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Generally people don't care if they're being called a catch when their personal poo poo has been shared with people who start sexually harassing them.
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idiotsavant posted:Idk I mean the handsy stuff is not great but him throwing a giant pouty fit to the point of breaking up over her reading his love letters to her good friends (and them being like “drat, what a catch” lol) is a big ol bitch baby move No actually I think sharing your partners private messages and then standing there laughing while your friends (and sibling!!) grope them with the excuse of being turned on by the messages pretty effectively kills most relationships
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Crocobile posted:Lmao that “taking the next step” is proposing, not like… kissing or cuddling at least. This reminds me of how my sister's now ex-husband started the courtship with her. She found out he liked her so she asked if he wanted to go out. Then he asked if he could travel to the neighbouring state to visit my parents to ask if he could date her. They were in their 30s and she was already divorced at that point, but they met at some Bible college so he really wanted to be sure the relationship "honored the Lord". My parents thought it was loving weird, and they're the ones who raised us in Christian cuckooo land. Anyway, spoilers, they got married and then divorced after about 8 years.
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Mar 29, 2024 19:39
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greazeball posted:This reminds me of how my sister's now ex-husband started the courtship with her. She found out he liked her so she asked if he wanted to go out. Then he asked if he could travel to the neighbouring state to visit my parents to ask if he could date her. They were in their 30s and she was already divorced at that point, but they met at some Bible college so he really wanted to be sure the relationship "honored the Lord". My parents thought it was loving weird, and they're the ones who raised us in Christian cuckooo land. Anyway, spoilers, they got married and then divorced after about 8 years.
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Mar 29, 2024 19:41
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littleratbastard posted:No actually I think sharing your partners private messages and then standing there laughing while your friends (and sibling!!) grope them with the excuse of being turned on by the messages pretty effectively kills most relationships Yeah, I'm glad I refreshed the page so I didn't have to bother writing the exact same thing. I'd be weirded out forever by the sister, even without getting to the invasion of privacy.
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Mar 29, 2024 19:49
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I showed the boys my girlfriends nudes, it got them all horney and the tried to grope her saying they didn't know she was so amazingly hot. I also told them in detail how great she is at loving. Once these nudes are sent to me, they're mine to share with who I want, how can I get my girlfriend to be less of a privacy obsessed controlling pouty baby?
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Mar 29, 2024 19:58
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AITA For leaving for the weekend after my wife agreed to host Easer at our house without consulting mequote:My wife (38F) and I (39M) have been married for 12 years and have 3 kids (11, 8, & 6). We live reasonably close to family on both our sides. Our house isn't huge by any means, but it's big enough for our family. However, no one else on my wife's side of the family lives in a house. Her siblings all either rent homes with roommates or live in apartments. Her parents downsized into a smaller townhome about 5 years ago.
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Mar 29, 2024 20:16
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AITA for calling my sister a jealous hag because she got judgy over my husband making me an Easter basket?quote:My husband and I do Easter baskets for one another, and this year he gave me mine early since I’ll be gone. In the basket was the usual, dark choco bunny, Starburst jelly beans, and then some Swiftie stuff from Etsy, a fidget toy, and really surprisingly he got me three full bottles of perfumes that were on my wish list. Hundred Silent Ways, Bianco Latte, and Oriana. I was shocked bc that’s a BIG spend. I was over the moon and took a pic and posted it to Insta stories. My "Not a jealous hag" T-shirt has people asking a lot of questions already answered by my shirt.
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Mar 29, 2024 20:17
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Sounds like that sister's in a sucky situation lolol What does it being 2024 have to do with acting like life is a rom-com? What year is her husband going to stop being generous and thoughtful with his gifts?
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Mar 29, 2024 20:26
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Pomme de Terror posted:AITA For leaving for the weekend after my wife agreed to host Easer at our house without consulting me christ just get divorced already
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Mar 29, 2024 20:27
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To be fair, the sister is a jealous hag.
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Mar 29, 2024 20:28
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You be the judge: should my girlfriend preheat the oven before cooking?The prosecution: Adam posted:My girlfriend Cathleen doesn’t preheat the oven to the required temperature when she cooks, which I find unbelievable. Delia Smith tells you to do it; all the top chefs do. It’s normal and necessary. If you stick something in the oven without waiting for it to preheat, its temperature will vary and your food won’t cook evenly. That results in a less satisfying eating experience, and often the food has to stay longer in the oven to compensate. The defence: Cathleen posted:Adam’s argument makes me laugh. I’ve never heard anyone speak so passionately about preheating an oven, but it doesn’t make any difference in my opinion. Has anyone ever eaten something and then complained because it came out of an oven that hadn’t been preheated?  at going with the "it's too much work" strategy for turning a dial ten minutes before the food goes in, vs putting it in cold and adding an unknown amount of extra cooking time that you have to worry about on the back end. And yeah, it's probably a bit less of a difference if you're just throwing in some nuggies or a frozen pizza compared to real food, but c'mon. I'm gonna lump "it's easier and nobody can tell the difference, anyway" into the same argument category as "I don't need to shower regularly, I don't smell" unless I get a whole lot more evidence supporting it.
