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bee posted:All that is frustrating enough without getting asked about what's going on in my uterus because honestly I have no loving clue right now Yeah, at least my mom finally stopped asking if "my friend" has visited yet. She never called periods that before. Why start now?
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So my wife hasn't had a period since around Sept 30th- and even then it was one day of moderate bleeding. And she's had a negative HPT. We aren't really officially trying at the moment but the thought that her PCOS is getting worse is daunting. Has anyone else had weird cycle issues a few months after stopping fertility meds?
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Abbeh posted:Yeah, at least my mom finally stopped asking if "my friend" has visited yet. She never called periods that before. Why start now? That is bizarre. I'm really glad my mother doesn't know we're trying to conceive because if she was asking me questions like that I think my head would explode.  TVs Ian posted:
I'm not on any fertility meds, but since coming off the pill in July I've had one kinda normal period, one really light period, then nothing at all for the last four months or so. No PCOS happening with me that I am aware of, but I would assume that taking any medication that alters your hormones is likely to cause some kind of irregularity once you stop taking it.
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Nov 25, 2012 13:05
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This may be a little premature, but I wanted to go ahead and ask. My husband and I are planning to start trying late next year, but my next yearly Gyno/OB appointment is in February. Would it be weird to ask them to speak with me at that appointment about what I should be doing before we try to get pregnant? Questions like how far out should I stop taking the pill, when I should go on prenatals, that kind of thing? Is that normal to ask that far out? I just figured that I'm not going to see them again until after we're already in the middle of trying, so I should ask then, but I worry they'll think I'm insane for asking so far out. If those kinds of appointments are fairly normal, then what can I expect us to talk about?
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All those questions sound normal. This page might be helpful too: http://www.cdc.gov/preconception/planning.html
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I'm going in to do the HSG thing this month - no problems, they just like to do them with anyone, and there's some talk that it might up your chances anyway for a few months after. Of course, I read up on them, and see a lot of people talking about pain relief and how it hurts. When I actually go to book it though, they don't offer anything ahead of time. I can take an ibuprofen if I want. Just my luck, I'm going to be one of those people for whom it's unusually painful. I've also switched clinics, and the new one is pretty strict about the CMV status. I'm negative, which now means I probably can't use my preferred donor, and due to my colouring, I didn't have a huge pool to choose from anyway if I wanted to stay within what's in my family. This is so much more complicated than the accidental-pregnancy-while-on-birth-control that happened the first time.
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Dec 5, 2012 02:52
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What do those acronyms mean?
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This is awesome, because when I horribly mangled the first pronunciation, the Dr. laughed and said "We just call it the HSG test." It's a hysterosalpingogram. They essentially do an x-ray of your fallopian tubes and uterus to check for any blockages. There is maybe some evidence that this sort of "flushes" any little things that might be blocking them out of the way, so an added bonus is that it may increase chances of conception for a few months afterwards. CMV is cytomegalovirus. Pretty innocuous, the majority of the population has had it, but if you catch it while pregnant, it can be disastrous. Because of the theoretical risk of infection from donor semen, most clinics and sperm banks test for it. I'm negative, and the new clinic I'm with is so far saying that means I can only use a CMV- donor. I'm talking to them about the relative risks, since any donor with an active infection would be ruled out as per American FDA rules, so I might be able to talk them into it if the test just shows them being positive with IgG antibodies. I lost the patient coordinator on this one, so I'm now going to talk to some lab techs/the actual doctor.
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After the partial molar pregnancy and 4 months of weekly/monthly hCG tests we've been cleared to start trying again. We go today to meet with our specialist, go over any results from the genetic testing that was done, and get a Rx for Clomid. We're excited to start trying again.
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Dec 5, 2012 14:49
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Nothing too odd showed up from the DNA testing. One little thing is my wife has a mutation called Leiden Factor 5, which can cause clotting issues. In the past it was theorized that this mutation could cause miscarriages so they used to give expensive anti-clotting drugs to pregnant women, but a recent study showed no statistical change in miscarriages between women taking the drug and those who were not so our specialist doesn't give the drug anymore. I always knew my wife was a mutant. I just have proof now.
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My grandmother had a missing clotting factor, a symptom of which is bruising like a peach. My mother and I bruise easily too, so I had to go look up that SNP and check my 23andme data to see if I had it. I don't. Where did you do your DNA testing? That factor also puts her at a higher risk of a thromboembolism. Science is awesome.
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The health care system did the testing because of our multiple miscarriages. It took months for the results to come in, but hey it's free. And yes, science is awesome! 
