotional talks, he slowly started apologising to me & my wife for being an AH (including the wedding thing) & we are now closer than we have been since I was a TEENAGER.
Both he & my mentor were at our make-up wedding last year. We ended up making the ceremony a lot less formal than planned because I guess living through COVID gave us different outlooks too, my wife & I just wanted to have a fun time & not care too much about strict traditions, so we ended up walking down the aisle together while all our family & friends sat & watched & cheered lol!
Things are good. We have dinner with my parents at least once a month & it’s awesome. I found a better job & we’re more financially stable now & thinking about having kids. I’m excited. Thanks AITA for the judgments & responses back then & I guess I want to tell everyone that sometimes things work out even when you don’t expect them to. Life can surprise you so look forward to those surprises!
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- kimbo305
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AITA for trying to calm myself under stress?
I misunderstood what she said and basically ended up telling on myself
"Hey did you have any corn?"
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- wheatpuppy
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YOU HAVE MY POST!
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AITA for purchasing my guy friend his dream birthday present and "outshining" his girlfriend in the process?
quote:My guy friend, "Tom," has been one of my best friends since college. We're in our mid 20's now and are both currently in committed relationships with long term partners. I have never had feelings for Tom nor has he ever had feelings for me.
Since college, Tom has been a huge watch fanatic. Two months ago, he was showing me this stunning vintage watch and made an off-handed comment about how he would die of joy if he somehow got his hands on one.
Very coincidentally, I was in NYC a few weeks ago and stumbled upon this watch store that just so happened to have the exact one Tom wanted. It was expensive, I wont lie, at about $2,500, but I decided to get it for his 25th birthday (to me, it was basically fate lol). My boyfriend and I do very well financially so this was something that I could personally afford and wanted to buy for Tom, especially knowing how happy it'd make him.
Tom has a tradition of hosting a dinner party at his place for his birthday and then following that up with cake and gift opening. I told him before the dinner that my gift was a huge surprise and asked if he could save it for last and he agreed. His girlfriend ends up going first and she gets him this gorgeous sweater that she crocheted for him and a book that he's been wanting, which I thought was super thoughtful and lovely. Last, it was my gift. When he opened it and saw what it was he literally screamed, hopped over a bunch of people, and squeezed me in this huge bear hug. I was SO happy to see him happy, it genuinely filled me with so much joy. He even got emotional and I saw him swipe a few tears. He also said that it was the "best gift he'd ever received." The whole time, his girlfriend was only slightly smiling and stayed quiet.
The next morning, I get a text from his girlfriend that essentially said that although she appreciated my thoughtful gift, she thought that it was a bit out of touch and lacking awareness. She admitted that Tom had also told her about the watch and she wanted to get it for him, but it was way out of her budget. She accused me of knowing this (I had NO idea) and still getting it to rub it in her face and to "outshine" her. She finished by saying how she felt like I had overstepped a boundary by getting the gift and would appreciate me not doing anything similar to it again in the future. I responded and told her that while I could see her POV, I was just trying to do a nice thing for a close friend of mine. I asked her, wouldn't you rather he gotten the gift and seen the happiness that it brought him than him not getting it at all? She responded that that happiness was "only shared between [me] and Tom" and no one else and that she felt hurt by my actions.
Only my boyfriend knows about this and he's on my side. But thinking through it all again, I do see how I could've overstepped, but my boyfriend says that it's not my job to apologize for her insecurities. So AITA here?
"Hey, rich friend, have I ever mentioned how cool it would be if only someone could afford this dream gift for me?"
wheatpuppy fucked around with this message at 15:07 on Jun 24, 2023
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- Nocheez
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Can you spare a little cheddar?
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That's a tough one. There's no way to give a very expensive gift without someone finding fault with it.
I guess she could have done it in private, but then it would look like they're loving on the side or something. Maybe the answer is no one gets to have nice things, ever.
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Jun 24, 2023 15:24
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- Cerekk
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Buying the gift doesn't make her an rear end in a top hat, but refusing to apologize would.
