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Lt. Danger posted:little known science fact: men can't marry you if you stand perfectly still Its love language is based on movement
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Saint Isaias Boner posted:maybe she didn't want to get married yet That's not what she told him, though,s he told him “I just want to make sure that this will work.” after having previously discussed marriage and her seemingly being 100% on board and 'not seeing herself with anyone else'. If she isn't sure after four years, and a Year after the previous proposal, then I'm not sure what this guy can do to make her sure.
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Saint Isaias Boner posted:maybe she didn't want to get married yet It sounds like she’s going to continue being not married yet, why is she upset about it?
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Lt. Danger posted:little known science fact: men can't marry you if you stand perfectly still This falls apart within 3 meters of an altar, though, fair warning. MajorBonnet fucked around with this message at 18:02 on Aug 17, 2023 |
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She sought primarily the knowledge of whether she should marry him or not, and his recent actions throw in new math
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FMguru posted:someone saying "look, I admit I wasn't the kindest/best/most supportive/etc." which 100% guarantees the person saying it is absolutely The rear end in a top hat. I'm not mean to her, when she moved in I was mean to her. We're FAMILY
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# ? Aug 17, 2023 18:04 |
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I think marriage is dumb, and I regret doing it twice and won't do it again. But, some people haven't yet arrived at that truth yet. For those people, wanting to be married vs not wanting to be married can be a fundamental incompatibility depending on how strong the preference is. So the OP who left his GF after she said no to marriage twice is fine. I don't know about the "well she's really just keeping him around" stuff. Sounds like she likes him well enough to be his GF for 4 years. But he wants to get married and she doesn't.
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captainOrbital posted:I'm not mean to her, when she moved in I was mean to her.
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There’s nothing weird about being in a ltr that you value and don’t want to give up while still being unsure about big capital M Marriage decisions. It sounds like their relationship has pretty garbage communication tho. “Wait another year and try again” doesn’t really strike me as an effective technique to fix that.
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haveblue posted:Its love language is based on movement Mods?
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Kurieg posted:That's not what she told him, though,s he told him “I just want to make sure that this will work.” after having previously discussed marriage and her seemingly being 100% on board and 'not seeing herself with anyone else'. If she isn't sure after four years, and a Year after the previous proposal, then I'm not sure what this guy can do to make her sure. i don't know if i'd be able to give a coherent answer to my furious partner demanding why i didn't want to marry them on the spot either.
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# ? Aug 17, 2023 18:27 |
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My(31f) boyfriend (34m) claims that going on a cruise is cheatingquote:My boyfriend (34m) and I(31f) have been dating for three years and do not live together. My friend is turning forty and has always been really into cruises and wanted to do one for her birthday, asking me to go. Since I have yet to go on one I agreed and invited my sister who she is also friends with. My friend then invited a slew of her other friends. The only two friends of hers that want to come are men. One she previously dated and another that has a girlfriend. My friend is single and my sister is married. My boyfriend claims that me going on the cruise at all with two other men is cheating, even if not physically. The girls are sharing a room and the dudes are rooming together. He made no remarks toward the trip until he invited me to a wedding (two weeks before)??? And I reminded him that the cruise group was supposed to meet for the first time that evening( he was invited) but I would be happy to reschedule and accompany him. He got angry and took the invitation back saying that he couldn't have me representing him at a wedding when I'm doing things like this, as in going on a cruise with two men. How dare you exist in the vicinity of other men!
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Ravenfood posted:Yeah, that's why I said I have no problem with them having a med alert bracelet essentially saying that they don't want CPR. That's fine. I have no problem respecting people's wishes about receiving resuscitative care. I was drunk, I made my point badly.
