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The Maroon Hawk: May 10, 2008

Seriously the bit about the sweet potato staff photo just completely loving sent me, that workplace sounds like it owns

# ? Dec 15, 2021 01:00

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# ? May 30, 2024 15:04

Mr. Lobe: Feb 23, 2007; ... Dry bones...

Yeah except for one uptight weirdo

# ? Dec 15, 2021 01:19

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

Arsenic Lupin posted:

Yyyyowza.
My (25M) girlfriend (27F) never stops talking about marriage even though I told her I'm not ready yet and I don't know what to do about it.

UPDATE: My (25M) girlfriend (27F) never stops talking about marriage and its getting out of hand.

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So, I've been to therapy a few time since my last post. I'm just getting started in therapy but I honestly already feel like I finally understand myself... if that makes any sense.

I was so irrationally scared of deviating from "the plan" to the point that I didn't even realize that I already deviated from it a long time ago.

My first few years in college, I was so irresponsible and I messed up constantly. So, I thought I needed a clear path to follow. I'm that kind of person, I just do better when there are straight forward rules to follow and a written list of things to do. So I made a plan for my life, and told myself (everyday for 6 years) that I HAVE to follow it. The fact that the plan worked out for me at first didn't help, and the fact that things seemingly never worked out for me when I deviated it from it definitely didn't help. Even though, when I look back at the times I did stray from the plan and thought that things ended terribly, its just things that were probably bound to happen even if I had stuck to the plan. Everyone makes terrible decisions sometimes and a lot of people go through tough times, I just coped with it by blaming myself for not sticking to some plan to try to make sense of everything that was happening to me.

I was so convinced that not following a plan = Bad things happening. When I put into words now it just sounds ridiculous. In fact, the best things in my life rn weren't part of the plan. I actually intended to just have fun during my 20s, that was the plan, but I deviated from it when I met my girlfriend. Kept telling myself that technically I'm still having fun so it doesn't count as a serious relationship. Tried to convince myself that I'm still following the plan. It all sounds so ridiculous now.

Anyway, long story short... I'm gonna propose to my girlfriend on Christmas eve (which happens to be somewhat of an anniversary for us). Its gonna be a rather long engagement but that's for financial reasons, I'm ready now forreal and I'm really looking forward to it. My girlfriend has been really supportive. I was so focused on making sure my life turns out exactly how I wanted, to the point where I forgot that she's also a part of it. She must have felt like an outsider in her own relationship with the way I was treating her. All I could think about was me and how my career and my goals would turn out and I didn't think about her at all. I'm done being so self-centered though.

I reread most of the comments on my previous posts and a lot of you guys were spot on... I think I just wasn't ready to hear it. Thanks to everyone for the advice, I really appreciate it.

Therapy.........helps???

# ? Dec 15, 2021 02:44

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

Remember the dude who got a paternity test because his middle son didn't look enough like him? He's baaaaaaa-aaaaack!

Wife won�t come with kids for Christmas, help!

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My wife is divorcing me, if you need all the details, you can check my profile I guess, but the short of it is, it�s over me getting a paternity test. I want to spend Christmas together, but my wife won�t spend it with me. She said she�d split the day so I could see two of my kids, but I want her and the third child to come too. She refuses to do this. I asked my son if he wanted to come see me and he said no, he�d stay with my wife.

I said that I shouldn�t continuously be punished for getting a paternity test and that the kids deserve to spend time with a full family unit. She said our son deserves to be around someone who doesn�t act in a way that makes him feel like I hate him. I tried to argue being a full family unit again would be good for everyone and maybe we could even try to reconcile since I still don�t want a divorce, and think she should give me another chance. She said no, offered to split the day again, and that was it.

How can I convince her to come spend the day with me?

# ? Dec 15, 2021 03:24

Mr. Lobe: Feb 23, 2007; ... Dry bones...

Is there anything more contemptible than someone who refuses to face the consequences of their actions? Yes, buy not very many things.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 03:41

Verdugo: Jan 5, 2009; Lipstick Apathy

Funktastic posted:

AITA for not attending my daughters gender reveal for her lizard?

