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MK-Ultramarathon posted:
Yeah, that's a little rude depending on the circumstances but it's a tiny relationship thing that they've now spent more time crying to reddit over than it would take to just clean it up. Like, get real mad about it if he's just chronically dumping every mess on you, but they don't even hint at that.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 19:19 |
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# ? May 29, 2024 22:49 |
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That to me is down to patterns of behaviour. If the boyfriend is normally good about cleaning, and leaving dishes is a big outlier, then OK, wash up. If he has a pattern of leaving messes for his gf to tidy then yeet that fucker out of a window. The edge case is that he has been decent while they were dating and is now pushing her to clean up after him once their relationship is more established. Watch for a week or two, and if he is dodging cleaning jobs in favour of leaving leaving them for her to do, then fling him away like a mouldy old peach.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 19:20 |
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BigHead posted:If someone sneaks a recovering alcoholic booze - particularly if that person knew the other person is a recovering alcoholic - then that is an upsetting situation. Being upset is an appropriate response to it. I'm sitting here staring at this post as I type it, trying to figure out the right words to describe how I would react if someone tried that with me and my family. I would be extremely, extremely pissed. Anyone who even hinted at doing that would go on my list of people we would never, ever trust. Don't gently caress around with someone's fatal medical illness. Iirc with the story people are remembering, it wasn’t something egregious like a rum cake, it was some sauce that involved deglazing a pan with wine
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 19:25 |
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OP clarifies that neither of them force the other to do any cleaning and that her bf just plain old forgot about the dishes this time. If she just left them unwashed for a week out of spite, that would be an over-the-top passive aggressive response. But OP calmed down and realized that she was being petty, and will clean the dishes. 'cause you know, sometimes you do little favors for the ones you love. Crisis averted, but she could have spared herself some pain by not posting about it to reddit. also, Das Boo posted:r/relationships: She took it as a personal attack, which it was
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 19:28 |
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Van Kraken posted:Iirc with the story people are remembering, it wasn’t something egregious like a rum cake, it was some sauce that involved deglazing a pan with wine If I recall correctly, unless a recipe involves many, many hours of cooking, virtually none of the alcohol used in a recipe is cooked off. If you're just finishing a sauce off with some wine, then the majority of the alcohol in that wine is going to be in that dish.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 19:32 |
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This is the wine deglazing story, no dramatic wagon falling in this one. But I do recall another story that had an alcoholic using one event like that as the reason they went off the rails, I just can't seem to find the right word combo for searching that one. AITA for deglazing my skillet with white wine when making dinner for an ex-alcoholic? quote:My husband and I have known Jessica since college (about 10 years), and her husband Tim since they met (about 5 years), so we're really good friends. When they started dating, Tim was still drinking alcohol. He didn't drink it to the point of loving up his life, but he would drink almost every day, and it started to affect his health, so 3 years ago he stopped drinking all together.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 19:38 |
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God, one time I had a friend over for dinner and my mom made a crock pot beef recipe that called for like, 10 oz of beer. Friend proceeded to drive home and tell her mom we got her drunk.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 19:47 |
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Bubblyblubber posted:This is the wine deglazing story, no dramatic wagon falling in this one. But I do recall another story that had an alcoholic using one event like that as the reason they went off the rails, I just can't seem to find the right word combo for searching that one. Every time some gently caress with their head up the right wing outrage bubble starts going on about pronouns and the overpathologizing and subsequent social entitlement young people have, remember that these types of myopic fucks have existed in every age bracket. Always. They're fussy, bratty, and impossible to please unless you're catering directly to their whims. They have always existed. They have always sucked. They're just part of life.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 19:51 |
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Pookah posted:If I recall correctly, unless a recipe involves many, many hours of cooking, virtually none of the alcohol used in a recipe is cooked off. If you're just finishing a sauce off with some wine, then the majority of the alcohol in that wine is going to be in that dish. And the same conversation came up when this story was brought up: that's not the scenario. The pan was being deglazed. High heat, low amount of liquid, almost all of it being evaporated off in the course of deglazing the pan. That's a lot different than pouring half a bottle of wine into your gallon of pasta sauce 5 minutes before you take it off the stove.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 20:15 |
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If all the wines burnt off then why even bother doing it? Lot of alcoholics in denial in this thread But seriously wtf.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 20:41 |
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deported to Canada posted:If all the wines burnt off then why even bother doing it? Lot of alcoholics in denial in this thread The alcohol is boiled off, and wine is ~15% alcohol
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 20:46 |
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The only other one I remember is the guy who would drink a 12 pack of non-alcoholic beer at work and implied that people challenging him about it were trying to threaten his sobriety.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 20:57 |
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Foo Diddley posted:AITA for leaving my BF at his family party. 2 years + engaged and this is the first time they're meeting family?
