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Pope Corky the IX posted:So you’re saying she’s making a mountain out of a mohel. 
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quantumwell posted:Ugh, reminds me of a young woman I knew in Mid-New York State, she had been "discovered" by an acting school in NYC and had spent the past 10 years taking acting classes and was still waiting for her big break let alone an acting part. She was an adult but still lived with her parents while not even holding down a job. Another woman had been approached by a Photographer, again from NYC who convinced her that her 5-year-old was model material. I don't know how much time and money she wasted on a very average tyke's career. Is it really wasted if it paid some photographer's rent?
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Jul 13, 2023 03:58
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My cousin "married" his girlfriend who had a double-lung transplant for a terrible disease. He can never legally marry her because she has so much medical debt that it would financially ruin him as well, but they still had a ceremony and I would never say their union is less than another just because of legal reasons. Is there a reason they have to sign a legal, notarized document?
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Jul 13, 2023 03:59
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A will from a wealthy but obscure great-uncle bachelor that singles him out as the sole beneficiary of his fortune, unless he marries before the age of [x], in which case it will be given to his parents instead
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Jul 13, 2023 04:12
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MagusofStars posted:Lesser known 41 year old actresses can already struggle to book jobs even if they have previous well-regarded roles in other films / shows. For someone with zero acting experience, zero acting training, zero contacts, and an "I'm too good to work my way up from local" attitude? She legitimately might have better odds on building a small moon rocket in the backyard. No. You see it was the husband not letting her fly to NY, Atlanta and LA for months at a time who was holding her back. This woman would have been much better off if she had gotten some roles in local community theatre, and could call herself an "actress" and satisfy her delusions of grandeur that way. Instead she has moved to LA to be a star.
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Jul 13, 2023 04:34
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I bet you could start an acting career in your 40s if your ambition is to get like "mom in a commercial" type roles. Blowing up a family for that is kinda nuts, though.
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Jul 13, 2023 04:35
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BrigadierSensible posted:No. You see it was the husband not letting her fly to NY, Atlanta and LA for months at a time who was holding her back. At the time, they already lived in LA - the husband only recently moved to the bay area for his work. So it becomes even more insane that she wanted to go to NY or Atlanta or wherever for *weeks at a time* because she had a shot at a commercial. Unrelated, but I just realized my tablet autocorrects "insane" to "INSANE" and I don't know why or when that started. But I suspect it's to do with this thread.
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Jul 13, 2023 04:38
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Just be the woman that drops and spills poo poo as everything goes black and white.
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Jul 13, 2023 04:38
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Just be the woman that drops and spills poo poo as everything goes black and white. Please turn my monitor back on.
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Jul 13, 2023 04:39
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the woman in that sears AC commercial only she completely loses her poo poo at her husband
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Jul 13, 2023 04:40
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for telling my biological daughter i’m not her mother? Do people actually do this? I mean, obviously there are surrogates and such, but I can't imagine having a kid with my spouse, handing it to my sister, and waving goodbye for the next 10 years. The thought of my kid out there being raised by others kind of freaks me out, especially since I have kids of my own, like OP does. It'd weird me out to think I wouldn't love that kid as much as I do the ones in my house, and want to be part of its life. OP is like, sure, it's just a kid, why not? And her husband is totally cool with it and has no attachment to the child either?
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Jul 13, 2023 04:50
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I mean surrogacy is a thing for a reason. And some people are very easily able to compartmentalize. If they were surrogates for a friend who lived half the world away it'd feel different, but it's not ya know? But also I dunno how I'd feel basically watching the kid grow up either. I don't have, don't plan to, and can't have kids, so luckily not an issue I'll have to deal with lol
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Nocheez posted:My cousin "married" his girlfriend who had a double-lung transplant for a terrible disease. He can never legally marry her because she has so much medical debt that it would financially ruin him as well, but they still had a ceremony and I would never say their union is less than another just because of legal reasons. Is there a reason they have to sign a legal, notarized document? I think that the two who want to get married want to actually legally get married and don't understand (or care) that it will hurt their finances. Family wants them to THINK they're married so they don't have to pick up financial slack if they actually get married.