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:10

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

BF has turned into a real life cartoon character and I can't take it

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So me (f25) and my partner (m23) have been dating for 4.5 years now and everything is perfect and I mean EVERYTHING, except this one thing. He is so sweet and so caring, he takes me out to places, holidays abroad, dinners out every other week or so, random thoughtful gifts etc etc. He treats me with so much respect, I've never met anyone who is even close to his level. I'm insanely in love with him, but yeah, there is one issue.

In the last year or so, he has been consistently talking in funny voices but only to me. It's gotten to a point where I can't even remember how he used to speak to me anymore. He's just turning into some sort of live caricature or cartoon character. For example, like I'll ask him what he would like for dinner today and he'll answer as Elmo from Sesame Street. He'll run up to me, grab my rear end (no issue with that part), and growls in my ear 'Delectable'. When we getting 'down to it', when I get naked he'll say something like "I tawt I taw a Puthy Cat" in a Tweety Bird voice. Recently he's been doing all the voices of the characters from Little Britain, even when i'm not in the room. It sound like he's having a conversation between all of these characters. He makes faces and everything, he gets into it like a one man show.

Strange thing is he sounds normal when he speaks to any family, friends, or people that work in retail for example.

I've brought it up to him and he doesn't seem to realise he's doing it, even though I point it out as soon as he's done it. I love him loads but I'm losing my mind over this, and I'm really conflicted.

Has anyone else every experienced something like this?

TL;DR my BF has turned into a real life cartoon character and I'm losing my mind over it.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:11

MarcusSA: Sep 23, 2007

Mx. posted:

BF has turned into a real life cartoon character and I can't take it

You should probably take him to the doctor for whatever mental issue is causing this.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:13

ArbitraryC: Jan 28, 2009; Pick a number, any number; Pillbug

Scorching hot take inc:

Woodchip posted:

Headline has a good hook

Update-Wife of 8 years came out as Poly and I want to come out as Divorced but she is upset

It's a pretty mundane poly gamble story but this line in particular stood out to me:

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She is back to her usual loving and caring self and we even took our daughter for ice cream today. So I am keeping my fingers crossed till its confirmed one way or another.

I imagine after a close call divorce, whether or not she's planning on just continuing the poly lifestyle without telling the OP when it was clear storming the front of the castle was ill advised, she'd be going over the top trying to placate him. That he sees her likely over-the-top effort as "usual loving and caring self" makes me wonder if the whole situation came about because she was consistently carrying most of the relationship effort and just felt burnt out/taken for granted. Like she's putting in a "oh poo poo our marriage almost imploded let me show him how important this is to me" and he's like "ah yes, back to the status quo" just feels like there's a lot left unwritten.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:21

hawowanlawow: Jul 27, 2009

ArbitraryC posted:

Scorching hot take inc:

It's a pretty mundane poly gamble story but this line in particular stood out to me:

I imagine after a close call divorce, whether or not she's planning on just continuing the poly lifestyle without telling the OP when it was clear storming the front of the castle was ill advised, she'd be going over the top trying to placate him. That he sees her likely over-the-top effort as "usual loving and caring self" makes me wonder if the whole situation came about because she was consistently carrying most of the relationship effort and just felt burnt out/taken for granted. Like she's putting in a "oh poo poo our marriage almost imploded let me show him how important this is to me" and he's like "ah yes, back to the status quo" just feels like there's a lot left unwritten.

when they leave a lot left unwritten it just makes it that much more fun to make a bunch of poo poo up

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:25

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

AITA for being disappointed in my Secret Santa gift?

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(Please do not post this anywhere else) Hi everyone!

I (26f) started my job beginning of this year at a very small company (think 10 full time staff- 9 females and 1 male). So everyone was already very close and tight knit when I started minus one other new girl (our one HR staff member). I�m someone that struggles a lot with anxiety and feeling like someone doesn�t like me in general- which I think maybe is why I�m disappointed.

