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Cthulu Carl: Apr 16, 2006

Absurd Alhazred posted:

That was a load-bearing cavity!

Where am I going to keep snacks for later now?!

# ? May 24, 2022 23:19

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# ? May 28, 2024 12:09

sephiRoth IRA: Jun 13, 2007; "Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."

-Carl Sagan

thotsky posted:

its like a porn thing tho is it not? i don't think it is meant to look realistic

I mean I'm not gonna say you're wrong given the far reaching influence of smut, but is it really?!

# ? May 24, 2022 23:20

Kuros: Sep 13, 2010; Oh look, the consequences of my prior actions are finally catching up to me.

Absurd Alhazred posted:

That was a load-bearing cavity!

I'll take "Things that could be innuendo" for $200.

# ? May 24, 2022 23:21

Quackles: Aug 11, 2018; Pixels of Light.

thotsky posted:

i don't think it is meant to look realistic

Oh, like the cel-shaded jeans.

# ? May 24, 2022 23:23

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

Quackles posted:

Oh, like the cel-shaded jeans.

Take me on, I'll be gone.

# ? May 24, 2022 23:25

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

thotsky posted:

its like a porn thing tho is it not? i don't think it is meant to look realistic

I genuinely have no idea where you got this being a Porn Thing or not meant to be realistic from.

https://www.instyle.com/beauty/skin/freckle-tattoos-trend

one of the first Google results

# ? May 25, 2022 00:03

Solenna: Jun 5, 2003; I'd say it was your manifest destiny not to.

Propaniac posted:

Introducing "The Couple Who Needs Bigger Problems To Worry About."

Wife blames me for toothache!

From comments:

As a reminder: This is because she's having some tooth sensitivity after getting a cavity filled.

Not to mention, if she had a filling then she didn't have perfect teeth!

# ? May 25, 2022 00:09

Pomme de Terror: Sep 30, 2021; Well, one of us must have killed him!

Give me all of your time!

AITA for begging my daughter not to have any more children?

quote:

I (58F) and my husband, Rob (61M) have 2 kids Erica (35F) and Mike (30M). Both kids are married but Erica and her husband Steve (38M) live nearby to us and this issue concerns them. They work full-time and have 2 kids (5M & 4F). 5 years ago my daughter asked my husband and me if we would be willing to become their full-time childcare so she could continue to work and afford their comfortable life.

We agreed, but we didn't discuss much more than watching the baby and their expectations. I was a teacher and retired 2 years before I could take my pension so my husband continued to work and we made a few sacrifices like vacations and adding to our savings but we were able to make it work so I could take my full pension at 55 and my husband retired a year later.

Our arrangement worked and we enjoyed having the kids except by year 3 (2020) we started to feel like they were taking advantage of our help. In 2020 during the lockdown, they were both working from home, they expected us to keep the kids all day, and we wanted to split time week since their preschool/daycare was closed. we settled on 2 with them and 3 with us and my SIL complained about it pretty much every day. Things got better when the kids were able to school.

Fast forward to year 4 (2021) we have a bit of a blowup over kindergarten. My daughter did not want 5M to start school in the unknown but I insisted that he needed to go because I needed the break. I also asked for 4F to spend more time at the preschool/daycare program, SIL complained about the cost but I pushed anyway. They relented and then this past spring SIL pushed for us to take the kids for a week so they could go on a vacation, we said they had to take the kids and he said: "they couldn't afford it." No one went on vacation.

Maybe that is too much background but I feel like the context is important for what I said. My daughter and I were casually having a conversation the other day and she mentioned she had an OBGYN appointment and tests. I asked if everything was okay and she said Steve and her were trying for baby #3. I asked her what her childcare plan was and she looked at me like I was crazy and said us! I said that it would have been nice if she told me this before trying for another baby, she said it is none of my business, I said it is if I'm providing 5 more years of babysitting! I then told her that we were not a viable childcare option for a new baby and begged her to reconsider. 4F is going off to kindergarten, we feel like we are getting our days back to some extent and refuse to start all over again with an infant. Erica said we are making her choose between her dream of 3 kids and financial stability. I argued that she has two beautiful children and they are financially stable, they shouldn't ruin that with another baby.

I might be TA because Erica feels like we should have told her sooner, I feel like I am not because I never agreed to a lifetime of raising their kids.

Edit: We will continue to watch our two grandchildren after school and during the summer as this is what we have agreed to and we enjoy it. School provides a nice break for us and then we do fun things with the kids in the summer. We just don't want to start again with another baby.

