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SulfurMonoxideCute posted:Time to post my food crime!
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Mx. posted:AITB for refusing to apologize to someone for name calling? The fact that this person is convinced that the call-center employee they're talking to is somehow behind all this makes me think that they aren't the savviest. Like maybe they aren't clear on what exactly co-signing a loan means or something like that. Feel free to insult the person who chose to take a job harassing poor people. But maybe also get to the bottom of how your name came up?
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AKA Pseudonym posted:The fact that this person is convinced that the call-center employee they're talking to is somehow behind all this makes me think that they aren't the savviest. Like maybe they aren't clear on what exactly co-signing a loan means or something like that. Yes this happened to a family friend. Mom cosigned for her piece of poo poo daughter's fancy new car. When daughter decided to drop out and stop paying all her debts mom was absolutely shocked at the unfairness that this debt came back to her. She HAD to sign the thing to get her daughter the car she wanted, there was no other choice so it wasn't fair for consequences to happen. Also the reason the daughter stopped paying the car loan was because her dad (divorced) was paying her college and entire life so long as she stayed in school and stayed clean-ish. After a DUI he cut her off so she dropped out. He didn't co-sign for the loan because he knew better. The reason they divorced was because the mom was very much like the daughter.
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Feb 2, 2024 09:32
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Stefan Prodan posted:Yeah I mean fair we've been together 20 years so maybe I just don't remember what it's like to not be in that position anymore Lol I had a similar reaction as you to that post but also I’ve been with my partner for almost 9 1/2 years now so same. But also if someone’s in a long-term committed relationship and can’t trust their partner that much then a) they’re gonna have to figure that trust out at some point along the way anyways and b) if they either can’t trust the person because they act untrustworthy or they can’t get past their own hang ups, then everyone’s probably better off out of the relationship cause what’s the point? the holy poopacy posted:Just keep boiling until the water is reduced to a thick sauce coating the noodles. The most recent Matty Matheson video is him making peanut butter instant ramen and tbh it looks pretty fuckin good idiotsavant fucked around with this message at 09:36 on Feb 2, 2024 |
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Feb 2, 2024 09:33
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Ghost Leviathan posted:I think it's a near universal experience with neurodivergent people that at some points, neurotypical people take some action, tic or stim of yours to be obviously a deliberate and calculated insult specifically at them, regardless of circumstances, and will immediately attack you through any means available to them, including physical, considering themselves entirely in the right to demand satisfaction and contrition for you making the wrong twitch, wrong step or wrong noise. This can happen in any circumstance and at any age. Don't forget, "you done/said something wrong but we will never tell you what you did wrong but we will certainly make sure to go out of our way to hurt you". I'm in my mid 50s now and I still have the occasional flashback over people doing that to me as a kid right up til my late teens.
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Feb 2, 2024 09:42
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AKA Pseudonym posted:The fact that this person is convinced that the call-center employee they're talking to is somehow behind all this makes me think that they aren't the savviest. Like maybe they aren't clear on what exactly co-signing a loan means or something like that. They say it's American Express, and I don't think we're quite the debtors prison colony yet that you can be thrown in jail for not making a payment even on a cosigned account. Kinda makes me wonder if they were going to be asked to make payment in iTune gift cards.
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Feb 2, 2024 10:08
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deety posted:AITA for canceling our anniversary trip because my husband drowned my terrarium? Yep, that's how controlling/abusive partners work. You have something that's important to you but it doesn't revolve around me? That's not allowed. It must either be changed somehow to be about me, or be destroyed.
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Feb 2, 2024 10:42
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ApplesandOranges posted:More food! Of course, it's completely unreasonable to be upset when someone cancels plans on you for entirely selfish reasons. Let's examine how wrong you are to be upset by my actions and make sure you don't complain any more going forward.
