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How can eating food with utensils ever be bad etiquette? Can it make you look like a weirdo? Will you get looks, sure. Like you can eat pizza or hotdogs with a fork and knife all you want. Finger food is meant to be sans etiquette. E: Hotdog snipe
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Different story. This is the one with the dying mom and divorced dad. It doesn’t sound like the dad has been in close contact or anything, but checking with the kid’s surviving biological parent seems like such an obvious first step that any mention of that missing from the situation raises an eyebrow. Oh whoops, at least it was about an actual story.
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Sep 3, 2023 21:04
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Elviscat posted:AITA: I used a fork and knife to eat fried chicken, whereas the person hosting the dinner party used their hands to eat, now they're mad at me for my "horrid etiquette" Lol, but also thank you mentioning etiquette. Search results got me right to party sub guy, which is always one of my favorite re-reads 
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AITA for Limiting Brewery Hours to Prevent Child Incidents, Resulting in Business Loss?quote:Hey, Reddit, I’m seeking some perspective on a situation between my husband and me regarding our brewery and food truck business. We serve beer and wine with a few tables inside but have a large outside area for kids to run around in and dogs to play. Our food truck sets out there and stays busy. My husband handles the backend of business while I handle the front facing customer side.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for Limiting Brewery Hours to Prevent Child Incidents, Resulting in Business Loss? Restrict the dogs, not the kids. An enclosed off-leash area would be perfect. Also, they need to talk to their insurance agent and do whatever they suggest.
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evergreen story in honor of dinner party chat I (28f) planned a wine and cheese mixer for almost a month. My husband (28m) of 5 years showed up with 3 36 packs of Budweiser and turned it into a frat party. I know this may sound silly but I'm crushed. What do I do? quote:So I realize this may sound silly and I'm sorry in advance if it does, I promise I'm not snooty or holier than thou in my day to day life. It's just that I've always wanted to host a "sophisticated" party with great wine and food and decent conversation. I'm not opposed to bar nights and keg parties, it's just that I wanted to do something different on this particular night (last Saturday).
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^^^ lol I forgot about this one, the only way I could see myself getting dressed up and going to a "sophisticated" wine & cheese tasting is if I knew ahead of time it'd devolve into thisArsenic Lupin posted:But the article pretty much agrees with what Miss Manners says. People are absolutely having friends over for dinner, but they're not "dinner parties" as my or Miss Manners's generation would interpret them. Nobody is writing Miss Manners about how to set up a seating plan for eight people, or what order you use the forks in, not even for fun. lol yeah, all of the millennial "dinner parties" I've been to, including Friendsgivings, have basically just been potlucks w/ booze, weed, and videogames. It rules The Maroon Hawk fucked around with this message at 21:32 on Sep 3, 2023 |
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Because rules of etiquette are stupid, arbitrary, and different depending on who you ask. The US Navy manual on dinner etiquette specifies that you always eat in the manner of the senior ranking member at the table, so you wait for them to eat their hotdog or whatever, and then you follow suit. Silverware is easy, you just go inside to outside as the dishes are presented to you.
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Sep 3, 2023 21:12
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Elviscat posted:Because rules of etiquette are stupid, arbitrary, and different depending on who you ask. it's outside to in...
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the holy poopacy posted:evergreen story in honor of dinner party chat Not often you get to hear the other side of the 90s beer ad.
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Elviscat posted:The US Navy manual on dinner etiquette specifies that you always eat in the manner of the senior ranking member at the table, so you wait for them to eat their hotdog or whatever, and then you follow suit. Lol, I should've gone into the navy and really pushed to go far. Winding down my career just going ham on a hot dog, shoveling mashed potatoes into my mouth, etc, at every dinner and nobody can say a thing because I outrank everyone 
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I don't think that even my parents, who are only a bit younger than Miss Manners, had those sorts of dinner parties. So yeah, they're super dead; and probably have been for quite some time. I admire the people who keep trying though. Not something I want to do, but I admire the spirit. Maybe they'll come back someday.
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White tie and black tie dinners are still a thing, just not in the social circles of people that post on Something Awful
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Foo Diddley posted:it's outside to in... Like I said, silverware's easy, outside to in.
