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Runcible Cat: May 28, 2007; Ignoring this post

Oh look, Lisa's learned why it's bad to be a dick to people about things they can't change.

A day late and $750 dollars short.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 10:07

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# ? May 28, 2024 06:18

boofhead: Feb 18, 2021

Chewbecca posted:

Why was everyone else mad at him if they didn't help either? Is he more obligated because his parents have money? Everyone could have put in potentially, I don't see why it was all on him - especially after she went out of her way to embarrass him

i dont think it's a logic or justice/fairness thing, i think it's just part of going through life, especially college days, and realising that a lot of (or most?) people you meet care less about living a consistent value system than they do about flexibly maintaining group dynamics and positive relationships with the people they like. so the OP is thinking "ah they are mistaken because she is acting in a lovely, hypocritical way, and they are illogical in criticising me, because if there is objectively a victim in this it's me", whereas what's really happening is that the people in the group just like her more than they do him, and either don't have or aren't willing to employ a compatible value system when dealing with group disputes

so he's done the right thing in just blocking them all and moving on, it's part of the learning process, especially at that age. ideally you'd manage to snag one or two people from the group who are worth becoming actual friends with, but all these young-adult/college age "AITA?" posts where they're obviously not the arsehole aren't really calls for moral judgement or an assessment of value systems, it's just.. people going "ah gently caress, people i thought were my friends turned out to like this arsehole much better than they liked me, and turned on me when it came to choose -- did i really do something wrong or is it just like that?" and the answer is, yeah, it's just like that sometimes, especially when you're younger and still learning how to find your tribe. don't read too much into it, just cut your losses and try to slowly figure out patterns of behaviour that point to people being more compatible with you in future

# ? Aug 27, 2023 10:08

Alchenar: Apr 9, 2008

StrangersInTheNight posted:

Wait, why does he have to apologize to her? It's a critique session and he's giving a very valid one. It's literally the proper context for being honest about the issues in someone's artwork.

"Hey I know you are really insecure about your ability to connect with your heritage and are desperate to do so but your attempt was so bad that you have racially offended me, the person representing the culture you most want to connect with"

OP is also young and so allowed to make mistakes, but anyone else should realise that this is an instance where you perhaps need to be a bit tactful about how you land your critique.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 10:09

ApplesandOranges: Jun 22, 2012; Thankee kindly.

One of those �had to read that title a second time� ones.

AITA for refusing to talk to my roommate because she used my banana cake to clean up glass shards?

quote:

I'm an exchange student and recently moved in with my roommate "Jane." I brought a banana cake from my home country that has a special recipe and is very close to my heart. It's not something you can find locally; it's a taste of home that keeps my homesickness at bay. I placed it on a table in our shared living area but did not explicitly tell Jane about its importance.

A few days ago, Jane accidentally broke a glass of water, and shards went everywhere on the floor. We don't have a broom or a vacuum cleaner yet, so she used my banana cake to clean up the shards, saying she'd read online that bread could be used to pick up tiny glass pieces. We didn't have bread so she decided to use my banana cake.

When I found out, I was livid. Jane shrugged it off, saying it was just "cheap banana cake" and that she would buy me the "best cake from the caf�" to make it up to me. She even said that using the cake was actually for my benefit too, as it cleaned up the shards that I could've stepped on.

I haven't spoken to her in a week and I'm seriously considering changing roommates. She seems entirely unapologetic and doesn't understand why I'm so upset. It's not about the cake's monetary value; it's about what it represents and her utter disregard for my feelings.

AITA?

# ? Aug 27, 2023 10:19

boofhead: Feb 18, 2021

Alchenar posted:

"Hey I know you are really insecure about your ability to connect with your heritage and are desperate to do so but your attempt was so bad that you have racially offended me, the person representing the culture you most want to connect with"

OP is also young and so allowed to make mistakes, but anyone else should realise that this is an instance where you perhaps need to be a bit tactful about how you land your critique.

just because somebody is crying doesn't automatically make the other person at fault. the only info we have on the tone is

quote:

I told her in the critique that I found her pieces a little racist and she should really look into Mexican culture more before making art about it.

and the rest of the post seems more than balanced, so im not sure its fair to say the op wasnt already 'a bit tactful' ? especially in the context of giving critical feedback to an art performance at college where the performer whipped out a bunch of racist poo poo and tried to hide behind her personal identity to excuse a gross unfamiliarity with the subject. the OP could have gone nuclear on her and it still would have been valid in that context, but instead they're going above and beyond to cater to the performer's emotional state, so i'd say.. probably it was tactful enough

at any rate - as megillah said, thank god she wasn't half black

# ? Aug 27, 2023 10:20

Eshettar: May 9, 2013; *whispers*

_{yospos, bithc}

AITA For Dropping out of my Sisters Wedding?