Anywho, we all get asked if we�d like to participate in SS, and if so you just fill out a form with a bunch of little ideas. The gift is supposed to be around $25. On my list I put things like colored pencils, a book you�d recommend, different tea, etc. Basically some little things. I got the coworker who I�m definitely the closest to- so I was excited about that and got her a book and a big tea sampler to get me to that $25 mark.

Today, we sat around the board room to grab our gifts. People were getting books, customized mittens, and a bunch of other cute little things. I opened mine and it was a singular little Kit-Kat bar with a bow on it. It was kind of quiet so I just said �My favorite! Thank you!� and we moved on. I understand that everyone�s financials are different, especially right now with the pandemic and Christmas. I had mentioned it to one of my friends and she said I �should just be thankful to get anything at all and at least they tried�. And �you never know what they are going through�. Which is a completely fair point as well. I don�t know who my SS was, but I just couldn�t help to feel a little bit of a tug at the heart strings. Not because the gift was $2, but just because it felt like they didn�t care.

AITA for feeling that way?

Thought in a gift counts. My goon Secret Santa could send me $10 of cat toys and that would mean a lot more to me than $10 of candy, because my cats go through toys like mad.

In Breaking Bad, there was a rather funny part where the main character, kinda poor, was invited to an old friend's birthday party; friend was insanely rich, and invites said No Gifts. So of course he had a stack of awesome presents, and the main character brought him a small wrapped thing of Ramen noodles. Because it was what they had survived on in graduate school. And the rich friend actually was touched by it, and explained to everyone why the noodles were so important, and how much it meant to him that his friend remembered.

A KitKat is loving thoughtless.

I did help organize a Secret Santa at my old store, after the disaster of one in my teen years, and everyone had to fill out a little card about what they liked/disliked, and with the warning if they didn't fill out the card, they'd be booted out. One rear end in a top hat wrote that he liked money, porn, and money to buy porn. The manager almost wrote him up for that.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:30

Chloe Jessica: Nov 6, 2021; Pick 2.0

i feel like it's really not hard to respect someone's request to not post their words anywhere else

it's not even like that person is a shithead. she got done wrong by. im not sure why you'd ignore that in this case.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:32

Motronic: Nov 6, 2009

Mx. posted:

BF has turned into a real life cartoon character and I can't take it

I think a really good backup thread title for any occasion is always going to be:

The Something Awful Forums > Main > General Bullshit > r/relationships: everything is perfect except this one thing

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:36

Butter Activities: May 4, 2018

I can�t imagine the �suddenly I�m poly now� person was carrying weight in the relationship.

Paternity test dad in his previous update mentioned off hand that his wife was mad at him for treating the middle child badly for all this time and that he had a history of infidelity in previous relationships. Good to see him self-owning so powerfully.

:discourse:

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:37

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for being disappointed in my Secret Santa gift?

Thought in a gift counts. My goon Secret Santa could send me $10 of cat toys and that would mean a lot more to me than $10 of candy, because my cats go through toys like mad.

In Breaking Bad, there was a rather funny part where the main character, kinda poor, was invited to an old friend's birthday party; friend was insanely rich, and invites said No Gifts. So of course he had a stack of awesome presents, and the main character brought him a small wrapped thing of Ramen noodles. Because it was what they had survived on in graduate school. And the rich friend actually was touched by it, and explained to everyone why the noodles were so important, and how much it meant to him that his friend remembered.

A KitKat is loving thoughtless.

I did help organize a Secret Santa at my old store, after the disaster of one in my teen years, and everyone had to fill out a little card about what they liked/disliked, and with the warning if they didn't fill out the card, they'd be booted out. One rear end in a top hat wrote that he liked money, porn, and money to buy porn. The manager almost wrote him up for that.

hey now it was a kitkat AND a ribbon

and the giver undoubtedly got $25 worth of gifts in return for participating. good ol' secret santa

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:40

ibntumart: Mar 18, 2007; Good, bad. I'm the one with the power of Shu, Heru, Amon, Zehuti, Aton, and Mehen.; College Slice

Funktastic posted:

AITA for not attending my daughters gender reveal for her lizard?