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:06 |
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Kenshin posted:The alcohol is boiled off, and wine is ~15% alcohol Sure keep telling yourself that buddy. I've heard when people start hiding alcohol they have a serious problem and you are using maths to try and hide it.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:07 |
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Fatty posted:2 years + engaged and this is the first time they're meeting family? You don't bring your 21 year old future bangmaid home to meet the family until you're confident you've got her trapped.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:09 |
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pentyne posted:The only other one I remember is the guy who would drink a 12 pack of non-alcoholic beer at work and implied that people challenging him about it were trying to threaten his sobriety. I also remember this wacky adventure
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:09 |
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Fatty posted:2 years + engaged and this is the first time they're meeting family? guy probably didn't want OP to find out that his family was "traditional" (ie, that they expect women to be property) until she had a good bit of sunk cost fallacy going on
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:11 |
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I am so, so happy she took one look and trusted her gut and got tf out of there. loving read like the start to a horror movie called "Broodmare."
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:14 |
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I made a gigantic shepherds pie for my wife's mother/father. It had like a quarter of a bottle of wine in it to it during cooking the stew and baking. She is a recovering alcohol and hasn't had a drink in 10+ years. Did I gently caress up and she was just being nice by not saying anything?
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:17 |
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WAR CRIME GIGOLO posted:I made a gigantic shepherds pie for my wife's mother/father. its fine
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:22 |
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Here are a couple of prior non-alcoholic beer stories, though I swear there was another workplace one that I can't find now.pentyne posted:Found some other NA beer stories
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:24 |
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Das Boo posted:God, one time I had a friend over for dinner and my mom made a crock pot beef recipe that called for like, 10 oz of beer. Friend proceeded to drive home and tell her mom we got her drunk. 10oz of beer isn't even a whole can. 12 oz is the amount of beer in a single can. your friend got drunk on less than a can of beer that was distributed through an entire meal and that was split among a table of adults? your friend got drink off of like 1/8 of a can of beer mixed with food? really. really? I'm sure there's some alcohol sensitive folks out there whom might be an outlier and would get drunk from that, but to your average person, no. that should not get them drunk, unless this is a sitcom where we want to come up with a wacky situation where the alcoholic character falls off the wagon in a 'safe' manner for laughs, a la Floyd getting drunk off the Jack Daniel's fish glaze in 30 Rock. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 21:38 on Oct 17, 2022 |
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StrangersInTheNight posted:10oz of beer isn't even a whole can. 12 oz is the amount of beer in a single can. maybe he had the other 2 ounces when no one was looking
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pentyne posted:The only other one I remember is the guy who would drink a 12 pack of non-alcoholic beer at work and implied that people challenging him about it were trying to threaten his sobriety. Hey, at least he's chugging a poo poo ton of empty calories from a drink that tastes like cat piss! I will never understand the point of non alcoholic beer. Like water, juice and soda exist my dude.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:38 |
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Non-alcoholic beer is awesome on a hot summer day when you can't drink but have a thirst that only a cold beer will satisfy, especially if everyone around you is drinking beer. Non-alcoholic wine is awesome at dinner parties when everyone is drinking wine.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:45 |
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Now tell us about non-alcoholic mouthwash.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:46 |
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PookBear posted:Do companies that hire for a language not have a third party test for proficiency? But how do you know the third party is proficient?
