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How's everyone's relationships with their parents going? These COVID times are straining our lives and i just wanted to check in and see if goons were staying in touch with their families, and what their relationships with them, in general, were like, hell, especially with the holidays right around the corner
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Oct 23, 2020 02:41
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My folks are doing fine, thanks for asking! I try to visit at least once a month, for a Front porch socially distanced chat! Might get harder in the winter, Brr.
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Oct 23, 2020 03:02
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Aishlinn posted:My folks are doing fine, thanks for asking! I try to visit at least once a month, for a Front porch socially distanced chat! Might get harder in the winter, Brr. Awesome! Glad to hear it My dad had a health issue recently related to his prostate cancer surgery from nearly a decade ago, so that was worrying, but he and my mom are doing at least relatively well. I had a safe and socially distanced chat today when i dropped his truck back off--borrowed it to camp and kept it around to haul wood back from a tree they'd had cut down. Gosh, I've got fire wood out the wazoo right now!
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Oct 23, 2020 03:18
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Uh....strained to say the least. Short version Sooo a few months ago I began to have major mental health problems while working in isolation, ended in a nuclear meltdown in August. I found myself in inpatient a few weeks later. While there I called my sister and found out she had a frighteningly similar episode last year. She confronted my parents about it and forced some details out. My mom had a 10-15 year affair starting when I was 3-ish. My parents relationship was never healthy, however after discovery, it got much worse. They ended up staying together and kept the whole thing a secret from the kids and just pretended everything was normal. I had zero details going into treatment about this, just the childhood memories. After sharing my memories and the now discovered details with therapists / psychologists, I've broken through my denial and now accept that I suffered abuse in all 5 categories. My life is a wreck now.....so as I said before, strained. Its been a wild ride.
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Oct 23, 2020 03:40
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Hope everyone's family is doing well. My parents are doing great, which is a huge relief because both have been smokers for decades. We get along really well, mom is kind of nuts with a lot of inner demons so I have to keep my distance from her but my dad is a literal saint.
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Oct 23, 2020 04:02
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Cool thread idea OP. In January, I moved away from the city my parents live in to a bigger city 10 hours away. My parents are doing well, mom's been done working for a while and dad decided to finally go from semi to fully retired. They've been super cautious and smart about covid, which is shocking because my dad is a big maga guy. As long as we don't talk about ANYTHING besides work and the family, things go great. They came to visit over the summer when our cases were way down, and it was nice to see them.
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Oct 23, 2020 04:19
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My momma lives here! So fine. Also my grandparents live here and they are also fine. My dog is not fine tho, she ate something weird yesterday and has been ripping dawg rear end all night
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Oct 23, 2020 04:23
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OB-GYN Kenobi posted:Uh....strained to say the least. E-mailing you a e-hug. My relationship with my parents is great, we even talk about politics. One of the many benefits of a culture founded upon taking the piss out of each other.
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Oct 23, 2020 04:29
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COVID made me and my wife realize that death can come quickly and unexpectedly, so we decided to fix our relationship with my family since a couple of months ago. They are not easy to get along with but I think we are all trying our best and things are improving; hopefully it will stay that way. Plus it is summer down here and they have a nice pool, I tell my wife that we are like that Simpson’s episode “hello uhh Misus Bart, is your pool ready yet?” The kids are very happy with the pool after being quarantined inside our house for so long.
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Oct 23, 2020 04:37
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My dad had a heart attack literally 3 days before everything shut down, so I've been on my parents' farm and working remotely since March. He's doing fine now; I bought him RDR2 for his birthday 2 years ago and he's back to playing it. I wish he'd stop being a conservative parrot, but I'm also happy just to hear him singing off-key in the next room so IDK. I just watched It Follows with my mom. We watched Rosemary's Baby the other night and we're watching Salem's Lot tomorrow night. She'd be happy as hell if I just stayed here. It sucks my options are to be a thousand miles away from her or a thousand miles away from everything else. I love my drat mom.