OP shared more of her thoughts in the comments:

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I will be honest I don't have any particular feelings for the lizard. I think it looks like a snake and that freaks me out, and it is incapable of feeling emotions so I don't know why she feels a bond with it. She even named it Ellie, a human name, so she can tell people "I have to get home to Ellie" so she can act like she's busy with a kid at home which I believe is an unhealthy way to cope with her social anxiety, she should learn to get comfortable with saying no instead of using a lizard as an excuse to neglect social obligations

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She kept labeling it was a gender reveal though. She bought a cake that says "It's a girl" and popped a pink sparkly glitter popper too, which I think is ridiculous, the lizard can't appreciate or love this, it can't even feel emotions.

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wouldn't say I've invalidated it. She says she doesn't experience sexual/romantic attraction nor has a want for it which is only because she hasn't found the right person yet. It's impossible for someone to not feel such a natural feeling, everyone feels it, it is a normal chemical in our body. I've tried to explain this to her, for some reason she fears physical interaction with men. I think her fears probably stems from not having a father because he left when she was three.

Yes, it was hard on me. There were many tears and it's partly why her father left, but that's what mother's do. She knows how important to me it is that I finally gave birth to a child that actually lived to grow up, and it does hurt she wouldn't continue for me when I went through that pain. That's why there's been tension for her decision, and I will admit I am unhappy with her decision but I have been as supportive as I can and haven't been mean about it.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:43

Chloe Jessica: Nov 6, 2021; Pick 2.0

My girlfriend [M & F 24] gave me access to her online photos and I found old pics not meant for my eyes.

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Girlfriend and I (we're both 24) have been together for 6 months. She's pretty withdrawn from social media and the pics she used on the dating site we met on were from years ago. I've never had a long term girlfriend (this is the longest) but she has had much more relationships than I have. I've only had one other girlfriend and the rest have been just single dates and done.

Anyways yesterday, we were talking about the pics she used for the dating site and I said "well you never take photos like that" and she told me she used to be more active on social media and liked taking photos at the time. I asked if I could see what other kind of photos she took for social media and she gave me her phone and continued to watch the movie. I scrolled down trying to look for them and well (as I mentioned that she used to have quite a few exes) I saw a bunch of nudes of her, a few video files I didn't want to watch and pics her and the ex those nudes were for. I kind of stopped scrolling and pointed them out to her and she quickly and *wordlessly* deleted them and purged the delete bin. Then passed the phone back and continued to watch as if nothing happened.

It's kind of a mix of emotions for me. Like I'm a little jealous because these guys got nudes (and some of them were boudoir style and fancy and most importantly **they were all selfies**) and she told me she doesn't do that kind of thing and said no. Asked if she wanted to make a sex tape (I'll admit this request was selfish) so I could have our own spank fuel. She shot me down but made them for her exes. I didn't press on this topic after seeing all of that and her reaction to me seeing them is making me believe that she doesn't want to talk about it.

But the denial of my requests is making me wonder- why them, not me? Does she not like me? Why would she lie about not doing these things. I know she probably doesn't want to talk about it but these thoughts are all in my mind. I don't know what to do.

tl;dr: Girlfriend has a much more extensive dating history than me (like she's my first long term girlfriend). She let me look through her photos to see what she was like. I looked through and found nudes she sent all her exes (like modelled the way they asked for) and pics of them. I told her and she quickly deleted all of them without really talking. I'm pretty self-conscious after looking and a little jealous (she won't send me any nudes, don't worry I only asked once). She doesn't seem like she wants to talk about it and just seeing them just made me really self-conscious. Like I don't really know what to do.

EDIT: I didn't mean online photos- she let me look through her phone's pics. I guess I meant online because she would have sent them to those exes.

EDITx2: I already asked for these things and she said no. I am not intending on asking a second time nor prying into why she did it in the past but won't do it now.

EDIOTx3: I asked once for each thing before finding them. I never asked why she didn't do it nor for a second time because she did it in the past.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:46

Blue Moonlight: Apr 28, 2005; Bitter and Sarcastic

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for being disappointed in my Secret Santa gift?