quote:

Quick context: I (18M) am the result of an affair from my dad, my older sister (22F) is from his past marriage. Our dad wasn�t in her life for most of her childhood after divorcing her mom but has been trying to be active and rebuild their relationship. Things have been rocky between them for a while since my sister refuses to forgive him or move on from the past but, despite all of this, she and I get along really well. She�s a great older sister and very supportive and I love her to death.

My sister and her boyfriend of five years announced their engagement a few months ago and my family was beyond excited, this will be the first wedding of our generation. Her and her fiance immediately asked if I would be in the wedding party and I accepted. They weren�t planning on anything major and wanted to have a quick simple wedding since he has to move for his job at the beginning of next year. The current date is set for about a month from now. Things were going great and I was helping with the planning up until a few days ago when my sister and dad started fighting.

Turns out, while he was invited my sister was not planning on including my dad in the wedding. Her grandfather would be walking down the aisle and the dance after her first dance would be with her mom. Her reasoning was he was never there for any other important event so why should he be involved in this one? My dad was heartbroken hearing this and broke down, he�s been sulking ever since and his excitement for the wedding is gone. He thought this would finally be his chance to support his oldest child and she took that away. I was beyond pissed when I heard this since my dad has really been trying to make amends and my sister just keeps knocking him down.

I called my sister and told her that unless she apologizes to our dad and changes her mind about involving him I refuse to be in the wedding. She was shocked and asked if I was serious and I said yes. I love my sister but I love my dad more and I won�t let her tear him down like this anymore. She begged me to listen and change my mind but I wasn�t having it. I restated that she rethink things herself and then hung up, I�ve since been ignoring all of her texts and calls trying to talk to me which just upset her more.

My family heard about the situation and is torn. My mom and aunts took my side saying I did the right thing standing up for my father but her fiance and extended family are calling me an rear end in a top hat. They said I broke my sister's heart and just delayed the whole wedding and my dad could get over it. Now both sides of my family are upset and I am torn. I really hoped sticking up for my dad would change her mind but I think I just made things worse. AITA for dropping out of the wedding because she insulted my dad?

# ? Aug 27, 2023 10:29

spookykid: Apr 28, 2006; I am an awkward fellow
after all

mllaneza posted:

Grey and purple pair really well, go for it. Even just a purple tie with a grey suit looks great.

Oh I know, I'm glad the Ace Pride flag colors work so well with my complexion, and were already a large part of my wardrobe before I even realized that I was ace or that it was even a thing one could be.

Eshettar posted:

AITA For Dropping out of my Sisters Wedding?

Yes. You're the rear end in a top hat, your sister brought up totally valid points and I'm surprised she didn't beat you to the punch with an AITA post titled "I want my little brother in my wedding party but don't want my estranged father in the party AITA?"

spookykid fucked around with this message at 10:42 on Aug 27, 2023

# ? Aug 27, 2023 10:40

Hellequin: Feb 26, 2008; You Scream! You open your TORN, ROTTED, DECOMPOSED MOUTH AND SCREAM!

quote:

Caught my(f24) partner(m27) sucking himself

To start off he�s been saying he wants to try kinkier stuff a lot lately, but I�ve been a little shy about it, I feel like he wants me to do porn star stuff when I just don�t have the look or the confidence for some of the bdsm scenes he�s been showing me.

Fast forward to him texting me during lunch while I was at work (he works from home and I work in office) that he had a surprise for me when I got home. Later that day I get home(I ended up having to work a little later than usual because someone accidentally took a server down) and I walk in to the room to find him with his dick in his mouth

I don�t even know how to feel about this, Like this is waaaay different than the stuff he was trying to get me into. I�m not even sure if this is gay or not, How am I supposed to cope

He said it wasn�t gay he was trying to get himself off while he waited for me to get home, but I just feel like there are other ways he could�ve done that instead of sucking himself off What do I do? How am I supposed to move forward knowing he can apparently just suck his own dick at anytime?

Probably fake, still hilarious.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 11:00

syntaxfunction: Oct 27, 2010

And impressive!

