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GlyphGryph posted:Mine refused to let me do it start at 23 months so yeah, consider it a good run. You could just... let her do it, right? Make it clear that if she doesn't do it well enough you'll be forcing a followup. Yeah I just said 'ok' when my kid decided they wanted to do it, then if I think he's been lazy I tell him 'daddy's turn' and finish up
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So my kid just lost his favorite stuffed animal. He carried it across three continents no problem, but a weekend away for a wedding a few hours from home and of course it goes missing. Any advice on how to handle a lost cherished toy? Do we pretend it never existed? Play dumb when he asks where it is? Do I make up some elaborate story? Do I distract with a shiny new toy? Thanks in advance for the advice. I feel like such a terrible parent to not check under the bed of the motel we were staying at - I am fairly sure it was under there and we were too rushed to check. I don't even know if motels keep stuff like that, I have a message in to the head of housekeeping and will check in the morning. Le sigh.
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I would probably make up an elaborate story and try to replace it with as close a substitute as I could if the motel turns out not to have it. One of my kids had a stuffed toy that he couldn't be parted with except all the times he forgot him in the shops or wherever so I would have to madly dash back into town to get him back before bedtime. We went on holiday to Cyprus and just as the bus appeared to transfer us back to the airport to go home I realised that bloody mooncat wasn't with us and ran back up to the restaurant we had had dinner in. Luckily he was there wedged under a seat but it was a stressful ten minutes. If I hadn't found him I would have said something like "Mooncat has gone on a little holiday, I bet he's having a fantastic time blah blah blah" and then tried desperately to find a replacement. The trouble with that particular stuffed toy though was it was a crappy knock off pikachu thing from the shows that his brother had won a few years before so he was really hard to replace. Hopefully the motel will have found yours though and will send it back - fingers crossed for you.
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A new struggle with my 4 year old has started. He insists he doesn't need to wear underwear. Might not be that much of an issue, but he is still not that great with zipping and buttoning his pants himself.
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GlyphGryph posted:So, uh - our daycare provider has recommended we get an appointment for a language development specialist for our 26-month old, and my wife just listened to his cousin (who is a bit younger) sing an entire song perfectly, while he, uh... he can manage a third of the words from "happy birthday", poorly pronounced? So she's kind of worried, sort of getting it from all angles that there's something wrong with his development. https://www.nidcd.nih.gov/health/speech-and-language Have a go at a speech milestones checklist. My son is 27 months old and he sings lots of songs. Happy birthdays a bit of a tricky one, how does your kid go with baa baa black sheep? If they can string 3 words into a small sentence, they're on track. He has been a mute at daycare and he's been going since he was a year old, maybe a little less. But he won't stop talking to me. His language has exploded in the past month or so though. Kids focus on a few things at once I find. He knows all his friends names, he names vehicles and animals. He'll grab things and name them constantly and put them into sentences. My daughter went crazy for speech early (which leads to problems later on, we had to get her speech therapy because she never learned how to properly pronounce things but her vocab is crazy big). My son got really amazing with his motor skills before bothering with speaking. We knew he could understand us for ages, but he just refused to speak. Kids are weird, it's hard to break them. See what the language development specialist says, it's probably all fine.