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Oct 23, 2020 04:53
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Well op, not very fuckin good. My father considers himself an amateur film editor, something my mother once described as a "phase" that has now been going on for the better part of twenty years, and has decided to get back into trying to perfect his chromakey skills during covid. And apparently, in order to master this particular art, he felt there was no better source of practice material than the large number of vlogs I used to publish. My previous house had a bedroom with a green accent wall, one that happens to be roughly the same hue of green typically used for greenscreens. My webcam's video quality and the lighting conditions of that bedroom (lightbulb dangling from ceiling), on the other hand, provide a level of challenge for any video editor - as I had mistakenly told him when I asked him years ago to put an image of a cyberpunk cityscape behind me for my videos. Turns out my Dad does remember things about me, because lo and loving behold! He's been editing me into videos that he's been publishing to various sites cool with nsfw poo poo. Why nsfw? Because my dad, in his infinite compassion and wisdom, thought it'd be "thematically compelling"(?) to insert a clip of me drunkenly sobbing about how I had just turned twenty-seven, hated the taste of beer, but had forced myself to drink seven cans of it to impress some girl who ended up screwing my best friend. In this particular vlog, I bare my soul as I go on a (in hindsight, unfair) tirade about mindless sex and alcohol. So of course my Dad edits it over footage of a man pouring Schlitz beer into a woman's vagina as he 69s her (standing up style) in a clip that I have recently learned is from the 1980 porn "Champagne for Breakfast". Tears are streaming down my face and I am gnashing teeth and choking with emotion as this burly '70s style dude just buries his face into beer-slathered vagina, the woman's giggling sometimes managing to overcome my more stifled sobs. I am currently working to get most of the videos taken down, alerting the various hosts to possible copyright infringement. I am not sure if this will be successful as, despite having read one Wikipedia article and several WikiHows, I'm not sure what qualifies as fair use. I have not heard from my mother since late August, but I assume she is well.
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Oct 23, 2020 08:07
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I understand that must be really irritating, but your dad sounds like a drat character. Have you considered deep faking him into a 1970s porno? You know what you must do now. Return the torch. Continue the family legacy. Balance the cosmos. Ect. Ect.
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Oct 23, 2020 08:55
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Obeah posted:Well op, not very fuckin good. Your dad sounds awesome actually.
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Oct 23, 2020 10:17
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gently caress talking about my boring family, I'm now eager to hear more about Pornographer Papa.
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Oct 23, 2020 10:39
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Mom: we have the Atlantic between us and I miss her terribly. This will be my first Xmas where I can’t see her and I don’t like it one loving bit. I’m at my core infuriated at all of This Madness because gently caress, I’d kill just for a hug. I just want that innate feeling of safety I have when I’m at my moms. Dad: I am the OP of the Rejected/Estranged parents thread for a reason. All I know is that he isn’t dead and has an IG. I’ve blocked that already.
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Oct 23, 2020 10:39
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By popular demand posted:gently caress talking about my boring family, I'm now eager to hear more about Pornographer Papa. Same, tell me more
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Oct 23, 2020 11:22
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Obeah posted:Well op, not very fuckin good. lmfao
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Oct 23, 2020 12:10
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Obeah posted:So of course my Dad edits it over footage of a man pouring Schlitz beer into a woman's vagina as he 69s her (standing up style) in a clip that I have recently learned is from the 1980 porn "Champagne for Breakfast". Tears are streaming down my face and I am gnashing teeth and choking with emotion as this burly '70s style dude just buries his face into beer-slathered vagina, the woman's giggling sometimes managing to overcome my more stifled sobs. My Dad started building dioramas, I guess we all need hobbies during these strange times.
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Oct 23, 2020 12:16
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My mom is living with my grandmother after her roommate abruptly decided to move in with her ailing stepfather. My grandmother is in a loveless, bitter 30+ year long marriage with an alcoholic deadbeat, and now my mom gets her front seat to that bullshit back. (For the record, she isn't staying with me because my place is too small and my cat would drive her insane.) Thankfully, my relationship with my mom is the best, and we're figuring out how to decorate my apartment together. 
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Oct 23, 2020 12:32
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My dad wants to kill himself and my mum is drinking herself to death, i suspect its cos the can't go on there stupid cruises anymore. My sisters care but im finding it hard to give a drat. They voted for Brexit too.