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Yeah, why not? Pretty good deal, all things considered. Although the ideal is finding a nest with a few eggs in it, knock em out and put yours in there instead and let someone else do the gestating AND the feeding.
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Jul 13, 2023 05:01
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She's a dipshit but I don't think it's possible to argue with her without being an even bigger dipshit by virtue of caring about stolen runner's valor. Just smile and nod and let her be an idiot.
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Jul 13, 2023 05:07
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Nocheez posted:My cousin "married" his girlfriend who had a double-lung transplant for a terrible disease. He can never legally marry her because she has so much medical debt that it would financially ruin him as well, but they still had a ceremony and I would never say their union is less than another just because of legal reasons. Is there a reason they have to sign a legal, notarized document? Disabled cousin wants to marry his disabled girlfriend. This is all cool and good. The thing is if they get legally married, they will half their income, (only one Disability check for the couple as opposed to two for the two singles). And as the couple struggles financially as it is, Grandma wants to have all the fooferall of a wedding but not to have it be legal. So they can keep both disability checks. And is trying to drag OP in to participate in the "fake" wedding. OP says no because it's immoral to lie to the disabled people. As a legal notary he can get in trouble for it. Also, it will cause drama, (at the least), when the disabled couple find out they were lied to. So the couple are fine and in love and all that, Grandma is just trying to trick them so she can commit legal and financial fraud, and OP is rightfully having nothing to do with it. That's my reading of the situation anyway. I may very well be wrong.
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lifg posted:What happens to all those actors and actresses who move to LA and never break big? Do they leave? Do they stick around waiting tables forever? Do they get jobs in related fields? They do porn.
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Jul 13, 2023 05:19
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How does it take like a year to hit 42km? How little do people move? I'm not even a runner, I've done a couple 10km runs and they were fun (and exhausting!) and I irregularly go for a walk to the city which is about 5km along a nice route, but even disregarding that I would have thought on average people are moving like 1km a day at least? Like moving 100m ten times a day seems pretty minimal? Even walking around an office filing papers etc. I guess if you are 100% at a desk I understand the limitations, but if you're a runner then it doesn't matter anyway? I'm just perplexed at 42km taking a year.
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FMguru posted:Yeah, stories where big developments happen in real time as updates or in the comments section always get my "this is a creative writing exercise" antennae twitching. Trust no one
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Jul 13, 2023 05:25
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Midnight Voyager posted:I think that the two who want to get married want to actually legally get married and don't understand (or care) that it will hurt their finances. Family wants them to THINK they're married so they don't have to pick up financial slack if they actually get married. It's amazing how weird and horrible and stupid people get about the mentally disabled and try to basically Truman Show them through life. I do get the feeling there's a heavy misunderstanding of disability welfare laws involved too.
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Jul 13, 2023 05:28
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Ghost Leviathan posted:It's amazing how weird and horrible and stupid people get about the mentally disabled and try to basically Truman Show them through life. I do get the feeling there's a heavy misunderstanding of disability welfare laws involved too. I don’t know enough about this stuff to say for sure but maybe it’s possible them getting married would threaten to reveal that the family has been committing fraud and skimming from the disability checks for years.
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syntaxfunction posted:How does it take like a year to hit 42km? How little do people move? I'm not even a runner, I've done a couple 10km runs and they were fun (and exhausting!) and I irregularly go for a walk to the city which is about 5km along a nice route, but even disregarding that I would have thought on average people are moving like 1km a day at least? I'm not a runner, but here's all the running I do all the time
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Jul 13, 2023 05:38
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My dude doing a couple 10km runs like a half decade ago and walking 5km a couple times a year does not make me a runner lmao It's be like plinking away on a keyboard every now and again and telling everyone I was a pianist.
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You were talking about a years worth of walking so I assumed you were bringing up recent running.
