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I had plans to propose to my wife in Prague. She kinda knew something was coming, but I spent an entire day roaming the city with her looking for a good spot/moment. It became comical because every time I'd find some slightly quiet secluded corner of a park or something, a gaggle of teens would suddenly show up, or a loud group of Italian tourists would burst into the scene. The entire day was just non-stop having the moment ruined. Eventually I just proposed at the end of the day at our apartment. We successfully got married despite not having a corporate marketing department level of instagram perfect engagement photos. That poo poo doesn't matter. Have a great marriage, not a great proposal. I mean have fun with it if that's what you want, but if a random person existing in a park is enough to totally destroy your proposal plans then your plan is incredibly brittle and stupid.
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a random aside - remember when crypto people sincerely thought blockchain would 'stop theft' bc you could always see where the tokens went, but then it turned out that was absolutely useless for protecting your assets bc the cops can't do anything to get your money if you got scammed out of it lol they seriously thought the issue with scamming was 'you don't know where the money went' and just having that info would make it so the powers that be just return your money to you bc the blockchain showed it was previously yours lol
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Baronjutter posted:I mean have fun with it if that's what you want, but if a random person existing in a park is enough to totally destroy your proposal plans then your plan is incredibly brittle and stupid. Many relationships are actually quite brittle and stupid, hyper-performative poo poo like this is a pretty good indicator, IMO.
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The fact that she refused to move does t make it crazy to have expected someone to move. Anything about weddings seems to turn this thread against the people. But it costs nothing for the picnicking person to move, and it clearly meant a lot to the others. Why not make them happy? The person eating was just being lazy and refusing to make a simple accommodation that would’ve made two other people happy. We live in a society…
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Sep 13, 2023 17:25
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poisonpill posted:But it costs nothing for the picnicking person to move, and it clearly meant a lot to the others. Which really means that it would have been less effort for the photographer to find a slightly different spot, or if there truly were no other spots he should have arrived earlier or they should have been content to wait an hour for the spot to clear up.
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poisonpill posted:The fact that she refused to move does t make it crazy to have expected someone to move. Anything about weddings seems to turn this thread against the people. But it costs nothing for the picnicking person to move, and it clearly meant a lot to the others. Why not make them happy? The person eating was just being lazy and refusing to make a simple accommodation that would’ve made two other people happy. And the people doing their proposal shoot could have, and in fact did, just had their shoot somewhere else in the park rather than repeatedly harassing the woman. You'd have a case if they just asked once and she said no, but the story told has a repeated aggressor party, and it's not the picknicker.
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I have a lot of couple friends who have photos like that framed and in pride of place in their homes. It's not all social media clout-chasing.
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poisonpill posted:The fact that she refused to move does t make it crazy to have expected someone to move. Anything about weddings seems to turn this thread against the people. But it costs nothing for the picnicking person to move, and it clearly meant a lot to the others. Why not make them happy? The person eating was just being lazy and refusing to make a simple accommodation that would’ve made two other people happy. The wedding link is what made the couple act all entitled though. If you rewrite the scenario where the couple were taking engagement photos and OP showed up and told them they need to move so she can eat lunch, that makes it much clearer how unreasonable of a request it is. Why not make her happy? Would the couple taking photos be lazy for not making a simple accommodation? Attaching a wedding link to a request doesn’t make it less unreasonable, which is why it gets called out when people demand special treatment.
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Sep 13, 2023 17:31
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don longjohns posted:For some reason, regardless of its veracity, this AITA post has made my stomach queasy. Yeah, the thought of being in a room with a lock on the outside really creeps me out, even if no-one else was in the house.
