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NGDBSS posted:Honestly this sounds like the coworker is having autistic meltdowns. Yeah that's definitely neurodivergence and/or a sensory processing issue AAM does not consider this and just says to give her a stern talking-to
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Pope Corky the IX posted:When I got married the first time we hyphenated our last name and from that point on we were at the mercy of whoever was taking information on the other end of the phone, computer, etc. Some people just don't feel like entering hyphenated names correctly, or the system doesn't accept them. So if it's supposed to be Smith-Jones you'll get. I had trouble getting my Pell Grant disbursed in college because I have two last names (Hispanic, no hyphen). My name on file only had my first last name, so the financial aid would get flagged and I'd have to come into the office and show my Social Security card and prove that I was me. I only figured it out many, many years later when I had issues getting an account set up with an electric company for the same reason when I moved into an apartment. In researching the issue, I also found out someone in Texas had opened a credit card in my name when I was 17 and had never missed a payment in seven years, thus building my credit.
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# ? Nov 17, 2023 21:15 |
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Hybrid-last-name chat! My wife was still a Chinese citizen when we got married, and China doesn't officially recognize things like name changes performed by another countries government, so she kept her name (to avoid paperwork trouble) until her naturalization process was done, which was another opportunity for a "free" name change. Well the lady who did her final interview decided she couldn't (or wouldn't) go with our original plan, which was to keep her Chinese surname as a middle name and take my last name, but she could give her a space separated last name. So now everyone we have to give her official name to gets confused. We haven't run into any trouble with air travel yet though.
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# ? Nov 17, 2023 21:19 |
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There's a fairly famous (among programmers, at least) article describing why all name fields should just be a single free text field: https://www.kalzumeus.com/2010/06/17/falsehoods-programmers-believe-about-names/ Despite this being ~13 years old, every single place I have worked wants firstname lastname for inputs and good luck convincing the designers/project managers/client otherwise.
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Batterypowered7 posted:I had trouble getting my Pell Grant disbursed in college because I have two last names (Hispanic, no hyphen). My name on file only had my first last name, so the financial aid would get flagged and I'd have to come into the office and show my Social Security card and prove that I was me. I feel so bad for people with Hispanic/Latin American names. We have so many people miss flights because part of their first name is entered as a middle etc and TSA digs in their heels.
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AITA for punishing my 16-year-old step-daughter after we found out she was bullying a kid for being poorquote:Hi reddit, about 2 months ago my wife (f38) and I (m41) learned my step-daughter(f16) was bullying a girl in school over being poor, getting free lunch at school and not being able to afford neccessties such as her own car and stuff. AITA for telling my mom I won't help her around the house because that's a woman's job? quote:TA and before you get mad from the title there's context. Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 21:27 on Nov 17, 2023 |
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MarxCarl posted:and they gave her gas money, She's like Yiff The Otter. Holy poo poo, I'd never read this story before and .... goddamn VERY NWS/NMS spookykid fucked around with this message at 21:29 on Nov 17, 2023 |
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I sort of wish I had changed my last name when my wife and I married, but mine is really unique and hers was the same as the guy who shot JFK. Her mom remarried and had a different name as well. I felt strongly at the time that if we were to have kids we should all have the same last name. I'm glad we do, but the decision was made 12+ years ago and I wish I had the foresight to realize that we had more choices than just mine or hers.