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Mar 29, 2024 20:30
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"We did a taste test, and it was just fine, because his opinion doesn't count." She obviously doesn't bake, because putting sweets into a cold oven leads nowhere good.
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Mar 29, 2024 20:33
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I do not personally think that food is going to get much more food poisonous if you don’t preheat but it sounds like the lady is a poo poo cook and burns her food a lot Like, the time to preheat should not be the difference between food poisoning and dysentery vs a normal food experience, an extra five minutes sitting in the oven before going up to 350 or 400 or whatever If your food is so bacterially contaminated that it spends five minutes in the danger zone as the oven heats up and becomes the dog monster from the thing, you should stop buying food from bacteria pete’s typhoid food library And it doesn’t sound like she bakes at all, no
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Mar 29, 2024 20:41
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Captain Hygiene posted:You be the judge: should my girlfriend preheat the oven before cooking? Please quarantine the british isles
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Mar 29, 2024 20:43
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Arsenic Lupin posted:"We did a taste test, and it was just fine, because his opinion doesn't count." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bcsWFi1c9V0
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Mar 29, 2024 20:46
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Captain Hygiene posted:You be the judge: should my girlfriend preheat the oven before cooking? It would probably blow her loving mind to learn that there are some foods where it is recommended to heat up the pan in the oven before even placing the item on the pan.
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Mar 29, 2024 20:51
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My oven takes like ten minutes to get up to 450F. If I put a pizza in immediately, it's going to spend that ten minutes gradually heating up as opposed to baking in a hot-rear end oven. That's most of the bake time! How could that possibly NOT affect the outcome?
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Mar 29, 2024 20:51
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ESH for “whack it in”
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Mar 29, 2024 20:52
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Brawnfire posted:My oven takes like ten minutes to get up to 450F. If I put a pizza in immediately, it's going to spend that ten minutes gradually heating up as opposed to baking in a hot-rear end oven. That's most of the bake time! How could that possibly NOT affect the outcome? quote:I just like to whack it all in and forget about it for 30 minutes. Because rather than preheating and baking for 15 she just puts it in for 30 doubling the 'bake' time
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Mar 29, 2024 20:53
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Pleads posted:ESH for “whack it in” Whack it in for half an hour, and bing bang boom. Donezerino!
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Some fierce spine here: My bf and i were supposed to move in together. 2 weeks ago, he bought a 87k truck without telling me. I refuse to move in with him. Im very annoyed. He didnt even speak to me about it. We had so many discussions about moving in together, getting married and then he goes and purchases a truck 2k more than his yearly salary. If youre asking how can a truck be 87k, thats the price you get when you put every addition you want on it. He showed me the truck expecting me to be excited and i was livid. When he bought this truck, we were only a month from moving in together. We got into a bad argument where he told me it was his money and he could do whatever he wanted with it. So i said fine and i told him im not comfortable moving in with him anymore. I asked my landlord if my apartment was still avaliable and if i could renew my lease and they said yes. Now my bf is saying he cant afford his place and his truck. I dont feel bad. You should have thought of that before buying something so expensive without talking to your gf of 2 years. I have had some of his friends' gf reach out to me and say i should support him and one even say that im not loyal and this shows i wouldnt support him if we were married since i run away when finances get bad. Thats bullshit. He didnt lose his job or get hurt. He bought an expensive item without discussing it. I have been trying to get him to return the truck because its already affecting his finances badly. He has only had this truck for 2 weeks and he is worried that in the next month or two, he wont be able to cover all the expenses he usually has. This past weekend, we had another argument and i think our relationship is going to end. Im not helping him pay for this truck and im not moving in with him. I have asked for a break and will be thinking about what to do. Edit: i appreciate the different opinions everyone has given me. I have alot to think about. To answer two questions, no he doesnt need the truck. He works from home and if he has to check in at work, he has an office. Also, his friends and their girlfriends know about this issue because he asked for their views when we went to a get together last week. Only 2 gfs reached out to me to tell me i wasnt being supportive. The others have minded their business. Update: I broke up with my ex that got the 87k truck which i found out was actually 95k. Yea, so i broke up with him mainly because i realized we arent financially compatible. Before i go into what happened, i do want to say something. I understand we werent married but we were both moving together into a new place and had several discussions about this move and our plans for the future, including marriage. For the people private messaging me saying its his money and he can do whatever he wants or, youre only two years into a relationship, youre not a wife. I know that and i have never asked what is in his bank account or told him what to do financially. I'm aware it is his money but i also know his financial situation and he was making decisions without my input that, if we were to stay together, would not only affect him but also our relationship and our financial situation for years to come. I