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FoolyCharged posted:I'm having a big laugh at this because the gfs response to the dungeon was "I don't trust this guy with a prison in his basement, but I think I'll stick around and spend over a hundred bucks spying on him instead of just, I dunno, not risking my life hanging around the person with a dungeon in his basement he could seal me in?" Runcible Cat posted:Yeah, the thought of being in a room with a lock on the outside really creeps me out, even if no-one else was in the house. I don't think he's a serial killer or a bdsm kinkster hiding his kink (if he was at the stage of his life where he would buy a house with a sex dungeon, he would be actively dating other kinksters), but I do think he is being a dingus about not removing the external locks at the very least. I imagine replacing a door like that would be pricey, but he's gotta do something about the locks.
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Unless whoever built the sex dungeon did it in a weird way, you can replace the knob with a non-locking one without having to take off the door. He should have immediately offered to do that to defuse the situation
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Picnic lady is NTA because if it was me I’d go extra spiteful and take a nap afterwards. Knowing full well I’d be a jerk.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:a random aside - remember when crypto people sincerely thought blockchain would 'stop theft' bc you could always see where the tokens went, but then it turned out that was absolutely useless for protecting your assets bc the cops can't do anything to get your money if you got scammed out of it lol Literaly how most bitcoin thefts are pulled off. 
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poisonpill posted:The fact that she refused to move does t make it crazy to have expected someone to move. Anything about weddings seems to turn this thread against the people. But it costs nothing for the picnicking person to move, and it clearly meant a lot to the others. Why not make them happy? The person eating was just being lazy and refusing to make a simple accommodation that would’ve made two other people happy. I've lived in a few different cultures and in all of them public spaces are first come, first served and if someone doesn't vacate immediately when asked you just wait your turn like an adult. You don't say "My thing is more important than your thing" and have a hissy fit. There are quite possibly assholes on both sides of this story, but for my money failure to yield is a far lesser sin than trying to chase someone out of a public space and then having a temper tantrum about it.
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Modal Auxiliary posted:I've lived in a few different cultures and in all of them public spaces are first come, first served and if someone doesn't vacate immediately when asked you just wait your turn like an adult. You don't say "My thing is more important than your thing" and have a hissy fit. but have you considered that they really really wanted it??? (but not enough to plan ahead more than 5 minutes)
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the holy poopacy posted:but have you considered that they really really wanted it??? (but not enough to plan ahead more than 5 minutes) There were two of them so they must have wanted it 2x as much, bare minimum. It's basic math, really.
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Sep 13, 2023 18:28
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Nice Tuckpointing! posted:I have a lot of couple friends who have photos like that framed and in pride of place in their homes. It's not all social media clout-chasing. And if that spot is really that important to them, they can wait their turn.
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Well, yeah. I was just countering the assumptions that it was all about the 'gram; just as others were assuming the picnicker is bitter and lonely.
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Unless you own that plot of property, have a reservation for that plot of property, or you’re a cop, I don’t have to move from wherever I’ve sat down. Especially if it’s public property like a park. How hard is this to understand?
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💩💩💩💩 AITA for returning my neighbor's dog poop with a shovel. quote:My neighbors recently got a big mixed breed dog that they allow to crap on my lawn every day. I tried talking to them about it, they said it wouldn't happen any more but they didn't stop. They live across the street and three houses down so I guess they thought I couldn't really do anything. They didn't take into account that I am a petty gal that used to play lacrosse.
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FMguru posted:The BIL's name? Ea-Nasir! I've seen a bunch of references to this guy in the last six months or so. Is it the internet being cyclical, that thing where once you start noticing something you spot it a lot more, or was there some sort of new news about it recently?
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Bruceski posted:I've seen a bunch of references to this guy in the last six months or so. Is it the internet being cyclical, that thing where once you start noticing something you spot it a lot more, or was there some sort of new news about it recently? It's just the internet being cyclical, it's an inherently really funny concept so every so often it has a burst of virality
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ChickenDoodle posted:Unless you own that plot of property, have a reservation for that plot of property, or you’re a cop, I don’t have to move from wherever I’ve sat down. Especially if it’s public property like a park. How hard is this to understand? Doormats are gonna doormat, I guess.