This is the problem with even randomly-assigned Secret Santa - inevitably (one or more) someone�s, going to end up stuck paired with someone who is financially or socially unable to reciprocate.

I prefer gift games where all the gifts end up in a pile and there�s some select-or-steal mechanism. It builds in some anonymity, is much more random, and is much less likely to end up pairing a thirty-something woman with a male new grad who�ll decide to �shoot his shot� and buy her lingerie or something similarly insane. It goes �I feel bad because I wound up with a lame gift� instead of �I feel bad because a coworker cared so little about me personally that I wound up with a lame gift.�

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:56

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

ibntumart posted:

OP shared more of her thoughts in the comments:

quote:

She knows how important to me it is that I finally gave birth to a child that actually lived to grow up, and it does hurt she wouldn't continue for me when I went through that pain.

I hate this woman. It hurts her that their daughter won't SUFFER ENDLESS MISCARRIAGES AND HEALTH CONCERNS because "I did it for you!"

# ? Dec 15, 2021 04:56

Butter Activities: May 4, 2018

This sounds kinda weird but remember the little brother that was killing themselves by doing horrifying homemade "sounding" or something with a bike pump?

He's probably fine. I can't say how I figured that out without doxing the OP for it but I was able to verify that the brother matching the age was being talked about as if he was alive 2 years ago on their social media (years after the post) and while the OP has publicly shared deaths and personal matters in their family on that platform, they haven't mentioned anything tragic happening to anyone young in the family.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 05:43

Evil Willow: Apr 26, 2007; Bored now...

I am not who everyone thinks I am

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I am well known in my community. Solid, reliable..the guy you go to in emergencies, always willing to help. Especially when the world turns to poo poo. I have been part of the leadership of dozens of disasters, several national level.

I love my wife dearly. She cheated on me with her boss for 6 months. We had children so I stayed. For years following she was clearly unhappy and demonstrated it by witholding orgasm or other such choices. After many years I had enough. I decided I would wait until my children were grown and leave her, about 4 years in the future. I would not withhold sex, but would not pursue it either. When she asked, I would do my best. Otherwise, I would be pleasan

within a month I was approached by a beautiful young woman, about 10 years my junior. An affair began. She was married too. We had sex several times a week. Everywhere. Stairwells, empty offices, cars. I was her second and while my wife withholding orgasm was painful, it taught me how to make women come. And she did. Every time, multiple times. And I did things to her she had never experienced. Cum in her mouth. Anal. Everything you can imagine. Over and over. Screaming orgasms every week. Trips together. Sex on the beach, parks, outside.

my wife never knew as far as I know, but within a month of the affair, she turned over a new leaf. I am sure she felt the power shift. She became a good wife and partner. But by then I was hooked and could not stop. The four years passed and were good years. Me having crazy sex on the side and having a good home life as well.

this continued for over 12 years when my affair partner finally stopped. While her husband only had sex with her every month or so, I had sex with her at least weekly for all those years.

I remained with my wife and we have a good marriage. Everyone thinks I am this super husband, the perfect guy. And I guess I am in most ways. But I miss my affair partner everyday. I would go back to her if I could. It has been many years and I still think of those as the best years of my life.

I wish I could be the person everyone thinks I am. but I am not.

thanks for letting me get this off my chest.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 05:44

Butter Activities: May 4, 2018

Evil Willow posted:

I am not who everyone thinks I am

"Withholding orgasm" what? Doing some sort of passive-aggressive non-consensual low-grade bdsm to your husband because you're in a loveless marriage seems like way more work than just laying on your back and playing on your phone until it's over.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 05:52

RoboRodent: Sep 19, 2012

The last gift exchange game I played I walked out with a box of wine and I felt pretty happy about it.

Anyway, I'll be totally honest, I love giving gifts but I am broke as gently caress this year, so I'm falling back on homemade gifts. I've made some soap (just melt and pour, but it smells nice and it's in pretty shapes), I'll do some soup-in-a-jars and some peanut brittle and I'm thinking some spice mixes, all things that are incredibly cheap but take some effort and thought to do.