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- Nocheez
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Can you spare a little cheddar?
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I agree, an apology would go a long way. I don't understand why people find it so hard to say sorry when they've made things awkward. It costs a lot less than a $2500 watch.
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- wheatpuppy
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YOU HAVE MY POST!
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Buying the gift doesn't make her an rear end in a top hat, but refusing to apologize would.
Buying it might not have made her the rear end in a top hat, but deliberately making a huge spectacle out of presenting it sure did. She 100% knew what she was doing.
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Jun 24, 2023 16:05
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- Khanstant
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A rich person who doesn't even know how to deliver a hollow apology?
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Jun 24, 2023 16:32
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- Rescue Toaster
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If you 'point out' something you desperately want to your rich friend, and they do get it for you, maybe don't loving trip over yourself fawning over them in front of your GF who you obviously knew couldn't afford it for you.
You can always express your gratitude more thoroughly in private (I don't mean that as a euphemism), and not announce to everyone at the party how much better it is than anything else you've ever gotten, especially all the worthless poo poo everyone else just got you.
I agree there's no reason it had to be a birthday present, and thus invite comparisons to all the other more reasonable gifts. Do it some other time. So both the OP and her friend are assholes in my book.
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- Ghost Leviathan
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Exploration is ill-advised.
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Social media has broken quite a few people.
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Jun 24, 2023 17:15
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- kimbo305
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A friend actually did this exact same thing a couple years ago, except she posted on Facebook. Five days after their wedding.
She never actually brought it up to her husband after that either. He waited a week to see if she would talk about it with him, then finally brought it up himself because he was worried she would divorce him. There are so many other messed up things about their marriage, but that was definitely in the top three.
Are you saying it was fake for attention / not reflective of her sexuality?
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Jun 24, 2023 18:00
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You'll be ahead instead of behind. Hello!
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I agree there's no reason it had to be a birthday present, and thus invite comparisons to all the other more reasonable gifts. Do it some other time. So both the OP and her friend are assholes in my book.
poo poo, why didn't she contact the gf and be like hey if you'll throw me $50 we can say this is from both of us??
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Jun 24, 2023 18:15
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A friend actually did this exact same thing a couple years ago, except she posted on Facebook. Five days after their wedding.
She never actually brought it up to her husband after that either. He waited a week to see if she would talk about it with him, then finally brought it up himself because he was worried she would divorce him. There are so many other messed up things about their marriage, but that was definitely in the top three.
Wouldn’t that technically be an annulment?
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Jun 24, 2023 18:24
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A friend actually did this exact same thing a couple years ago, except she posted on Facebook. Five days after their wedding.
She never actually brought it up to her husband after that either. He waited a week to see if she would talk about it with him, then finally brought it up himself because he was worried she would divorce him. There are so many other messed up things about their marriage, but that was definitely in the top three.
Are they still married? how long ago was this?
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Jun 24, 2023 18:28
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- Skutter
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Well you can fuck that sky high!
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Are you saying it was fake for attention / not reflective of her sexuality?
I didn't say that at all, and I'm not sure how you got that from my post. I was just commenting that she did the similar thing of posting about being asexual on social media before talking about it with her partner.
From talks we had before she even started dating the guy, she brought up wanting biological kids, wanting a sexual relationship with someone, etc., so it never occurred to me that she was asexual. Sexuality is fluid and people can change over the years of course, but that's something you should probably bring up with a partner when you're talking marriage. And if you realize it after the wedding, maybe bring it up to your partner first, and not social media.
Wouldn’t that technically be an annulment?
Are they still married? how long ago was this?
They got married in...2021? They're still together. Another friend and I had a dinner with her a few weeks after the post and brought it up to see how she and her husband were doing, if things were okay between them. She said everything was fine and implied that she basically just "puts up with" having sex with her husband. :/
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AITA for “abandoning” my coworker on the side of the road
quote:Title makes it sound bad but that’s how my boss is describing it.