# ? Aug 27, 2023 11:02

Desert Bus: May 9, 2004; Take 1 tablet by mouth daily.

sucking your own dick is a lot more like sucking dick than getting your dick sucked

# ? Aug 27, 2023 11:04

feedmegin: Jul 30, 2008

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

Firing people without cause is a pretty uniquely american thing, right?

It is not. Thanks to 'flexibility' introduced to the UK labour market by the Labour (heh) government under Tony Blair in the early 2000s, and extended by the other two main national parties around 2011 or so, you can be fired without cause at any point within the first two years of starting a job - as long as they don't stand up and explicitly say 'we're firing you because you're black' or something you have no recourse, which I believe is also the situation in the US.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 11:05

Malachite_Dragon: Mar 31, 2010; Weaving Merry Christmas magic

It was never unique to the US at any point, regardless of how much the rest of the world tries to convince themselves it was.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 11:24

Collapsing Farts: Jun 29, 2018; ð

I live in a good country so they actually can't fire me without reasonable cause. Even if they do fire me I got social security and will get paid 80% of my salary for 6 months or until I find a new job

# ? Aug 27, 2023 11:30

artsy fartsy: May 10, 2014; You'll be ahead instead of behind. Hello!

I love this because the girlfriend was probably so sure she'd come up with One Weird Trick

AITA for refusing to give my gf $300 in a game of truth or dare?

quote:

So my gf asked me to play a game of truth or dare. Everything went fine until I decided to ask for my first dare. She dared me to give her $300, even though she knows I’m unemployed. I obviously said no since I don’t have any income and she got mad at me. She said I ruined the game for her. AITA?

# ? Aug 27, 2023 11:31

Sekenr: Dec 12, 2013

Captain Hygiene posted:

WIBTA if I started sending out my cover letter to literary agents before my boyfriend is ready?

Good luck, guy who's going for Tolkien-length writing in your book debut, I'm sure you'll definitely have it ready to go by New Year's

I would have thrown aside anyone once my goddamn magnum opus is finished and polished. It is months or years of work how dare you, also a writer, knowing how slim are the chances are to create EXTRA problems for this manuscript while writing goddamn silmarillion that noone will ever read

This one got my blood boil

# ? Aug 27, 2023 11:32

Kuiperdolin: Sep 5, 2011; to ride eternal, shiny and chrome

THUNDERDOME LOSER 2022

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for not helping out a girl who humiliated me in front of other people?

She was frantic and explained that her parents were kicking her out for "personal problems"

INFO: how tall is her father?

# ? Aug 27, 2023 12:40

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

AITA for trying to comfort my friend during her son�s funeral?

quote:

My 23M and my friend 30F she had a 7 years old who died due to meningitis and he suffered a lot of neurological complications due to the course of the disease and sadly he passed away.

Today i was at his funeral and my friend kept crying and blaming herself for not recognizing the early signs of the disease and she thought it was just a flu.

I tried to comfort her and reassure her that it�s not her fault and no one would be able to spot the signs that early and maybe it was meant to be.

And to be honest maybe it�s even for the better because if he lived he would be neurologically impaired and personally i would never prefer to be alive in his position.

Her husband snapped at me and kicked me out for being insensitive rear end in a top hat? However i don�t think i said something wrong especially couple of my friends said that i didn�t say anything wrong. And that got me wondering

quote:

But indeed it is meant to be? It wasn�t her fault nor her son�s fault. Just nature took it course

# ? Aug 27, 2023 12:48

BrigadierSensible: Feb 16, 2012; I've got a pocket full of cheese🧀, and a garden full of trees🌴.

artsy fartsy posted:

I love this because the girlfriend was probably so sure she'd come up with One Weird Trick

AITA for refusing to give my gf $300 in a game of truth or dare?

Also, forgive me, but this is not how Truth or Dare works, (as I understand it).

If you don't want to do the dare, or reveal the truth, THEN you are forced to do the other one.

But it is a simple game designed to get people to do stupid/embarrassing things. So I assume there are many ways to play.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 13:11

Roobanguy: May 31, 2011

Mx. posted:

AITA for trying to comfort my friend during her son�s funeral?

i had a coworker who said the first part to me after my brother died. she meant well but i had to tell her that's a hosed up thing to say about someone who was only 30.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 13:12

DrManiac: Feb 29, 2012

Cowslips Warren posted:

Speaking of....

AITA for not letting my fiance throw a gift for my mother away because my MIL believes it's brought a demon in the house?