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Khanstant posted:You were talking about a years worth of walking so I assumed you were bringing up recent running. 42.2km of incidental exercise should be pretty standard, you don't need to run 10kms to do that. That's less than 1km of movement a week in less than a year. That's, yeah, not a lot?
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Nocheez posted:My cousin "married" his girlfriend who had a double-lung transplant for a terrible disease. He can never legally marry her because she has so much medical debt that it would financially ruin him as well, but they still had a ceremony and I would never say their union is less than another just because of legal reasons. Is there a reason they have to sign a legal, notarized document? It doesn't work like Cowboy Bebop where you are automatically on the hook for your spouse's debts. Shady debt collectors will absolutely try and bully you into paying but as long as you keep your finances separate it wouldn't be a problem. Unless I guess wife is also on SSDI and getting married would put her over that threshold.
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MagusofStars posted:Good news everyone, we can now all say we completed a marathon! because over the entire course of your life it probably adds up to 26.2 miles By that definition, I ran a marathon when I was 12 in seventh grade PE running the mile every week but even then I was a proto-goon and just walked it.
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syntaxfunction posted:42.2km of incidental exercise should be pretty standard, you don't need to run 10kms to do that. That's less than 1km of movement a week in less than a year. That's, yeah, not a lot? Judging by the description of the app I assume it's something where you have to specifically tell it when you're participating on a run, rather than an always-on step counter that tracks all your incidental movement throughout the day.
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Yeah, but that's kind of the point. 1km is like a 10 minute walk. If you're a runner, and doing running, and have apps and fitbits and stuff I feel like it really shouldn't take you a year to get there, even with one run a week. But I also may be horribly misjudging the initial point of fitness and capabilities tbh.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:It's amazing how weird and horrible and stupid people get about the mentally disabled and try to basically Truman Show them through life. I do get the feeling there's a heavy misunderstanding of disability welfare laws involved too. I think the lying could be because of the wishes of the actual disabled people in question. It's hard to tell, because everyone involved kinda seems to be treating them like pets and don't mention their ACTUAL wishes at all. Because legally speaking, yeah, if two disabled people marry, the government can cut down how much they pay both of them. It's (informally) called a "marriage penalty." It's bad enough when one person marrying a person with an okay income can mean they lose their benefits and now maybe can't afford married life.
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BrigadierSensible posted:
I think the question is a bit more complicated... Generally mentally competent people make choices we disagree with all the time, sometimes extremely poor choices, otherwise smart people buy homes and cars they can't comfortably afford, invest in Bitcoin and Gamestop, etc. If they are mental capable, they are fully able to decide to lower their income with the loss of disability payments because it is worth it to them to have a legal document that they are married. If they aren't capable of making that decision, people lie to mentally disabled people all the loving time for good reason if they can't make decisions on their own behalf because they might not understand the consequences of those decisions and the power has legally been given to other people for that very reason. 3 hours before he died I was assuring my neighbor that we would help him the next day to start a new cancer treatment he heard about and help him with his tummy sore (He had been on death watch for almost three days, his "tummy sore" was necrotic flesh from the tumor that had eaten completely through his belly from the tumor.) I dunno, I think you can lie to people that aren't negatively affected by decisions and can't make them for themselves if it makes them feel better.
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syntaxfunction posted:42.2km of incidental exercise should be pretty standard, you don't need to run 10kms to do that. That's less than 1km of movement a week in less than a year. That's, yeah, not a lot? I walk a lot, don't have car and I do 2x walk a day instead of exercise so any amount of running sounds like too much (to be fair it's so hot and humid for months I'm soaked and feel brain frying by the time I reach sidewalk from front door) -- but if my goal were to run, especially in a way I'd bring up to someone else, I'd pick an arbitrary clean number like 1 mile a week, which should get you about 2 marathons a year.