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Oct 23, 2020 12:43
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I wish my dad was editing cyberpunk beer porn but no he mostly builds grandiose plans to renovate his house and he's been at it for the last 20 years to the horror and chagrin of all the neighbors / family members. He has the gall of pretending that he doesn't like doing it, but as far as I can tell that encompasses all of his hobbies and he still managed to ignore all the safety rules for all these years and the house has another 20 years of reno in it at this rate. The fact that mom didn't divorce him after being forced to live at a worksite with tools strewn about everywhere is a testament to futility and depression lol
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Oct 23, 2020 13:28
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I am sorry to hear of the strains between some of you and some of your parents, and I hope you can find some piece of solace out there which exists beyond relationships which are likely unrecoverable. As valuable as a strong familial unit is, we mustn't forget the values that friendships can have in our lives, in nurturing us and being nurtured by us. I am fortunate to have a strong bond with my parents and to still live close by to them. They were absolutely supportive and instrumental in becoming the person I am today, and I am always thankful for our bond, though at times I feel we push against the unbreakable barrier between people, that urge to somehow be more emotionally open and forthright in a way that's limited by our existences as discrete entities limited by the weakness of communication. Even then, I'm grateful that politics haven't torn my family apart the way some have encountered over the last several years; the one time my father voted Republican was Nixon, he tells that he didn't feel comfortable voting again until the Clinton years, and my mother's a staunch yellow dog. I'm further left than them by several touchdowns, but our time together is not in the waving shadow of a MAGA flag. My spouse's relationship with her parents and their current spouses is more strained, but still close and cordial. Their brother's currently planning to move up north with his wife to live nearer to her (absurdly affluent) family, so that's part of their mom's presiding drama at the moment; the other part is that their mom, stepdad, and the aforementioned wife have all contracted COVID-19 (but seem to be recovering now; no major symptoms, thankfully!). All told, though, those relationships have greatly improved since we've been together, and they were, at worst in the last decade, marked by moments of "what the hell" as opposed to existing in a completely toxic, irreparable space.
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Oct 23, 2020 15:55
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My parents are doing ok with the quarantine. They're both throwing themselves into home improvements and repairs, and they live on a drat lake and can go tool around in a boat sometimes if they feel cooped up, so I'm jealous. They're both conservatives, but, fortunately, my dad is a huge hypochondriac so both him and my mom are taking all this mask and hygiene poo poo seriously unlike some of their peers that they complain about and call idiots. Otherwise I try to avoid the hell out of talking about politics with them. But we finally found a common ground of making fun of anti maskers, whew. Unfortunately my grandmother now lives with my aunt, who is an anti masker.  My mother in law, whom I love and is fantastic, is in the hospital right now dealing with bone cancer. We're all terrified she's never going to come out. She just got diagnosed like a month ago, it really came at her fast. Sucks. She's such a lovely lady, so funny, so generous. I hate watching my husband go through this. I wish we could visit her.
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Oct 23, 2020 16:40
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I've never really been close to my parents. My dad was in the navy and gone for six months at a time on deployment. He had huge anger management issues, and couldn't deal with issues without a loud voice or smack upside the head. The number of broken keyboards and Nintendo controllers from him Getting Mad at Video Games was quite high. It wasn't until my brother and I no longer longer lived at home that he got a hold of it. He's now a quiet, laid back person, but I have nothing to really talk to him about outside of surface level things. My mother was the middle child, and only sister, of five. She had to, essentially, raise her younger brothers because her parents divorced, and her mother had to work multiple jobs. Looking back on my childhood, I get the feeling she was burnt out on raising kids because she'd been doing it since she was a kid herself. She's gotten more crazy over the years: I'm pretty sure she's an anti-vaxxer; she pushes a bunch of "natural" cures over actual medical science; about a month ago, she sent me a YouTube video of a crazy guy saying it's the end times. COVID is overblown, and we should just get herd immunity by gathering in large crowds! The occasional dog whistle comments about certain groups of people sprinkled here and there are great, too. Both of my parents being FYGM Trumpers doesn't help my motivation to communicate with them. They bootstrapped from poverty to where they are! Why can't people just join the military, then combine the retirement with cushy civil service jobs while also waiting for that nest egg from grandma? It's Obama and taxes that prevented them from going on that European vacation, not supporting their eldest son's children and paying his mortgage for six years because he's in prison, and his wife was a stay at home mom when he was incarcerated. If it weren't for my wife (who comes from a large, close family) I probably wouldn't talk to my family at all outside of my SIL. E: I would be camping with one of my best friends this weekend instead of having dinner with my family, but he got called in for OT. Now I get to listen to one or more people bitch about taxes being theft when literally every member of this family, except my wife, is paid by taxes. its all nice on rice fucked around with this message at 18:06 on Oct 23, 2020 |
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Oct 23, 2020 18:04
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Obeah posted:Well op, not very fuckin good.
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Oct 23, 2020 19:01
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Last year my parents didn't include an update on me in their annual Christmas newsletter (why do boomers do this?), which means they are publicly acting like I don't exist. My mother's birthday is 9/11, so I just sent her an offensive eCard as a joke and received no response. They recently sent me my birthday gift early (birthday is in December) and, as expected, it was a bunch of garbage I have no interest in and will never use and will probably donate to a thrift store.