Edit 2: Just to add a bit more context and I want to answer some of the comments I am seeing a lot.

-we are not paid and we didn�t ask to be. I retired early but would have stayed longer if we didn�t watch our grandkids. I probably would have put in another 5 years or so because I loved my job so putting those 5 years into helping my daughter and grandchildren wasn�t a problem. My husband and I did a good job of preparing for retirement and felt we could swing it.

-we do take time for ourselves. We require 5 weeks a year at a minimum to travel, visit our son or other family. We settled on 5 because our daughter gets 3 weeks of vacation a year and SIL get 2. At first, SIL complained that him and my daughter would never get a vacation together. We said they would just simply have to arrange other care options if they want time together so we could still have our 5 weeks. We do hold them to this and one time in the past 5 years his parents came down to stay with them and watch the kids during that week we were away.

In terms of telling her not to have another baby, I was trying to make her see everything she does have and to focus less on what she doesn�t have. I would never tell a woman what to do with her body but she is my daughter and I don�t want to see her hurting.

Lastly, my daughter and SIL have plenty of money and are responsible when it comes to costs, if anything, my SIL is cheap so I think their version of stability and many others at be very different.

# ? May 25, 2022 00:15

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

Pomme de Terror posted:

Give me all of your time!

AITA for begging my daughter not to have any more children?

You know you're exhausted when you insist your 5 year old grandkid go to kindergarten despite covid worry!

# ? May 25, 2022 00:26

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for locking the door to prevent my husband from getting involved in my job interview?

quote:

I (/F33) am unemployed but God knows I had been looking for jobs (I'm a sale's rep) for well over 5 months, right after I recovered from my knee surgery.

My husband has a high paying job, first he suggested I leave my career as sales rep behind [not up to his wealthy family's standards, they'd mocked me for it a lot] and stay home but I refused because I love my job and want to grow in it. he suggested he finds me a better job since he has connections but that's not in my field.

I've had several job interviews and my husband has ruined all of them for me and here's how: he'd walk into the room whenever I'm having a potential job interview and introduce himself and take over the conversation with the interviewer, he'd tell them about how good I am but slip in some bad stuff that eventually cost me the job. His argument was that he's just making "recommandations" since he's connections and "influence" but I told him to stop and let me handle it. He sulked saying he was just trying to "guide me" and whatnot.

Several days ago, I'd gotten a job interview and after getting inside the room and before the interview started I locked the door. My husband tried to come in and started knocking on the door asking why I was locking the door and telling me to let him in. I put my headphones on and used noise cancelling but he kept knocking telling me to open the door.

After the interview was over I unlocked the door and walked out. He went off on me calling me disrespectful and awful to lock him out like that. I said I was sorry I wanted to work for this company so badly and I couldn't let him ruin it for me. He got offended and said that I was being petty and childish and also ungrateful because of the stunt I pulled and said that he was trying to help me get the best deal out there. I said I'm not a child but he said that yes I was especially with how I behaved and for "excluding" him from my interview.

# ? May 25, 2022 01:02

Kurieg: Jul 19, 2012; RIP Lutri: 5/19/20-4/2/20

Pigsfeet on Rye posted:

Honestly, fake freckles look like the blackheads that a pimple popper would go nuts over.

Yes, can confirm, this is making my skin itch just looking at it.

# ? May 25, 2022 01:02

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

tired gay and dead posted:

I mean it seems like she's not super into the specific traditions of what type of kimono to get and just wanted something nice to wear

I think it might be hard for someone who hasn�t lived there to understand how much this just does not exist around a dress kimono for your Japanese sister�s wedding in Japan. Like, that is the least plausible part of the story and actually makes me think it might not be real.

# ? May 25, 2022 01:04

The Glumslinger: Sep 24, 2008; Coach Nagy, you want me to throw to WHAT side of the field?; Hair Elf

I'm waiting for the creative writing flipped version in a few months where the Japanese BF fucks up and buys a traditional French dress for the GF's sister's wedding in London

# ? May 25, 2022 01:11

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

Piell posted:

AITA for locking the door to prevent my husband from getting involved in my job interview?

Start a new career putting life insurance on your husband and then murdering him

# ? May 25, 2022 01:13

Malachite_Dragon: Mar 31, 2010; Weaving Merry Christmas magic

Piell posted:

AITA for locking the door to prevent my husband from getting involved in my job interview?

Dude is definitely trying to torpedo her interviews so she'll continue to stay home at all times.

# ? May 25, 2022 01:13

Guildenstern Mother: Mar 31, 2010; Why walk when you can ride?