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Feb 2, 2024 10:43
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snergle posted:^ im not chicken tendies and mac n cheese bad but i have issues with certain textures and tastes mostly textures so i steer clear of some vegetables like peas and people will make poo poo with peas in it then when i show up with a burg they will mumble some poo poo but noones ever stopped me What always confuses me about these kinds of stories is, how hard is it to remember you don't like peas and make a meal that doesn't include them?* My brother in law doesn't like some vegetables, so I asked him for a list and if I'm not sure I doublecheck with him/my husband if he'll eat something. This is just part of meal planning, it doesn't inconvenience me in the slightest. *Apparently really hard, because the amount of bell peppers that I have eaten when visiting my mother is staggering. Either she eats them in every meal or she has somehow convinced herself that I actually love them. Considering that last year she asked me what I though about salmon as a Christmas dinner when I've refused to eat fish since forever, I suspect the latter.
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Feb 2, 2024 10:44
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Mx. posted:clearly you've never seen me make fun of someone for not eating an egg. it's terrifying Let’s never have a meal together, for I do not eat an egg.
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Feb 2, 2024 10:48
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ReelBigLizard posted:Of course, it's completely unreasonable to be upset when someone cancels plans on you for entirely selfish reasons. Let's examine how wrong you are to be upset by my actions and make sure you don't complain any more going forward. Don't you understand that things that are special for me are for me only and nobody else can have anything special too? Wife could be from one of those godawful share-everything families and be reacting against it of course, but in that case she's the one who needs some deep introspection...
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Feb 2, 2024 11:08
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Cloacamazing! posted:What always confuses me about these kinds of stories is, how hard is it to remember you don't like peas and make a meal that doesn't include them?* My brother in law doesn't like some vegetables, so I asked him for a list and if I'm not sure I doublecheck with him/my husband if he'll eat something. This is just part of meal planning, it doesn't inconvenience me in the slightest. Because that requires believing that other people who aren't you can or should have preferences and needs that matter. You're supposed to like what they tell you that you like.
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Feb 2, 2024 11:10
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Cloacamazing! posted:*Apparently really hard, because the amount of bell peppers that I have eaten when visiting my mother is staggering. Either she eats them in every meal or she has somehow convinced herself that I actually love them. Considering that last year she asked me what I though about salmon as a Christmas dinner when I've refused to eat fish since forever, I suspect the latter. I’m mostly vegetarian, and I’m intolerant to egg yolk, avocado and banana. Not anaphylaxis allergic, but I’ll have a bad time for five or six hours. I get that that’s a lot of considerations and I’m a bit of a food weird, but despite the intolerances being a thing for 25+ years (and I have never been a red meat enjoyer, right from when I was a baby), my mum and sister cannot ever seem to remember this. We made you a special vege meal! It’s heaps of guacamole on nachos! With bananas and homemade custard for dessert!
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Feb 2, 2024 11:15
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liquidypoo posted:AITA for giving someone an honest opinion of their art? I don't know who I'd find the more insufferable: The guy who draws big titty animes and claims that he is "practicing his art". or The guy who looks at said big titty animes and critiques it like it was the Mona Lisa
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Feb 2, 2024 11:51
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Cloacamazing! posted:*Apparently really hard, because the amount of bell peppers that I have eaten when visiting my mother is staggering. Either she eats them in every meal or she has somehow convinced herself that I actually love them. Considering that last year she asked me what I though about salmon as a Christmas dinner when I've refused to eat fish since forever, I suspect the latter. I think for some people, it's almost like it flips in their brain - they note that X ingredient/food is special for you, either in that you need it or don't, and then get mixed up which it was. I had a conversation with my aging Mom where I told her I hated cheesecake, which she had never known, and then the next few times I came over they served me exclusively cheesecake. I asked her wtf was going on and it turned out that her brain heard that I had a special rule for cheesecake but forgot what the rule was. Oh it must be their favorite!! We worked it out but it was funny lol. Ofc, some people are just dicks.