I cannot imagine ever, even now in my current financial situation, giving someone a single chocolate bar and feeling good about it.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 05:59

Arsenic Lupin: Apr 12, 2012; This particularly rapid💨 unintelligible 😖patter💁 isn't generally heard🧏‍♂️, and if it is🤔, it doesn't matter💁.

SMEGMA_MAIL posted:

He's probably fine. I can't say how I figured that out without doxing the OP for it but I was able to verify that the brother matching the age was being talked about as if he was alive 2 years ago on their social media (years after the post)

This makes me happy. Thank you.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 06:16

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

SMEGMA_MAIL posted:

This sounds kinda weird but remember the little brother that was killing themselves by doing horrifying homemade "sounding" or something with a bike pump?

He's probably fine. I can't say how I figured that out without doxing the OP for it but I was able to verify that the brother matching the age was being talked about as if he was alive 2 years ago on their social media (years after the post) and while the OP has publicly shared deaths and personal matters in their family on that platform, they haven't mentioned anything tragic happening to anyone young in the family.

That's good. The thread basically ended with a "gently caress I have no idea how to stop him" after like his third near death hospital visit from shoving dirty plastic into his dick and he was refusing to ever admit to anything.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 06:25

Silly Newbie: Jul 25, 2007; How do I?

RoboRodent posted:

The last gift exchange game I played I walked out with a box of wine and I felt pretty happy about it.

Anyway, I'll be totally honest, I love giving gifts but I am broke as gently caress this year, so I'm falling back on homemade gifts. I've made some soap (just melt and pour, but it smells nice and it's in pretty shapes), I'll do some soup-in-a-jars and some peanut brittle and I'm thinking some spice mixes, all things that are incredibly cheap but take some effort and thought to do.

I would be thrilled as hell to receive any of these as gifts, and the people you're giving them to probably will be as well.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 06:49

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

i want soup for xmas

now im gonna be disappointed with all my non-soup gifts

# ? Dec 15, 2021 07:29

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

AITA for taking my car back from my brother after I found his GF driving it?

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My brother�s car got messed up so he asked me if he could borrow mine for a couple months. I�m (27m) working from home so I don�t really need to drive around much. My only condition was I don�t want his girlfriend driving it AT ALL. She�s a horrible driver. I mean she�s caused multiple accidents and crashed my brother�s car and hers multiple times.

She finally got her license suspended after her last accident where she rear ended another car at a red light because she didn�t have insurance. She still drives sometimes because my brother let her use his car so that�s why I told him she�s not allowed to drive mine.

Like 2 wks later I showed up at his place because I left a box of files I needed for work in my trunk so I needed to pick them up. My brother was home, my car wasn�t, he looked like he was caught red handed. His GF came back driving my car because she was running late for an appointment. My brother swore it was only this one time.

But I was told by my nephew that my brother let her use my car like 3 times already. And I was furious. I took my car back so they�re pissed. He thinks it was ridiculous that I made that a condition in the first place when she hasn�t gotten into any accidents in my car or damaged it at all. Then she�s saying stuff too about me �never liking her� and being too harsh on them for not having a choice but to have her drive my car because he can�t if he�s doing something.

I know it sucks because it�s freezing right now and my brother is having to commute on the bus almost 4 hours total everyday until his car is fixed. But don�t want to risk it with her since he wasn�t even honest about how many times she drove it. AITA?

# ? Dec 15, 2021 07:36

Martman: Nov 20, 2006

She's never crashed YOUR car, only every other car!

# ? Dec 15, 2021 07:38

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

sure she's uninsured and has a suspended license and crashed her car which is part of why they need to borrow a car, BUT

# ? Dec 15, 2021 07:40

value-brand cereal: May 2, 2008

What usually makes a bus ride take four hours? Inter city? Or lovely public transportation?

