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Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

What the OP said was:

She could have nursed a couple of light beers, or she could have been slamming rum drinks all day. OP also doesn't believe that she's eating while cooking or off her husband's plate despite being told that directly.

If there's one thing that's never missing from overbearing in-law scenarios, it's nitpicked details that back up the OP's NTA version of events and a bunch of vague points about the YTA version. Between the lack of any sort of detail about the amount of alcohol or any resulting inappropriate behaviors, and the glossing over the food the DIL said she was eating, this one just comes off as self-serving narrator especially with the admitted starting point of "any amount is too much".

Jumping to accusations of alcoholism seems to be getting several steps ahead of yourself based on scant details from this narrator.

Interesting username/post combo right here

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# ? May 30, 2024 03:38

Malachite_Dragon: Mar 31, 2010; Weaving Merry Christmas magic

I always assume they're a raging alcoholic who refuses to deal with their problem. Lot of people awful defensive about their drinking on the forums, too.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 04:04

Upgrade: Jun 19, 2021

Anyone have a link to the IPA wife post

# ? Oct 17, 2022 04:07

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

Twist: Grandma is the alcoholic and is projecting.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 04:23

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

AITA for telling on a preteen?

quote:

Over the weekend I (24f) and family went to a local pumpkin patch for fall-stivities.

My 4 year old wanted to go on a bounce obstacle course, but is too small to stand in line by himself so I stood in line with him. We were at the very back of the line when two preteen girls got off the obstacle course and immediately got back in line. They stood directly behind us I couldn�t even back up. I feel something against my phone in my back pocket and thought maybe they just bumped into me until my phone was removed from my pocket. I grab my phone and turn around and tell the girl not to touch my phone and asked why she thought it was okay to grab someone else�s property. She slid a quiet sorry and then turned around. Shocked I tell a worker that the girl behind me just tried to �pickpocket� me and took my phone out of my pocket. I admit pickpocket is a little dramatic. He looked shocked and I continued through the line.

20 minutes later we are at the swings pushing our kids when a mid 30�s woman walks up to my husband and says something about �your wife, and pickpocketing.� He didn�t hear so asked what And then I turned around to which the women says, �you told someone my daughter tried to pickpocket you?� I responded, �yeah� to which she told me, �she was complimenting your phone case.� I told her that she removed my phone from my pocket. And the women at this point got upset and told me, she�s 11 and proceeded to call me sweetie and tell me that she didn�t take my phone out of my pocket. She started raising her voice and pointed out that I had kids, and reiterated that her daughter didn�t take my phone, and told me that when my kids are older she hopes they do this and someone reacts as I did. At this point I�m super annoyed and responded that I hope her daughter doesn�t try to steal anything else. She proceeds to get louder and tell me that �maybe I should get my phone out of my rear end� as in not carry my phone in my back pocket. She walks away yelling this so she gets the last word. AITA?

AITA for giving up one of my twins at birth?

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I 19f gave birth to a set of twins last year. I had a boy and a girl and I gave my son up for adoption and I�m currently still raising my daughter with my boyfriend. We weren�t able to afford two children at the time and we did what we felt was best for our unit as it was the most heartbreaking decision but we wanted to give our child a shot at life. We had a closed adoption.We didnt plan to ever tell our daughter about her brother.

We were able to keep up with the adoptive parents on Facebook (without her knowledge) as after the papers were signed, it was the only way we could keep tabs on him and look at his photos.

We were notified by the adoptive parents a week ago via email that our son is in the hospital and although they were under no obligation to let us know, she told us that he had a very serious incident in which boiling water was spilled onto him at daycare and that he was having skin grafting surgery the following day. She didn�t give us any additional details and when I emailed her for updates I got no response so a few days later I checked her Facebook and she made a post about him being on life support. We are broken.

I told my mom about everything and she shamed me and told me that we should have kept him and that none of this would be happening if we hadn�t put him up for adoption because she said we are doing a better job raising our daughter than the adoptive parents are raising our son and as the argument progressed she started throwing everything in my face about how evil it was of me to give him up and how she was never at peace about the adoption.

