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Hmm yes they repeatedly and persistently ignore all his attempts to be polite about their constant nagging until eventually he snapped and was rude once, clearly he should have just tried a slightly different attempt to be polite about it, that would definitely have worked
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Halloween Jack posted:If someone "politely deflects" your advice a dozen times, maybe it's your responsibility to stop being thick as pigshit, instead of their responsibility to make things clear to you in a way that doesn't hurt your feelings. It's scattered interactions over five years, and the most egregious example the guy can come up with is someone mildly overselling paprika. There's probably a step between "No thanks" and "SHUT THE gently caress UP DO YOU THINK I DIDN'T CONSIDER THAT gently caress YOU" he could have tried. But message received, if I see you at a bbq I won't tell you where the pickles are.
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I can see them, they’re right there.TBLALV posted:Hmm yes they repeatedly and persistently ignore all his attempts to be polite about their constant nagging Halloween Jack fucked around with this message at 23:46 on May 7, 2024 |
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Wicked Them Beats posted:It's scattered interactions over five years, and the most egregious example the guy can come up with is someone mildly overselling paprika. There's probably a step between "No thanks" and "SHUT THE gently caress UP DO YOU THINK I DIDN'T CONSIDER THAT gently caress YOU" he could have tried. OP says his wife does it too. I would imagine they interact somewhat frequently. For all we know, her family lives nearby and they get together a few times a month.
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It is simply impossible to navigate other people's annoying behaviour and social blindness, therefore I have the right to act like an angry toddler. Going from 2km/h to 200km/h is perfectly justifiable, I will not be taking questions because I am utterly unequipped to handle them
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big black turnout posted:I... did not in fact know that The thing that jumped out at me about this story wasn't the off the shoulder edict, it was that a 26 year old woman has resigned herself to becoming a hunchback because she's a dentist, instead of doing a few minutes of physio exercises a day to make sure she can stand up straight regardless of career choices.
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boofhead posted:It is simply impossible to navigate other people's annoying behaviour and social blindness, therefore I have the right to act like an angry toddler. Going from 2km/h to 200km/h is perfectly justifiable, I will not be taking questions because I am utterly unequipped to handle them There's a pretty big difference between something being justifiable and understandable. I don't see anybody saying that his reaction was a good one or that it was the right thing to do, but I think most people understand something minor slowly driving you nuts until you eventually pop.
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TBLALV posted:Hey this was almost my legal name! My parents decided at the last second to stay sane and just gave me a first and middle name with those initials instead.
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boofhead posted:It is simply impossible to navigate other people's annoying behaviour and social blindness, therefore I have the right to act like an angry toddler. Going from 2km/h to 200km/h is perfectly justifiable, I will not be taking questions because I am utterly unequipped to handle them OMGSTFU after 10 years culture vs I will bottle this up forever culture.
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house of the dad posted:There's a pretty big difference between something being justifiable and understandable. I don't see anybody saying that his reaction was a good one or that it was the right thing to do, but I think most people understand something minor slowly driving you nuts until you eventually pop. that's why the answer is ESH though the wife and family for being insufferably annoying, and the OP for having the emotional self-control and social communication skills of a child
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Peg Sliderskew posted:The thing that jumped out at me about this story wasn't the off the shoulder edict, it was that a 26 year old woman has resigned herself to becoming a hunchback because she's a dentist, instead of doing a few minutes of physio exercises a day to make sure she can stand up straight regardless of career choices. My sister is a tattooist and her back is hosed from having to maintain a hunched over posture, it's really not as simple as a few minutes of physio when you're spending the best part of 8 hours every day hunched over
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see there watson: the hunched back indicative of a tattooist or dental hygenist.
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boofhead posted:It is simply impossible to navigate other people's annoying behaviour and social blindness, therefore I have the right to act like an angry toddler. Going from 2km/h to 200km/h is perfectly justifiable, I will not be taking questions because I am utterly unequipped to handle them boofhead posted:the wife and family for being insufferably annoying, and the OP for having the emotional self-control and social communication skills of a child
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Benagain posted:see there watson: the hunched back indicative of a tattooist or dental hygenist. The first time I met my cousin's wife I asked her what instrument the played as a child, based entirely on her right pinky finger. She was "HOW DID YOU KNOW?" and my cousin was all "I didn't know that about you and we've been together for years." It's not hard to pick up on stuff like that. The spine is even more obvious.