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We signed up for 23andme way back (they had a super cheap day) to see if we had any weird things we can pass on. It was relieving to know that we are both totally fine with all the major genetic risks one could pass on. It was worth the money for that, and it was an extra bonus to check out the rest. Are you in Canada that that was free or is your insurance awesome?
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Dec 6, 2012 02:42
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We're in Canada. The health care system has been great. Our province doesn't cover IVF but I think some do. Quebec perhaps?
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I know Quebec covers it (though I think there's a limit as to how many tries), and others offer tax credits. I'm actually going to the States, and coordinating with a clinic and my family doctor up here to save on trips to Washington and some of the testing is covered by healthcare. A lot of couples go over the border since our donor supply (particularly for eggs), is quite limited, so there are a couple of set ups for Canadian patients accessing American clinics. It's also weird here because it depends on who is ordering the test. For some tests, if a GP from a walk-in clinic orders it and has the results fwded to the fertility clinic, it's covered. If the fertility clinic requisitions the tests directly, I have to pay. Same I make an appt with a GP who refers me to the fertility clinic, it's free. If I call and make the appointment myself, I have to pay a $250 referral fee. Obviously, I'm glad that some is covered, but what you do to make it covered is kind of odd.
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Ok, it's time to get this ball rolling. My husband and I are going to start trying in February. My cycle started just yesterday, and while I only got off the pill two months ago, I seem to be ovulating based on temps. I'm a teacher at a super family friendly school, so leave should work out, but we are trying to plan around the start of the school year. Any month due is groovy, but the goal is not July, August, or September so I don't miss the beginning of the school year. But if we are still trying in a year, I'll take a baby whenever it comes. I will probably tell my mother in law, but not my mom. I am the luckiest woman in the world when it comes to in laws, but my own family is a bunch of crazy okie alcoholics. I have a couple friends that I know I can trust, and the plan is to not tell anyone until past the twelve weeks mark, but I am a huge blabber mouth and will probably spill the beans much sooner if anyone asks, since I am completely unable to lie to a direct question. Edit: Got My support team ready to go. In laws and two best friends. Just had to ask mil not to tell her sisters, and we are set. Valdara fucked around with this message at 23:59 on Jan 1, 2013 |
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bee posted:That is bizarre. I'm really glad my mother doesn't know we're trying to conceive because if she was asking me questions like that I think my head would explode. My mother in law found out in a weird roundabout way and hasn't said anything to me  the only reason I know is because she told my husband...And I know things don't happen immediately or even quickly at all, but I was so sure I'd be giving everyone big news around Christmas. Turns out I was just 3 weeks late and almost had my tropical vacation ruined by a period. I'm just left feeling depressed with a husband who doesn't really get it. So until then I'll just lavish attention on my pets... and our new roomba Jeeves.
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Abbeh if it's any consolation at all, I too had entertained nice thoughts of having great news to share with family at Christmas. However, my periods are still irregular as gently caress, I've still got pretty bad acne and every time I see my mother she keeps asking me what the gently caress is wrong with my face. Hang in there.
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Yeah, and it's funny. All the sex ed classes I was in led me to believe that the second I missed any birth control I'd get pregnant immediately  I think they should rewrite the speeches to say "you will get pregnant immediately UNLESS you really want to be - in which case it will be a long and frustrating wait".
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Abbeh posted:Yeah, and it's funny. All the sex ed classes I was in led me to believe that the second I missed any birth control I'd get pregnant immediately Pretty much. I still at the irony that my wife and I were so paranoid about BC for the first six years of our marriage, not to mention before. Meanwhile my unmarried cousins are proliferating like rabbits. It's annoying. On our front, the first month of Clomid didn't produce. We've gotten knocked up a few times on Clomid so we're hopeful/disappointed every cycle she's on it.
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Well, ladies and gentleman, after lurking with the occasional post here and there, I'm pleased to announce that my husband and I have decided it's time to join the ranks of the trying. I've got an appointment on Monday to remove my current method of birth control, and after that.... 
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My prenatal vitamins showed up the other day, and I've been taking them with lunch. While reading through this thread a while back, I saw a reference to neon pee and thought it was a silly joke. Nope. 
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I have PCOS, and in addition to actively following weight watchers to lose weight, I'm also taking 1500 mg of metformin per day and two capsules of vitex. Has anybody tried either one of these?
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grapey posted:I have PCOS, and in addition to actively following weight watchers to lose weight, I'm also taking 1500 mg of metformin per day and two capsules of vitex. Has anybody tried either one of these? I was overweight and on metformin for four years because of PCOS. We tried to get pregnant all throughout that time, and ironically it didn't happen until I was both off metformin and had said 'gently caress being fat' and lost 80lbs over the course of a year, so YMMV.