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# ? Nov 17, 2023 21:36 |
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rotinaj posted:Are you just projecting your personal issues onto a story that hits close to home? Lol it’s experience, I was pretty clear that my issue was boredom and annoyance for more context I was stuck in a peer group of my kids’ friends’ parents. Then we discovered the most important rhyme to teach parents of small children: quote:Roses are red
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# ? Nov 17, 2023 21:40 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for punishing my 16-year-old step-daughter after we found out she was bullying a kid for being poor Holy Simpsons Frogurt Meme Cowslips Warren posted:(f16) Cowslips Warren posted:i was furious as we thought we didnt raise her to behave that way Cowslips Warren posted:her mom and I's money Cowslips Warren posted:(punishment stuff) Cowslips Warren posted:Windows computer
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Pope Corky the IX posted:I've sent a gift certificate for Archives to Rat Patrol and asked Ravus Ursus what upgrade they'd like. I plan on doing stuff like this more in the future, especially once I reboot the thread in a few weeks. Thank you everyone for contributing and continuing to make this thread what it is. You the real MVP. I just gotta figure out what princely image to use as my avatar. FMguru posted:Some excellent spite by OP here. My pops made a joke about my rabbit being good for a stew once. Once. trickybiscuits posted:Sic semper enablers. Lol! Fay needs noise cancelling headphones and to stew and plot violence in silence like the rest of us. Big Bowie Bonanza posted:I feel so bad for people with Hispanic/Latin American names. We have so many people miss flights because part of their first name is entered as a middle etc and TSA digs in their heels. The biggest issue my wife has had is that she gets second hand racism. When she applies for a job with her maiden name she gets them interviews, but when she used my last name or a joined named she gets less interviews and when she does she gets weirdo looks because blonde blue eyed Amazon with a very Latin last name bugs people out. She mostly uses her maiden name as it appears first so if anything is going to get cut off it'll be my name. I told her we should've just merged our names into something cool as poo poo like Striker instead of Stacker-Silvestre, but here we are.
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spookykid posted:Holy poo poo, I'd never read this story before and .... goddamn You are either brave or a fool to google a story with the only information being the words "yiff the otter".
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Midnight Voyager posted:You are either brave or a fool to google a story with the only information being the words "yiff the otter". After googling it in quotes from incognito (prophylaxis! not just for your genitals!) the first result was a SA link so I considered it at least somewhat safe.
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FMguru posted:My parents have a proven track record of promising to take care of a living thing that is precious to me, then turning around and murdering it, and then lying to my face about it. Should I let them see my infant child? PetraCore posted:OP should tell them she can't let them meet her son because she can't trust them not to kill their grandchild and then lie about it. Top rated comment: quote:Tell your mom “Sorry but we can’t take the chance you might have your Grandson euthanized while he’s in your care.”
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haveblue posted:Yeah that's definitely neurodivergence and/or a sensory processing issue People on that site are strongly urged not to diagnose. Some people in the comments are talking about it, and the general agreement is that it's probably something like that but that she is not taking responsibility to handle it properly.
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WIBTA if I tell my parents the truth about my sister’s financesquote:My little sister is on the verge of bankruptcy. Traditionally, if a man can't support his family, what was the end result other than them starving? This reminds me, without the kids at least, of a time in my life when I was pretty destitute but did not want to ask my family for help because I figured this kind of struggling was what everyone dealt with at one point or another and if I could just power through it I would be fine. To which the narrator says, she was not fine, she was close to a mental breakdown, but she insisted on keeping quiet because she didn't want to seem like a leech.
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trickybiscuits posted:People on that site are strongly urged not to diagnose. It could also just be that she’s an rear end in a top hat. My brother acts autistic because tiktok has brainwashed him into thinking he is but he’s been told by multiple professionals over several years that he is not autistic
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Cowslips Warren posted:WIBTA if I tell my parents the truth about my sister’s finances They starved, in an extremely manly way because that's what's important. Bonus points if the man 'has an accident cleaning his gun'. Because asking for help is worse than your own death and the lives of your family.
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Had a dark chuckle at A MAN PROVIDES unless he doesn't want to work more hours at a shittier job away from his family
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Nocheez posted:her name was the same as the guy who shot JFK. Wow, your wife's name was Bernard Sanders?
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The FDA will never get away with this
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Kitfox88 posted:Had a dark chuckle at A MAN PROVIDES unless he doesn't want to work more hours at a shittier job away from his family Privileges are irrevocable, responsibilities negotiable.
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ChthonicMasturbatr posted:Wow, your wife's name was Bernard Sanders? I was curious who would take the bait, and what they would put. I did not expect to see Bernie Sanders. vvvvvvv That's the one I was expecting. Nocheez fucked around with this message at 00:30 on Nov 18, 2023 |
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ChthonicMasturbatr posted:Wow, your wife's name was Bernard Sanders? That's not Ted Cruz's dad's name.
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Cowslips Warren posted:WIBTA if I tell my parents the truth about my sister’s finances Traditionally a lot of what they'd consider 'woman's work' was the basic poo poo that would help keep you from starving; e.g. taking care of animals, growing a garden, cloth production, that sort of thing.
