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Coca Koala posted:There's two easy* ways that I know of to remove bamboo permanently! The key is that you have to get the full root cluster out of the ground - if you just trim the bamboo, you're never going to get it. So one way is to trim the bamboo as close to the ground as you can, and then spend a few hours just going absolutely ham with the pickaxe you found in the shed in your back yard when you moved into the house; this will take you an afternoon and be pretty exhausting, but you'll clear maybe ten square feet of bamboo fairly straightforwardly. Finally some good advice in this thread
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Halloween Jack posted:I'm just frantically throwing coats at the pack of hungry dogs chasing me down the street furiously agreeing with each other give your fiance a new coat and he'll be warm for a day. but teach a pack of hungry dogs how to wear coats and he'll be warm for life (after the dogs eat him)
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Jan 17, 2024 02:17
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Halloween Jack posted:AITA for not wanting to give back the gifts my ex gave me? If he’s Chinese, lol, lmao. Has no face.
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Jan 17, 2024 02:22
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What's worse to deal with: kudzu or bamboo?
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Jan 17, 2024 02:28
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Nocheez posted:What's worse to deal with: kudzu or bamboo? Giant hogweed. Out-of-control blackberry can be annoying too.
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Jan 17, 2024 02:30
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Most Power Alex posted:Honestly, breaking up maybe the solution. On the surface this is about a coat, but when you dig into it, it is about a serious difference in morales and ethics regarding how one treats others property. Better that this is resolved now than years later because it will absolutely come up again. And again, and again, and again, provided he goes forward into marrying into this family.
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Jan 17, 2024 02:37
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Coca Koala posted:It might be too late for you to put this advice to use, but the strategy that works here is to document absolutely everything that got damaged and roll it into the claim. The driver hit a column at the end of your driveway? Was there a light in it? That probably got damaged, and you claim it. Did he drive over your yard at all? That’s damaged landscaping, you want their insurance to repair it. Did they take out a fully grown rosebush? Start looking up how much those suckers cost, and make sure you get one that’s the same size. Thanks for the good advice, hopefully I won't need it in the future. In this case, (un?)fortunately they just struck our column. It was off to the side of the driveway and they had pulled in to turn around, then somehow gunned it backwards directly into the column. Just the back of their SUV hit it and demolished it (and the back of their vehicle and back windshield) without driving onto the lawn. There was a big stone slab on top of the column with a big stone planter on top and they both somehow survived undamaged, lol.
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Jan 17, 2024 03:26
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The Lone Badger posted:Out-of-control blackberry can be annoying too. I once lived in a house where the landlord planted blackberry bushes because they liked blackberries. The birds kept eating the berries, so they covered them in netting. This successfully kept the birds away from the berries, but the bushes got gigantic and were completely infested with spiders. Just insane numbers of spiders. So, there were berries, but nobody wanted to get them. Well, that's my blackberry story, thanks for listening.
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Jan 17, 2024 03:27
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Chewbecca posted:AITA for telling my BIL to pay me $700 for my lost coat when I bought it for $100? So much arguing when dealing with someone who took your coat without asking is extremely simple: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rh8OdlSXiDo
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litany of gulps posted:I once lived in a house where the landlord planted blackberry bushes because they liked blackberries. The birds kept eating the berries, so they covered them in netting. This successfully kept the birds away from the berries, but the bushes got gigantic and were completely infested with spiders. Just insane numbers of spiders. So, there were berries, but nobody wanted to get them. Well, that's my blackberry story, thanks for listening. You should have left holes in the netting big enough for spider eating birbs but not berry eating ones.
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litany of gulps posted:I once lived in a house where the landlord planted blackberry bushes because they liked blackberries. The birds kept eating the berries, so they covered them in netting. This successfully kept the birds away from the berries, but the bushes got gigantic and were completely infested with spiders. Just insane numbers of spiders. So, there were berries, but nobody wanted to get them. Well, that's my blackberry story, thanks for listening. Im surprised no deer showed up to tear down the netting and eat all the blackberries and spiders
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Deformed Church posted:Yeah I've got a friend who ended up with a £200 coat when she threw her Primark one on a spare chair in a little bar then went back at closing time and discovered her coat missing and a better one left over with none of the few people left in the bar claiming it. She left her number with the bartender in case someone came in asking about it but never got the call to swap it back. This seems like another reason not to live in climates that require heavy jackets. We just had our annual week of freezing weather, and it's simpler to not leave the house for a few days.