will die on this hill: this is not ok and if it's ok for you, that's fine but for me, if we make a financial plan and you make a huge decision without me, i wont be ok with it and that's a big reason why i backed out of moving into a new apartment with him. I would have never made a decision like this without his input at all. The main reason why we decided to move in together was to take the next step in our relationship but also to pay down our debts. I now have 22k debt from student loans and a car. When i met him though it was around 60k and i was bascially living on credit cards. Within the first couple of months of us dating, i saw how hard he worked and with a salary at 85k, he was making huge process in paying off his loans and credit cards. On my end, at the time, I was only making 50k. I honestly saw his work ethic and was like wow and got serious about my debt. I got a second parttime job where i was making 32k a year, bringing my salary to 82k. I did that so that i could pay off my debts faster but also so that we could be on equal footing when we moved in together and he didnt have to pay significantly more in living expenses than me when he had more debt. We did a complete budget months before we moved in together and realized that we would each have 700 dollars extra a month to put towards our own individual budgets. This is why the purchase of this truck was so surprising to me. We had planned this move for months. We had a budget and he destroyed that plan with the truck. If he wanted a new car, there are plenty of cars he could have gotten that would have fit into the 700 monthly surplus he had. Anyway for the past few days before we broke up, he tried to show me that this truck was a good financial purchase and we could still move in together. He told me that he had actually budgeted for this and could show me how he could afford this. I wanted to hear him out so i went to his place and he had 2 budgets. He said he had been thinking of getting this truck for some time and he had worked out a budget beforehand. He showed me the first budget and after his truck, insurance, expenses, and his debts he was left with 115 dollars for the month. I noticed with the first budget, he didnt include groceries, his hobbies, going out or even gas for his car. I asked him how 115 dollars was enough to live off of for an entire month? I asked him how he could afford all of this and his truck and if he planned to give up some things. He said no he didnt plan to give up anything and that he could make everything work in his budget. I asked him what if he had an emergency or needed gas for his truck and he just kept saying he would work it out without explaining how. After i saw the first budget, i asked to see the documents for the car and thats how i found out the truck price was 95k total after taxes, registration and fees. He traded in his reliable 2003 toyota and all his savings to get a loan at 14 percent for 72 months. His monthly payment is now 1966 and insurance is 573. He also still has student loans which are significant. I kept telling him 115 dollars left over monthly wasnt enough. That's when he showed me his second budget which had a combined higher monthly income. I asked him if he was getting a second job and he said due to his job relying on him to be on call, he couldnt. I asked where the income was coming from and this man said, well you're getting a raise soon. I froze because i had mentioned this raise once months ago. My first job is my career job and i work in a field where when you hit certain milestones, you get a pay bump. In september, if my raise is approved, i will go from 50k to 80k, and with my second job, my total yearly income will be 112k. But getting the raise isnt a guarantee. You have to meet certain criteria and if you dont, you have to wait 3 months before trying again. When he said that, i was quiet and then I said: so you planned a budget that included additional income that i wouldnt get for at least 6 months and income that i might not even get in september. He said when i got my raise, the ratio of what he would pay would decrease and he would have more disposable income. I asked him why it was ok for him to plan budgets with my income but yet i had no say in how he spent his. He couldnt answer that. I told him i had no issue with paying more bills if i got a raise but the fact that he banked on that, didnt discuss it, and now expects me to be ok with this is ridiculous. I also said theres no way i wouldnt be paying more with the first budget because he wouldnt have been able to survive on 115 dollars. I told him he didnt communicate and this is on him because he made huge financial plans without discussing anything. Finally i told him i would never have done any of this without going to him first because i thought we were a team that was building something. I ended things the next day and he has been trying to reach out but im not interested. He has financially crippled himself with this truck. If with my income now, he could barely make it, he sure isnt making it on his own. I really hope that things work out for him and he is able to keep his truck and recover but im not paying the consequences for such a massive financial mistake that is going to hugely affect him for years to come. If i were to stay, this financial decision affects me as well and would continue to affect both of us for years. Again this is different from becoming ill or losing a job. He chose this and refuses to budge and fix it. I now realize we are not financially compatible and thats ok and i wish him the best. Edit: Thanks everyone for all the support. I dont hate my ex and i really hope hes able to recover from this. It was such a learning lesson for me in how one mistake can ruin you financially. It has made me even more cautious but also determined to keep working towards a better financial future for myself. Reply: To answer your question about why i'm not bad mouthing him, its because i'm sad. I'm sad about what he did to himself and that i had to leave because he isnt seeing how bad this is is. Im sad that just a few months ago, i was planning us living together and a life and now thats gone. Most of all, im sad for him. He was doing so well and he rubbed off on me immensely in terms of paying off debt and watching your spending. Im sad that he threw away all his hard work. Dumping on him even more isnt worth it because when he realizes this mistake, it will be so bad for him. I dont see a point to do it but im not judging anyone who would in these circumstances.
