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The girlfriend has decided that now, after I was approved for financing for a new bike, and after I took the MSF, is the perfect time to try the "it's me or the bike" card. Literally waiting until I can actually achieve this childhood dream before trying to shut it down. Right at the cusp of it. So gently caress her, I'm getting the goddamned bike.
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Aug 24, 2016 22:54
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That story had a happy ending. 
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Aug 24, 2016 22:58
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What an rear end in a top hat.
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Aug 24, 2016 23:05
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Professor Bling posted:The girlfriend has decided that now, after I was approved for financing for a new bike, and after I took the MSF, is the perfect time to try the "it's me or the bike" card. do a burnout on her front lawn
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Aug 24, 2016 23:07
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Feelgood story of the year.
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Aug 24, 2016 23:17
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Brag about how much pussy this bike will land you (probably not much but she doesn't know that)
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Aug 24, 2016 23:33
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Should have had her take the MSF course with you.
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Aug 24, 2016 23:34
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While choosing an expensive luxury over love and companionship sounds like a stupid thing to do, choosing to not have a partner that gives ultimatums will make you happier overall.
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Aug 24, 2016 23:45
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My mom rides bikes. Tell your girlfriend she's less of a woman than some internet guy's MOM
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Aug 24, 2016 23:49
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Maybe she's upset at the interest rate you got on your financing?HenryJLittlefinger posted:While choosing an expensive luxury over love and companionship sounds like a stupid thing to do, choosing to not have a partner that gives ultimatums will make you happier overall. This is right.
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Aug 24, 2016 23:51
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Yeah, I'm a spouse who convinced a spouse to learn to ride. There are a lot of things he's into that I'm not, and vice versa. But I have never, and would never, make an ultimatum about something like that. It's manipulation, and it's wrong. My SIL does this to my brother. He is not allowed to play video games because they eat into her time with him.
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Aug 24, 2016 23:58
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Rev. Dr. Moses P. Lester posted:My mom rides bikes. Tell your girlfriend she's less of a woman than some internet guy's MOM vintage italian stallions at that
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Aug 25, 2016 00:14
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Professor Bling posted:The girlfriend has decided that now, after I was approved for financing for a new bike, and after I took the MSF, is the perfect time to try the "it's me or the bike" card. Why not both? No, seriously, why did she think you couldn't do both? Why, I bet there are dozens of people who successfully have motorcycles and significant others!
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Aug 25, 2016 00:16
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Professor Bling posted:The girlfriend has decided that now, after I was approved for financing for a new bike, and after I took the MSF, is the perfect time to try the "it's me or the bike" card. I had an opportunity to get a .50 rifle for 1800 about 10 years ago but decided to forgo the rifle to save my marriage. Now I'm sans rifle and wife. You chose well.
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Aug 25, 2016 00:43
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A good friend of mine ran into a similar situation earlier in life. He was thinking of getting a motorcycle, and his wife said "If you buy a motorcycle I'm leaving you". So, that week, he went out and bought TWO. She left him, but motorcycles are a huge part of his life and happiness, with racing and whatever else. And the women he dates are vibrant and beautiful and make him happy. So you made the right choices. Don't be with someone who limits you, but also understand she might just be sick with worry of losing you to a wreck. So atgatt and learn and do it right.
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Aug 25, 2016 00:50
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I've heard from so many friends, "I can't believe Julie let you get another bike!" I'm like dude, we're married; she's not my parent. We don't have that type of relationship where we manipulate each other until someone calls a lawyer, I guess.
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Professor Bling posted:The girlfriend has decided that now, after I was approved for financing for a new bike, and after I took the MSF, is the perfect time to try the "it's me or the bike" card. Does she have a reason to think a motorcycle is an absolute death sentence for you? If she doesn't, good job. If she does, get a GoPro. HenryJLittlefinger posted:While choosing an expensive luxury over love and companionship sounds like a stupid thing to do He is choosing to get the motorcycle that will keep him happy and socialized for the rest of his life, not the noisy bitty who contributes nothing but pain and cash drain.
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I look over my shoulder a million times, in the mirror a billion times, finally cut over and slowly start to pull away from stopped traffic into the ramp I got into, then a big loving pickup truck blows around me and honks the horn. In the rain. Then he tailgates a loving bus. 
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Aug 25, 2016 01:41
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Razzled posted:do a burnout on her front lawn Sprinkle "gently caress you" in rye grass seeds so next spring it'll grow a different shade of green. Also follow Razzled's advice.
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To be fair, y'all, she backed off real quick when I told her I was still getting the bike, but yeah, we're gonna be having a little talk about why these ultimatums are lovely and she's going to either not do them anymore or find someone who's enough of a lily-livered pantywaist to meekly say "okay, honey" because I am not that man. She's not gone yet, but it's still a distinct possibility. If she keeps this idea that I'll change my mind if she puts her foot down I'll be showing her the door. Quick edit: my uncle was a motorcycle trooper so I've been ATGATT since I could walk, taught "treat every driver as if theyre half-assed, half-drunk, and literally out to kill you," etc., and she definitely played the "I'm only doing this for your safety" card and I immediately called that bluff. Professor Bling fucked around with this message at 01:49 on Aug 25, 2016 |
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Aug 25, 2016 01:46
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Professor Bling posted:To be fair, y'all, she backed off real quick when I told her I was still getting the bike, but yeah, we're gonna be having a little talk about why these ultimatums are lovely and she's going to either not do them anymore or find someone who's enough of a lily-livered pantywaist to meekly say "okay, honey" because I am not that man.
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Professor Bling posted:Quick edit: my uncle was a motorcycle trooper so I've been ATGATT since I could walk, taught "treat every driver as if theyre half-assed, half-drunk, and literally out to kill you," etc.,  you'll go far.