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RocketMermaid posted:I think most of us are just saying that the way she treated him (loaning out his stuff without asking, lying, being dismissive and angry about the issue, siccing her dad on him) means that he shouldn't bend and that breakup is probably the best outcome here. Yeh I get that. I just don't agree that he should immediately break up with his wife over the coat. I can imagine her covering over and hiding jt being out of shame and embarrassment instead of some form of immediate hateful disrespect, as well as the being annoyed at the money being a shame reaction as well. If this is the first time this has happened, which it seems like it is, then it seems like they have different values about treatment of stuff and could potentially come to an understanding moving forward from this. She's a jerk in her immediate reaction here, but people are jerks in relationships sometimes, I'd honestly need to see more going on to be like, yeh let's see that relationship end in tears, I need blood. I get the sense of two stubborn people butting heads, rather than a rotted out at the core relationship you can feel seeping from between some of these. But that's just my take, clearly. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 06:25 on Jan 17, 2024 |
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It's hard to be torn between loyalty to a partner and loyalty to a sibling I think. There's a lot we don't know. Doesn't justify her initial reaction but it may explain it.
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The relationship is still salvageable! They just need to come to an understanding that she can give away his stuff at will, dismiss his feelings, look him in the eye and lie to him, and insult him to his face. Really, he's basically the bad guy for refusing to compromise on this.
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the holy poopacy posted:The relationship is still salvageable! They just need to come to an understanding that she can give away his stuff at will, dismiss his feelings, look him in the eye and lie to him, and insult him to his face. Really, he's basically the bad guy for refusing to compromise on this. Look, if he lets her do it this time and just says not to do it again, she surely will not immediately do it again even though she's shown no signs of shame or anything but anger at being called out here. It's probably just a knee-jerk immediate reaction she had for a full week of getting angrier and angrier over her husband wanting a thing he owned and she took back. Having her parents harass him over it is just a thing that happens when you have a bad day. It's almost depressing to imagine the kind of partners people are cool with in this thread, and that's before looking at the actual posts...
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Several pages ago, but this post is so darkly ironic to my own lived experience, here I go.Panfilo posted:I've seen a pattern on Reddit where there will be a thinly veiled transphobic/racist/misogynistic post and the very next day there's a Twitter/Facebook/SigHeilnet group posting screenshots and mocking this Totally Real reddit post. In an actual story from an actual Goon: my mom struggled with gender dysphoria since she was a small child. For 4 months now, she's been mentally gone in the next to last stages of vascular dementia. Like, "can't take care of any of her basic needs so a nursing home staff does them" and "yells at hallucinations at all times during the day at night" bad. Anyway, she's what we would now call nonbinary, she felt both male and female at once, and would get dysphoria if she had to present as too female. In her dementia, one of the things she fixates on during the day is thinking she's still a child and saying "My name is [Catalina's Mom]. I am a girl. I am a boy." over and over again. So you know what, gently caress you, random internet person who made up what you thought was a plausible story to prove some stupid rear end  . My mom is almost completely incapable of knowing who I am anymore; and even when she's that far gone, her body and brain didn't magically revert to "just female" because she was AFAB. gently caress you, gently caress your story, gently caress everyone who believed it, and gently caress everyone who shared it. I hope that one day, all of you can understand this poo poo for real, and develop some empathy and compassion for people with dementia, and people with gender dysphoria, so that your knowledge of the human experience can help you grow and become better, happier people who better understands the value of your lives.[If you need a palate cleanser after that, please take this video of a opossum happily eating broccoli on your way out.]
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can I just beg this thread to have higher standards for their romantic partners than they would roommates in a college dorm? I'm sure a lot of you are assholes, but you still deserve better.
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We get stories where people try to make it murky who the villain is and everyone ho hums it and moves on and this one where theres somebody coming in from the top rope with a chair people are going "well what the ref dont see dont count"
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Two more weeks of coat chat until Cowslips Warren is finally allowed to post fresh content again
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greazeball posted:Two more weeks of coat chat until Cowslips Warren is finally allowed to post fresh content again I wonder what his shopping cart technique is
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Now I know, obviously, the man is wrong because timothy the mouse deserves unending praise, but i feel like making him experience the jaunt with a lactose intolerant with their own bedside cheese bag may be too much.
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Barudak posted:Now I know, obviously, the man is wrong because timothy the mouse deserves unending praise, but i feel like making him experience the jaunt with a lactose intolerant with their own bedside cheese bag may be too much. Timothy Mouse is a gift we should all be thankful for every day.
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Midnight Voyager posted:can I just beg this thread to have higher standards for their romantic partners than they would roommates in a college dorm? I'm sure a lot of you are assholes, but you still deserve better. my one and only dorm roommate was a great dude and i was a total slob. kinda regret that. sorry old roommate you deserved better
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Catalina posted:Several pages ago, but this post is so darkly ironic to my own lived experience, here I go. I'm really sorry you're going through this. My father passed recently, and his biggest fear was always ending up in that position because that's what happened to his mom. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you.
