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mystes posted:I guess technically but actually cheating because of an angry comment in red sharpie seems pretty dumb We only have his side of the story, but it sounds like he wants both of them to be happy while she wants him to be miserable. Frankly, if your partner can't talk to you about an issue without you having a screaming meltdown, you don't have the moral standing to demand honesty or forthrightness on that issue.
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mystes posted:I guess technically but actually cheating because of an angry comment in red sharpie on a letter (when we don't even really know what the letter said) seems pretty dumb She didn't even know what the letter said so I guess it's irrelevant. The post said she said she didn't actually read it.
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TehRedWheelbarrow posted:if your wife red pens you on a heartfelt letter about relationship crisises im kinda with dude here. Shanghaied posted:Neither did the wife lol, since she scrawled on it without reading it. mystes fucked around with this message at 21:30 on Apr 30, 2024 |
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Again, you're talking about honest communication with someone who throws a tantrum whenever the subject comes up.
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Shanghaied posted:People should really read things lol. 
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ah yes a handwritten letter. very typical. i may be taking this at face value but handwritten anything isnt really typical nowadays
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Hopes Fall posted:Certain STDs, especially if they fly under the radar and are untreated for a while, can cause infertility. what, absolutely nothing in the post implies any of that. sometimes the jumps in logic itt really confuse me
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Hopes Fall posted:Certain STDs, especially if they fly under the radar and are untreated for a while, can cause infertility. this is a really normal conclusion to jump to, for sure
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even if it was indeed caused by an STD, how in the gently caress do you interpret the OP politely alluding to it as slut shaming
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Halloween Jack posted:Again, you're talking about honest communication with someone who throws a tantrum whenever the subject comes up. At a certain point he has to either accept that or divorce her and they clearly should have already divorced a long time ago. No matter how gently he worded it, the letter had to have been saying something like "I can't be in a relationship with you if you won't have sex with me" because that's literally the whole issue
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Hopes Fall posted:Certain STDs, especially if they fly under the radar and are untreated for a while, can cause infertility. This is insane
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Shanghaied posted:While all of that might be true, we also allow 20-year-olds to vote, drive, smoke, drink, sign contracts, and consent to medical procedures. And I'm not sure I would want to see the legal age on all of those things raised. I'm around 20-year-olds all day every day (I'm a teacher), I know first hand that you're not a full adult at 20 ("you had three weeks for the assignment, plan better jfc"). But I don't think it's feasible or desirable to protect them paternalistically until they're 25 or whatever. It's anecdotal, but I've also noticed a huge difference in people in their early 20s depending on their life. I teach trades and I get a lot of folks who don't gel with academia, farm kids and the like and the responsibilities of their daily lives makes them much more mentally mature than some of the ones I've seen who have studied while living at home. A mid 20s woman with a child, working in a manual job as a supervisor, is absolutely a grown adult capable of managing their life.
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One of my favorite parts of this thread is seeing people's weird hang ups via the way they respond to innocuous parts of stories.
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RenegadeStyle1 posted:One of my favorite parts of this thread is seeing people's weird hang ups via the way they respond to innocuous parts of stories. That’s why I post content. It’s the mirror I hold up to goons.
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mystes posted:I mean I imagine that's partly because he's been spending two years trying to get her to have sex with him after she made it clear that she wasn't going to. Or he wanted to be able to express his feelings to her about the situation without it being called emotional manipulation?
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AITAH for sleeping with my sisters crush after she destroyed my most prized possession?quote:
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Hughlander posted:AITAH for sleeping with my sisters crush after she destroyed my most prized possession?
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carrionman posted:It's anecdotal, but I've also noticed a huge difference in people in their early 20s depending on their life. Oh for sure. The difference between someone who has only studied and someone who has worked a couple of years can be very noticeable, even when both are under 25 and only differ a couple of years in age.
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Hughlander posted:AITAH for sleeping with my sisters crush after she destroyed my most prized possession?