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Feb 2, 2024 12:12
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BrigadierSensible posted:I don't know who I'd find the more insufferable: yeah those aren't even close to being comparable and you're telling on yourself here
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Feb 2, 2024 12:26
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AITA for telling my SIL/best friend that she overshadowed my wedding?quote:Burner account. I(29F) am married to "Nate"(29M) and his sister his "Denise"(29F) we are all childhood friends and I married Nate almost a year ago. Denise, at the time was 7 months pregnant with her first child, her husband is "Wayne"(30M). Not too long after our reception started, Denise went into preterm labor. Her pregnancy up until that point was not high risk so this was completely out of nowhere and stunned all of us. She understandably had to leave with Wayne to the hospital and most of their side of the family left out of concern. She insisted we stay and have fun and lord knows Nate and I tried but knowing that she was in unexpected, high risk labor was at the forefront of our minds and we made the difficult decision to end the reception about an hour and a half early and joined up at the hospital.
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Feb 2, 2024 12:39
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Lady I barely remember my own anniversary.
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Feb 2, 2024 13:08
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling my SIL/best friend that she overshadowed my wedding? This will always baffle me. The thread has previously insisted such people don't exist, but they obviously do - people who expect their extended family to remember their romantic anniversaries. What?? It's only for you and your partner to remember! That's literally whose romance day it is, yours, so why would you even want your family involved? I just don't get it. Big 40-year family anniversary parties with the whole family, yeah, absolutely that makes sense, but this does not. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 13:18 on Feb 2, 2024 |
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Feb 2, 2024 13:13
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StrangersInTheNight posted:This will always baffle me. The thread has previously insisted such people don't exist, but they obviously do - people who expect their extended family to remember their romantic anniversaries. What?? It's only for you and your partner to remember! That's literally whose romance day it is, yours, so why would you even want your family involved? I just don't get it. Big 40-year family anniversary parties with the whole family, yeah, absolutely that makes sense, but this does not. But I'm the protagonist of reality, not this snivelling, mewling infant!
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Feb 2, 2024 13:33
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling my SIL/best friend that she overshadowed my wedding? Christ
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Feb 2, 2024 14:02
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Chef Boyardeez Nuts posted:Lady I barely remember my own anniversary. Been married since 2018, forgotten 2 out of 5 anniversaries.
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Feb 2, 2024 14:07
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Also who talks about their fond memories of someone else’s wedding
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Feb 2, 2024 14:17
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ApplesandOranges posted:More food! quote:Unfortunately, she’s definitely expecting me to be able to speak to her about my emotions and core beliefs about why I got upset at some point today. So somehow this has become a whole thing. Which kind of sucks. ReelBigLizard posted:Of course, it's completely unreasonable to be upset when someone cancels plans on you for entirely selfish reasons. Let's examine how wrong you are to be upset by my actions and make sure you don't complain any more going forward. The wife is weird for not wanting to buy him a sandwich, but who among us hasn't started an argument and then gotten partway through it and realized it was a stupid and pointless argument that was now more irritating that you had to have it? One of the best things about being married forever is being able to have the arguments in your head before you have them in person. So, you know what your partner is going to say, you get your responses in a row, and partway through that realize it's stupid and not worth arguing over. There are many arguments in my house that have been circumvented this way. haveblue posted:Also who talks about their fond memories of someone else’s wedding Eh, people still talk about how much fun my wedding was. But that has less to do with the wedding and more to do with the company, I think.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:This will always baffle me. The thread has previously insisted such people don't exist, but they obviously do - people who expect their extended family to remember their romantic anniversaries. What?? It's only for you and your partner to remember! That's literally whose romance day it is, yours, so why would you even want your family involved? I just don't get it. Big 40-year family anniversary parties with the whole family, yeah, absolutely that makes sense, but this does not. My brother and SIL got married on the same day as my birthday, they asked me in advance if it would bother me and it truly didn't matter at all. It was nice during the reception when I got to my seat and found a present at my spot and a little party hat. Now every year when they call to wish me a happy birthday I feel obliged to wish them a happy anniversary, so I guess I'm one of those people. Otherwise I can't see why I'd bother remembering I suppose.