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Elviscat posted:so you wait for them to eat their hotdog or whatever, and then you follow suit. Enlisted people, if your commanding officer doesn’t eat his hot dog like this  Then mutiny
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Modal Auxiliary posted:Tile is waterproof, but grout is porous af and second only to agar-filled petri dishes at growing vile, disgusting poo poo. Speaking of, one of the reddit update subreddits made an Open Relationships bingo card with 3-4 different cards 
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the holy poopacy posted:evergreen story in honor of dinner party chat I always felt bad for this one, because it seemed like people were having a good time before the frat party. Maybe they were just humoring her, but still. She put a lot of effort into this and her husband decided nah.
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Cowslips Warren posted:I always felt bad for this one, because it seemed like people were having a good time before the frat party. Maybe they were just humoring her, but still. She put a lot of effort into this and her husband decided nah. I dunno, while it certainly sucks to have your plans dashed like that, the torrent of positive responses makes it seem like everybody else had a way better time than expected. Maybe I'm out-of-touch, but back in my day parties were more about the guests' experience than the host's. Anyway, these people both suck and they're perfect for each other.
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Cowslips Warren posted:I always felt bad for this one, because it seemed like people were having a good time before the frat party. Maybe they were just humoring her, but still. She put a lot of effort into this and her husband decided nah. That just makes it sound like a "best of both worlds" situation, though, so I have a hard time getting all that broken up about it.
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Different story. This is the one with the dying mom and divorced dad. It doesn’t sound like the dad has been in close contact or anything, but checking with the kid’s surviving biological parent seems like such an obvious first step that any mention of that missing from the situation raises an eyebrow. Somewhere buried in a comment OP says that the father hosed off to another country and dropped all contact.
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Sep 3, 2023 21:48
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for Limiting Brewery Hours to Prevent Child Incidents, Resulting in Business Loss? Breweries were literally the first places my wife and I went after we had kids because they were always super chill and you could just hang and have a few beers while the kids were passed out in their car seat. Like this seems like such a dumb decision
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Cerekk posted:White tie and black tie dinners are still a thing, just not in the social circles of people that post on Something Awful This is absolutely a class thing, but the class that has dinner parties has skated steadily upward. Like, when my mom was given her wedding silver, china, and crystal (the bride picked that out, and the groom wasn't consulted) in 1957, she was the daughter of a single mother* who worked at the telephone company. Mom was an elementary school teacher, and her friends were at about that level of prosperity. Middle-class newlyweds in 2023 wouldn't have any interest in throwing that party. People's wedding registries are appliances, not silver sets or china. * Gramma was divorced and later widowed; she didn't start out as a single mother. Arsenic Lupin fucked around with this message at 21:59 on Sep 3, 2023 |
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when us lower-class folks have a "dinner party" we call it a "barbecue"
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But the thing is, my parents had barbecues, too. We had them at the local park on the picnic tables, but very much the same people were invited as to the dinner parties.
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Cowslips Warren posted:I always felt bad for this one, because it seemed like people were having a good time before the frat party. Maybe they were just humoring her, but still. She put a lot of effort into this and her husband decided nah. I'm sure they were having a great time debating the latest UN meeting minutes until the husband crashed through the wall with beer like the kool aid man.
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if you don't want your parties to be awesome maybe don't have a rad husband
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Arsenic Lupin posted:But middle-class people used to have plain old dinner parties, no white or black ties, routinely. You owned a formal dinner table big enough to seat 6, 8 or more with leaves. You had a dining room that was separate from the kitchen. You had the formal china. You had the formal silver. (You'd been given both of these as wedding presents.) You put down a tablecloth. There were cocktails beforehand, the hostess (almost always) had cooked something fancy, and there was assigned seating. I don't disagree with any of this, but middle class people throwing fancy dinner parties were always just cosplaying as people of higher wealth and status. That stuff was all modeled after aristocratic events. People don't do that anymore because the way people pretend they're richer than they are in the 21st century is going into debt to buy consumer goods.
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Cerekk posted:I don't disagree with any of this, but middle class people throwing fancy dinner parties were always just cosplaying as people of higher wealth and status. That stuff was all modeled after aristocratic events. People don't do that anymore because the way people pretend they're richer than they are in the 21st century is going into debt to buy consumer goods. Unless you are actual royalty, dinners with 8 forks and black ties is all just cosplaying as something you are not. Meanwhile, actual royalty in the 21st century parties at the discotek.