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# ? Nov 18, 2023 00:32 |
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A couple of my friends got married, one was already double-barrelled and they tried to go with a triple-barreled surname until they realized how much of a headache it was. Not sure what they are these days legally, what I see on my end is mostly informal and/or old social media accounts that they didn't change the name on after marrying. Not surnames, but one of my childhood friends went by his middle name and just initialed his first and it caused issues. Another friend actually DID have a single-letter first name and that really caused headaches.
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Gotta start going with one of those Russian-styled acronyms so that Jane Karlsson-Davidoff-Shimizu-Anders becomes KarDaShiAn
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Bruceski posted:A couple of my friends got married, one was already double-barrelled and they tried to go with a triple-barreled surname until they realized how much of a headache it was. Not sure what they are these days legally, what I see on my end is mostly informal and/or old social media accounts that they didn't change the name on after marrying. My uncle was named Dio Clare Surname, and introduced himself as "Dio C. Surname" which was frequently misheard as D.O.C. Surname and that's why I had an Uncle Doc. But that was back in pre-computer days so basically you could call yourself whatever the hell you wanted.
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AITAH for demanding that my older brother respect our inheritance?quote:So, me (25f) and my younger sister Jaya (21f) have an older half-brother Leon (35m) who our mom had with her first husband when she was 18 and had immigrated from China. By the time Leon was 8, our mom left his dad, she married our dad and she turned the house they used to live at into a rental. This is the opposite of the usual kind of inheritance issues. OP is kinda the rear end in a top hat to both her half-brother and herself for not respecting her half-brother's choice but she's probably not thinking straight due to grief
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AITA for refusing to take fiancés last name?quote:To start off I (F,23) have been dating (M,25) for 7 years now. We’ve been in a happy and stable relationship, we have never had any major fights, and are very much in love. A few weeks ago, he proposed and I couldn’t have been happier. But here’s where the issue arises.
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Tarezax posted:AITAH for demanding that my older brother respect our inheritance? I would assume that admitting her mom was a neglectful mom to her for someone who did not appreciate or want her attention is too devastating to parse out right now so she wants him to take the money so she can avoid confronting that.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for refusing to take fiancés last name? "The Daek-faehr residence, lady of the house speaking"
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for refusing to take fiancés last name? Looked this one up and her last name is O'Kweefe
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AITA for telling my friend that it's stupid and selfish to refuse to use effective birth control?quote:My boyfriend and I live in a somewhat isolated/rural area, so we were excited when a couple around our age (late 20’s/early 30’s) moved close to us, and SUPER excited to learn that we shared a lot of hobbies. We’ve become really close with “Jeff” and “Jane” and have been spending a lot more time together, either in pairs or all together. "It's your job as a woman to be depressed and in pain so your boyfriend can enjoy sex more!"
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what is marriage if not being a couple of dickfarts together
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my friend that it's stupid and selfish to refuse to use effective birth control? Also if it kills your libido, it's up to you to just power through it. You'll eventually enjoy it anyway. This is a thing that all women have to do, right? ...Right??
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my friend that it's stupid and selfish to refuse to use effective birth control? the hell is the condom induced erectile dysfunction bullshit? was this written by a jilted boyfriend who wanted to do it raw or something, because put it on early if it's interrupting the flow, dipshit
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:what is marriage if not being a couple of dickfarts together Married names are wild to me. Where I am it’s just not legally possible to change your last name to that of your spouse and surprise it hasn’t destroyed the family unit.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my friend that it's stupid and selfish to refuse to use effective birth control? This has to have been written by a troll and/or condom-hating pissbaby, right? Right?
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Clocks posted:
I'm published under my maiden name so when I got married I changed my middle name to my maiden name and took my husband's last name. I use the full name (e.g., Jane Doe Smith) for publishing but otherwise go by Jane Smith. Unfortunately it's Jane Doe Smith on my driver's license, so when I have to show ID people will get confused and be like, "You said your name is Jane Smith! But it's Jane Doe (or Jane Doe Smith)!" Usually just a minor annoyance to explain that Doe is my middle name, but there are times when people have recorded the full name and then when I try to sign in or whatever using just Jane Smith they can't find me. The library and my voter's registration are like this, so I have to remember which name I'm under or else go through an annoying name search to try to find me. The kids all just got Smith, because gently caress putting them through that. My maiden name is foreign, 10 letters, and 3 syllables, so switching to my husband's short Anglo last name was a no-brainer.
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