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hookerbot 5000 posted:My now 14 year old had trouble with speech, he would say words but miss out the beginning of some words, the middle of some and the end of others and kind of run them all together so unless you were really well attuned to him (basically just me) he was impossible to understand. He started speech therapy when he was threeish and even when he started school at five he was fairly unintelligible but by the end of primary one he had caught up and now he is pretty much grown up you'd never have any idea that he had had problems. Hey, that's like me! Only I didn't start speech therapy until elementary school (my mom took the "ostritch" approach to some issues, like my needing glasses, or my speech issues). And now, I speak perfectly fine unless I'm really pissed off and really tired in which case I sound like elmer fudd and sylvester had some kind of hell spawn. I didn't do much of the daycare thing since my grandmother took care of me while mom worked, so kinda no one realized how bad it was since everyone that interacted with me was really familiar with me and my odd speech. But by the end of elementary school I no longer needed speech therapy and now am just fine. If you call your school district, they can actually do an assessment (and services!) for free up until 3yrs. I love our early intervention teachers that come out, because honestly, my "preemie" (i went into labor while he was still preemie on a thursday, but because of a goddamned holiday weekend, they didn't induce me until tuesday, so he was no longer "preemie" when he popped out, since he was 36+3) would probably still be behind on some physical stuff. Now he's actually ahead of the curve at 9 months, since he's already cruising. And getting into everything. And stubborn as a mule. Like, how many times can we tell him "no" and distract him, and he goes right back to what he was trying to do as soon as we turn our head. Like he will play with us for half an hour, and then as soon as we walk away and leave him to play by himself, he goes right back to what we pulled him away from half an hour previously. He's not starved for attention - he spends more time playing with us than he does playing on his own, but you'd think it with the way that he keeps, well, at 9 months it's not really "acting out", but it is. and jesus christ, he is a clever little escape artist. And smart as a whip. We keep him fenced in with all his big toys so that he has a nice big space to play in, but at the same time, he can't get into what he shouldn't. He's learned that a) he can pull the toys out of the "fence" line, and b) he will poke his head out and check that dad and i are playing a video game or something before making a mad dash across the living room. We catch him every time, but it's a fun game for him to see how far he can make it under our noses before we pick him up and move him back. And after three times, he winds up in "time out" in his playpen, and then he gets mad because he cant tommy pickles his way out of that. Yet.
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VorpalBunny posted:So my kid just lost his favorite stuffed animal. He carried it across three continents no problem, but a weekend away for a wedding a few hours from home and of course it goes missing. No, don't pretend that it didn't exist or play dumb about it. He knows something is missing, trying to tell him he's wrong or not acknowledging the issue isn't going to help. Tell him what happened, as much as you know; make sure he knows that you are trying to find it and that it matters to you as well - go ahead and tell him you are talking to the hotel, that someone there is looking for it. Try to find something else he can use while you are looking - it doesn't have to be something shiny and new, something else that he has that is comforting is fine. If you determine its gone, sit him down and tell him that, expect that he's going to fall apart and be sympathetic. He's going to be sad, that's ok, its a natural reaction and one the should learn how to deal with. You can certainly tell him a story, if that's helpful. When I was a kid I lost a stuffed animal in a similar way, and my Mom talked to me about it and told me that when someone found it, they would probably give it to another kid who didn't have a good friend. So even though I didn't have it any more, maybe it was with someone who really needed a stuffed friend to love right now and hadn't just been trashed/lost. If it doesn't turn up its probably going to be painful for a little while, but its much better to help him understand and resolve those emotions than avoid them.
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For what it's worth, my daughter's pediatrician and pediatric dentist have both said that kids don't have the fine motor skills/attention to detail to do a decent job brushing their teeth until about age 6. We're lucky because we get the occasional tantrum about brushing, but usually it works to promise to let her have a turn brushing after Mom or Dad. She had 3 incipient cavities at 18 months and we were able to remineralize them by 21 months, so it's not really an option for us to let her do it.
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Our pediatric dentist said basically the same thing - we have to brush her teeth until she's about 6. What really sucks is that there isn't a way to get her teeth brushed in the morning, since she goes to daycare right away and they told us their sink water isn't potable (or perhaps it's not practical for then to brush a half-dozen kids' teeth).
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GlyphGryph posted:So, uh - our daycare provider has recommended we get an appointment for a language development specialist for our 26-month old, and my wife just listened to his cousin (who is a bit younger) sing an entire song perfectly, while he, uh... he can manage a third of the words from "happy birthday", poorly pronounced? So she's kind of worried, sort of getting it from all angles that there's something wrong with his development. my toddler is super verbally advanced, it's like the one thing she's way ahead on. she can fully articulate what she wants or what's going on in her head so long as she knows the words, and her vocabulary is massive. but her gross motor skills are lacking and she goes down stairs at the playground by crawling down them backwards. she likes to watch other kids use the playground equipment, but she's timid in her approach and won't go down slides by herself meanwhile the boy next door she plays with that's the same age can climb, kick, jump off of furniture and move like a pro but he's barely speaking. all kids are different and are interested in different things, and learn skills at different speeds. see the professional but dont worry about it
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Alterian posted:A new struggle with my 4 year old has started. He insists he doesn't need to wear underwear. Might not be that much of an issue, but he is still not that great with zipping and buttoning his pants himself. One of our boys wants to be naked all the time, or at least without pants. It's annoying... Also he loves to wash clothes (and put them in the hamper when it's done), he keeps putting any clothes he finds lying around into the washer, and if he gets the slighest bit dirty he uses that as an excuse to throw it in the washer (or just get undressed). Last night I caught him emptying his wardrobe of clean clothes and putting them into the washer.