Update:

This lady is awfully indignant about being a loving doormat lol.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 14:29

Brawnfire: Jul 13, 2004; 🎧Listen to Cylindricule!🎵
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Desert Bus posted:

sucking your own dick is a lot more like sucking dick than getting your dick sucked

Stop I was already sold

# ? Aug 27, 2023 14:30

StrangersInTheNight: Dec 31, 2007; ABSOLUTE FUCKING GUDGEON

Alchenar posted:

"Hey I know you are really insecure about your ability to connect with your heritage and are desperate to do so but your attempt was so bad that you have racially offended me, the person representing the culture you most want to connect with"

OP is also young and so allowed to make mistakes, but anyone else should realise that this is an instance where you perhaps need to be a bit tactful about how you land your critique.

Part of the function of art school is to turn folks into craftsmen, which involves somewhat brutal evaluations of your work on the regular to do the artist's equivalent of battle-hardening. Since so many people are so gentle about work where one is vulnerable, it can hinder actual progress because artists don't get honest feedback, they get it coached in gentle words. This is a critique session - this is where sensitive feelings about one's work go to die.

The girl is allowed to make mistakes and be forgiven, but that doesn't mean she's owed anyone being gentle about them initially, when she blunders into them. Especially when the context is a craftsman's training session where the others are tasked with being honest about the issues with the work.

That doesn't mean the other students are ok to be absolute dicks, and I know we weren't there but it doesn't seem like OP was not doing that. He was far more mild that even the internet would have been, had the girl posted her work online.

StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 15:54 on Aug 27, 2023

# ? Aug 27, 2023 15:46

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

ApplesandOranges posted:

One of those ‘had to read that title a second time’ ones.

AITA for refusing to talk to my roommate because she used my banana cake to clean up glass shards?

That one's so weird, I guess it makes some sense if you assume they're very slow to purchase amenities, and the table, the drinking glass, and the banana cake are the only three objects within their living space

# ? Aug 27, 2023 15:51

wheatpuppy: Apr 25, 2008; YOU HAVE MY POST!

Captain Hygiene posted:

That one's so weird, I guess it makes some sense if you assume they're very slow to purchase amenities, and the table, the drinking glass, and the banana cake are the only three objects within their living space

Plot twist: it was a banana-and-durian cake, and the roommate staged the broken glass as an excuse to get the smell out of their living space.

(I totally made that up, to be clear. Just writing my own headcanon here in the r/ thread.)

# ? Aug 27, 2023 16:08

FoolyCharged: Oct 11, 2012; Cheating at a raffle? I sentence you to 1 year in jail! No! Two years! Three! Four! Five years! Ah! Ah! Ah! Ah!
Somebody call for an ant?

Captain Hygiene posted:

That one's so weird, I guess it makes some sense if you assume they're very slow to purchase amenities, and the table, the drinking glass, and the banana cake are the only three objects within their living space

In that case you pick up the big poo poo carefully, leave a note and mark the spot, then drive to the store and spend 10 bucks on the Broom you need anyway, then drive home and use said broom. She had time to do this because apparently she had time to internet search the quackjob solution she went with.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 16:16

Pope Corky the IX: Dec 18, 2006; What are you looking at?

But if she didn�t clean up the glass children would eat it.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 16:19

DrManiac: Feb 29, 2012

Maybe the op's roommate is an adventure game protagonist.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 16:24

FoolyCharged: Oct 11, 2012; Cheating at a raffle? I sentence you to 1 year in jail! No! Two years! Three! Four! Five years! Ah! Ah! Ah! Ah!
Somebody call for an ant?

Pope Corky the IX posted:

But if she didn’t clean up the glass children would eat it.

Nah, it needs to be behind a locked door for that.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 16:27

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

Bread would be the last thing, next to, I don't know, a live animal, I would use to pick up glass.

AITA I locked myself in the basement for 4 hours and didn't help my wife with the baby.

quote:

I(30m) and my wife(29f) have been married for 4 years now. we have a 2 month old daughter. My wife is a SAHM and I work as a software engineer. I work remotely so it hasn't been that awful to split responsibilities.

We decided that we would be taking turns this weekend to take time for ourselves. Yesterday, my wife went with her friends for a girls' day out. She said she'd be back by around 8 pm and to not wait for her to eat dinner together. At around 8:30 pm I called her because she still hadn't come home. She told me her friends were planning to have a sleepover as well and she requested me to take care of our baby tonight. Before I could reply, she hung up on me. The thing is our daughter, Rose, is colic so she doesn't sleep well. we usually take turns taking care of her because she cries a lot and it is very hard for one person to watch over her. I had to stay up all night yesterday with Rose.