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:Does OP say anywhere why the father can’t take the kid in? He’s divorced and in another country, not dead, but there’s no indication that anyone even contacted him to ask. The kid's vibes, maybe?
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B-Rock452 posted:Breweries were literally the first places my wife and I went after we had kids because they were always super chill and you could just hang and have a few beers while the kids were passed out in their car seat. Like this seems like such a dumb decision  One of the couples in our friend group had their first kid a couple years before everybody else and we've met up at breweries most of the times we've gotten together since then. For the kids, there's plenty of open space to run around and a bunch of games and stuff (ping pong, ring toss, cornhole, etc) to keep entertained and it works for the adults too. Just super convenient. Anyways, for the story, if your business is on so much of a downward trajectory that you're cutting staff to the point that phrases like "skeleton crew" and "simply not making it as a business" are coming up...well, there's your answer. Get a lawyer and figure out what kind of legal CYA signage you need for other people's dogs and kids, then reverse your decision.
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AITA for not letting my husband sleep in on the weekend?quote:First time posting and English is not my first language. Bolding mine. AITA for leaving my own wedding early? quote:So I (30m) and my husband (34m) just got married a week ago. We were having a good wedding until the speeches happened. Now i thought it was common sense to not do this, but during the best man's speech he decided to propose to his girlfriend. She said yes and all hell broke loose. I wonder which is the worse job at a wedding, the dj or photographer. Seems a lot of this could be stopped if the former was warned about poo poo like this. Reddit however, already knew about this: quote:I used to photograph weddings before I discovered sanity. I’ve had more than one DJ tell me they will cater to the crowd over the bride and groom. In their eyes bride and film have already paid, and probably won’t have another reason to hire a DJ again for a while; if ever. The people in the crowd, are potential new customers; it’s far more likely a guest will need a DJ (engaged couples, dating couples, parents of couples) in the very near future.
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Cowslips Warren posted:I wonder which is the worse job at a wedding, the dj or photographer. Seems a lot of this could be stopped if the former was warned about poo poo like this. Reddit however, already knew about this: 
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sounds like that's a reason why you have a contract to only pay half up front with a rider to try and Trump yourself out of paying the other half in case of crap like that doubt it'd ever hold up in court but it might make the DJ think twice about ignoring you on the job
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You already tip the DJ after services rendered, which you would think would be sufficient motivation.
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McSpanky posted:Yeah, I've been to a fair number of weddings and I broadly remember cake pushing being a thing, but usually just a gentle boop with a small piece, not a full-on Three Stooges gag. Once again, like with all "pranks", done well, in the right spirit, to an appropriate degree, and with the consent of all parties involved, smearing a little bit of cake/clumsily hand feeding ones spouse a bit of the wedding cake can be a cute whimsical thing that everybody enjoys. The bastards slamming their wifes delicately made up face into a cake and then mean spiritedly laughing at the humiliated woman who specifically asked for this specific thing to not happen? gently caress them, and all they stand for.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for leaving my own wedding early? 
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BrigadierSensible posted:Once again, like with all "pranks", done well, in the right spirit, to an appropriate degree, and with the consent of all parties involved, smearing a little bit of cake/clumsily hand feeding ones spouse a bit of the wedding cake can be a cute whimsical thing that everybody enjoys. See this thread and 'pranks' ending up excuses to assault and abuse people.
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Cerekk posted:I don't disagree with any of this, but middle class people throwing fancy dinner parties were always just cosplaying as people of higher wealth and status. That stuff was all modeled after aristocratic events. People don't do that anymore because the way people pretend they're richer than they are in the 21st century is going into debt to buy consumer goods.
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It's really popular here for retiring ranchers to donate their properties to nature conservancy groups when their children aren't interested in taking it over. They treasure that piece of land and want it kept free from development even after they die. I think it's super cool. My father-in-law has a ranch himself. None of us kids want to to take it over. He keeps saying they need to hold a family meeting so he can discuss his will and future of his property, but he keeps insisting it has to be in-person which is going to be impossible because he's got 6 kids (7 if you include me) who live in 3 different provinces, one of them lives in a remote area by ferry or seaplane access only, and another one spends 3 months of the year in the US. I mean, I'd be happy to live there but I'd let the land go completely wild. But I have zero interest in becoming a rancher. I've helped numerous times with tagging and vaccinating calves, but I wouldn't want to be responsible for it.
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