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John Wick of Dogs posted:I think if you have a wedding theme you do that with the wedding party, officiants, performers, and selected guests who want to, you don't enforce a cosplay dress code on everybody. Literally going to any wedding has a "cosplay" code. That is just usually suits and formal dresses. If I show up to a wedding as a guest in jeans and a t-shirt, people are going to either deny me entry or look at me funny.
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AITA if I stop watching my niece knowing I'm the last person my brother in law has quote:I 31 (f) have been watching my niece (8) for my brother in law (34) for almost a year now. I am the last person he has to watch her because she has behavior problems. I also have three kids of my own. My niece doesn't go to the same school as my kids. That's a big part of the story. I have her five to six nights a week so her dad can go to his night job. I also take her to school, on the opposite side of town that my kids go to. I only charge him $40 a week, just so I have gas money. $40 is way too much for this feeding hand
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Farmer Crack-rear end posted:i'm gonna be picky here, i don't think it's "shunning is a form of bullying" so much as "shunning can be a form of bullying". i think intent is really what makes an act 'bullying' and i don't think the child standing up for himself and his boundaries here qualifies as such.
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Mordiceius posted:If I show up to a wedding as a guest in jeans and a t-shirt, people are going to either deny me entry or look at me funny. On the flip side, I once showed up to an outdoor wedding in black tie attire and was quickly reminded that it was a wedding of rafting guides, and I was the only non-wedding-party dude wearing anything but a Hawaiian shirt and cargo shorts I've always made sure to confirm the dress code ahead of time since then
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The Maroon Hawk posted:On the flip side, I once showed up to an outdoor wedding in black tie attire and was quickly reminded that it was a wedding of rafting guides, and I was the only non-wedding-party dude wearing anything but a Hawaiian shirt and cargo shorts They sold you down the river!
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John Wick of Dogs posted:I think if you have a wedding theme you do that with the wedding party, officiants, performers, and selected guests who want to, you don't enforce a cosplay dress code on everybody. “Enforce” is a really loaded term that you are choosing to use without support from the story “Encourage”, maybe, but “enforce” sounds way harsher than they stated and you are being uncharitable, which colors your entire view on the story
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The Maroon Hawk posted:On the flip side, I once showed up to an outdoor wedding in black tie attire and was quickly reminded that it was a wedding of rafting guides, and I was the only non-wedding-party dude wearing anything but a Hawaiian shirt and cargo shorts Yoooo this takes me back to a time when my girlfriend at the time told me we were going to a wedding so I pooped on my suit and tie and we went. What I didn't know was that the groom was wearing a button down and a tie with khakis. I felt so drat out of place. Everyone else was in shorts and jeans and T-shirts.
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tater_salad posted:Yoooo this takes me back to a time when my girlfriend at the time told me we were going to a wedding so I pooped on my suit and tie and we went. Well, your first problem was the poo poo smell
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tater_salad posted:Yoooo this takes me back to a time when my girlfriend at the time told me we were going to a wedding so I pooped on my suit and tie and we went. Ah, the ultra-formal brown tie dress code
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rotinaj posted:“Enforce” is a really loaded term that you are choosing to use without support from the story Are you accusing me of using words on purpose!?
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John Wick of Dogs posted:Are you accusing me of using words on purpose!? Being wrong in your interpretation and using words that show your incorrectness. You were close though.
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tater_salad posted:Yoooo this takes me back to a time when my girlfriend at the time told me we were going to a wedding so I pooped on my suit and tie and we went. Was it the Grink's wedding?
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It was a sewage theme.
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Mordiceius posted:Literally going to any wedding has a "cosplay" code. That is just usually suits and formal dresses. The last wedding I went to was at a pizza place/mini-golf course/arcade. I asked my friend, the bride, if I should break out my suit and she laughed at me. It was 100% a jeans and t-shirt affair.
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Shanghaied posted:AITA for telling my son to pay back the money he spent on his online girlfriend? No way this isn't roblox
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Desert Bus posted:The last wedding I went to was at a pizza place/mini-golf course/arcade. I asked my friend, the bride, if I should break out my suit and she laughed at me. It was 100% a jeans and t-shirt affair. Oh totally. I just feel like people should understand that weddings may have dress codes and if you're going to attend, you should fit that. About a year ago, my wife and I went to a friend's wedding. It was an Indian wedding. We were told "dress fancy and flashy. we're talkin' bright colors and sequins. you should look like you're about to go perform in Vegas." My wife and I didn't throw a tantrum because we had nothing that fit that style. Instead, we went and bought a suit and dress that would fit (and then returned them to the store after the wedding).
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Loden Taylor posted:Later, at the funeral: Uhhh.....  ?