Piell posted:

AITA for locking the door to prevent my husband from getting involved in my job interview?

Start showing up at his meetings to help. Ideally while the lawyers prepping the divorce papers

# ? May 25, 2022 01:13

Fezz: Aug 31, 2001; You should feel ashamed.

AITA for telling my brother he can also be dead to me?

quote:

I (17f) recently found out my father has a second family. My mom has since then filed for divorce. My father has been trying to Get me and my brother(15) to have a relationship with his other kids (17f, 16f, 9m). We were having dinner at my father, my father let us know he was overjoyed to have all his kids in one room. The 17f mentioned that she was overjoyed had the opportunity to meet us. She always had to watch from a distance but is happy to finally have a relationship with us. I was not engaging in the conversation a lot . In fact was getting annoyed but I was able to keep my annoyance unnoticeable, until he called the 16f toti and she confidently told my brother that it was her special nickname. my brother looked at me in horror, because he knew I was about to lose my poo poo and my dad knew too. He knew that he messed up. again. I got up calmly told my dad that he was loving dead to me. I told his kids that they’re awesome but I don’t want to have a relationship with them. I walked out, my brother of course chased after me because I was his ride home. My brother on the way home told me I overreacted and that it wasn’t that serious. I interrupted him and said that he can also be dead to me if he doesn’t choose his next words carefully. He just said nvm.

That nickname is special to me. My grandpa (moms dad) gave me that nickname because he thought that it was extraordinary that I was able to walk at 7/8 months old. He never called me by my name, always by my nickname. He even said a my nickname over and over again when he was on his deathbed. It’s so special to me even-though It just means small in my language. A language that I know my father doesn’t speak. He only speaks English. And I’m not going to share that nickname with someone that doesn’t even know what it means. Especially not my fathers other kid.

My brother knows how much that nickname means to me. I maybe shouldn’t have said that to him but he also shouldn’t have said that to me. Thus why I feel like he deserved it. My brother is really upset and my mom feels like I shouldn’t have reacted in that way, but I feel justified in my reaction because. it was my special nickname and my father just gave it to somebody else. My brother didn’t show an ounce of sympathy for me. My mom said that my father and brother don’t have to be my enemy. I agree my brother isn’t my enemy but my father will be my enemy until the day he dies. So am I the rear end in a top hat for telling my brother that he can also be dead to me?

Dad is a tremendous piece of poo poo.

# ? May 25, 2022 01:30

Doc Hawkins: Jun 15, 2010; Dashing? But I'm not even moving!

duck trucker posted:

Flash forward to 2030 when she sends him to pick up their child from school and he brings home some random Malaysian child

"oh, so it's a BAD thing that i don't see race?!"

Piell posted:

AITA for locking the door to prevent my husband from getting involved in my job interview?

run now before this dude The Shining-s your door and Misery-s you

# ? May 25, 2022 01:46

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

Piell posted:

AITA for locking the door to prevent my husband from getting involved in my job interview?

wasn't there one like this except the guy's wife was pounding on the door so loud she disrupted the interview anyway? idk how these people are so stupid that they let their partners sabotage them so transparently

# ? May 25, 2022 02:33

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

Foo Diddley posted:

wasn't there one like this except the guy's wife was pounding on the door so loud she disrupted the interview anyway? idk how these people are so stupid that they let their partners sabotage them so transparently

Yeah plus her hand reaching under the door like something from the shining

# ? May 25, 2022 02:43

Rescue Toaster: Mar 13, 2003

Foo Diddley posted:

wasn't there one like this except the guy's wife was pounding on the door so loud she disrupted the interview anyway? idk how these people are so stupid that they let their partners sabotage them so transparently

Cir-CUM-fer-Ence. Tee-Hee!

Actually I think that was the new mom going insane during her husband's wfh teaching gig.

# ? May 25, 2022 02:45

BrigadierSensible: Feb 16, 2012; I've got a pocket full of cheese🧀, and a garden full of trees🌴.

Piell posted:

AITA for locking the door to prevent my husband from getting involved in my job interview?

Whether the dude is intentionally tanking his wife's interviews, (He definitely is), is the secondary concern.

Who the gently caress barges in on someone elses job interview? Who feels so entitled to their wifes time, privacy, and agency, that they can barge in to a room where they know the wife is having a job interview, force their way on to the zoom, (or whatever), call and then proceed to take over the conversation?