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Oct 23, 2020 19:12
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Obeah posted:Well op, not very fuckin good.
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Oct 23, 2020 19:16
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My father's dead and good riddance, he was a psychotic bastard of a human being who was abusive and in and out of jail and prison a number of times. My mother always took him back, though. Part of why I don't talk to her anymore, that and religious/political differences (I am too much of a Sinner and don't support Our President.) I've tried to make nice a couple of times but she's looking for a lot of grovelling and obeisance which isn't happening. I haven't seen her in four years, which was tough for awhile but I'm okay with it now. I assume she's exactly the same. I'm still pretty close to my late wife's parents, and they're very nice people. They're recently retired and have two young dogs, I think they mostly hang out at home and call their relatives. Happy Halloween!
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Oct 23, 2020 19:21
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Obeah posted:Well op, not very fuckin good. Lmfao Are there any less personally embarrassing works of his you can post? Please?
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Oct 23, 2020 19:26
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Obeah posted:Well op, not very fuckin good. Ah don't sweat it too much OP. Just crack open a nice cold beer and....  oh... well....
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Oct 23, 2020 20:01
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e: nvm i'll just make an e/n thread or whatever
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Oct 23, 2020 20:01
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TheAardvark posted:Lmfao I found this on Limewire, but it seems to be mislabeled.  oasis_champagne_supernova.mp3
Kirk Vikernes fucked around with this message at 00:43 on Oct 24, 2020 |
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Oct 23, 2020 22:54
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My mom ha.....
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Oct 23, 2020 23:10
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I assume my dad's okay. Earlier this year he was following mask protocols and was very rigorous about handwashing, using sanitizer, etc. Some if this is theater, as he and wife #2 are hoarders, and he wants very much to look like he's clean and normal. As long as he keeps wearing his mask who gives a gently caress. Father's Day and his birthday were in the same week, and I went all out on him this year, because everybody's been shut up inside and not able to do much. A week later he picked a fight with me about antifa and "rioters" and ended our relationship. He claims he's not a Trump supporter, but he repeats a lot of Trump propaganda. He wanted to have that last win and the last word, no matter what, but he isn't informed and doesn't live in reality, so that wasn't a possibility. I can't think of one positive thing about this person or anything that I really like about my father. I'm done. I still worry he'll catch COVID, because he's extremely stupid and he has COPD, so if he gets this, he's not going to do well. But he's made his choices.
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Oct 24, 2020 00:00
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Hi I’d like to let some of y’all know that you’re all very welcome to join us in the estranged parent thread, for real. No need to post but we all kind of just support each other and poo poo on legit crazy parents who simply cannot fathom what they did wrong https://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3893726 On parents doing something right: I’m so glad my mom taught me a sense of fiscal responsibility and overall education as a kid and teen. Holy poo poo do I know some people horrendous with money.
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Oct 24, 2020 02:12
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God Hole posted:i'm 29 years old and, well i found out last year that my mother and stepfather had spent all the child support my dad ever sent them (i didn't know he sent any at all). i currently have over $50,000 in student debt, about $1000 in my bank account and no health insurance, and they just... spent the $12,000/yr my dad sent them. Do you think that child support money is supposed to, like, get put in a savings account or something? It’s supposed to be spent, specifically on expenses related to the child. If the person paying the child support finds out it’s getting spent on other things, they can take the other parent to court and get the payment amount reduced or payments ended. edit: a thousand dollars/month isn’t that much, as far as child support payments go edit 2: nah Doc Block fucked around with this message at 03:52 on Oct 24, 2020 |
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Oct 24, 2020 03:33
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Obeah posted:Well op, not very fuckin good. You can't post this without a link.
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Oct 24, 2020 03:53
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Sir Not Appearing posted:I found this on Limewire, but it seems to be mislabeled. They don't make music like that anymore.
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Oct 24, 2020 03:59
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Doc Block posted:Do you think that child support money is supposed to, like, get put in a savings account or something? no I wasn't under the impression it was a trust or anything. I'm saying I was led to believe they weren't coming in at all and my living under their roof was due to their good graces. and that was held over my head often.
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Doc Block posted:It’s supposed to be spent, specifically on expenses related to the child. If the person paying the child support finds out it’s getting spent on other things, they can take the other parent to court and get the payment amount reduced or payments ended. It's supposed to be spent on things like rent and food, but this isn't enforced in any meaningful way. It's also a very difficult issue to sue over after the fact, even if you know your parent threw the money away on drugs or scentsy.
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