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Maybe the dentist actually just has undiagnosed scoliosis.
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Rat Patrol posted:I agree with your point but published author names are a little different. All those authors go/went by their names to their friends and family. Except CS Lewis who named himself Jack when he was a kid so that's what everyone who knew him called him. Their friends and family called them what they wished to be called, which really just lends more credence to the main point here of 'call people what they ask to be called'. A fan would call them by the pen name, a family member by their given name, because that's what's appropriate given the boundaries. ND Stevenson's full name is Nathan Diana, but he goes by ND or Indy professionally and coming up to call him Nate without being a close friend would be loving weird as hell. We have internal frameworks for people having different names in different contexts, it's super normal for people, and it's actually more work to push back and be hateful about it. But some people, oh lord, they do take up the call. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 16:56 on May 7, 2024 |
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I wonder what his forums name is? AITA for asking my partner to stop fidgeting with his balls? quote:My partner (24M) and I (22F), have been together for almost 2 years now, and have been living together for about a year. I’ve only had one other bf, so I’m not sure if this is “normal” for men to do, but my partner constantly has his hands in his pants. When I say constantly, I mean basically every 10-15 mins, if not just keeping his hands in his pants the whole time. And no, this isn’t a pleasure thing. He formed this habit when he was a young kid. It doesn’t matter if he’s happy, stressed, sad, angry, he’s always touching and stretching out his ballsack between his fingers. Sometimes he makes this god awful squeaking noise by cupping his ball skin in his fist. At first obviously I didn’t see this as alarming, but now I’m just fed up. It’s gotten to the point that I will lightly smack his hand above his junk area and tell him to stop. Over time, this has become somewhat triggering to him, so often times after staying “please stop” he follows up with “you can’t tell me what to do”. It’s even progressed to the point of him saying things like “if you really love me you wouldn’t try to change me”. Now, this is where this little “habit” becomes a real issue. It doesn’t matter if he hasn’t showered in a few days, he will still be constantly fidgeting in his pants. And yes, it loving stinks. If he hasn’t showered and I hit his vape, there’s a slight stank lingering on it. Sometimes I don’t feel comfortable holding hands with him, having him hold my face, touch food, because there’s almost zero guarantee that he hasn’t already touched his junk. In terms of our sex life, he always showers beforehand so luckily I don’t need to worry about that, however, he isn’t the most sexual guy which has me wondering if the overstimulation to his genitalia is causing him to have a low libido. Overall, it’s been a long battle between me and his terrible habit and his consistent argument of “I need to love him without the need to change him and the way he does things” has me wondering if I really am the rear end in a top hat in this situation.
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FMguru posted:I wonder what his forums name is? you never jeopardize the balls
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FMguru posted:I wonder what his forums name is? I swear I remember that one from years and years ago, like "Pick was still posting here" times. Not that I'm trying to criticize or anything, it was just kinda funny to suddenly have a war movie-level flashback to the thread going all in on how normal or abnormal it is to just idly fiddle with yourself all day
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OP's boyfriend:
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FMguru posted:
We need to know how low his balls hang. This is important.
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And if they wobble to and fro.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:Their friends and family called them what they wished to be called, which really just lends more credence to the main point here of 'call people what they ask to be called'. Yeah no, that's why I was agreeing with your general point. Just that people publish under formal rear end names that don't necessarily reflect how you'd talk to them or even how they'd want to be addressed, and also people talk about folks they have never met differently than those who have. I'm not disagreeing at all, like, I don't say The Count of Monte Cristo was written by Alexandre, that'd be weirdly familiar with a dude I have never and will never meet. I just thought invoking author's published names doesn't necessarily make the most obvious case for the argument. Honestly CS Lewis's name is a cool story. He decided as a very young child he hated Clive, so he just kind of announced to his family one day "I'm Jack" and just like that, he was Jack forever. Imagine, a whole family and lifetime of friends listening when you tell them what your name is and not making a big fuss out of it. They could do it in the 1800s they can do it today. e: ok he lived most of his life in the 1900s but my point stands
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quote:Sometimes he makes this god awful squeaking noise by cupping his ball skin in his fist.
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TACD posted:…Is it possible to learn this power? Not from a Jedi.