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What age were everyone's kids at before they were reliably dry at night? My son turned four at the end of December, and is still wearing pull-ups at night because otherwise he'll pee the bed without fail. He toilet trained super quickly and easily, so I was hoping this would be the same, but it just isn't happening. He wants to stop wearing the diapers, but (like me) he sleeps super deeply and once he's out, he's out till morning. I've tried to wake him up to pee in the night, but he'll literally stand there in front of the toilet still asleep, and even if he does wake up he's really cranky and will just refuse to pee because he's annoyed. I'll even discuss it with him before he sleeps, saying that I won't put the pull-ups on him as long as he wakes up to pee in the night, and he'll happily agree to that, but of course it's a whole different thing once it actually comes time to do it.
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Being dry at night requires certain physiological changes in the brain. Bedwetting is considered normal up to something like six years old. Besides restricting fluids in the evening and making sure he pees right before bed, there's not much to do except wait it out.
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Bardeh posted:What age were everyone's kids at before they were reliably dry at night? My son turned four at the end of December, and is still wearing pull-ups at night because otherwise he'll pee the bed without fail. He toilet trained super quickly and easily, so I was hoping this would be the same, but it just isn't happening. He wants to stop wearing the diapers, but (like me) he sleeps super deeply and once he's out, he's out till morning. I've tried to wake him up to pee in the night, but he'll literally stand there in front of the toilet still asleep, and even if he does wake up he's really cranky and will just refuse to pee because he's annoyed. I'll even discuss it with him before he sleeps, saying that I won't put the pull-ups on him as long as he wakes up to pee in the night, and he'll happily agree to that, but of course it's a whole different thing once it actually comes time to do it. Ours was about 3 and a half. She was terrible for potty training, but we had that cracked for about 6 months. We moved out to get building work done, and lived with in-laws and just gave it a go. We practiced the run to the toilet 3 or 4 times before bed each night, and we had a few accidents in the first week. She then would run to the loo during the night, then after another week or two she would hold it and go in the morning. The issue is now when she wakes up to pee, she wakes her sister up in the same room. So they're both up from about 6:15 when the younger one could easily sleep for longer. ^^ comment about restricting fluids, were bad for not drinking enough at weekends because we're always out and about. So come to dinner time we try to make her drink more. Then invariably she needs to pee about 3 times once she's got into bed. Oodles fucked around with this message at 10:23 on Apr 25, 2017 |
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Bardeh posted:What age were everyone's kids at before they were reliably dry at night? My son turned four at the end of December, and is still wearing pull-ups at night because otherwise he'll pee the bed without fail. He toilet trained super quickly and easily, so I was hoping this would be the same, but it just isn't happening. He wants to stop wearing the diapers, but (like me) he sleeps super deeply and once he's out, he's out till morning. I've tried to wake him up to pee in the night, but he'll literally stand there in front of the toilet still asleep, and even if he does wake up he's really cranky and will just refuse to pee because he's annoyed. I'll even discuss it with him before he sleeps, saying that I won't put the pull-ups on him as long as he wakes up to pee in the night, and he'll happily agree to that, but of course it's a whole different thing once it actually comes time to do it. Well a rough estimate Daniel seems to be 80% dry and David is 99% dry, age 3½. I was some kind of miracle child since I was done at age 1 with diapers, though I do have some fuzzy memories of having had accidents. We also put a potty in their room so they don't have to go far. His Divine Shadow fucked around with this message at 11:24 on Apr 25, 2017 |
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Bardeh posted:What age were everyone's kids at before they were reliably dry at night? My son turned four at the end of December, and is still wearing pull-ups at night because otherwise he'll pee the bed without fail. He toilet trained super quickly and easily, so I was hoping this would be the same, but it just isn't happening. He wants to stop wearing the diapers, but (like me) he sleeps super deeply and once he's out, he's out till morning. I've tried to wake him up to pee in the night, but he'll literally stand there in front of the toilet still asleep, and even if he does wake up he's really cranky and will just refuse to pee because he's annoyed. I'll even discuss it with him before he sleeps, saying that I won't put the pull-ups on him as long as he wakes up to pee in the night, and he'll happily agree to that, but of course it's a whole different thing once it actually comes time to do it. About 3 and a half I think. We swapped out the night time pull ups and put a waterproof mattress protector on her bed with a disposable protective pad over that as well. They're more expensive than pull ups but she was being lazy and just going in the pull up to avoid having to get out of bed. The discomfort of all of you being wet is worse than a pull up absorbing it. She probably still wet the bed every 2-3 months for a while after that, and very occasionally now about a year on. But some people will wet the bed waaaay up until puberty (my brother did), 6 or 7 is around when most people will have mastered it. But avoiding liquids for an hour or two before bedtime really helps.
