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Pollyanna posted:quote: appalling cis autodrag posted:Jesus, that chick sounds like she's trying to use PUA as a recruitment strategy. nailed it. such a gross vibe. people will try to use this jedi mind bullshit on you, and its like "dude i see what you're tryin to do." e: but at one time, it certainly would have affected me
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if ever there was a time for the "every time you complain about it, the price goes up" gently caress-you negotiation strategy that was it. yeesh. sorry you had to go through that, drat good job holding your ground.
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Feb 17, 2018 02:27
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Pollyanna posted:it's a real thing and it sucks and luckily i'm kinda futch/horrible-mess so it's not ungodly awful for me, but still lol at them trying to push you for prior salary when that's explicitly illegal up there
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Feb 17, 2018 02:46
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i wanna google "is it illegal to ask for salary history in $PLACE" right in front of her
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Feb 17, 2018 04:03
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i was very close to just hanging up on her but i thought it'd be too rude also yes it is very illegal here in boston now, though it doesn't take effect until june it's still something i'm not going to do and i've had experience dealing with abusive assholes and i'm slowly getting better at it
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surgeryfriend update: packing and stitches are out, the nurse commented again about it being the GREATEST PUSSY EVER SCULPTED BY MANKIND or whatever, and how she's been the perfect patient so far cuz it's healing perfectly and it's got like 7" of depth and almost no swelling  e: also I have been told while it still had the healing wounds and stitches they (as in her and her husband, not the nurses lol) took to calling it the "hellraiser pussy" which made me giggle Shame Boy fucked around with this message at 09:52 on Feb 17, 2018 |
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Feb 17, 2018 09:34
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Glad she's having fun.
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Feb 17, 2018 09:49
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i said her and her wife but meant her and her husband for he is a dude most of the time and that's okay too
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Feb 17, 2018 09:53
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Feb 17, 2018 09:55
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No, don't siphon my gender fluids, I need them!
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Feb 17, 2018 10:02
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I can no longer sit back and allow Communist infiltration, Communist indoctrination, Communist subversion and the international Communist conspiracy to sap and impurify all of our precious gender fluids.
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Feb 17, 2018 10:10
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went with this one instead 
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Feb 17, 2018 10:13
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 there's an ogre in baldurs gate who drops this unique belt. i wonder if that ogre was trans? transition instantly, but you have to wear this ugly weightlifting belt for the rest of your life 
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Feb 17, 2018 20:10
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sounds like it's permanent tho if they beheaded the jester for giving it to the duke's lover
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Feb 17, 2018 20:14
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Synthbuttrange posted:went with this one instead it's a good game
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Feb 17, 2018 20:37
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what game is it?
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Feb 17, 2018 20:40
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Zamujasa posted:what game is it? diaries of a spaceport janitor it's cheap right now on steam
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Improbable Lobster posted:diaries of a spaceport janitor 
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Feb 18, 2018 01:17
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stunningly profound or stunningly stupid question and i'm not sure which tbh
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Feb 18, 2018 03:29
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it's a neat little thing. it's one of those games that has a billion stats you can modify that may or may not do anything at all
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Feb 18, 2018 06:32
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Just talked to the surgeon about the out of network thing. I can't be super specific, but suffice it to say I'm being taken care of and I now 100% want to do my butt augmentation with him too Also my boobs look loving great now, they've finally settled and gotten squishy and it's AWESOME
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Feb 19, 2018 23:14
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congrats on your bobs
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Feb 19, 2018 23:16
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cis autodrag posted:Just talked to the surgeon about the out of network thing. I can't be super specific, but suffice it to say I'm being taken care of and I now 100% want to do my butt augmentation with him too The same surgeon who was giving you crap before, or the boob surgeon? Lost the plot. Either way grats also, yay boobies
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Feb 19, 2018 23:19
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Ciaphas posted:The same surgeon who was giving you crap before, or the boob surgeon? Lost the plot. Either way grats The boob surgeon. There were some billing issues that turned out not to be issues. gently caress that other surgeon. I wouldn't go to him even if I had the cash at this point.