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My wife and I have been married almost 2 years after dating a while and knowing each other for over 10 years. I've finally gotten the baby bug and we've discussed the possibility of having a child. One thing that's standing in the way is my wife is very anxious about having children. She loves kids, has raised a nephew from birth while her sister finished college, and knows she'd be a great mother. We went to half priced books to find any books on pregnancy anxiety, but they are all about being anxious DURING pregnancy. What we would like to find is a book for the time before that. Getting over the getting pregnant anxiety. She's worried about the feeling of having something grow in her, or how her body will change, if she'll gain weight, etc. Most books start with "Congrats on being pregnant!" which skips the part we're struggling with. Does anyone have any recommendations on books, or sites to deal with this issue for us?
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It sounds like she is worried about not knowing what happens to her during and after pregnancy. It may be a good idea to check out a few books from the library that focus on those subject matters. Being better informed about the process and recovery may help! Another step I would suggest is making an appointment with an OB or midwife where she can really express her concerns and get the answers she needs.
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It's official. We are not longer trying not to have a baby. I just ovulated, so there's no chance of it this month, but whee haaa, it's baby-makin' time!
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jota23 posted:It sounds like she is worried about not knowing what happens to her during and after pregnancy. It may be a good idea to check out a few books from the library that focus on those subject matters. Being better informed about the process and recovery may help! Another step I would suggest is making an appointment with an OB or midwife where she can really express her concerns and get the answers she needs. This is really sound advice. I AM pregnant, and...it's really loving weird, there's no getting around that. Your body looks different, feels different, and has pretty much taken on a life of it's own, both figuratively and literally, and feeling apprehensive about that is completely natural, and in many ways I think more healthy than going into it convinced it's all going to be magical and wonderful (it is those things too, don't worry  ) So telling her that "nooo, it won't be like that at all!" will be flat out deceptive, but it's not scary, it's just...weird. It will take some time adjusting to the new normal, and once you adjust to it, something new and weird happens. What helps me when I get upset about it is thinking of it not as "my body is out of my control, help!" but "my body is taking charge and making an actual person! Holy poo poo, that's awesome!" Hopefully I didn't make it sound more scary now, it really isn't. It just takes some getting used to. In that vein you might want to ask your question in the pregnancy thread also.
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Thanks for the advice! She's been slowly warming up to the idea and even bought an androgynous baby outfit to hang in the third bedroom closet to get in the mindset of "baby time" She liked the posts and thought it was really cute that I'm asking a comedy forum for baby advice, but hey, good advice is good advice!
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Hi, all. The last time I posted in this thread (October), I was whining about getting pregnant and how I could make it happen sooner. Well, the cramps I was feeling were actually FROM pregnancy, so all the herbs I bought were pretty useless to me. I have a pack of ovulation sticks that expire December 2013. There are a ton left, and at least a few pregnancy tests that they came with. I also have dong quai, Vitex, and evening primrose oil. I'll send you all of them for $25, including shipping. I waited way too long to return them because I was afraid of jinxing the pregnancy before 12 weeks. Just send me a PM if you are interested. I'd really like these not to be wasted. If this is not the proper place for this, let me know and I'll delete or move this. My best wishes for all of you still trying. I did not enjoy it at all. (Well, maybe parts.)
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I think I am psychosomatic-ing myself into pregnancy symptoms. This is dumb. Tender boobs, ravaging hunger, peeing a lot (is that even a symptom of early pregnancy? Seriously), and only the slimmest of slim possibilities that I could actually be pregnant based on the timing of things. Dang minds and bodies. All doing stuff.
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raej posted:Thanks for the advice! She's been slowly warming up to the idea and even bought an androgynous baby outfit to hang in the third bedroom closet to get in the mindset of "baby time" I always liked the week-by-week pregnancy guides from huggies.com.au - the forums always made my eyes bleed with the txt speak and weird abbreviations. Sposies. Hospie. What? I avoided them like the plague. The week-by-weeks are good in that they don't just address the physical, but also the emotional changes you may be going through. I went through them all in the beginning, so I had a heads-up of what was to come. It was reassuring to know that being emotional, moody, scared or whatever was a normal response to my current state.
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Valdara posted:I think I am psychosomatic-ing myself into pregnancy symptoms. This is dumb. Tender boobs, ravaging hunger, peeing a lot (is that even a symptom of early pregnancy? Seriously), and only the slimmest of slim possibilities that I could actually be pregnant based on the timing of things. Dang minds and bodies. All doing stuff. Peeing a lot was one of my first pregnancy symptoms. Hope you enjoy going 11 times during the night, because I SURE DID! I pretty much knew I was pregnant when my eating habits changed, but the peeing confirmed it for me. I'd still take a pregnancy test just in case, because I too ovulated, and literally that week we conceived. Stranger poo poo has happened.