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My wife took care of me hand and foot for three months after my crash until I could use my left leg and right hand again, literally wiped my rear end when I poo poo, and since then I've bought two more bikes and never had any arguments over it. She still wants to take the MSF and get her endorsement too. There's love, and then there's smothering neediness.
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Aug 25, 2016 02:23
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Read this thread, which is full of people who are apparently just wonderful at communicating with their partners, especially re: motorcycles. Nobody bitter and resentful and in loveless relationships, no sir.
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Seriously, people with these attitudes just baffle the poo poo out of me. I'm getting married very soon so I'm thinking about compromise and expensive dangerous hobbies etc a lot. My fiancée is cool with me and bikes, so that part isn't an issue. But it wouldn't ever occur to me to drop big bucks on a bike or gun or anything without talking to her first, and especially not with a "gently caress you wife this is who I am" attitude like so many dudes in that adv thread take. Do your life partner's feelings about your common finances really bring about that much resentment? Does it never occur to people that if you act like an adult and respectfully work through a relationship-impacting disagreement, your partner might actually be ok with it and not resent you and bikes forever? E: That's not directed at you, Professor Bling, just at people who use the stupid loving ball and chain analogy in earnest. HenryJLittlefinger fucked around with this message at 05:37 on Aug 25, 2016 |
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HenryJLittlefinger posted:Seriously, people with these attitudes just baffle the poo poo out of me. I'm getting married very soon so I'm thinking about compromise and expensive dangerous hobbies etc a lot. My fiancée is cool with me and bikes, so that part isn't an issue. But it wouldn't ever occur to me to drop big bucks on a bike or gun or anything without talking to her first, and especially not with a "gently caress you wife this is who I am" attitude like so many dudes in that adv thread take. Do your life partner's feelings about your common finances really bring about that much resentment? Does it never occur to people that if you act like an adult and respectfully work through a relationship-impacting disagreement, your partner might actually be ok with it and not resent you and bikes forever? Gotta look cool on the internet.
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Aug 25, 2016 05:47
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an SO has absolute right to forbid large unnecessary expenditures, what an rear end. probably one of those "well i make the money so I'm spending it" assholes.
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Aug 25, 2016 05:53
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It's not the reason, it's the method. An ultimatum right out of the gate is never healthy. It should be a discussion about wants and needs first.
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This may be the ranting room slash echo chamber, but I appreciate that my (eventual) wife is fine with me riding motorcycles. While she's ridden a scooter and knows that it's dangerous, she knows I'm an idiot; "Don't tell me about the stupid poo poo you do, and I'll be fine." She has aknowledged that I might go out for a ride, or just decide to ride to work one day, and end up dead. That is something that she and I know is a possibility. You know what else is a possibility? Sudden death by brain anneurism. A hobo with a knife deciding you're his dog's mortal enemy (seriously, they take better care of their pets than themselves). Getting run over by an inattentive soccer mom in an SUV. poo poo happens. Restricting what you or your loved ones do based on inherent risk is dumb. Everything has some sort of risk. Seriously. [Insert hypothetical here]. I thought I was going to a spa and resport for our fifth anniversary, and the next thing I knew, I was 8,000 feet in the air, jumping out of a plane strapped to a dude named Joel. She's fighting against "Our kids are totally riding," but she also acknowledged that riding is fun, and agreed to get her MSF at some point (moving and vacations are expensive). Eventually, the youtube vidoes of children on their PW50s will win her over. In short: do what you love. If someone you're loving hates what you love- gently caress em. HenryJLittlefinger posted:Seriously, people with these attitudes just baffle the poo poo out of me. I'm getting married very soon so I'm thinking about compromise and expensive dangerous hobbies etc a lot. My fiancée is cool with me and bikes, so that part isn't an issue. But it wouldn't ever occur to me to drop big bucks on a bike or gun or anything without talking to her first, and especially not with a "gently caress you wife this is who I am" attitude like so many dudes in that adv thread take. Do your life partner's feelings about your common finances really bring about that much resentment? Does it never occur to people that if you act like an adult and respectfully work through a relationship-impacting disagreement, your partner might actually be ok with it and not resent you and bikes forever? "Dropping big bucks on a bike" and "It's me or the bike" are two different things. Bolded: It's never about finances. LOL if yout think it's about finanaces.
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Professor Bling posted:it's me or the 
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Yeah, Magic repels women too.
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I remember freshman year in highschool!
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Chichevache posted:He is choosing to get the motorcycle that will keep him happy and socialized for the rest of his life, not the noisy bitty who contributes nothing but pain and cash drain. Are you unsatisfied with your current bike Chiche You can tell us, this is a safe place. HenryJLittlefinger posted:Seriously, people with these attitudes just baffle the poo poo out of me. Anybody else remember that goon who destroyed his marriage over a soap dispensing shower head?
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I goddamn love you marv.
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Professor Bling posted:The girlfriend has decided that now, after I was approved for financing for a new bike, and after I took the MSF, is the perfect time to try the "it's me or the bike" card. "Sorry, I can't hear you over the RAW GAY HORSEPOWER OF MY MOTORCYCLE"
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HotCanadianChick posted:My wife took care of me hand and foot for three months after my crash until I could use my left leg and right hand again, literally wiped my rear end when I poo poo, and since then I've bought two more bikes and never had any arguments over it.
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Beach Bum posted:"Sorry, I can't hear you over the RAW GAY HORSEPOWER OF MY MOTORCYCLE" 
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Holy poo poo that ADV thread is gold:quote:I never ask if I can buy anything, I'm over 21, and have my own money. I've bought houses before I'd told her.
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mods please change my name to "the spousal unit" tia
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