I was asked to drive a coworker to the company’s warehouse so he could pick up a vehicle and bring it back to the office.
This coworker has the worst hygiene of anyone I’ve ever met. He constantly comes into work without showering and he’s admitted he doesn’t brush his teeth because it makes his gums bleed. Dude smells like poo poo 99% of the time and can stink up our average sized office so I was not excited to be giving him a ride in my car.
I drove with my windows down and on the way to the warehouse we passed through an area that was a residential neighborhood with a bunch of small dairy and livestock farms.
He told me to (not asked) roll the window up because the farms smelled like poo poo. I told him they still smell better than his body odor and the windows are staying down. It’s worth noting that me and this coworker do not get along for reasons other than his poor hygiene.
We start arguing back and forth and he tells me to “pull your loving car over”. So I did just that and he got out on a street that had a bunch of houses and a small convenience store and told me to gently caress off, so I promptly left.
Not long after I got a call from my boss screaming at me for “abandoning” that rear end in a top hat in the “middle of nowhere” and not doing what he asked me to. I tried to tell him that he voluntarily got out of my car in a residential area but he wasn’t hearing it and I got told to go pick him up. I replied that I would only get him if he popped a breath mint and I got told to start my weekend early and not come back to the office until Monday.
Feels like a reward to be frank but am I the rear end in a top hat? Skutter fucked around with this message at 21:11 on Jun 24, 2023
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Jun 24, 2023 21:05
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- tactlessbastard
- Feb 4, 2001
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Godspeed, post
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Fun Shoe
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She said everything was fine and implied that she basically just "puts up with" having sex with her husband. :/
What’s husband's take on the situation lol
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AITA for “abandoning” my coworker on the side of the road
On the bright side, you aren’t going to have to work with pigpen anymore.
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Jun 24, 2023 21:17
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- kimbo305
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actually, yeah, I am a little mad
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I didn't say that at all, and I'm not sure how you got that from my post. I was just commenting that she did the similar thing of posting about being asexual on social media before talking about it with her partner.
I couldn't tell if, in the original telling, that she confirmed it to her husband once he asked.
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Jun 24, 2023 21:25
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- vonnegutt
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Hobocamp.
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AITA for purchasing my guy friend his dream birthday present and "outshining" his girlfriend in the process?
"Hey, rich friend, have I ever mentioned how cool it would be if only someone could afford this dream gift for me?"
Very coincidentally, I was in NYC a few weeks ago and stumbled upon this watch store that just so happened to have the exact one Tom wanted.
This is when I knew she was the rear end in a top hat. "Very coincidentally", "stumbled upon", "just so happened" ...3x in the same sentence? Overexplaining = Liar. Also who just "stumbles into" fancy watch stores? At the very least you have to ask a store clerk for the exact model which is a deliberate act.
She 100% was trying to upstage the girlfriend, probably bc she has a crush on her friend.
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Jun 24, 2023 21:42
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peed on;
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This is when I knew she was the rear end in a top hat. "Very coincidentally", "stumbled upon", "just so happened" ...3x in the same sentence? Overexplaining = Liar. Also who just "stumbles into" fancy watch stores?
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Jun 24, 2023 21:51
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Another day in paradise.
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She said everything was fine and implied that she basically just "puts up with" having sex with her husband. :/
There's countless shows, movies, and comedians that indicate this is how all marriages are.
Our culture is so poisoned.
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Jun 24, 2023 22:59
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- porktree
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You just fucked with the wrong Mexican.
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My husband and I both forgot it was Father's Day and just spent the day hanging out together as we always do. Then again, our youngest is 30 and he also forgot Father's Day, as did his older sibling.
Pretty good day. Having no expectations helps. We also didn't do anything special for the 41st wedding anniversary because we both had migraines.
I also have offspring in their early 30s. I have never understood the infantile need to have fathers day celebrated. And all the weeping and wailing when some doesn't get super special treatment on the <parent>day. It all seems so pouty and childish.
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