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Feb 2, 2024 14:50
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My brother married in September and while the ceremony was beautiful and the food and the party kicked rear end, i couldn't be more specific about the date if I tried
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Feb 2, 2024 14:55
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My brothers wedding is in/around March. I remember because I had to fly from Korea to Australia for it. But as for the actual date? I don't know or care. And neither he, nor my wonderful SiL expect me to .
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Feb 2, 2024 14:56
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Literally the only anniversary date I remember is my grandparents’, and that’s only because at one point my grandpa told me they were so eager to get married that they did so one week after her 21st birthday, which was the marriage age back then Even then I still have to do the mental math of “grandma’s birthday, plus a week” to actually produce a date
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Feb 2, 2024 15:22
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The Maroon Hawk posted:Literally the only anniversary date I remember is my grandparents’, and that’s only because at one point my grandpa told me they were so eager to get married that they did so one week after her 21st birthday, which was the marriage age back then Now I'm just imagining Abe Simpson saying that.
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Feb 2, 2024 15:24
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My parents anniversary is on the same day as operation overlord. You know it by a different name. D-day
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SulfurMonoxideCute posted:Time to post my food crime!
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Mx. posted:AITA for telling my SIL/best friend that she overshadowed my wedding? I would feel differently if the OP didn't acknowledge that these feelings were unreasonable, but yeah, I think it's okay to feel upset that the one big party that most people get in their lives, that costs a ton of money to throw, and which the culture at large constantly reinforces as The Most Special Day, was shut down early and made no impact on the people you were hoping to celebrate with. This person also hasn't been talking poo poo about the baby to the family, or making weird passive-aggressive FB posts about it, or trying to tell the parents they can't celebrate their kid. I think it's far more insane to cut someone, your supposed best friend, off forever because they didn't want to come to your 1 year old's birthday party, even if it's for a dumb reason. ETA: When did parties for infants metastasize into these giant celebrations? I have a relative who had a party for their 1 year old that was so big they hired tents, caterers, and live music. Rain Brain fucked around with this message at 15:39 on Feb 2, 2024 |
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Feb 2, 2024 15:35
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BrigadierSensible posted:I don't know who I'd find the more insufferable: Mona Lisa was the big titty anime of her time. 
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Mx. posted:i wish there was a similarly non-gendered term for aunt/uncle tbh Uncunt (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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Batterypowered7 posted:Now I'm just imagining Abe Simpson saying that. i proposed to my wife by putting an onion on her belt, which was the style at the time
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Rain Brain posted:ETA: When did parties for infants metastasize into these giant celebrations? I have a relative who had a party for their 1 year old that was so big they hired tents, caterers, and live music. Centuries ago in some cultures, it's the big "the baby will probably live to adulthood" celebration.
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Rain Brain posted:ETA: When did parties for infants metastasize into these giant celebrations? I have a relative who had a party for their 1 year old that was so big they hired tents, caterers, and live music. People like this are using their kid for social media clout, like a pet
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John Wick of Dogs posted:My parents anniversary is on the same day as operation overlord. You know it by a different name. D-day bad rear end
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Rain Brain posted:ETA: When did parties for infants metastasize into these giant celebrations? I have a relative who had a party for their 1 year old that was so big they hired tents, caterers, and live music. It’s an excuse for parents who have been in the trenches for a year (and almost two for the mom) to throw a party. The infant doesn’t know or care or have friends, but the adults can hang out with other adults. It’s also around the time parents start cutting back on breastfeeding so the mom might be taking a short break and having a few drinks for the first time in 21 months.
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Now that infant mortality is not horrifyingly high the 1st birthday is 100% for the parents and is often symbolically important in a "it was hell, but we made it through" way. It is also frequently the first opportunity that parents get to have their friends/family all over at the same time for anything vaguely resembling fun and some people try to make up for lost time by going overboard. Think of it more like a graduation party for a particularly grueling degree than a birthday. That's why parents are prone to feeling slighted if people skip out.
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