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Saint Isaias Boner posted:i don't know if i'd be able to give a coherent answer to my furious partner demanding why i didn't want to marry them on the spot either. I think it's totally reasonable for her to panic, but it's also true that if she's not ready and he is, there's a point where he needs to move on to find someone who is. It's fair for him to want a partner who wants the same things he does. It sounds like she's that person on paper, but when the actual moment comes she backs away from committing. Proposals are pretty big moments, they're lynchpin points where relationships can break. Probably what's happening is that they're realizing they want different things out of life/relationships. She might even have been lying to herself about wanting to get married at all and it's only hitting her when the potential reality presents itself. I empathize with her for that, but I also understand why, for him, it can't stay in bf/gf status - it either needs to move up into more commitment or they go their separate ways. Like, I get that she's probably not sure, but that she seems to love him and wants to stay with him - but OP is pretty clear he can't stick around for that anymore and needs more. That said, it also kind of hinges on what their conversations were like that year between the two proposals, and if they ever talked about what happened and realigned or if he just waited silently without ever approaching it and popped the question again after waiting exactly 1years and then got upset. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 18:42 on Aug 17, 2023 |
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Hughlander posted:My(31f) boyfriend (34m) claims that going on a cruise is cheating love when the answer to my question* is right in between the lines there *why is the BF not also going on the cruise?
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Desert Bus posted:I was drunk, I made my point badly. Like 1/500 people will die from their ribs puncturing organs if you try CPR It's good but the success rate is only like 15%. Sure try it, but if they live you're gonna gently caress up their life FOREVER. You think you'd be OK being alive with a hosed up ribcage but you won't
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AITA for dismissing my rude teen daughter’s feelings?quote:Hi, am I out of line? I’m F45, and my daughter is 18. aaaAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA quote:EDIT !!!!!!
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Hughlander posted:My(31f) boyfriend (34m) claims that going on a cruise is cheating Lol at "representing" him.
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FMguru posted:Oh this is good. I love both 1) the way OP heard "sure, I'll kick in to help you with your wedding" as "I'll fully underwrite your $100k dream wedding", and 2) the appearance of my favorite AITA tic, someone saying "look, I admit I wasn't the kindest/best/most supportive/etc." which 100% guarantees the person saying it is absolutely The rear end in a top hat.
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Pomme de Terror posted:AITA for dismissing my rude teen daughter’s feelings? i love how OP talks about her grown adult daughter as if she's a petulant toddler. somehow i don't think she's going to keep her promise to be "better this time, really!"
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Scapegoat child gets the best revenge (by living well off of the inheritance given to her by the one relative who had her back). AITA for not sharing my inheritance with the rest of my “family”? quote:My family situation is messy. I (25F) was engaged four years ago to my high school sweetheart. My fiancé cheated on me with my sister (28F). We had never had a good relationship even as kids, so after I found out, I went scorched earth both of them. She was “so in love” with my fiancé, but he dumped her within two weeks and was back trying to get me to forgive him (I didn’t). My parents were initially on my side, but my sister had a nervous breakdown after she was dumped and was hospitalized so they changed their tune to “it’s over now and you can’t be mad for ever”. So I dumped them, too, and went to grad school on the other side of the country. quote:That never has set well with me. Their excuse was that they worked all the time and he could afford home health services. Papaw didn’t even need much, just someone to keep the house up, get him to appointments, and make sure he ate and was ok on bad days during his treatment. Even though I’m hurt that he’s gone, I’m just really grateful I got to spend his last year with him and I wasn’t expecting to inherit more than his dog and a few keepsakes. e: Gramps writing letters and even cutting a videotape explaining why he wasn't leaving anyone else a nickel was a nice touch. FMguru fucked around with this message at 19:41 on Aug 17, 2023 |
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Desert Bus posted:Like 1/500 people will die from their ribs puncturing organs if you try CPR At this rate you're gonna get banned for drunkposting.