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Weddings absolutely have dress codes, that part isn't odd. Most everyone has a formal outfit they can put on for such events. So putting together a detailed guide to instruct your guests what is proper costume wear for the occasion, with options for each budget tier? For people who aren't in the wedding party? No thank you. This is the part that makes me raise my eyebrows - because you know they didn't just make their guide to be kind, they did it to make sure everyone knows what's expected of them, and to get ahead of complaints - this makes it so if anyone complains, they can play intentionally obtuse 'I don't understand why you're so upset' card - because 'you don't even have to put in much effort, we made it so easy for you!' quote:We included photos, descriptions, budget categories that went from how to DIY a costume using old/thrifted clothes to just straight out buying something online. We also asked people to reach out if they had any worries so we could work something out. And the caveat to reach out feels like a circumstance where no matter what you say, they'll try to 'work something out' for you to wear a costume. It'll just be suggestions how you can make an outfit that fits into their guide. The whole thing feels pushy AF and that's why the guests are reacting. They're not gonna complain directly tho, it'll just forever be 'that wedding where the hosts sent out that detailed costume guide to make absolutely sure no one deviated'. Which is what is happening - he's hearing about it through the grapevine - and OP has the chutzpah to go shocked Pikachu face about it. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 21:33 on Mar 21, 2024 |
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John Wick of Dogs posted:I think if you have a wedding theme you do that with the wedding party, officiants, performers, and selected guests who want to, you don't enforce a cosplay dress code on everybody. If you're paying for a party you can tell the attendees to dress however you like because it's your party lmao. Anyone who insists on being a wet blanket can stay home and let the cool people have fun at the theme wedding.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:This is the part that makes me raise my eyebrows - because you know they didn't just make their guide to be kind, they did it to make sure everyone knows what's expected of them, and to get ahead of complaints - this makes it so if anyone complains, they can play intentionally obtuse 'I don't understand why you're so upset' card - because 'you don't even have to put in much effort, we made it so easy for you!' ”Stranger’s last post on this” posted:I get worried about how the rest of the event will be like and what the consequences of failing to stay 'within the guide' will turn out to be. You… may want to seek some therapy for your apparent wedding related trauma, whoever you are projecting into this story sounds like they suck
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I'll happily wear a costume to a wedding of a cool couple. These people? Not cool, you can just read it in the vibes.
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What if the bride has bad vibes?
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rotinaj posted:You… may want to seek some therapy for your apparent wedding related trauma, whoever you are projecting into this story sounds like they suck sometimes feels like half this drat thread's participants were deeply scarred by weddings lol
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Grey Cat posted:What if the bride has bad vibes? Only one half of the couple has bad vibes? Show up in a half and half costume. 
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lol seriously, what kind of horror show weddings did y’all go to to react like this? Most weddings I’ve been to have been hella good times and the worst I can think of were a few that were just “meh, pleasant but forgettable” e: actually wait, the one ceremony I actively disliked was the only Catholic one I’ve been to, but even that was less because of the religious aspect and more because I was horrendously hungover and didn’t expect all the standing and sitting  but that’s on me, and the reception/afterparty more than jade up for it
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AITA for commenting on my date's appearance when he was being rude?quote:I'm not sure about this one as it seems I crossed a boundary but it made sense at the time.
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Kuros posted:Only one half of the couple has bad vibes? Show up in a half and half costume. Got you covered, in couture https://www.fashionbrandcompany.com/products/bride-groom-jumpsuit
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axolotl farmer posted:Steve Jobs followed the Mucusless Diet Healing System by Arnold Ehret, a German quack. It first came out in 1924. oh poo poo, Dr Sebi evolved from someone else, I see. I just heard this episode of the F Plus about Dr Sebi and he had a bunch of fuckin weird mucus beliefs and also thought rice was plastic and artificial, not a plant. And that pigs were a cross between two other animals and also made of worms. Said he cured AIDS and treated Michael Jackson. https://theafricanbiomineralbalance.com/dr-sebi-on-arnold-ehret-and-the-mucusless-diet/ Seems like he absolutely knew about Ehret. Shanghaied posted:AITA for commenting on my date's appearance when he was being rude? wahhh I struggle with my looks, don't be mean, YOU FAT COW Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 22:18 on Mar 21, 2024 |
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Steve Jobs famously didn't shower when he worked at Atari bc of that book, but people always make it sounds like he did eventually begin to shower? I really really hope so
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There’s a reason for sticking to established dress codes and stating them clearly on the invitation to formal events. No one should feel under- or overdressed, or have to go shopping for a Fairly Oddpatents steampunk suit that you can’t wear for anything else. If you want your guests wearing jeans and t-shirt, put down Casual dress.
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Shanghaied posted:AITA for commenting on my date's appearance when he was being rude? Ana does not know how much of a rapey scumfuck her brother is, and I would pay money to hear what he thought the date was like from his side
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The only dress code I set at my wedding was "no cowboy hats."