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FMguru posted:AITA for returning my neighbor's dog poop with a shovel. NTA I think this should happen to all dog owners who don't pick up after their dogs
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FMguru posted:💩💩💩💩 Your husband is lame, reddit lady that won't read this.
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Baronjutter posted:I had plans to propose to my wife in Prague. She kinda knew something was coming, but I spent an entire day roaming the city with her looking for a good spot/moment. It became comical because every time I'd find some slightly quiet secluded corner of a park or something, a gaggle of teens would suddenly show up, or a loud group of Italian tourists would burst into the scene. The entire day was just non-stop having the moment ruined. Eventually I just proposed at the end of the day at our apartment. We successfully got married despite not having a corporate marketing department level of instagram perfect engagement photos. That poo poo doesn't matter. Have a great marriage, not a great proposal. I mean have fun with it if that's what you want, but if a random person existing in a park is enough to totally destroy your proposal plans then your plan is incredibly brittle and stupid. sever
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FMguru posted:💩💩💩💩 Some years ago after our neighbor's moved in, and the daughter had a baby, I noticed used diapers being thrown into my backyard. I confronted the neighbors on it and the dad was kind of angry but told me he would talk to his sons because they were the ones that were doing it. Apparently these middle school kids were bored or didn't like doing diaper duty or who knows. But after talking to the dad 2 or 3 different times and still finding diapers thrown in my backyard, I instead started picking them up with a shovel and launching it over the backyard wall. A few of them ended up in their yard, a few ended up on top of the car in their backyard, a few ended up on the roof. I'm not sure which of the three did it, but at some point the diapers stopped appearing in my backyard. As for the dungeon dude, I'm sorry, I've read way too many true crime stories about stuff like that for this to be fine, and his girlfriend was stupid for trying to spy on him when what she should have done was escape the area, and possibly blast this information all over social media so people know, Hey this dude has a dungeon. And it's got a bed and a lot of living stuff, including a refrigerator and oh and the door only opens from the outside and it's capable of locking you in. Yeah, there's no real positive way to spin that, even with his idea that he uses it to get away from everything so he can focus on work. It's almost like finding out someone you know has a whole bunch of anime Lolita statues: yeah, they might not be a pedophile, but there's a lot of evidence that suggest otherwise. Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 20:15 on Sep 13, 2023 |
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I dunno, lady could just ask him to take the external lock off. I believe it came like that, old houses have weird poo poo. Then again I owned a house with a basement that used to be an after-hours club, so I'm jaded. On my house I would have taken that loving lock and probably door off before I even entered that room.
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I do solo picnic too. They're really comfy. I suggest people here try it once and you'll realize that the enjoyment of your picnic is much higher than whatever the hell those two were gonna do anyway
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Baronjutter posted:I had plans to propose to my wife in Prague. She kinda knew something was coming, but I spent an entire day roaming the city with her looking for a good spot/moment. It became comical because every time I'd find some slightly quiet secluded corner of a park or something, a gaggle of teens would suddenly show up, or a loud group of Italian tourists would burst into the scene. The entire day was just non-stop having the moment ruined. Eventually I just proposed at the end of the day at our apartment. We successfully got married despite not having a corporate marketing department level of instagram perfect engagement photos. That poo poo doesn't matter. Have a great marriage, not a great proposal. I mean have fun with it if that's what you want, but if a random person existing in a park is enough to totally destroy your proposal plans then your plan is incredibly brittle and stupid. poisonpill posted:The fact that she refused to move does t make it crazy to have expected someone to move. Anything about weddings seems to turn this thread against the people. But it costs nothing for the picnicking person to move, and it clearly meant a lot to the others. Why not make them happy? The person eating was just being lazy and refusing to make a simple accommodation that would’ve made two other people happy. Because it would make ME unhappy.