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The Lone Badger posted:Giant hogweed. Giant Hogweed is a horror I would not wish upon anyone. Good lord. It is a plant the devil designed. My garden backs onto a stream, I'm battling a tiny bit of Giant Hogweed (finally seems to have been conquered) and Himalayan balsam, which was introduced to the UK as a very pretty ornamental plant in the 18th Century but is now classed as a weed and an invasive plant. It really likes the Scottish soil. To the point the local council organises "Balsam Bashing" events where some serious men go around the rivers and canals with heavy duty equipment, trying to tame it so that anything else can get a chance to grow in its' place.
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Loaning the coat out without his permission is something they could potentially be worked through. Refusing to take responsibility, being dismissive of her husband's feelings, and calling her dad on speakerphone to try to browbeat him into submission, not so much IMO.
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Yeah, that they're willing to put way more effort into getting him to shut up about it than they are into fixing it is a red flag. They could do an apology, a whip-round to save up money for a replacement, or look around to see where it might be available cheap, but instead it's the bare minimum and a bunch of bullshit.
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420 Gank Mid posted:Most people learn not to lose their coats after the 3rd or 4th time the 1st grade teacher sends you home with a note safety pinned to it telling your parents you keep forgetting it Most 1st graders aren't drunk when they lose their coats though.
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Human Tornada posted:Loaning the coat out without his permission is something they could potentially be worked through. Refusing to take responsibility, being dismissive of her husband's feelings, and calling her dad on speakerphone to try to browbeat him into submission, not so much IMO. This is the legit red flag right here. I can see the old version of myself trying to justify that this was ok, and just something that could be worked through, but this is a full court press to just disregard the guy coming from her and her entire family. The cherry on the top is the dad questioning the guy's manhood over his lost property. I can't even defend loaning the coat out without his permission - maybe she has a mindset where that kind of thing would fly with her family (and judging by their reactions, that may be so) but that's not how the guy she's with feels about it. Maybe they haven't been together long enough for this facet of her personality to be seen, or maybe it came up in minor little ways before this that weren't as noticeable or just easily dismissed. Or maybe she just doesn't have that kind of respect for his feelings and belongings. Either way, she assumed that he was good with the borrowing of the coat and the assumption was a mistake. The reaction to it - to me - feels like she and her whole family are minimizing him and his feelings, and that's a poo poo thing to do. Were I in his position, I'd express that clearly, but my foot would already be halfway out the door. I think that the immediate jump to conference call in reinforcements the first time around isn't leading me to feel like she's going to hear him out. anyway yeah like that goon said earlier ya'll deserve better, make sure to respect yourselves
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420 Gank Mid posted:Most people learn not to lose their coats after the 3rd or 4th time the 1st grade teacher sends you home with a note safety pinned to it telling your parents you keep forgetting it Lol I live next to an elementary school and at the end of the year they have this huge pile of lost coats they just give away to anyone who'll take them off their hands.
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Weirdly remembering an upside of school uniforms is that if you lose your jumper you can just grab one from the lost and found that's more or less your size.
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If she gets to loan his poo poo out without asking permission, then obviously it's okay for him to loan her poo poo out without asking permission. Fair is fair, motherfuckers Bet you her lovely attitude about it will disappear right quick when it's her possessions that have a chance of disappearing. Or she'll quadruple down and come up with all manner of "It's okay for your stuff, but not mine because:" excuses that he can use as justification for breaking things off right then and there. He can't lose! Malachite_Dragon fucked around with this message at 14:10 on Jan 17, 2024 |
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Nocheez posted:What's worse to deal with: kudzu or bamboo? Japanese knotweed, Reynoutria japonica. Takes over land, spreads, can regenerate from tiny pieces of roots left in the ground. If you're unlucky, it grows into your house and destroys the foundation. Hello, this is my house now! 
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I couldn't find my coat this morning lol. I did find a coat that is my size but I swear I've never seen this coat in my life. I therefore conclude I am that guy's fiance's brother.
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You were visited by THE GHOST OF THE COAT OF CONTENTION. Forward this message to ten contacts from your list to enjoy its warmth. If you don't forward this message, your life will be ruined by a drunk at a wedding.
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steinrokkan posted:You were visited by THE GHOST OF THE COAT OF CONTENTION. If you’re really unlucky it will be your wedding
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There is a world where loaning out the guy's jacket is an honest difference of opinion in terms of how you conceptualize belongings in a relationship. I can see that. What I can't see is when it becomes clear your partner disagrees with your assumption so you start lying to their face repeatedly, refuse to own up to your mistake, refuse to take responsibility for your brother's loss/selling of the coat you enabled, and then get your whole family to insult the significant other you wronged, first (charitably) accidentally and then clearly deliberately. She wasn't necessarily the rear end in a top hat for loaning the coat. She definitely was for how she and her brother acted after.
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