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:47 |
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I hired a remote-only guy who speaks fluent Chinese, but someone told me they saw he's just an English speaker with a bunch of translation books
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:50 |
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Now tell us about non-alcoholic mouthwash. It's poo poo, as is the non-alcoholic vanilla extract I just bought accidentally.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:51 |
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run on sentience posted:It's poo poo, as is the non-alcoholic vanilla extract I just bought accidentally. That's because you've never had proper tea tree oil mouthwash.
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:52 |
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run on sentience posted:Non-alcoholic beer is awesome on a hot summer day when you can't drink but have a thirst that only a cold beer will satisfy, especially if everyone around you is drinking beer. Non-alcoholic wine is awesome at dinner parties when everyone is drinking wine. O'Doul's still has alcohol in it, just real low, so depending on why you can't drink, you might not be able to have O'Doul's
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WAR CRIME GIGOLO posted:I made a gigantic shepherds pie for my wife's mother/father. Everyone in recovery can make their own choices. If my family were in your in-law's position, and if you didn't tell us about the wine, we would never eat at your house again, nor would we ever eat anything you cooked ever again unless I saw you make it. Again, don't gently caress around with fatal medical illnesses. BigHead fucked around with this message at 22:01 on Oct 17, 2022 |
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 21:58 |
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Bubblyblubber posted:This is the wine deglazing story, no dramatic wagon falling in this one. But I do recall another story that had an alcoholic using one event like that as the reason they went off the rails, I just can't seem to find the right word combo for searching that one. I’m not sure if it was this one or a different post with a similar scenario but there was one where it came out in the comments that the “former” alcoholic was drinking a couple bottles of lemon extract a day “for the flavor,” and the spouse was oblivious to it.
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Chainclaw posted:O'Doul's still has alcohol in it, just real low, so depending on why you can't drink, you might not be able to have O'Doul's
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AITA for not letting my daughter buy clothes?quote:My wife (37f) and I (37m) have 4 kids (14f and 14m, 12m, and 11f), we generally agree on parenting them, but a recent incident had me and my wife disagreeing and I want to see if I was in the wrong. My daughter is being a racist rear end in a top hat so she can't buy clothes, but can buy whatever else she wants! Thankfully most of the thread is all "What the gently caress is wrong with you? How is that a punishment?"
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 22:00 |
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BigHead posted:Everyone in recovery can make their own choices. If my family were in your in-law's position, and if you didn't tell us about the wine, we would never eat at your house again, nor would we ever eat anything you cooked ever again unless I saw you make it. Again, don't gently caress around with fatal medical illnesses. yeah, everyone has their own boundaries for this. my ex-sister-in-law (bro divorced her) was a recovering alcoholic and went into this kinda purity logic where she didn't want a single drop of it to ever pass her lips again, whether through food or drink. I had to respect it was a boundary for her and made sure never to cook anything with booze in it while she was around, and if a meal did happen to have any as an ingredient we'd warn her and have an alternative around. The main thing is that people have the option to consent to these things rather than just slipping it by thinking it will be cool. If I'd have done what you mentioned in your story to that ex-SIL, served it without saying something, she would have been devastated that she'd broken her vow. Not because that's going to make her tipsy, but because she made a promise to God to get sober in such a way as to never allow it into her life again, and I would have robbed her of that.
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BigHead posted:Everyone in recovery can make their own choices. If my family were in your in-law's position, and if you didn't tell us about the wine, we would never eat at your house again, nor would we ever eat anything you cooked ever again unless I saw you make it. Again, don't gently caress around with fatal medical illnesses. StrangersInTheNight posted:yeah, everyone has their own boundaries for this. my ex-sister-in-law (bro divorced her) was a recovering alcoholic and went into this kinda purity logic where she didn't want a single drop of it to ever pass her lips again, whether through food or drink. I had to respect it was a boundary for her and made sure never to cook anything with booze in it while she was around, and if a meal did happen to have any as an ingredient we'd warn her and have an alternative around. yikes
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 22:14 |
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lots of people not understanding how using alcohol in cooking works , ITT
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# ? Oct 17, 2022 22:25 |
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I got blasted off my rear end one time when I was served beer battered fish
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I'm not cooking around people's god-oaths, go get Chick-fil-A
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