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So there's a new rumor the US is considering extending the onboard electronics ban on airplanes to/from Europe. I did a ton of international travel last year with three kids ages 5 and under, and frankly the only way we survived all that travel was the tablets we had with us. In all of the travels you guys have done, how much did screen time help/hurt your journey? I can't see us traveling without it, if only to distract the kids from whatever turbulence we might be flying through. Could your kids make it through an international flight without digital assistance?
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what electronics travel ban!? Also we have an appointment scheduled so of course his language development has been exploding since we did so. Appointment wont be until late next month but wish me luck anyway
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Isn't it just on laptops? I thought phones and tablets were still ok. Pick an airline that has good in flight entertainment.
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Hdip posted:Isn't it just on laptops? I thought phones and tablets were still ok. Nope, ipads and tablets as well. Nothing confirmed beyond the current ban on middle east flights, but it's being openly considered. We flew Delta on all our recent international travel, and while it offered an excellent selection we had hardware issues on half our flights. No audio/video, signal cutting out, etc. Also, some screens were poorly responsive to touch. And kids aren't very delicate with machinery, mashing the headrest of the people in front of them proved mildly annoying at times. Our tablets were awesome. It would suck to lose that ammo in our arsenal.
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It's pretty much looking like any device bigger than a smartphone, which is going to be torture flying alone, let alone with kids! Question, has anybody else had a toddler with quite extreme anxiety about nursery? He's in a phase of "I don't like.." pretty much everything at the moment, but when my wife took him to the nursery today he threw the biggest poo poo fit I've ever heard him have, crying and screaming about not wanting to go and getting more and more agitated the closer he got. Once he's there he seems to calm down and enjoy it but it's pretty upsetting to see him so wound up before.
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Dirty Needles posted:It's pretty much looking like any device bigger than a smartphone, which is going to be torture flying alone, let alone with kids! My 3.5 old daughter has been in daycare since she was 4 months old, and every couple months, she'll have a week where she's like that. I Just have to wait it out.
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So it's now illegal to bring electronics or laptops with you places? WTF? Are you supposed to mail it if you want to bring your computer to another country? (Electronics haven't been allowed in checked bags for a while) Like forgot the kids thing wtf is even going on there.
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There is a specific ban on larger electronics if you are flying from ten airports in the middle east. There is a possibility that ban would expand to include other routes. You are allowed to put most electronics in your checked luggage. You are generally not allowed to put spare lithium batteries into checked luggage (that is, batteries not in a device).
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It's a limited ban at the moment, they're talking about banning them on flights from the UK to the USA though. I guess we'll see how he goes at nursery tomorrow, he seems to settle down fine after a bit while he's there but we're worried if he gets so worked up just getting there that he's going to be put off. He only does 2 half days, term time at the moment so it may be a bit alien to him still.
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On the plus side, our son likes keeping clean in his diaper, so hopefully in two years that will make potty training easier. On the other hand, he learned how to remove his diaper when its full. Not so bad when it's pee. Quite bad when it's runny poop, since we were running around like crazy yesterday and he only got one meal of solids, the rest were all formula.