I feel horrible but I won�t let my mom tear me down and make me feel like this is my fault because I did what I could with the limited resources I had at that point in my life and I had no idea what was to come of this situation.

AITA?

Closed adoption but Facebook is okay?

Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 04:51 on Oct 17, 2022

# ? Oct 17, 2022 04:47

Sagebrush: Feb 26, 2012

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for telling on a preteen?

hoo boy. that kid's probably been stealing for years and the parents are either oblivious or in denial.

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Sagebrush posted:

hoo boy. that kid's probably been stealing for years and the parents are either oblivious or in denial.

Or teaching her to do it.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 04:54

Charity Porno: Aug 2, 2021; by Hand Knit

Cowslips Warren posted:

Closed adoption but Facebook is okay?

what

# ? Oct 17, 2022 05:09

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

Charity Porno posted:

what

I thought closed adoption meant the bio parents had no contact with their bio child at all. I mean I guess technically speaking Facebook isn't direct contact and it's with the adoptive parents.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 05:21

haveblue: Aug 15, 2005; Toilet Rascal

It sounds like the OP wasn�t supposed to remain in contact with the parents but Facebook stalked them anyway

# ? Oct 17, 2022 05:37

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

AITA for "tolerating" a night out with my girlfriend?

quote:

Earlier this year I gifted my girlfriend (33F) tickets to a concert that she really wanted to go to that was this past Friday night. I'm (36M) not a fan of her music, nor the fact that this concert was in the city, but I wanted to make it a great gift. She was elated when I told her that I bought the VIP package (meet and greet, pictures with the band, etc.).

Last week my girlfriend began asking if we had to get to the venue early. Being the thorough, detailed person that she is, I assured her I would check. Instead, I was too busy with work. Honestly it was getting a bit annoying that almost every few days she would ask, so I told her I didn't see anything while deleting a bunch of emails from the venue for concerts I don't even care about. On Friday afternoon, she told me that she had tried looking things up and was only finding that the doors opened at 7. With that, I picked her up at 6 and arrived at the venue for 7.

Once inside, she showed security our tickets and asked about for the meet and greet. The bouncer informed us that the VIP was at 6:00. I froze, now my girlfriend turns to me asking if I received any kind of emails (the tickets were in my name). I told her that I deleted emails and she seemed to understand. I actually really enjoyed the whole time, so once her band's set ended, we decided to not stay for the last band. And this is where the trouble began.

It's 10PM, we're outside of the venue, and she suggests we go to a bar a block away and either walk or rideshare. Immediately I said there was not a chance. She mentioned that my car was in a secured lot and we wouldn't be far, but I lost my cool, which I admit was NOT the best way to go about things, and told her, "You don't go out in the city. There is crime all over the place!" She responded that we were in the city. I went off how I can't stand it here, so she said that we'll just leave. No raising of her voice, she just said she was fine with leaving. She was silent on the way back and I suggest that we go back to my place to finish out the night and she refused. This also pissed me off because I asked what was wrong with the bar next to my apartment and she shut that down with her short responses.

Overall, the night cost me over $300, and while she is saying more to me now as opposed to Friday night, she is being very distant. She told me she could live with not going to the meet and greet except for how things turned out afterwards and that is when the disappointment truly set in. My response was that I was only bringing her to the concert, nowhere else, and thinking of her safety. She continued that I shouldn't have bought the tickets if I was only "tolerating doing so".

I do accept that I made some mistakes, chiefly with making us miss the meet and greet. The timing of the concert should have made this an unforgettable experience since her grandmother just died. Am I the rear end in a top hat?

# ? Oct 17, 2022 05:55

Captain Hygiene: Sep 17, 2007; You mess with the crabbo...

I sabotaged my own present to her due to laziness, refused to do anything to make it better, and insinuated she might spend some time with me afterwards, but

# ? Oct 17, 2022 06:02

Malachite_Dragon: Mar 31, 2010; Weaving Merry Christmas magic

Why did you get the VIP tickets if you didn't want your girlfriend going to the VIP thing

# ? Oct 17, 2022 06:03

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Hughlander posted:

AITA for "tolerating" a night out with my girlfriend?