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Feb 19, 2018 23:23
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friend of mine came out to their parents a few days ago, and said their parents responded "better than expected" by "only" making casual misgendering jokes instead of being full-bore awful. and then a day or two later they actually became fully awful about everything, including demanding to know why she didn't come out sooner, or how she could do this to them, etc etc etc. my only advice was  , but just. christ. why do parents always gotta be terrible
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Feb 21, 2018 21:29
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i have some cousins who were raised hyper hyper fundamentalist christian and two of them are queer -- one is gay and the other is non-binary. when the first of them came out their mom cried for weeks about "what did i do wrong" and dad refused to talk to them at all. but over time the parents got woke and backed way off from the fundamentalism and accepted their kids' reality and now the whole family participates in pride events and stuff 
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Feb 21, 2018 21:33
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im banned from seeing my extended family lol
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Sagebrush posted:i have some cousins who were raised hyper hyper fundamentalist christian and two of them are queer -- one is gay and the other is non-binary. when the first of them came out their mom cried for weeks about "what did i do wrong" and dad refused to talk to them at all. but over time the parents got woke and backed way off from the fundamentalism and accepted their kids' reality and now the whole family participates in pride events and stuff yeah i'm hoping that for this person they come around but i'm seeing a lot of symptoms of narc parents and that situation never ends well. meanwhile every since privately coming out and putting more thought to gender bullshit i'm starting to really get a feel for what dysphoria is like and goddamn it sucks; the best way to put is before i really thought about it i was gloriously oblivious to the problem and now that i have a good idea of what it is it's starting to really bother me
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Feb 21, 2018 21:38
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i have not been in contact with my family for 25 years now, and it was and still is the best decision of my entire life. not that a total should be done lightly, but gently caress those who put themselvies and their idea of what a perfect family picture must look like over our own expressions of ourselves as individuals.
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Feb 21, 2018 21:43
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I'm really glad my parents took my coming out well
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Feb 21, 2018 21:58
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my dad still hates me from when i told him i didn't want him coaching my sports teams/didn't want to play anymore 20 years ago i really wish i had a better relationship with my parents but every time i talk to them i get to hear "no you are wrong" and i am so tired and just need to get away from them for a long time
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Feb 21, 2018 22:04
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I have an okay relationship with my parents, currently, but I'm 100% sure that's because as far as they know I'm cis-hetero. My dad's becoming a big old racist trump supporter as he ages (Which is baffling to me, since we're Canadian), and my mom is becoming more religious and her mental illnesses are also becoming more pronounced. My currently little journey of self-discovery could end with a
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Pollyanna posted:im banned from seeing my extended family lol My grandma disowned me and since all my cousins live with her (with their out of wedlock Mexican babies mind you), I can't see my cousins or their kids either. Fortunately the rest of my family is cool, even if they gently caress up terminology and pronouns sometimes.
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Feb 21, 2018 22:48
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cis autodrag posted:My grandma disowned me and since all my cousins live with her (with their out of wedlock Mexican babies mind you), I can't see my cousins or their kids either. Fortunately the rest of my family is cool, even if they gently caress up terminology and pronouns sometimes. I should clarify that the Mexican babies are relevant because the reason she disowned me is that she's an apostolic pentecostal Christian and tea party survivalist. Trans is too much but unwed Mexican babies are fine.
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Feb 21, 2018 22:52
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I'm betting that grandma didn't like you much to begin with? Seems like religious people love to use it as a reason to use religion to sever with people. Religion has not been a positive force in my life.
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Feb 21, 2018 23:29
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a lot of people i'm close with have narcissistic parents, including myself, so is usually the only good option when dealing with family i keep reminding the people close to me that family isn't who raised you or who birthed you, it's who you're close to and who you care about the most it helps sometimes
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Avenging_Mikon posted:I'm betting that grandma didn't like you much to begin with? Seems like religious people love to use it as a reason to use religion to sever with people. No we were really close. I practically lived with her as a teen because my step-dad beat me so much. Before my mom married my grandma lived with me and my mom. I was her favorite grandson. Just not granddaughter.
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Feb 22, 2018 00:21
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gently caress, that’s so bad.  I’m sorry
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Feb 22, 2018 01:04
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Avenging_Mikon posted:gently caress, that’s so bad. It's OK. I was just sharing because everyone else was sharing  . It's good to talk about common experiences, even bad ones. It helps people realize that the way people treat them is not their fault and there is nothing wrong with them.
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i have really awesome parents and now as an adult am surrounded irl by people who had awful parents, up to and including physical and sexual abuse, and whenever stuff like this comes up i just feel like https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5B-Xy9AOqd4
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