That is multiple layers of disrespectful and awful behavior. Then you add in that he is trying to make his wife stay at home against her will, he talks for her in HER job interviews, (you know because she is HIS wife, and therefore he can speak for her whilst she is only a woman so what she says about herself is not as important/valid). His bullshit "but I'm helping!" excuse s hosed up. as well.

And whilst I don't blame the companies for not giving her a job after her husband barged his way into a job interview that was not his, (who want's to have to deal with that kind of poo poo on the regular). I would also ask what kind of interviewer lets it happen? Surely a polite but firm, "Excuse me sir, but I am interviewing (Wife's name) for a job, not you. This is personal and important. Please get off the call." Or maybe a "If this is a bad time, can I schedule a different time when we can talk to (Wife's name) in private about this job opportunity.".

Both of those are better than "Oh, our applicant's husband has appeared on a private job interview. Better let him take the questions then."

But most importantly, she should divorce the prick, and hopefully find a good job on her own.

BrigadierSensible fucked around with this message at 02:52 on May 25, 2022

# ? May 25, 2022 02:50

Foo Diddley: Oct 29, 2011; cat

AITA for sending my dying mother to hospic because of what she said?

quote:

I (30M) lost my wife 5 years ago. She had a 10M son who I got custody of after she passed (bio father signed off parental rights at birth and never even met the kid) and we had a 6F daughter together. My 10yro son (I consider him my son in any way) has Down's syndrome.

My dying mother asked to come live with me two weeks ago to spend more time with us, because she is dying and has only months left to live. I told her she can come spend a week here first (she is here now) and we'll see how it works for everyone, most of all the kids.

She came, things were going okay. Then a few days ago she special ordered a new set of toys for my 6yro (a REALLY expensive one) which I let fly, even though I don't normally just let my kids choose hundreds of dollars worth of toys, but I get that she was trying to do something nice for her grandkids.

Then today the set arrived just before dinner and at dinner I asked my son what toys he chose. He said he didn't choose any toys. I asked my mom what he chose (my son sometimes mixes things up and I thought hee just forgot) and she said that she only bought the toys for "her grandbaby". I said that she has two grandkids, because I have two children. Then she said "he's not your son". I told the kids to go play in the living room, and told my mother that this kind of talking is unacceptable in my house.

She then said "it's true, you have no obligation here, you should go foster care or stick it in a facility before your life is ruined". I flipped out, called her all sorts of names, and told her I'll be calling hospice first thing in the morning and have them take her the same day (which I did).

She cried all night, begged me to not make her go die alone in a hospic, but I said she crossed a line and I'm done.

My aunts called me an AH, some of my friends said I should just let it go because her time is limited, and my sister ( who lives abroad) said it was just plain cruel. My cousin said what she said was awful and I did the right thing. I feel a little bit guilty over it anyway. Aita?

Eta: I will still visit my mother in hospice if she wants me to (saying this because many people mentioned it).

yeah? i'll show you a fuckin' facility

# ? May 25, 2022 03:00

AreWeDrunkYet: Jul 8, 2006

Piell posted:

AITA for locking the door to prevent my husband from getting involved in my job interview?

Everyone's covered the obvious controlling and abusive behavior here, but it's weird that sales isn't "up to their standards" for the husband or his family. That's the classic job path for people to maintain a white collar lifestyle with connections while not actually doing anything productive, what's the problem?

# ? May 25, 2022 03:03

Mr. Lobe: Feb 23, 2007; ... Dry bones...

Foo Diddley posted:

AITA for sending my dying mother to hospic because of what she said?

yeah? i'll show you a fuckin' facility

Once again, a lot of moaning and crying from people unwilling to take in the offending person

# ? May 25, 2022 03:12

Brawnfire: Jul 13, 2004; 🎧Listen to Cylindricule!🎵
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pentyne posted:

Yeah plus her hand reaching under the door like something from the shining

I think she started pushing like papers or napkins into the top of door so they'd flutter down behind him in the video frame lmao

# ? May 25, 2022 03:19

Dewgy: Nov 10, 2005; ~🚚special delivery~📦

Foo Diddley posted:

AITA for sending my dying mother to hospic because of what she said?

yeah? i'll show you a fuckin' facility

Literally choosing the hill to die on lmfao

# ? May 25, 2022 03:19

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

Fezz posted:

AITA for telling my brother he can also be dead to me?

Dad is a tremendous piece of poo poo.

The only good thing my dad ever did when he was having all of his girlfriends and multiple affairs throughout my parents 20 year marriage, was get a vasectomy right after my brother was born. He was cruel and emotionally abusive but even he was smart enough that he didn't want more kids running around. More evidence, more bills, he much prefer to spend his money on the girlfriends and not any oopsies that might have happened.