So obliviously stupid the only way I can accept it is real is if it was written by the girlfriend who is furious

# ? Oct 17, 2022 06:05

QuarkJets: Sep 8, 2008

Spending extra to make it a "great gift" but then not spending 2 minutes to make sure that the gift doesn't turn to poo poo lol

# ? Oct 17, 2022 06:15

QuarkJets: Sep 8, 2008

This dude basically bought flowers and then let them get all wilted and decayed before giving them to her lol

# ? Oct 17, 2022 06:17

Ravenfood: Nov 4, 2011

There is crime in the city! We can't go out here!!

# ? Oct 17, 2022 06:32

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for telling on a preteen?

AITA for giving up one of my twins at birth?

Closed adoption but Facebook is okay?

Open and closed are not the only two options. They wanted to know about him but didn�t want him or his bio sister to know about each other.

That story is heartbreaking though. However, if it happened at daycare I�m not sure how OP could foresee that not the family adopting the kid but someone they hire for childcare would be so negligent. If it had been in the care of the adoptive family and caused by horrible negligence then there would maybe be an argument there that OP should have either kept the kid or chosen someone more responsible to adopt him. But also she was a 19 year old mom so her judgment is probably not great anyway.

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Twist: Grandma is the alcoholic and is projecting.

I had a close friend from grade school through college whose grandmother carried a small suitcase with a cocktail shaker, a set of glasses and some bottles of liquor and mixers literally everywhere she went. Whenever she was questioned about it she would say she just wanted to be prepared because �you never know.� Of course, any time she found herself waiting for a ride anywhere or a taxi or bus she would set her case on a bench and make herself a drink just as casually as we might poke at our phones.

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Ghost Leviathan: Mar 2, 2017; Exploration is ill-advised.

Grandma owns.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 06:50

QuarkJets: Sep 8, 2008

therobit posted:

I had a close friend from grade school through college whose grandmother carried a small suitcase with a cocktail shaker, a set of glasses and some bottles of liquor and mixers literally everywhere she went. Whenever she was questioned about it she would say she just wanted to be prepared because �you never know.� Of course, any time she found herself waiting for a ride anywhere or a taxi or bus she would set her case on a bench and make herself a drink just as casually as we might poke at our phones.

This feels like a background character in a Bioware game who you just didn't talk to enough times to figure out what their deal really is

# ? Oct 17, 2022 07:20

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

QuarkJets posted:

This feels like a background character in a Bioware game who you just didn't talk to enough times to figure out what their deal really is

I think her deal was really alcoholism to be honest. But I guess not bad enough that she was drinking from a paper bag.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 07:51

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for giving up one of my twins at birth?

The whole Twin Magic thing is a little overblown, but I've read enough accounts of kids who feel like there's something missing to know you don't separate twins.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 08:16

Biplane: Jul 18, 2005

Beachcomber posted:

The whole Twin Magic thing is a little overblown, but I've read enough accounts of kids who feel like there's something missing to know you don't separate twins.

What you should do is combine them, creating one Superchild

# ? Oct 17, 2022 08:29

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

Biplane posted:

What you should do is combine them, creating one Superchild

It takes years for babies to get coordinates enough to pull off the dance steps though.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 08:34

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Biplane posted:

What you should do is combine them, creating one Superchild

Actually, the parent's name was Frankenstein

# ? Oct 17, 2022 08:35

artsy fartsy: May 10, 2014; You'll be ahead instead of behind. Hello!

Nothing special about this one except for the fun little detail that I spoilered

AITA for asking a new mother for money back that Ioaned to her

quote:

About two months ago my (39f) friend mentioned in text conversation that she (38f) was short on rent and was afraid she'd be evicted. She was going to have to try to sell some of her breeding stock of spiders to cover. She was heavily pregnant at the time and working two at home jobs to pay the bills. The father isn't in the picture because he relapsed into drugs and she moved back to this state to raise the baby on her own. (She has maybe 6 other children, some she has, some have stayed with old partners. I've never asked why)

I felt bad for her and because she helped me when I got into the same breeding field I sent her the $500. I make pretty good money but it came out of savings. She was very thankful and I was clear I could afford to loan this money but I couldn't afford to give it away. I didn't specify when I needed the money back though because I wasn't sure when she be able to start repaying it with the birth of the baby approaching and I really try to avoid conflict.