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Hughlander posted:AITAH for sleeping with my sisters crush after she destroyed my most prized possession? lmao don't vintage stratocasters cost thousands of dollars? What a insane response to someone eating their own leftovers lol.
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Considering the way they escalate I'm assuming the update will include arson.
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If we see a mushroom cloud in the distance, we'll know OP's sister got her revenge.
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Hughlander posted:AITAH for sleeping with my sisters crush after she destroyed my most prized possession? Took a few seconds to look up how much that was worth and decided the sister absolutely deserved that. Even barring the sentimental value that's a few grand she destroyed.
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Shanghaied posted:lmao don't vintage stratocasters cost thousands of dollars? What a insane response to someone eating their own leftovers lol. A quick Google search indicates they generally hover around $2k-$2.5k, more for rarer finishes And that's before the sentimental value of the guitar being her reminder of her grandpa
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Also a "crush" doesn't really mean poo poo. Ask them out or don't, but you can't call dibs on a person when said person is not even aware of your feelings.
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Shanghaied posted:Also a "crush" doesn't really mean poo poo. Ask them out or don't, but you can't call dibs on a person when said person is not even aware of your feelings.
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noted rational beings 18-19 year olds.
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mystes posted:I think trying to get someone to go out with you just to get revenge on another person is still a bit gross Dunno that this makes it better, but seems the guy was down regardless. OP posted:I also forgot to include this originally so I’m editing it to explain the fact that I did tell him my plan beforehand to make sure he wouldn’t be upset about it
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TehRedWheelbarrow posted:noted rational beings
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Mordiceius posted:Dunno that this makes it better, but seems the guy was down regardless.
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The guy just has so much respect for vintage guitars.
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mystes posted:NTA for not being happy with a relationship without sex if OP wants a relationship with sex but YTA for having an affair. Do couples therapy or sex therapy or just divorce but don't stay in the relationship and have an affair and rub it in your wife's face. I don't count it as an affair if you have written permission from your spouse. Which he did. Written on the letter where he begged her to "do couples therapy or sex therapy", so ah 2/3 of those options there were already ruled out. If you do something your spouse literally wrote a permission slip for, I think you're NTA. Dude needs to divorce for his own sake, but I won't hold it against him that he did exactly what his wife requested.
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:I don't count it as an affair if you have written permission from your spouse. Which he did. Written on the letter where he begged her to "do couples therapy or sex therapy", so ah 2/3 of those options there were already ruled out. I love that he had it photocopied and ready to throw in her face like a notary.
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That's not really a permission slip. That's venting in written form. That's something you would need to have a conversation about.
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John Wick of Dogs posted:That's not really a permission slip. That's venting in written form. That's something you would need to have a conversation about. which she refused to do, repeatedly. obviously he should just have divorced her then and there instead of continiuing this horrible charade, but you cant really fault the guy for giving up and just doing what she asked
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I'm NTA for dude in this story. I think I'd be on his side even without the note. At a certain point I think you lose the right to get mad about someone having sex if you do not want to have sex with them. "Stay sexually faithful to me, I will never have sex with you again" is an unfair demand. The answer, of course, is divorce.
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It was a '79, nothing of value was lost. Height of the dog years for Fender. Did her a favour getting rid of that boat anchor. (It's pretty hard to break a guitar beyond fixing without running it over with a large truck. Tell her to get it repaired and then you'll unfuck her crush)
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Unfuck my crush, say I'll fix your guitar
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Even if it's a first act with rusty tuning pegs it's still the grampa guitar so you gotta respect it as a memory. Imagine getting propositioned "My sister likes you but she broke my guitar. Wanna gently caress to make her feel bad?" and you're a 19 year old boy. I suspect you hear exactly two words in the proposition.
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Guy just minding his own business at work all of a sudden his balls start to hurt and he realizes he's just got unfucked, someone must have repaired the guitar
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