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Any general tips for raising twin boys? How did you handle birthdays, presents, older sibling jealousy, etc.? They're almost 48 hours old and it's been fascinating to see the differences in their personality. I'm glad this is kid number 2 and 3, I can't imagine doing twins for your first.
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devmd01 posted:Any general tips for raising twin boys? How did you handle birthdays, presents, older sibling jealousy, etc.? You don't need to worry about that stuff yet. Focus on getting through the next couple of months first. It's going to be tough enough to keep you occupied for a while!
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Well, it's good to have things in mind as they come up. One thing we've already decided on is to very cognizant of not encouraging competition between them, I imagine they will do plenty of that themselves. 
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devmd01 posted:Any general tips for raising twin boys? How did you handle birthdays, presents, older sibling jealousy, etc.? Tell us how it goes. We're having ours in a september or so and it's pretty overwhelming already.
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devmd01 posted:Any general tips for raising twin boys? How did you handle birthdays, presents, older sibling jealousy, etc.? Birthdays we combine, I know some people celebrate name days instead but frankly the less birthdays we can get away with the better. Double the presents usually, or one combined gift, but that means the gift has to be usable by both at the same time. Only kids we have and no more planned.
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Oh God he figured out how to stack things to climb the baby gate. Whelp, time to invest in a ton of pillows, because he got halfway up it the ten seconds it took to put dinner on the stove
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My has decided that before he goes to bed at night, after changing, he needs to take my head in his hands and then kiss me on the forehead, both sides of my head, and then on the nose. Also his stuffed animal has to turn off the light and pick out books and answer all my questions, not him. And we have to pull out the star caster turtle which lights up stars on the ceiling and lie on our backs looking up at the stars and sing twinkle twinkle like five times. He is the best and I missed him soooo much while I was away on a trip these last 5 days. Earlier today I fell down the stairs carrying the recycling and he rushed over, full of concern, "kissed my boo boo better", and then helped me pick up the recycling before returning to his blocks in the other room. Every time he sees me after we've been apart for even a short time he races up to me and gives me a big hug and says "I lub yoo" I don't understand why people talk about the terrible twos, this age has been the absolute best so far. I am just melting all the damned time. GlyphGryph fucked around with this message at 06:01 on May 2, 2017 |
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You know you're going to wake up to his room finger painted in poo poo, right?
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GlyphGryph posted:I don't understand why people talk about the terrible twos, this age has been the absolute best so far. I am just melting all the damned time. fwiw my 5 year old's time at 2 years old was a nightmare, but my almost-3yr olds has been a lot more fun. it can be hit and miss i guess.
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Just posting in passing that our 4 year old and 2 year old have a dose of Gastroenteritis. It's a cacophony of vomit. The 4 year old is pretty adept at using a bucket or getting to the toilet. The 2 year old not so much. I'm getting to sleep between them tonight to ensure no issues. I use "sleep" lightly.
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I get gastro issues like clockwork every 4 months or so and I'm sooooo glad my 3 year old has never got it. She has yet to get any kind of sickness that causes her to puke. So I'm really not looking forward to when that happens. On the plus side she's 90% potty trained. Almost never wets the overnight as well. Only time she has accidents is if she isn't feeling well or at daycare (and I'm not sure if that's because they can't get her to the bathroom on time or if she's distracted by playing.) They have a toddler potty in the area she just refuses to use it.
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GlyphGryph posted:My has decided that before he goes to bed at night, after changing, he needs to take my head in his hands and then kiss me on the forehead, both sides of my head, and then on the nose. Sounds like my son who's 2 at the moment, he's a little angel, literally. If you hurt yourself he says 'you okay daddy?' and gets all concerned. He'll kiss peoples foreheads goodnight. He's always happy and laughing and playing, never has a tantrum. You can't give him anything to draw with unattended though because he will cover any surface. That's the worst thing he does.
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The only thing he gets upset about is wanting to do things himself (or at least SEE what we're doing) that he's not capable of and even that is kind of adorable. He just wants to do things so badly but it's incredible how much more he can do every single day. It's like everything about him is exploding in this crazy amazing way that he's always so much more than he was even a week before.
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