She's had the baby about a month now, to my knowledge she's still working both jobs, I even gave her a lead on a work from home job that pays far better than what she currently has. I messaged her a couple weeks ago asking when she might have the ability to repay it and she said she'd get me half on the 10th and the other half two weeks after. The 10th has come and gone and not only has she not made a repayment, she's stopped responding to cute videos I've sent via messenger and updates I've sent about my breeding program. Publicly she's still acting like a friend on fb posts though telling me how cute my new hair cut is.

AITA for wanting this money back? Should I ask her again? She hasn't even opened my messages since the 8th.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 09:22

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

AITA for telling my wife she was "so close" to getting her dream job?

quote:

I'm a 33-year-old man and my wife is 27.

Since the start of our relationship, my wife has been very particular about how things get done, and tends to believe that she knows the one true correct way for anything related to anything. She has admitted that she can be a control freak. While this bothers me, it has never been a true dealbreaker in our relationship.

Very often when I do just about anything, whether it be a household chore, assembling a piece of furniture, taking a picture, or writing a presentation for work (in a field where I have a master's degree and she has no formal education), she'll do this thing where she'll condescendingly say "You were so close to getting it right," really drawing out the "so close" part. I've told her dozens of times that I'd prefer for her to stop because it sounds so condescending, but she insists that she's complimenting me.

I do the dishes and place them out to dry in an orientation she doesn't approve of?

You were so close. Next time, put them that way.

I take a picture of her?

You were so close. Next time, angle the camera this way.

I complete a project at work and show her the results?

You were so close. Next time, write it this way.

For the last two months my wife has been undergoing an intensive hiring process for a job in our city. She works in a highly niche field and seldom finds job openings, and therefore she was ecstatic to have the opportunity for a relatively well-paying job doing what she wants to do. She got to the very final stage where the company was considering two people, coincidentally the other of whom was her college roommate. Well, on Friday she got "the call" telling her thanks for her application but blah blah blah, record on file, all that jazz.

My wife came to me crying. I immediately comforted her and "You were so close" blurted out. Her head whipped up and she asked what I meant by that. I said she was so close to getting the job, but was just a bit off. She immediately walked out to stay at her friend's house, where she is currently sulking. She finally sent me a text this afternoon calling me a huge jerk.

Was I unnecessarily being an rear end in a top hat here?

# ? Oct 17, 2022 10:12

Serephina: Nov 8, 2005; 恐竜戦隊
ジュウレンジャー

Mx. posted:

AITA for telling my wife she was "so close" to getting her dream job?

I, too, marry people I absolutely hate.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 10:23

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

AITA for making my younger sisters fly home early after they followed my husband?

quote:

I have two younger sisters who are 15 and 17. They came to visit my husband and I on what was supposed to be a 5-week trip. Unfortunately, it had to end early after they were caught following my husband while he was having dinner with a client.

I told them they had to leave immediately because I could tell my husband was close to exploding and even though they kept begging me to hear them out and to let them stay I wouldn�t. I called our dad to let him know they would be coming home early and why which didn�t go over well. My stepmother wanted me to let them stay until the morning so they would fly back in the daytime but I told her it wasn�t possible and they had to leave immediately.

I�m supposed to be visiting soon but my sisters have told our dad that they don�t want to see me and my stepmother said I wasn�t welcome in her house after what I did to them.

The reason my husband was so angry is because the client was the one who noticed them taking pictures of them and when he confronted them they were rude to her and to him.

AITA?

# ? Oct 17, 2022 10:42

Biplane: Jul 18, 2005

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for making my younger sisters fly home early after they followed my husband?

# ? Oct 17, 2022 11:08

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

"Doesn't it warm the cockles of your heart, Agent Sachs?"
"It warms the poo poo out of my cockles. My cockles are burning."

My wife got sick and couldn't visit her late husband's grave for his death anniversary, So I went and visted instead.

quote:

He passed away from cancer 4 years ago. My wife and I have been together for 2 years, married for 6 months.

