Upgrade posted:

How is the mom making almost a million dollars a year in passive income?

Captain Hygiene posted:

The weirdest thing about that story is how blase the guy is about the room, as if it's just something you can expect to find occasionally when you move to a new place. I'd be in full on mode until I figured out what was up with that.

wheatpuppy posted:

Waaay back when the Duggars first started appearing on TLC documentaries, there was a show where they visited some other family with 14 kids. The two moms got together and compared all the things they loved about being pregnant and it was deeply uncomfortable to watch. So yeah, if you have more than a dozen kids I would say there is a nonzero chance it is a fetish.

Pomme de Terror posted:

Went and checked (original post has been deleted) and OP posted these responses in the comments

Hellblazer187 posted:

Feel like it should be pretty easy to just switch out the lock for one that locks on the inside. Then you don't risk locking yourself in and dying in your hide the disabled people away 1960s style dungeon. The relationship is toast, so w/e about that, but it's a pretty major hazard to have that if you live alone.

haveblue posted:

Yeah “passive income” means some kind of recurring investment returns, and living off it means it involves several million dollars of principal

So either she came from a rich family or is a landlord

Death by guillotine

Khanstant posted:

What is even the drive to have a large family if you can't support it? Just some people got an overactive procreation setting or just the worst power tripping, maybe an unquenchable desire to forge a family performing act?

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

Most of human history and a bunch of major religious texts value women primarily as mothers, among other reasons to strip them of their own motivations and goals, and this is still the social norm in some environments. Without other channels for actualizing themselves, some women growing up in repressive environments have internalized this as an identity.

hawowanlawow posted:

well yea but what about the good parts

Gawr Gooner posted:

My first thought was a makeshift SCIF. It's sometimes enough to just have a windowless, soundproof room with a lock on the door if you want to work from home and get it approved. Previous homeowner could've worked on a Confidential project or something.

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for telling my SIL exactly what having a big family would mean for her?

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We make a high 6 figure income combined, and are debt free, as well as owning our house outright (relevant).

Involuntary Sparkle posted:

This just reminds me of a Bad With Money thread post from a while back where the reddit poster said they made "mid 6 figures" and the thread tried to figure out what they meant by that until they mentioned in the reddit comments that it was 150k.

It's a whole other discussion but it's really weird what people mean when they describe different levels of "6 figures." I see here she means 300k.

Nocheez posted:

She said her husband makes 300k. That's more than enough to live anywhere, without her passive income that's stated at "high 6 figures."

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i just want to provide some context. my husband has been married previously, and have existing 2 young kids below the age of 10 (wonderful children! i treat them as my own even). however, the ex wife hasn’t been particularly great to me, and has caused us many issues throughout the course of our relationship. they are still residing together in the same house but in different bedrooms for the sake of co-parenting. she doesn’t even know that he is married to me (as per lawyers’ advice to him, it’s best to not reveal this information as it may trigger her and cause her to disagree with the existing co-parenting plan, which is that the kids primarily reside with my husband other than the weekend).

i just found out i was pregnant 2 days ago, and waiting for my first prenatal appointment at 7 weeks in october and was extremely excited to start this chapter in my life. my husband and i agreed that we would hold off from telling anyone until we hit 3months, so as to have everything stable so i haven’t even told my own parents who already disapprove of my husband. i already feel so incredibly sad and depressed, i get to see my husband once a week at most, he’s staying with his ex wife, he won’t tell his ex wife about our marriage (because he thinks that she will not let the kids move out with him if he does) and i just feel so loving alone. i feel like i have nobody to turn to, and i feel so miserable going through all of this alone. we will move in together in our new home in november, and i’ll be 3 months by then. by the time the children live with us i’ll be 4 months - and he’s telling me that his lawyers advised that the ex wife who hates me, should be allowed in our home to check out the house. i understand it’s because of co-parenting but i already feel so miserable as is. the ex wife literally told me that if i ever get pregnant with his child, i should remember my place and that i’ll never come before her and her kids. i just don’t want to be in this position and i feel so lost. my mother TOLD me that this would be exactly the problem, and i defended him again and again and told her this is what i wanted. i completely hosed over my relationship with my parents for a guy who doesn’t even prioritise me or our marriage. and now i am pregnant with his child, that he wanted so badly, and i’m still not a priority.

