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I asked insurance to send me a list of in network surgeons. Half don't even list procedure on their website, and the rest only have a couple pictures where the after picture doesn't even look different from before. Way to crush my hopes and dreams united.
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Avenging_Mikon posted:Unrelated, I need to contact a specialist psychologist to help me figure myself out. Anyone have tips on red flags to look out for? For a therapist? Go into it planning on trying out five or eight people before you find one that you like. In your first visit when they ask what you want to talk about explain that you're looking for a long term therapist and ask them about their approach and successes they've seen. Then ask them if they think they can help you or if they know someone who would be a better fit. As far as red flags, trust your gut, you'll know. If they give you the creeps or talk down to you or aren't kind gtfo. An extra nice receptionist in the office is usually a good sign and makes appointment stuff less stressful so if you're going to cal around first, start with that one. 
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Sagebrush posted:Oh well yeah that's terrible too the gently caress of it all was this lady thought she was being 'helpful' but she's a cis white lady who thought saturday night live's "woke jeans" skit was the funniest thing in the history of the world so
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UberJew posted:the gently caress of it all was this lady thought she was being 'helpful' but she's a cis white lady who thought saturday night live's "woke jeans" skit was the funniest thing in the history of the world so The video for "Woke Jeans" isn't available in Canada with a quick search, but from a description that sounds like some pretty awful poo poo to think is funny.
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cis autodrag posted:Oh good, my insurance decided the butt surgeon I wanted to see is too expensive and all the alternatives they offered proudly advertise the shittiest results I've ever seen on their websites. I can feel the happiness evaporating from my body The surgeon I had to cancel with is now having his office send me harassing voice mails and he's sending me emails, claiming I need to pay him for his "wasted time". It was my birthday yesterday and I spent it mostly crying. Thanks. I paid your rear end a deposit and I didn't sign anything saying answering a couple emails is billable. Why do people have to suck.
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cis autodrag posted:The surgeon I had to cancel with is now having his office send me harassing voice mails and he's sending me emails, claiming I need to pay him for his "wasted time". It was my birthday yesterday and I spent it mostly crying. Thanks. I paid your rear end a deposit and I didn't sign anything saying answering a couple emails is billable. Why do people have to suck. I’m so sorry 
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cis autodrag posted:The surgeon I had to cancel with is now having his office send me harassing voice mails and he's sending me emails, claiming I need to pay him for his "wasted time". It was my birthday yesterday and I spent it mostly crying. Thanks. I paid your rear end a deposit and I didn't sign anything saying answering a couple emails is billable. Why do people have to suck. what the gently caress? a patient's insurance falling through causing them to cancel is like a weekly occurrence for any surgical practice, why are they being shits about it instead of just using the deposit to cover costs and moving on? also while emails and phone consultations can be billable with appropriate coding, I don't think I've ever heard of a practice that did so without written authorization and "wasted time" is like the exact opposite of a medical billing code. sorry you had a lovely birthday. hope your 364 unbirthdays are better.
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Feb 3, 2018 14:52
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I made this for you Cis:
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Avenging_Mikon posted:I made this for you Cis: Lol
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What a loving prick.
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Feb 3, 2018 23:40
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My insurance rep is the nicest person thank God and she's calling surgeons on my behalf going forward until we find someone who can do what I want. I'm gonna send her a bottle of Dom when all my poo poo is done.
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Feb 4, 2018 00:27
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cis autodrag posted:My insurance rep is the nicest person thank God and she's calling surgeons on my behalf going forward until we find someone who can do what I want. I'm gonna send her a bottle of Dom when all my poo poo is done. glad to hear some good news regarding the harassment from the first surgeon: i did NOT see that coming. yikes
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Helianthus Annuus posted:glad to hear some good news
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Feb 4, 2018 03:22
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i think my ideal relationship right now would take the form of a roommate who i can kiss because i seriously want out of the suburbs. god i wish i had a steady job or that i was done my degree or something, i feel like i've been stuck in a transitional state since high school
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Sorry Improb, can’t help you. Did get liked by a super cute trans lady on OkCupid. Doesn’t like horror movies, but I think I can deal with that. Going to see if she’ll meet for coffee on like Friday. That’ll give enough chatting time to spot obvious red flags
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Feb 4, 2018 07:57
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i'm just venting because i'm hihgh
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I don’t blame ya. A roommate you can also kiss sounds pretty decent.
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Feb 4, 2018 08:07
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I met up with another translady and we got on pretty well. Unfortunately shes extremely bad with setting up follow up dates and after several weeks of being called off at the last minute I gave up
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i've been gathering "wish pics" for when I do find a surgeon, and I'm realizing that i'd probably have to gain weight in order to achieve the sort of appearance I picture mentally when I think of myself, but doing that probably wouldn't be healthy since I'm already 285 at 6'4". I think I'm going to have to give up on my lane bryant model dreams and settle for being kinda lean up top with a stacked lower body. stupid long torso. i just want to have this sort of figure:  lady in underwear https://image.ibb.co/iExvDx/242092_0000031341.jpgbut i already have that physique up top basically so anything I move lower to correct my hip and butt contour is going to drag me further away from the overall look. why couldn't my stupid mental self image just be a ripped version of me so i don't have to deal with this stuff. thanks dysphoria.