Every year, she'd visit his grave and leave flowers on it. It only takes 30 minutes or so for her to visit him and remember him and pay her respect. I never asked to go with her but this year, she got sick for few days and couldn't go visit him on his anniversary and do the things she'd normally do. So what I did was purchase some flowers, and drive to the cemetary and leave the flowers there and take a picture after praying and then I went home.

In the evening, my wife seemed sad and distant. I asked her what the matter was and she ranted to me about how she couldn't visit her late husband on his 4th anniversay. She said that it felt wrong for her to miss one of the very few visits to his grave like this to express her heartfelt gratitude for him. I told her that I already took care of that and showed her the picture I take of his grave with flowers on it. She couldn't believe it at first and started apologizing saying I didn't have to do this but I reassured her that her late husband was a good man to both of us, and although I never met him, he helped her while she struggled with health issues...and if it wasn't for him, she migh not have been here with me today. And so I have all the respect for him and visiting and bringing flowers is the least I could to express both my wife's and my gratitude for what he had done.

For some reason she started crying and I stepped out to give her some space. Next morning she was more energetic and cheerful. I'm happy to see as if she had heavy weight get lifted off her shoulders and I hope that she can see that she doesn't have to be apologetic for remembering her late husband or mentioning him infront of me. I'd want for her to open up to me more aboit him and share her grief with me. Though I get she needs to have her own moments sometimes but I just want her to understand that she's not doing anything wrong.

We all need a heart-warming story every now and then and this is just so freaking sweet I'm dying.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 11:12

Olewithmilk: Jun 30, 2006; What?

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for making my younger sisters fly home early after they followed my husband?

Husband having an affair and OP in aggressive denial?

# ? Oct 17, 2022 11:13

Manky Tungeon: Jun 11, 2018

Evil Willow posted:

AITA for making my younger sisters fly home early after they followed my husband?

Wow, I cannot believe my mom stooped so low...

My mom called my doctor and said to him "What's the most accurate measurement for weighing?" The doctor said "An underwater weighing test" And just like that, my mom said "Yes. When can my son and my daughter can take it?" and the doc said "Today at 2pm."

So, I didn't bother taking a shower and so did my sister too, so I had to get into a special swimming suit(tight pants...Ugh).

My sister said "Can I pull my hair down to a ponytail?" The doctor said "No." So my sister with her long, blonde hair went underwater with 8 seconds and had she must enjoyed it..but I didn't.

My sister had to wear pants and a bra, so she enjoyed minutes of going underwater. I didn't take a shower and she didn't too.

Before she got into the tank, you see girls 'pretend' to pull their hair into ponytails, but they don't. That's what she did.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 11:21

datajugend: Jan 15, 2010; Cat Army

They believed he was cheating.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 11:23

Pondex: Jul 8, 2014

Olewithmilk posted:

Husband having an affair and OP in aggressive denial?

More like acute Nancy Drew-poisoning.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 11:50

massive spider: Dec 6, 2006

Charity Porno posted:

yeah it's not like there's a weird stepsibling in porn trend going on or anything that would make it seem unsavory to some people

My point stands. They REALLY couldn't find someone else to date?

They're in their 40s with kids so, no probably.

Youre suggesting they give up finding love with each other because, stepsibling porn memes?

# ? Oct 17, 2022 12:00

John Murdoch: May 19, 2009; I can tune a fish.

Pomme de Terror posted:

WIBTA if I cancelled my vacation ticket because my family wants me to share a room with my nieces?

Super messed up to make the 4 and 2 year olds pay their own way. :v:

# ? Oct 17, 2022 13:33

DrManiac: Feb 29, 2012

Uh it seems super duper hosed up to only give one kid up for adoption. Like, I can see if one kid had some condition where they needed way more money/care.

# ? Oct 17, 2022 13:54

hawowanlawow: Jul 27, 2009

the sisters are avid readers of relationships posts

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hawowanlawow: Jul 27, 2009

I hate to interrupt our meeting, but those two teenagers in the trench coats, fedoras, and dark glasses keep peeking at us from behind their newspapers

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