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Speaking of week-by-week, I bought this spiral bound book: The Pregnancy Journal: A Day-to-Day Guide to a Healthy and Happy Pregnancy. It's less than $14 on Amazon and gives you information about the baby, about mommy, food facts, and other helpful info every single day. Each day takes up about half a page, and there is space for recording your notes, moods, etc. I'm finding it very interesting and informative while I'm trying to conceive, and it will only get more meaningful when I'm pregnant and can fill in the dates that count down to my due date. There are a lot of these types of journals, guides, and other books out there, but I found I like the daily quick update.
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Hastings posted:Peeing a lot was one of my first pregnancy symptoms. Hope you enjoy going 11 times during the night, because I SURE DID! I pretty much knew I was pregnant when my eating habits changed, but the peeing confirmed it for me. I'd still take a pregnancy test just in case, because I too ovulated, and literally that week we conceived. Stranger poo poo has happened. I'm going to give it another week or so, since it'd be way too early to show up on a test. My ovulation got pushed back by a few days because I had the flu right at the beginning of this cycle, but if I haven't started a new cycle in the next ten days or if my temps take another jump, I'll be prepared for the possibility.
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Valdara posted:I'm going to give it another week or so, since it'd be way too early to show up on a test. My ovulation got pushed back by a few days because I had the flu right at the beginning of this cycle, but if I haven't started a new cycle in the next ten days or if my temps take another jump, I'll be prepared for the possibility. That is definitely a good course of action, and I learned that the hard way. I took a pregnancy test the day I was supposed to have missed my period and I got a negative which led to me bawling to my husband because I was totally convinced I was knocked up. He said, "You know, you're being kind of hysterical given that we just started trying and you haven't even fully missed a cycle." Sure enough, my temps stayed elevated, ended up with no period still after ten days and staring at a positive at 4 am. Don't psych yourself up, but definitely watch over this week your eating habits, sexual appetite, and overall moods. Usually those symptoms are psychosomatic on very rare occasions and after long term obsession/stress. I actually posted to the Goon Doctors about some of my symptoms, because I totally thought it was insane that after ovulating I all of a sudden couldn't stop eating and having sex like a crazed gorilla, so I know why your first guess would be psychosomatic.
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Is it just me, or is the waiting period between ovulation and period/no period the longest duration of time that exists? Two to three weeks just isn't that long, but here I am, trying to figure out how after what feels like ages, I still have two weeks to go. *frustration*
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Hastings posted:That is definitely a good course of action, and I learned that the hard way. I took a pregnancy test the day I was supposed to have missed my period and I got a negative which led to me bawling to my husband because I was totally convinced I was knocked up. He said, "You know, you're being kind of hysterical given that we just started trying and you haven't even fully missed a cycle." Sure enough, my temps stayed elevated, ended up with no period still after ten days and staring at a positive at 4 am. Don't psych yourself up, but definitely watch over this week your eating habits, sexual appetite, and overall moods. Usually those symptoms are psychosomatic on very rare occasions and after long term obsession/stress. I actually posted to the Goon Doctors about some of my symptoms, because I totally thought it was insane that after ovulating I all of a sudden couldn't stop eating and having sex like a crazed gorilla, so I know why your first guess would be psychosomatic. Straight up psychosomatic. My cycle started today, although it is one of the horrible, heavy, bad cycles like I had before I went on the pill, plus I had the flu for three weeks at the beginning of last cycle, which easily could have thrown things for a loop. I don't doubt my body was doing crazy things, and since I have babies on the mind, they seemed to match what I'd been reading a lot about lately. I'm a little sad, but mostly relieved, since getting pregnant now would defeat our plans of having a baby around the school calendar and quite possibly make me have to miss the beginning of the school year and/or lose my job (private school, so we're all on yearly contracts). In the end, getting knocked up any time between now and June are fine, and if we are having problems, we'll figure out what to do then. Edit: After further research, I'm thinking possibly chemical pregnancy, although it was awfully early for such a thing. Also, this means I can finally take pain meds for my back again. Or drink a beer. But definitely not both at the same time. Valdara fucked around with this message at 04:21 on Jan 27, 2013 |
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Well, I'm off to the doctor again to see if he can do some tests or something to figure out what the hell is going on in my uterus.  I've been off the pill for seven months now and I've had two periods since then. Hopefully this time he'll send me to have some tests done or something rather than just telling me to come back again if nothing happens in a few months. I'm a pretty patient person but I'm not getting any younger 
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