My wife came home at 4 am and she was completely drunk. she just blacked out on the bed immediately after coming home. At around 8 am, I got us fries, nuggets, burgers, and drinks for both of us(a strawberry milkshake and cold coffee for myself; a blueberry soda and espresso for her). At around 9 am my wife woke up and said she felt very sick and asked me if I could take care of Rose for a few more hours so that she could eat breakfast and rest for a little bit. I was exhausted at that point because I hadn't slept all night yesterday but agreed. I was really annoyed with her at that point though because today was supposed to be a break for me and her getting drunk wasn't part of the plan. We both had breakfast and she went back to bed. I was scrolling insta while waiting for my wife to wake up. At 1 pm, she hadn't woken up yet and I ended up having to cancel my lunch plan with my friends. I was beyond angry at that point but decided to wait for her to wake up instead of waking her up.

She finally woke up at 3 pm. I handed Rose to my wife and told her I'm going to the basement to watch a movie and take a nap. I also asked her not to disturb me until I came out on my own unless there was an emergency.

I made myself a few grilled cheese sandwiches and took the strawberry shake with me to the basement. I set up an air mattress and some pillows, then locked the basement door. Then I watched a few episodes of my favorite show. ended up falling asleep midway through the show and woke up around 7 pm to 40 missed calls from my wife. when I went up to check on her and the baby, she said that I was very irresponsible and rude for leaving her alone with the baby for so long. I got mad and told her "at least I didn't get blackout drunk and leave you to take care of a colic baby for more than a day on your own without any sleep." She started crying and told me I was horrible for guilting her like that.

AITA?

AITA for insulting my stepmom and stepsister and calling them deluded

quote:

I (16m) have to write a paper for English class about an inspiring romantic relationship in my life. Not sure what the point of it is but our teacher said it will become relevant in a few weeks. My stepmom and stepsister both assumed I would write about my dad and stepmom's relationship. It was brought up when my stepmom asked how come I hadn't asked her and dad any questions about their relationship yet. I was confused why she was asking that and wasn't putting two and two together right then and she said I should at least ask some questions before doing my paper. This is when it clicked with me and I told her my paper wasn't on them. My stepsister was in the room at the time and asked me why. I asked why I'd write a paper about their marriage instead of my parents marriage. My stepmom said because her and my dad's marriage was the forever one and seeing as my mom is dead and my dad isn't good at talking about stuff it makes more sense to write about them. She said she and my dad would be more inspiring for me anyway.

I asked her if she ever thought I tried not to think about their relationship too hard since she and my dad had a very long history and that as soon as my mom died he ran back to her and married her. Did she ever think that wasn't something I loved but something I struggled with as the son he had with his first wife.

They were all about "we're a family, it's okay to admit this is better" and that kind of thing. I told them I was writing about my grandparents and to leave it alone. They pushed the issue and said it made more sense to "write about your parents" and I said it has already been pointed out that I can't since my mom is dead and dad is useless at that stuff. Stepmom said her, that she's my parent. I ignored that and went on about my day.

But they brought it up again a couple of days after that and said I should want to write about dad and stepmom and I was being weird about it because they will be the primary relationship to model myself after.

I snapped. I told them they were idiots if they thought my most inspiring relationship is one that showed how little my dad cared about my mom, something he said mom would have felt if she knew he went back to the ex he never got over. I told them they are full of themselves to think they mean that much to me that I would poo poo on my mom. I also told them they were deluded. Deluded to think the woman who showed up at my mom's funeral to get my dad back would be the person I would find inspiring in any way.

They're angry that I said what I did to them and I might be a jerk for it.

AITA?

Also my stepsister is like 19 or 20. My dad and stepmom got married when I was 9, 8ish months after my mom died.

WTF kind of assignment is this? In high school I would have had nothing honest to write either.

Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 16:52 on Aug 27, 2023

# ? Aug 27, 2023 16:48

SulfurMonoxideCute: Feb 9, 2008; I was under direct orders not to die
🐵❌💀

Mx. posted:

AITA for trying to comfort my friend during her son’s funeral?

"I'm glad your kid died instead of becoming disabled, that would have been SO much worse, eh?"