# ? Dec 15, 2021 07:43

Chloe Jessica: Nov 6, 2021; Pick 2.0

i loving loathe people who say "if you cared about me you'd do it". gently caress that emotional blackmail bullshit. if you cared about me, you'd respect my reasons for not doing it and you wouldn't make our friendship conditional on me doing you favors. :murder:

# ? Dec 15, 2021 07:44

berenzen: Jan 23, 2012

value-brand cereal posted:

What usually makes a bus ride take four hours? Inter city? Or lovely public transportation?

lovely public transit, especially if you're trying to go between suburbs instead of trying to go downtown. And/or having to go across the city for work- a ring road can make it very easy to drive across a city, but busses usually don't do long round trips around a ring road.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 07:46

Ortho: Jul 6, 2021

pentyne posted:

That's good. The thread basically ended with a "gently caress I have no idea how to stop him" after like his third near death hospital visit from shoving dirty plastic into his dick and he was refusing to ever admit to anything.

Seems like at that point you'd stop trying to stop him and just give him sterile tubing. More likely to help in the long run.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 07:51

Rust Martialis: May 8, 2007; At night, Bavovnyatko quietly comes to the occupiers’ bases, depots, airfields, oil refineries and other places full of flammable items and starts playing with fire there

dustin.h posted:

Seems like at that point you'd stop trying to stop him and just give him sterile tubing. More likely to help in the long run.

Setting up safe sounding sites, that sort of harm reduction thing

# ? Dec 15, 2021 07:57

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

WIBTAH if I told my friend why she and her husband are not invited to hang anymore?

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I have two friend couples, couple A and couple B. I'm close with both of them, the couples have known each other for years, and we used to hang a lot as a group. Couple B is in an open relationship, and they used to lack boundaries regarding whom to invite into bed. They have through time made it clear to, well, everyone basically, including couple A, that they wouldn't mind swinging.

Their success has been limited, but they still kept on gently making it known that it was an option to couple A. In the end, the woman in couple A (woman A) had enough, she just can't stand the thought of spending time with couple B. She doesn't mind hanging with the woman, but she can't stand the guy, he gives her creep vibes.

It's been a few years since could B finally formed some boundaries (they've been doing a lot of self work) and stopped inviting people into bed, but I still understand and empathize with woman in couple A, man B just doesn't make her comfortable and that's that.

As I said I'm close with both couples, and it happens time and time again that woman B comes to me with ideas on how we can all hang together. Every single time I'm between a rock and a hard place. I don't want to tell her why couple A doesn't hang anymore, it's not my place and it would be hurtful as well. But it's been a few years now and I'll always in this position, and I don't think it will stop.

WIBTAH if I gently told woman B about woman A's feelings towards her husband, so that I don't have to be in the middle all the time? Or do I just continue to make up some ridiculous excuses for why I can't be involved in decision making and she needs to talk to couple A and not me, every time she suggests a hang out?

# ? Dec 15, 2021 08:15

Barudak: May 7, 2007

So, uh, you fuckin couple B or what here lady

# ? Dec 15, 2021 08:21

ShootaBoy: Jan 6, 2010; Anime is Bad.
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Why the hell did you stay friends with people who took years to discover the simple boundary of not constantly trying to gently caress literally everyone, even after refusal????

# ? Dec 15, 2021 09:56

Lemniscate Blue: Apr 21, 2006; Here we go again.

Mx. posted:

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now im gonna be disappointed with all my non-soup gifts

More on the giving side than receiving, but I know these folks IRL and their soup mixes are amazing and makes for great gifts. If you get the larger bag and aren't cooking for five or six people be prepared to have leftover soup for days. I'm glad we finally convinced them to sell half-size bags.

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# ? Dec 15, 2021 10:09

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# ? May 30, 2024 15:04

Ghost Leviathan: Mar 2, 2017; Exploration is ill-advised.

The kind of people who are swingers are almost never the kind of people you'd want to be swingers.

Does feel like part of the reason boundaries are so hard is because we've all been taught to obey heirarchy and norms, not to actually consider other people's welfare and feelings.

# ? Dec 15, 2021 10:39

The Something Awful Forums > Main > General Bullshit > r/relationships: I have nothing against this baby.

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