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CompeAnansi posted:I sometimes read "ask Reddit" threads about what your parents did that really messed you up and one of my takeaways from reading all of the responses is that just about anything can mess up someone and that everyone has some trauma, the question is just how bad. Some wish their parents took a more active role in steering their life, others wish they were more hands-off. It's really hard to get hard and fast rules as a result (other than the obvious things like dont abuse your kids). That's part of what makes this all so hard. Everything has to be individualized to the kid in question and there are no clear answers on what will work with them and no matter what you do they'll still end up with some trauma, although ideally as little and as mild as possible. I sorta think it's not the proactive stuff that matters most with parenting, but the reactive stuff. Like, when something dramatic happens is The Moment that everything gets remembered and it just washes out everything else. Some people sink everything into making sure nothing dramatic ever happens to their kid adn they're super safe...but then it happens anyway and they're not ready. If you're there for your kid when it matters, even if it's following something traumatic, I think that goes further than years of good will, heartfelt work, and good parenting. That's not to say the latter stuff doesn't matter and shouldn't be done...just that our brains don't reward that stuff.
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echi do not, i repeat do not, take your son and his date to burger king
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echinopsis posted:my son has a girlfriend Is she in Canada, where you can't meet her, but she's also a hockey player and a model Alternately, tell him you're going to hug her then immediately shake his hand
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Sep 4, 2023 04:27
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Achmed Jones posted:echi do not, i repeat do not, take your son and his date to burger king lmao
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Sep 4, 2023 05:16
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fuckkn hell lol
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Achmed Jones posted:echi do not, i repeat do not, take your son and his date to burger king omg
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Sep 4, 2023 06:28
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El Mero Mero posted:"He can't hurt himself on this now, right?" - a fool the amount of small to bigtime injuries I've prevented by simply posting myself between playing children and potential dangers is *innumerable*
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Achmed Jones posted:echi do not, i repeat do not, take your son and his date to burger king
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Sep 4, 2023 15:21
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El Mero Mero posted:"He can't hurt himself on this now, right?" - a fool
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Sep 4, 2023 15:22
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my youngest has entered her insane eating phase. incredible watching the amount of food a 1.5 year old can put away. absolute unit.
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Sep 5, 2023 05:48
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being out eaten by your kids really is something to behold
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Sep 5, 2023 06:11
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cowboy beepboop posted:my youngest has entered her insane eating phase. incredible watching the amount of food a 1.5 year old can put away. absolute unit. FAT32 SHAMER posted:being out eaten by your kids really is something to behold
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Sep 5, 2023 10:46
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8 year old has started to get interested in cooking, his signature dish is pasta with tomato sauce and meatballs. Last time he cooked he and his little brother (6) finished what started out as 3 cans of tomatoes and half a kilo of pasta. Then they went out to play, feeling smug as gently caress that they are more likely to go out to play than sit down with lego or whatever not that the house haven’t been filled with lego once we discovered that you can get all instructions for free on your iPad and that bricklink is a thing that exists
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Sep 5, 2023 12:59
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https://www.instagram.com/reel/CtMGeNGJ4er/
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today we had a very cute response to "we're going out do you want to take your backpack?" Of walking around picking up her current favourite things to take with her. Lots of books. otoh the shredding of large amounts of toilet paper as an early morning activity is getting old Achmed Jones posted:echi do not, i repeat do not, take your son and his date to burger king idgi
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Sep 5, 2023 13:53
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bit of long story but it's echi's to tell
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Sep 5, 2023 16:40
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it probably doesn’t need a new audience
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Sep 5, 2023 20:02
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echinopsis posted:it probably doesn’t need a new audience
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Sep 5, 2023 20:05
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Powerful Two-Hander posted:today we had a very cute response to "we're going out do you want to take your backpack?" Of walking around picking up her current favourite things to take with her. Lots of books. 🥰
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Kenny Logins posted:that's fair enough man it’s not so much that I care, I just don’t think we can do the original story justice. there was something about the way I worded it the first time that cemented it’s place in yoslore, and I know I can’t make that magic happen again
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Sep 5, 2023 22:10
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find and quote the poasts so we can get caught up without you having to re-tell it
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Sep 5, 2023 22:19
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"I can have a bagel when I'm grown up" "What, a bagel? I don't..." "When I'm a grown up I can have a bagel! Stop laughing daddy I'm talking!"