Evil Willow posted:

she doesn’t even know that he is married to me

Captain Hygiene posted:

Pomme de Terror posted:

Went and checked (original post has been deleted) and OP posted these responses in the comments

Evil Willow posted:

I regret marrying my husband.

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for telling my SIL exactly what having a big family would mean for her?

Evil Willow posted:

I regret marrying my husband. I should have listened to my mother.

deety posted:

I know this is a minor thing compared to how ridiculous the overall story is, but keeping the marriage secret from this guy's "ex" has to mean keeping it secret from his children, right? You'd think it would be a red flag to OP that this man is supposedly such a devoted father that he can barely see her, but he's somehow still cool with not having his kids at his wedding.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

You do not need an outside lock on your secure Top Secret room. You need an inside lock. You also should not expect to be fed through the door.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

You do not need an outside lock on your secure Top Secret room. You need an inside lock. You also should not expect to be fed through the door.

Pirate Radar posted:

That confused me because she says she treats his kids well which implies they’ve met. Is the dad getting the kids to go along with the deception?

Elissimpark posted:

I'm trying to think of the composer whose impresario would lock him in a room to make sure he'd finish writing his operas.

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I recently went to see my parents with my newborn. It was just for the long weekend so my husband stayed home with our three older children. 7/5/3.

My husband called me when I was out of town to let me know his brother needed a place to crash. I said that he should give him a ride to a shelter or something because it was a bad idea to let his brother in our home. He has stolen from us before.

When I got home there were five very itchy people in the house. I immediately got back in my car and went to my parents house. My husband was calling me the whole time because he needed help dealing with the lice. I didn't call him back until the baby was settled back in at my folk's place.

I told him the pharmacy had the shampoo and comb for lice. He said he needed me to come home and take care of it. I noped. I said that he let his brother in our home against my wishes. His brother gave them all lice. I also reminded him that when our oldest got lice from kindergarten he didn't help me at all.

I hate lice. They freak me out. I dealt with it because I had to. This time it's on him. He said that he would have to use up his sick days to take care of this. I said tough poo poo.

He did it. He took his brother to a shelter, he deloused himself and the kids, and then he spent three days cleaning all the bedding and the furniture. He called me every day begging for help. I did not come home until his mothe confirmed that everything was done.

He is pissed that I stuck him with all that by himself. I know I should have helped but it was too much. I'm still not 100% from the baby. It was just too much.

SulfurMonoxideCute posted:

That's actually not that weird, hiking takes a lot of energy. I've brought weirder stuff and they weren't even planned picnics.

These weren't all the same trip, and some were at backcountry campsites where we could set up a stove and cook, but I've brought:

- A box of half a dozen cupcakes, with sprinkles
- A jar of nutella and a bunch of bananas
- 2L bottle of Coke zero (for sharing)
- A bottle of Everclear and a few boxes of Crystal Lite (also sharing)
- Bottles of ketchup and relish, a bag of fried onions, hot dogs and buns
- Party sized bags of chips
- A bottle of champagne

We also used to use a vodka bottle to store our camp fuel in because we thought it would be funny for people to think we were putting kodka into our alcohol stove. We were very careful to keep it hidden and also drew a giant skull and crossbones on it with the words FUEL DO NOT DRINK underneath.

wheatpuppy posted:

When I was house-hunting about 12 years ago, I was taken aback by the nicely-restored Victorian that had a heavily-insulated freestanding room in the middle of the basement with a freezer-type locking latch on the outside of the door. Inside the room had plain white tile walls, a single wooden chair, and a floor drain.

By the third house with an externally-locking basement room with a floor drain, I just came to understand that there are undercurrents of small-town South Dakota that I cannot comprehend.

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My girlfriend (F20) told me (M19) Monday morning that I can no longer be seen with her around school, and that her and I can’t post pictures of us together because it violates a thing called FERPA. The reason for this is because of her position as a student worker that works around academic documents of students and it would be a “conflict of interest” according to her Human Resources department. Is this true? Can she really be barred from having a relationship with another student because of her position? My parents say she’s lying and a good friend of mine and hers tells me that she always tells them she feels really bad about the situation.

Runcible Cat posted:

Lotta civic-minded werewolves in South Dakota, obviously.

Pirate Radar posted:

Girlfriend says I can’t be seen with her or post pictures of her due to FERPA. Is this true?