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McSpanky posted:At this rate you're gonna get banned for drunkposting. Won't be the first or last time
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StrangersInTheNight posted:I think it's totally reasonable for her to panic, but it's also true that if she's not ready and he is, there's a point where he needs to move on to find someone who is. It's fair for him to want a partner who wants the same things he does. It sounds like she's that person on paper, but when the actual moment comes she backs away from committing. Proposals are pretty big moments, they're lynchpin points where relationships can break. This is a fair take - only reason I mentioned the "testing" bullshit before is because I've seen/heard it happen way too often & it plays out similarly. Couple agrees they're on board with something then one keeps backing out or changing plans in the hope that the other will break down or "try harder" as if they need to further prove their worth or some garbage. The way she treated OP, on top of how other people like her family ridiculed him & literally called him a baby, doesn't scream cold feet to me, especially when SHE refuses to elaborate. Personally I don't blame him for bailing, sounds like he dodged a nuke with both her & her family/friends.
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FMguru posted:e: Gramps writing letters and even cutting a videotape explaining why he wasn't leaving anyone else a nickel was a nice touch. Lol yeah that got a chuckle out of me, jumping on your motorcycle and riding into the sunset of life while flipping everyone except OP the bird
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Saint Isaias Boner posted:i don't know if i'd be able to give a coherent answer to my furious partner demanding why i didn't want to marry them on the spot either. she had four years to figure it out, why does she deserve another second of OPs time?
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AITA for calling out my friend for saying it's safe to sleep with a blocked nose?quote:I have a cold right now, I've been awake for three days. I invited my friend over because I was feeling irritable and wanted some company. He said I looked really tired and I said that I am, he asked why I'm not sleeping and I told him it's because my nose is blocked and I don't want to use the decongestant spray that I have too much because it can make it worse. (I've never slept with my mouth open ever, I always stay awake whenever I'm congested and my record is about a week).
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AKA Pseudonym posted:AITA for calling out my friend for saying it's safe to sleep with a blocked nose? We spend our days walking around with a gateway to the aggregate of all human knowledge literally in our pockets, where do people come up with this poo poo?
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If you're feeling irritable why did you invite a friend over
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It's no fun being irritable by yourself.
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Foo Diddley posted:i love how OP talks about her grown adult daughter as if she's a petulant toddler. somehow i don't think she's going to keep her promise to be "better this time, really!" Lice for years??? As in, there's been generations on their heads.
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Cowslips Warren posted:Lice for years??? Well at this point tenant’s rights have kicked in so if you want to get rid of the lice you need to serve them an eviction notice, the courts get involved, it’s a whole big thing.
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Cowslips Warren posted:Lice for years??? i only asked you to be a maid for people so filthy that entire vermin civilizations are thriving on them, why are you being such a brat about this
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Foo Diddley posted:i only asked you to be a maid for people so filthy that entire vermin civilizations are thriving on them, why are you being such a brat about this It’s been so long civilizations have risen and fell. If you part their hair in the right place you can see where two vast and trunkless legs of stone stand on the scalp
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I bet there's distinct factions and communities on those heads
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AKA Pseudonym posted:AITA for calling out my friend for saying it's safe to sleep with a blocked nose? This person is sick and invited someone to hang out with them. Even without their irrational biology beliefs, what an rear end in a top hat. Then again the friend went to hang out so maybe they deserve it.
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AKA Pseudonym posted:AITA for calling out my friend for saying it's safe to sleep with a blocked nose? A stunning intellect
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AKA Pseudonym posted:AITA for calling out my friend for saying it's safe to sleep with a blocked nose? I'd be a dead man if it wasn't safe. My nose likes to clog up approximately at bedtime and despite using sprays, strips, rinses, and decongestives I still end up breathing through my mouth at least part of the night. I wake up with my tongue stuck to the roof of my mouth and dry as a bone. Since I sleep on my sides I also drool over my pillow during the night. Ah, the joys of aging.
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quantumwell posted:I'd be a dead man if it wasn't safe. My nose likes to clog up approximately at bedtime and despite using sprays, strips, rinses, and decongestives I still end up breathing through my mouth at least part of the night. I wake up with my tongue stuck to the roof of my mouth and dry as a bone. Since I sleep on my sides I also drool over my pillow during the night. Ah, the joys of aging. I mouth breathe during the night and I used to think the worst was drooling on partners but it's really your throat drying out and the morning puke being bloody.
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