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Pirate Radar posted:I don’t know enough about this stuff to say for sure but maybe it’s possible them getting married would threaten to reveal that the family has been committing fraud and skimming from the disability checks for years. That would explain a lot, yeah. Midnight Voyager posted:I think the lying could be because of the wishes of the actual disabled people in question. It's hard to tell, because everyone involved kinda seems to be treating them like pets and don't mention their ACTUAL wishes at all. Because legally speaking, yeah, if two disabled people marry, the government can cut down how much they pay both of them. It's (informally) called a "marriage penalty." It's bad enough when one person marrying a person with an okay income can mean they lose their benefits and now maybe can't afford married life. Though of course this is a thing too, for I'm sure some very good reason. Actually it's probably literally eugenics.
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Midnight Voyager posted:I think that the two who want to get married want to actually legally get married and don't understand (or care) that it will hurt their finances. Family wants them to THINK they're married so they don't have to pick up financial slack if they actually get married. It's going to depend on their state and their exact situation, but them officially getting married could reduce their combined benefits by 25%. Paper from the Social Security Administration discussing this: https://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/issuepapers/ip2003-01.html Article walking through various kinds of benefits and which ones may or may not be impacted by marriage: https://www.specialneedsalliance.org/the-voice/what-happens-when-persons-living-with-disabilities-marry-2/ Also, if you click through the first link you might notice the weird phrasing of "found to be representing themselves as husband and wife." That's the extra hosed up thing with marriage and disability benefits. You don't even need to be legally married to get penalized. The reduction of benefits is a well known enough thing that a lot of disabled couples will cohabitate with no intentions to legally marry, and some American government programs decided to close that potential loophole. If an outside party would reasonably believe the couple are spouses, they may be treated as such for the purposes of benefits. So grandma thinks she found this One Weird Trick to keep their full benefits, but if anyone with authority ever pays attention it's going to be treated the same. Just without any of the legal benefits of marriage.
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PurpleLizardWizard posted:Also, if you click through the first link you might notice the weird phrasing of "found to be representing themselves as husband and wife." That's the extra hosed up thing with marriage and disability benefits. You don't even need to be legally married to get penalized. The reduction of benefits is a well known enough thing that a lot of disabled couples will cohabitate with no intentions to legally marry, and some American government programs decided to close that potential loophole. If an outside party would reasonably believe the couple are spouses, they may be treated as such for the purposes of benefits. There is an entire discussion to be had about SSDI benefits, but marriage and especially cohabitating absolutely reduces living expenses by A LOT. Massive government programs are complicated but I'm pretty sure this whole prevision was designed so if you are both living on survival income in 1 bedroom apartments and move in together in a 1 bedroom apartment you don't get to use the extra money to buy an Playstation. SSDI is not earned income, it's money so you don't you (hopefully) end up on the streets. Like, your social security benefit doesn't decrease because you get married, you earned it by paying into it, SSDI is what you need, regardless of what you have paid, to not live under a bridge eating cat food. (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST) Three Olives fucked around with this message at 06:50 on Jul 13, 2023 |
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According to that woman's logic I did 3 marathons last month, which is very impressive I'm sure you will all agree (mostly walking between pubs)
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Three Olives posted:There is an entire discussion to be had about SSDI benefits, but marriage and especially cohabitating absolutely reduces living expenses by A LOT. Massive government programs are complicated but I'm pretty sure this whole prevision was designed so if you are both living on survival income in 1 bedroom apartments and move in together in a 1 bedroom apartment you don't get to use the extra money to buy an Playstation.  lot to unpack in this post. I like the use of a PlayStation as an example of how much more money two people on disability would get it they lived together. Really helps paint the picture. Vivid and striking.
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Three Olives posted:There is an entire discussion to be had about SSDI benefits, but marriage and especially cohabitating absolutely reduces living expenses by A LOT. Massive government programs are complicated but I'm pretty sure this whole prevision was designed so if you are both living on survival income in 1 bedroom apartments and move in together in a 1 bedroom apartment you don't get to use the extra money to buy an Playstation. SSDI is not earned income, it's money so you don't you (hopefully) end up on the streets. Like, your social security benefit doesn't decrease because you get married, you earned it by paying into it, SSDI is what you need, regardless of what you have paid, to not live under a bridge eating cat food. Tell this to the face of anyone on disability benefits, you utter ghoul.
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