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rotinaj posted:Ana does not know how much of a rapey scumfuck her brother is, and I would pay money to hear what he thought the date was like from his side "I was every inch the gentleman and she HURRRRT MEEEEEEE"
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Halloween Jack posted:The only dress code I set at my wedding was "no cowboy hats." Smdh at ruling out a wedding present from Doug Dimmadome right off the rip Pigsfeet on Rye posted:"I was every inch the gentleman and she HURRRRT MEEEEEEE" Aw yeah, say it slower, baby
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Shanghaied posted:AITA for commenting on my date's appearance when he was being rude?
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Shanghaied posted:AITA for commenting on my date's appearance when he was being rude? quote:He said something about how all us women enjoy a guy that's mean to them and how we like to put up a fight. Wait so OP wanted to be negged but not by an uggo? lol
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Admiral Joeslop posted:AITA if I stop watching my niece knowing I'm the last person my brother in law has Already an update! quote:Already update. He did not respond by the time I got home around 3:30 after getting my own kids. He didn't proceed to try and call me and then blew up my phone to have some he doesn't understand why he should be paying 40 a week when my car was broken down for 2 weeks out of a year of me watching her. And was saying how if he still had to pick her up that he was going to negotiate the $40 a week because he doesn't think that he should be paying me $40 a week for five to six nights of babysitting her. Y'all have no idea how much my blood is boiling but a lot of y'all were right he does not appreciate me he's even bring up the fact that he said that $40 was me trying to pay my rent and then try to say how at the tables were turned he wouldn't charge me. He's never included my kids even on weekends when I've included his daughter to days at the park he would drop her off at the park and then leave and expect me to watch her unpaid unknown that I was supposed to be babysitting her so he could go and do whatever. I'm done with him I love my niece but be audacity of it All if I could post screenshots I would. Thank you all for keeping up and reassuring me that me standing up for myself was the right thing to OP's comment: quote:And that's my point. His daughter has a storied (he means destroyed] quite a few things at my house and he never did anything about it. And honestly what I charge him a week is what my sister pays me whenever she asked me to watch her kid so she can go out. And she used to watch our niece as well but she stopped because of the way him and his daughter are. They're very entitled and honestly it's going to ruin his daughter being like that. But I did message him asking if I hadn't agreed to watch her who would he have had watch her as well as if he has any complaints or concerns about me watching her. I just sent him the message and I will keep you updated on what he has to say. I'm not a conflict kind of person but I don't like lies being told about me. quote:Exactly and it's not like my sister her mother isn't around. Like it got to a point where I was working at her school for a couple of days but I took a break because she was acting out at school to the point it affected my job there and I had to tell her teacher and a nurse that I am not her mama if they have a problem with her or questions about their home life they should ask him not me. quote:Already update. He did not respond by the time I got home around 3:30 after getting my own kids. He didn't proceed to try and call me and then blew up my phone to have some he doesn't understand why he should be paying 40 a week when my car was broken down for 2 weeks out of a year of me watching her. And was saying how if he still had to pick her up that he was going to negotiate the $40 a week because he doesn't think that he should be paying me $40 a week for five to six nights of babysitting her. Y'all have no idea how much my blood is boiling but a lot of y'all were right he does not appreciate me he's even bring up the fact that he said that $40 was me trying to pay my rent and then try to say how at the tables were turned he wouldn't charge me. He's never included my kids even on weekends when I've included his daughter to days at the park he would drop her off at the park and then leave and expect me to watch her unpaid unknown that I was supposed to be babysitting her so he could go and do whatever. I'm done with him I love my niece but be audacity of it All if I could post screenshots I would. Thank you all for keeping up and reassuring me that me standing up for myself was the right thing to do. This is like a soap opera, an immensely satisfying soap opera
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Deified Data posted:Wait so OP wanted to be negged but not by an uggo? lol Well she say no in the edit: quote:Saying that hotter guys can pull it off was in regards to "I know you want it" - which if both parties want it ..can be hot. That's it!
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Shanghaied posted:Well she say no in the edit: Ah I was hoping they both listened to the same red pill podcasts lol
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I love how many people are just completely clueless about the current market price of childcare, because they've been completely shield from that by the kindness of family/friends lol. Like "OMG she's asking for $1 an hour, can you believe it???!!! A WHOLE dollar!!!" Well, you're about to find out what people who don't already like you charge for watching your kids lmao.FMguru posted:The dude's behavior - isn't that a textbook example of the sort of "negging" that PUA books/classes/video teach? Yes. I would say that I'm shocked that people still think that's a thing that works in TYOOL 2024, but on the other hand manosphere shitstains like Andrew Tate are still incredibly popular so, yeah.
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