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ChickenDoodle posted:Unless you own that plot of property, have a reservation for that plot of property, or you’re a cop, I don’t have to move from wherever I’ve sat down. Especially if it’s public property like a park. How hard is this to understand? From one point of view both the picnicker and the engagement party have equivalent and incompatible desires to use a public space, but the engagement party has a more serious reason for what they want, so the picnicker should yield. From another (IMO better) point of view, the picnicker wants shared use of the space and the engagement party wants exclusive use of the space. Kicking other people out of a space is fundamentally not equivalent to being able to use a space yourself and the engagement party is trying to impose on the picnicker in a way that the picnicker is not trying to impose on the engagement party. If OP is feeling magnanimous the swell thing to do would be to let them have it anyhow but it's not really a reasonable demand. Cowslips Warren posted:As for the dungeon dude, I'm sorry, I've read way too many true crime stories about stuff like that for this to be fine, and his girlfriend was stupid for trying to spy on him when what she should have done was escape the area, and possibly blast this information all over social media so people know, Hey this dude has a dungeon. And it's got a bed and a lot of living stuff, including a refrigerator and oh and the door only opens from the outside and it's capable of locking you in. Yeah, there's no real positive way to spin that, even with his idea that he uses it to get away from everything so he can focus on work. I think people are glossing over quote:I obviously didn’t add any of the soundproofing and the door already had the exterior locks and food pass through thing when I first came here. there is no need to put "dungeon" in quotes, you have a literal for real dungeon in your basement dude. you do not need a literal for real dungeon to have a quiet spot in your basement. get rid of the drat lock.
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The weirdest thing about that story is how blase the guy is about the room, as if it's just something you can expect to find occasionally when you move to a new place. I'd be in full on  mode until I figured out what was up with that.
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Hogging a prominent scenic view with an hour long picnic seems kind of rude in any event
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Cowslips Warren posted:Some years ago after our neighbor's moved in, and the daughter had a baby, I noticed used diapers being thrown into my backyard. I confronted the neighbors on it and the dad was kind of angry but told me he would talk to his sons because they were the ones that were doing it. Apparently these middle school kids were bored or didn't like doing diaper duty or who knows. But after talking to the dad 2 or 3 different times and still finding diapers thrown in my backyard, I instead started picking them up with a shovel and launching it over the backyard wall. A few of them ended up in their yard, a few ended up on top of the car in their backyard, a few ended up on the roof. I'm not sure which of the three did it, but at some point the diapers stopped appearing in my backyard. drat shame they didn't have a pool.
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Y'all want a damned if you do, damned if you don't? AITA for arranging child care far away from my wedding reception. quote:I got married this summer. And while I wanted a child free wedding I realized that this would exclude a lot of my friends and family. So I came up with what I thought was a good compromise.
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I was going to say most pools have such an assload of chlorine in them you can just fish it out with a new and be fine. And then I remembered private pools run much lower quantities and that poo poo would need shocked E: ^^^^^ I love that as a solution. Food the kids will want? Stuff the kids will actually want to do? An incredibly trivial drive time? All of those angry parents are idiots that want their kids bored out of their minds. FoolyCharged fucked around with this message at 20:57 on Sep 13, 2023 |
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Mr. Grapes! posted:Is anyone upset at Soup Nazi? Feresten [the writer of the episode] doesn’t figure he could get away with the Soup Nazi name today. “It was a time in America when there were no real Nazis around. So it didn’t really feel like that bad of a joke,” he said. “But I think about it all the time.” https://wapo.st/3sNZzQl
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poisonpill posted:The person eating was just being lazy and refusing to make a simple accommodation that would’ve made two other people happy. People are allowed to be lazy in public spaces. That's what they're FOR. To fuckin' laze around in.
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Also it's very likely the proposers would have asked them to move all their picnic stuff too, which would not be nearly as reasonable as just moving yourself for a few minutes Uncontrolled public spaces are first-come, first-served. It's the only way that's fair to everyone
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