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Captain Hygiene posted:You be the judge: should my girlfriend preheat the oven before cooking? It's like putting pasta in a pot before the water is boiling. It doesn't ruin the pasta or something and it may save a small amount of total cooking time but in exchange for that you lose the ability to just set a timer based on the packaging. It's up to you whether that's worth it or not, and if your partner chooses to do that, it's not really your problem as long as they are monitoring the food to make sure they are are taking it out at the right time. mystes fucked around with this message at 21:02 on Mar 29, 2024 |
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mystes posted:Unlike defrosting stuff at room temperature, there's no way it's going to be in the danger zone long enough to be problematic as a result of not preheating the oven, so it's not worth getting in a fight over. It will just make the cooking process/time less consistent or repeatable. Oh no me peas are extra mushy
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mystes posted:Unlike defrosting stuff at room temperature, there's no way it's going to be in the danger zone long enough to be problematic as a result of not preheating the oven, so it's not worth getting in a fight over. It will just make the cooking process/time less consistent or repeatable. I think his point was "The directions say preheat oven to 450F put frozen chicken in for 50 minutes, she puts the chicken in the cold oven for 60 minutes" What's the temperature of the chicken when it's done? She says she's not checking it so who knows!
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Hughlander posted:I think his point was "The directions say preheat oven to 450F put frozen chicken in for 50 minutes, she puts the chicken in the cold oven for 60 minutes" What's the temperature of the chicken when it's done? She says she's not checking it so who knows!
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idiotsavant posted:Idk I mean the handsy stuff is not great but him throwing a giant pouty fit to the point of breaking up over her reading his love letters to her good friends (and them being like “drat, what a catch” lol) is a big ol bitch baby move Let me guess, you believe the stereotype that all men want sex 24/7 & should feel grateful/blessed/flattered that they're being groped or made uncomfortable. Stop being part of the problem.
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mystes posted:If the oven takes 10 or less minutes to heat up, then it's going to be at least as done after cooking it for 60 minutes from cold as it would be after cooking it for 50 minutes preheated. It might be overcooked, but really ovens have enough variation that she should be confirming in some manner that it's done either way, and if she can't/won't do that then that's not ideal regardless of the oven preheating thing yep. But at 450 it may take 20-25 minutes depending on the oven. That's why I picked a high temperature.
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Pigsfeet on Rye posted:Some fierce spine here: The rear end in a top hat took out a loving home loan for a goddamn truck. I hope for his sake it's a sleeper cab.
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Mar 29, 2024 21:15
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Lmao his monthly on the truck is as much as a house payment
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titty_baby_ posted:Lmao his monthly on the truck is as much as a house payment House probably has better fuel economy, too.
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idiotsavant posted:Idk I mean the handsy stuff is not great but him throwing a giant pouty fit to the point of breaking up over her reading his love letters to her good friends (and them being like “drat, what a catch” lol) is a big ol bitch baby move
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titty_baby_ posted:Lmao his monthly on the truck is as much as a house payment Yeah, just his truck payment is more than my monthly mortgage + house insurance + property taxes. Guy was an idiot, probably doing some dickwaving contest with his brosephs
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idiotsavant posted:Idk I mean the handsy stuff is not great but him throwing a giant pouty fit to the point of breaking up over her reading his love letters to her good friends (and them being like “drat, what a catch” lol) is a big ol bitch baby move He should learn to take a compliment, and smile more
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Lottery of Babylon posted:He should learn to take a compliment, and smile more
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Pigsfeet on Rye posted:Some fierce spine here: Dude just blew up his chance to ride his girlfriend's coattails and mooch off of her because he had to own that tricked out truck that is apparently his life passion and identity RIGHT NOW instead of waiting for the promotion and for her to move in. Thank goodness he showed his whole rear end before they were living together/married/had kids
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Honestly, I'd take the truck over OP too. Good call on the BFs part
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Yeah, he doesn't need to give up anything to be able to afford his widdle toy twuck, that's what the girlfriend is for. Whoopsy-daisy!Pleads posted:ESH for “whack it in” Let me begin Stone cold oven Don't preheat, that's a sin
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Halloween Jack posted:Whack it up, whack it in 
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The truck purchase is a catch-22: he can't buy it after they've moved in and are officially sharing finances, because then he'd definitely have to consult with her about it. But if he buys it before they move in together, he can't really afford it. And it throws up a huge red flag. I guess he just crossed his fingers and just fuckin went for it
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