# ? Aug 27, 2023 17:02

Modal Auxiliary: Jan 14, 2005

Quick sidebar to thank everyone (especially Cowslips) for plumbing the vile depths of Reddit to bring me all the juicy poo poo I've been missing out on since I left the site. I loving love you folks.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 17:06

FoolyCharged: Oct 11, 2012; Cheating at a raffle? I sentence you to 1 year in jail! No! Two years! Three! Four! Five years! Ah! Ah! Ah! Ah!
Somebody call for an ant?

Cowslips Warren posted:

Bread would be the last thing, next to, I don't know, a live animal, I would use to pick up glass.

AITA I locked myself in the basement for 4 hours and didn't help my wife with the baby.

AITA for insulting my stepmom and stepsister and calling them deluded

WTF kind of assignment is this? In high school I would have had nothing honest to write either.

No, honey. Only I'm allowed to guilt you over your parenting. Some real throwing stones at someone with nukes going on.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 17:07

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

FoolyCharged posted:

No, honey. Only I'm allowed to guilt you over your parenting. Some real throwing stones at someone with nukes going on.

the relationship story, at least, has a good idea from reddit: the assignment is to write about an inspiring romantic relationship. No one said it has to be a positive kind of inspiring. Look, stepmom and dad, your fast marriage and forcing me to accept everything has inspired me to never get married and to go low to no-contact when I'm able to!

Now to be fair, I don't delve the depths of Reddit, I usually stay on the nice safe surface a few pages in where I don't see the sharks.

Unlike this dude.

AITA If I ask my wife to break up with her boyfriend

quote:

I (M32) work as a merchant marine and have been married to my wife (F34) for 8 years. Five years ago I switched careers to become a mariner after dissatisfaction with a previous line of work I was involved in.

My wife was very much opposed to this decision because it meant that I would be away for months at a time. I felt bad leaving her and our children behind but I knew this was the right decision for me and my family. She had concerns that her romantic needs would not be met with my being gone. So we came to a compromise that allowed for her to date while I am gone. I have not asked but I believe these relationships may also be sexual in nature.

The agreement implied that my wife would stop dating when I returned home from the sea. However, this ended with the introduction of George (M22).

George has dated my wife for over a year now. It was a bit awkward at first, but I came to appreciate him and he became a close friend to both my wife and I. However, during my last trip to sea, things have taken a turn for the worse. My wife asked if George could move in, and I only obliged because I trusted him and knew that she needed help around the house. Now he has started to assert dominance over the house, becoming the proverbial �man of the house�. He does all the chores which is great, but he has also started putting up his own decorations and buying furniture. Recently, he took down my Funko Pop! Display shelf and replaced it with a television.

All of these were excusable inconveniences until he began to insert himself in my kid�s lives. Recently, my son (6) called me �Dad 2� during a recent FaceTime call. I felt I was generous to my wife by allowing her to have someone to fill the role of husband in my absence, but I feel the line must be drawn when George is trying to replace me as a Dad.

Upon returning from my last voyage, I politely asked my wife if she would leave George. I gave her all my reasons I�ve listed above. However, she became hysterical when I suggested this, and forced me to leave the house. I am currently living in a Holiday Inn. Any suggestions? I am so lost right now. She has refused my phone calls, and her family (for other reasons I can�t get into here) refuses to talk to me. My heart is so broken and I just miss my kids, man.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 17:27

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA If I ask my wife to break up with her boyfriend

quote:
Any suggestions?

Yes, but they all involve having access to a time machine

# ? Aug 27, 2023 17:32

titty_baby_: Nov 11, 2015

The only fair solution is for merchant marine to have an overseas family to balance things out

# ? Aug 27, 2023 17:38

Ralph Crammed In: May 11, 2007; Let's get clean and smart

Cowslips Warren posted:

WTF kind of assignment is this? In high school I would have had nothing honest to write either.

Yeah I would have had a very bad time with this too. This seems scientifically designed to gently caress with kids from broken homes.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 17:53

Modal Auxiliary: Jan 14, 2005

Ralph Crammed In posted:

Yeah I would have had a very bad time with this too. This seems scientifically designed to gently caress with kids from broken homes.

This type of vapid, myopic bullshit is the cultural currency of rich, white, suburban school districts. When I was teaching first grade my district tried to pull this brand of "Hallmark movie nuclear family" garbage all the time despite the fact that like half my students came from non-trad family structures. We ended up reading a lot of books about what families can look like, and a lot of them really gravitated toward the concept of found family. I knew it was taking root when one of my students suggested that we start calling our seating groups families because "we help each other make good choices and that's what families do." gently caress all that 1950's horseshit, family is whatever you want it to be.

# ? Aug 27, 2023 18:10