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My 17 month old daughter has decided there is no act on earth more cruel, more unbearably sadistic, than her dad not picking her up and carrying her everywhere, all the time. The good news is I'm picking up muscle mass in my arms and chest. The bad news is everyone is now asking me to stay hidden when possible, lest the baby sees me and collapses into an irrepressible tantrum.
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Votskomit posted:My 17 month old daughter has decided there is no act on earth more cruel, more unbearably sadistic, than her dad not picking her up and carrying her everywhere, all the time. now I’m imagining you peeking around strategically placed potted palms
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Sep 6, 2023 02:05
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somehow my kid learned "my legs don't work! you have to carry me!" and gets so mad when I I tell him to drag himself up the steps using his arms.
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Votskomit posted:My 17 month old daughter has decided there is no act on earth more cruel, more unbearably sadistic, than her dad not picking her up and carrying her everywhere, all the time. My 2 year old needs to be carried a lot. I'm trying to coax him into walking to daycare, but he usually doesn't get halfway before freezing and saying "Carry me" And if I have to pick him up because a car is coming, he won't go back down. He refuses to ride his trike as well 
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tbh when the kids were young enough to be in a pushchair it meant we could go for huge walks and it was mint then when they wanted to walk themselves, going for long walks became infeasible we used to walk to parks and the zoo and etc but then we had to drive there instead
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Votskomit posted:My 17 month old daughter has decided there is no act on earth more cruel, more unbearably sadistic, than her dad not picking her up and carrying her everywhere, all the time. Welcome. Welcome, to the resistance training that will bring you the dad bod. They will forever demand that you carry them to bed, and you must, for as they grow, so too does the armory built into your arms. Let your guns grow large and powerful. When your child says "dad, I'm getting sleepy" you will respond with "hello, I'm getting sleepy," before lifting them over your shoulder. Your voice will boom with the reassurance: "I, am Dad."
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Yeah I have never been stronger and more fit in my life than I am right now and I owe it all to being the designated pack mule for two growing kids and their mother who, in fairness, has a bad hip.
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yeah the other day I thought "why does this child feel lighter even though they are now heavier?" then I remembered someone saying "it's like the way your child doesn't feel like they're getting heavier because you're getting strong to match" I still have skinny noodle arms though, just bigger shoulders
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check out mr camel legs for arms over here
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echinopsis posted:check out mr camel legs for arms over here "It's not from jacking off I swear!" I cry as the bros in the gym point and laugh
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Volmarias posted:Welcome. Welcome, to the resistance training that will bring you the dad bod. They will forever demand that you carry them to bed, and you must, for as they grow, so too does the armory built into your arms. Let your guns grow large and powerful. When your child says "dad, I'm getting sleepy" you will respond with "hello, I'm getting sleepy," before lifting them over your shoulder. Your voice will boom with the reassurance: "I, am Dad."
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I simply offset the extra fitness gains from carrying children by binge eating due to stress after they're in bed
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made the mistake of going bouldering without my kid and have been in pain for the last 2 days. turns out the breaks from climbing to spot/belay them help not overwork every loving muscle I possess.Votskomit posted:My 17 month old daughter has decided there is no act on earth more cruel, more unbearably sadistic, than her dad not picking her up evil_bunnY fucked around with this message at 15:29 on Sep 6, 2023 |
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evil_bunnY posted:There will come a day when you can't, so hop to it. I think about this often. Not just with kids, but especially with kids because they get bigger so fast. There's always a last time you'll do something with them and in the moment you never realize it's the very last time. Holding them on your shoulders, buckling them in the car seat, all those little daily rituals that you don't think about.
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polyester concept posted:I think about this often. Not just with kids, but especially with kids because they get bigger so fast. There's always a last time you'll do something with them and in the moment you never realize it's the very last time. Holding them on your shoulders, buckling them in the car seat, all those little daily rituals that you don't think about.
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there will be a time when you last look into the innocent eyes of your child, uncorrupted by the internet
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then he will murmer "skibidi dop dop dop yes yes" and you will know that he's already gone
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Achmed Jones posted:then he will murmer "skibidi dop dop dop yes yes" and you will know that he's already gone me: mom i think i may be in trouble for getting $1300 in american money on a donation website by saying I have leukemia please dont sing skibidi toilet mom: skibidi dop dop dop yes yes me, sobbing: please please i got a phone call from the canada revenus agency my dad via speakerphone: dom dom yes yes
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