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My dreams involve some sort of mangling accident with the only result being that my upper torso is narrower by 3-4 inches.
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Synthbuttrange posted:My dreams involve some sort of mangling accident with the only result being that my upper torso is narrower by 3-4 inches. *revs circular saw*
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cis autodrag posted:*revs circular saw* You two would make a great magician and lovely assistant duo
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velcome to the hydrolic press channel
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my dream is to someday surpass cis autodrag's squat and deadlift PRs 
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Helianthus Annuus posted:my dream is to someday surpass cis autodrag's squat and deadlift PRs Lol. I kinda wonder what they are now, but I don't think it's worth the potential hip injury to find out. I'm a yoga girl these days.
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atomicthumbs posted:velcome to the hydrolic press channel eeedrolic
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yeah it's velcome to eedraulik press chan-nall
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cis autodrag posted:Lol. I kinda wonder what they are now, but I don't think it's worth the potential hip injury to find out. I'm a yoga girl these days. squats were like the one thing i felt was sort of "fun" at the gym. not so much deadlifts but i'm not sure i ever managed to get the right form on those anyway all consuming self consciousness has kept me out of the gym for over a year and a half now though even then my pr for squat was only 155, which being a 300# dude is kinda sad, so i bet now if i tried i wouldn't even break 100 with good form
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Ciaphas posted:squats were like the one thing i felt was sort of "fun" at the gym. not so much deadlifts but i'm not sure i ever managed to get the right form on those anyway I'm afraid if squatting or deadlifting tucked and exploding a nut. Also I don't really dig the gym vibe and I'm no longer buried in piles of coping mechanisms that compelled me to go
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I loving loathe the gym, the vibe, the people, the parking, the expense, the feeling of standing out for being fat as hell even though i know no one cares and that's what the gym is for, every single thing about it but i've always been told if i ever want to lose weight then i gotta Lift A Weight and it is (at least briefly) effective before i quit out again
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Not to mention specifically the way the guys in the weight room always leer without fail the moment anyone with a pair of tits enters the room always made me massively angry christ people have some loving decorum at least, if i can do it then so drat well can you
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i have a hundred pounds of lovely plastic weights from amazon which are miniscule but still a big step over bodyweight and i've done a lot more lifting of a weight with them than at a gym b/c of self image issues
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Ciaphas posted:I loving loathe the gym, the vibe, the people, the parking, the expense, the feeling of standing out for being fat as hell even though i know no one cares and that's what the gym is for, every single thing about it You don't have to lift weights to lose weight. That's just silly internet hyperbole. If you don't like it there's plenty of other exercise you can do. Just pick something physical and do it. The most critical thing to losing weight is eating less, full stop. If you can't lose weight you're eating too much. Exercise is for other components of health, and no amount of exercise is going to overcome a lovely diet. When I was in the gym I could easily fluctuate between 235 and 275 just by getting lazy with my diet, no change in physical activity level.
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im going to nth that you lose weight in the kitchen, not the gym also im currently working on losing 10 pounds so i can hopefully fit into the binder i bought
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probably also worth mentioning that it's not just eating less but eating better as well. see a doc, get checked out, make sure you're getting all the right poo poo your body needs.
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that's a sad and difficult truth for me to confront and i try to pretend it's not true thinking about the tens of thousands i spent in utter desperation on vertical sleeve gastrectomy and followups three (four?) years ago and how i weigh exactly the same now as i did before the surgery tends to make me have an Episode if i dwell long enough
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Ciaphas posted:that's a sad and difficult truth for me to confront and i try to pretend it's not true You may want to see a therapist that specializes in eating disorders. Advice from the internet is probably not going to work for your situation.
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probably but i'm already paying relatively out the nose for depression therapy (of questionable value so far but she's nice to talk to, and who knows, maybe this cbt crap will pan out) that and i have spent time before tracking what i eat through myfitnesspal and the like and i'll be damned if i've ever spotted anything especially disorderly (or even unusually heavy, i rarely went over 2500c in a day, and as a 310# bloke i should be losing at that range) in my habits but as you say the internet is not the right place for advice on that
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Ciaphas posted:I loving loathe the gym, the vibe, the people, the parking, the expense, the feeling of standing out for being fat as hell even though i know no one cares and that's what the gym is for, every single thing about it stop going to gyms and go to the YMCA last time i was there the other people working out were 1) old chinese men going 0.5 miles per hour on the treadmill 2) old white ladies with poofy hair lifting 5 pounds on the arm curl machine 3) a bunch of 98-pound teenagers checking themselves out after every rep 4) a man who looked like marty mcfly's dad, with BO so bad everyone within 20 feet left it's the least intimidating place to work out imaginable also you don't need to lift weights to lose weight but there are three main things at work 1) to lose weight, you gotta burn more energy than you eat 2) if you have more muscles your body will naturally use more energy 3) when you lose weight, you will lose both muscle and fat simultaneously (and when you gain weight, you gain both too) so basically strength training is the best way to maintain that fat-burning muscle mass when you're eating less food than usual. i am not a meathead bodybuilder or anything -- in fact i was one of those 98-pound weaklings most of my life. but learning the above few things really made a difference to my understanding of fitness
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