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AITA for showing a friend a piercing?quote:I (f) have my nipples pierced. Over the weekend I went with my friend (m) to get get nose pierced again. We were talking about other piercings. Which hurt most, wondering why my nose bled so much, how this is the only one that made me tear up. While still talking about all the piercings I showed him the ones in my nipples. Now my husband isn’t talking to me. My husband and I have talked. I see his perspective. I have apologized. But he has asked me for an outsiders perspective. Which means Reddit because commenters here are brutal. AITA for showing a friend my piercings?
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StrangersInTheNight posted:Oh please, stop clutching your pearls, ya bunch of Helen Lovejoys. You're all absolutely fine saying T.S. Elliot or J.D. Salinger or J.R.R. Tolkien or E.E. Cummings, or J.K. Rowling or A.A. Milne or C.S. Lewis. You'd probably feel weird AF trying to discuss any of those people by their full names bc this is how you know them. We're German. They pronounced it Dieh-tschäi. That's reason enough in my opinion. She was gonna call the child Donna or Jo or Margaret or Maggie or whatever, but initials aren't really a thing here. There's no sanctity of full names, I had two classmates who chose to go by different names and the teachers just went with it. My grandpa went by a name that wasn't either of his first names for most of his life, to the point where relatives were confused when they saw his tombstone. Cloacamazing! fucked around with this message at 19:10 on May 7, 2024 |
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I understood your technical argument and intentionally pulled it around to the other side rather than engage in that specific point bc that's getting off the beaten path and this is also a thinly-veiled trans issue. Using ND Stevenson as an example was a tip-off.
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I’m 27F in a love triangle with a 25M and 26M. Who do I pick?quote:I’m in a difficult situation. Ever since I was in high school I started dating Paul fake name. We had a very toxic relationship where he cheated on me, and was emotionally abusive. This lasted until I was 25 when he cheated on me with my cousin. He cheated on me before but that was the last straw. Update I gave my ex a chance and he cheated on me….but there is a positive quote:I’m extremely sad but proud of myself. The old me would have given him a billion chances, but the first time I was saw he was cheating I dumped his rear end. Paul can talk a good game but his words never matches his actions….The relationship quickly delved back into our old toxic issues. Update the party went well quote:I wasn’t going to post the update but people keep saying it didn’t go well 😂 actually it did. My “friend” betrayed my trust and told my bf something extremely personal and im furious. What can I do to confront her? And to reconcile with my bf? quote:My bf Aaron and I have been in the process of reconciling. We broke up the first time because unfortunately I didn’t appreciate him. I started to realize he was the love of my life and we got back together. The Aristocrats! (Any takers on the bet the private information is that she was cheating on Aaron with Paul and you should make an informed decision before taking a cheater back?)
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i need to know the private information
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Look, if women really want an equivalent to “bro code” as a term for “helping your friend lie to a romantic partner,” you have that right. But surely you can come up with something better than “girl code.” “Lady law?” That was just off top of head, someone can definitely do better than that.
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is it really that hard to try call people by what they want to be called
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dervival posted:is it really that hard to try call people by what they want to be called it's dumb as hell. i've had people on dates tell me they won't call me by my initials once we're dating proper and then get really mad when i tell them that's a deal breaker
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ok oj
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sometimes a date is like a glove that doesn't fit
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Ominous Jazz posted:i need to know the private information This is how I plan on approaching my defense if I ever get arrested for something. I'm going to tell the judge that everything involved in my case is personal information and that means it has no right to be brought up. My attorney is not respecting bro code and it's not fair to share things that I did that make me look bad.
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Ominous Jazz posted:i need to know the private information I'm assuming that she slept with Paul before "officially" breaking up with Aaron? V VV Yeah, but she words it with ambiguity whether or not she told Aaron. I'm assuming she didn't and that's what her friend blabbed about. V V V DrBouvenstein fucked around with this message at 20:32 on May 7, 2024 |
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No need to assume, she flat-out says so in the first post Literally how is this woman in her late 20s
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I had a co worker named Mike. It was actually on his gov I'd that his name was Mike. A random boomer manager who should have retired years ago came in and refused to call him anything but Michael because Mike was too informal but calling him Mr. So and so was not appropriate for a subordinate. We of course had to all call her Mrs. Such and such because of respect and hierarchy.
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Hughlander posted:
My ex was emotionally abusive and cheated on me, but now he has changed for the better - he wants to become an air traffic controller, and as we all know air traffic controllers can't be emotionally abusive or cheat! What?
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