# ? May 25, 2022 03:24

Baron von Eevl: Jan 24, 2005; WHITE NOISE
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:

Everyone's covered the obvious controlling and abusive behavior here, but it's weird that sales isn't "up to their standards" for the husband or his family. That's the classic job path for people to maintain a white collar lifestyle with connections while not actually doing anything productive, what's the problem?

"Sales" can also be retail or direct marketing.

# ? May 25, 2022 03:24

Mr. Lobe: Feb 23, 2007; ... Dry bones...

Brawnfire posted:

I think she started pushing like papers or napkins into the top of door so they'd flutter down behind him in the video frame lmao

I wonder whatever happened to that couple.

# ? May 25, 2022 03:24

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

Mr. Lobe posted:

I wonder whatever happened to that couple.

Shoving divorce papers through the top of the door, one at a time, so they flutter down.

# ? May 25, 2022 03:55

Cowslips Warren: Oct 29, 2005; What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?; Grimey Drawer

AITA for getting my sister in trouble for catfishing with my face

quote:

Recently my (16F) sister (12F) has been acting suspicious cause when ever she would get a discord notification on her phone she would immediately pull it away or look around to make sure nobody saw

At first i didnt think anything of it cause she wanted her privacy and i respect that but i brought it up mentioned if she was dating anyone online be aware and just warning her about getting groomed or catfished, she started to yell at me for �calling her dumb� and mocking her

Thats when i knew something was off cause she never really acted like that. So later that night i logged into her discord as our mom set it up for her and makes her use the same password and email for everything and i started to click through dms

I know it was wrong to go through her privacy but something was just wrong. A message pop up and it was a guy so i started reading through those dms

Apparently she was saying that she was 17 years old and was using photos of me to cat fish him, the guy she was talking to seemed like a genuinely nice guy. So i messaged him a paragraph explaining what was happening and how he was actually talking to my 13 year old sister using my photo and he was immediately put off by it

The guy apologized multiple times and said if he known how old my sister really was he would of never added her

After that i went straight to my mom and told her everything and my mom was beyond pissed at my sister. They were yelling at each other all night and my sister lost all her electronics for the rest of the summer and when she does get her stuff back she isnt allowed to use discord and her messages will be monitored

Of course my sister was extremely upset and a day later she barged into my room yelling and crying saying that �i took away the only good thing she had� and i tried to explain to her that the guy she was talking to could of got into serious trouble and it was wrong of her to use my face

When i tried explaining that she like leaped onto me like a rabid dog and tried yanking my hair and so i flipped her on her back and dropped her. I knocked her breath out of her. She kicked at me and kept trying to fight more as i was finally able to push her out of my room and close and lock the door.

I was talking to my friend about what happened and my friend said that i handled the whole situation wrong and that everyone went through the online discord dating and using fake photos and such and how by telling our mom and her receiving an �extremely unfair� punishment that will ruin her summer

Who the gently caress are these friends?

No man, sister, you're a square for not letting your face be used! Also, let your preteen sister message older dudes, it's what all the cool kids do!

# ? May 25, 2022 03:59

Jabor: Jul 16, 2010; #1 Loser at SpaceChem

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for getting my sister in trouble for catfishing with my face

Who the gently caress are these friends?

No man, sister, you're a square for not letting your face be used! Also, let your preteen sister message older dudes, it's what all the cool kids do!

I assume they're other 16 year olds, OP.

# ? May 25, 2022 04:03

AreWeDrunkYet: Jul 8, 2006

Baron von Eevl posted:

"Sales" can also be retail or direct marketing.

Would either of those involve remote interviews? It seems like she's going for a corporate sales role.

Not to say that the husband isn't massive piece of poo poo for his behavior, just that her aspiration for a sales job doesn't make her sympathetic.

# ? May 25, 2022 04:03

endlessmonotony: Nov 4, 2009; by Fritz the Horse

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for getting my sister in trouble for catfishing with my face

Who the gently caress are these friends?

No man, sister, you're a square for not letting your face be used! Also, let your preteen sister message older dudes, it's what all the cool kids do!

Man, teenagers can be incredibly dumb.

The preteen too, but these friends are real stupid.

# ? May 25, 2022 04:05

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

Cowslips Warren posted:

AITA for getting my sister in trouble for catfishing with my face

Who the gently caress are these friends?

No man, sister, you're a square for not letting your face be used! Also, let your preteen sister message older dudes, it's what all the cool kids do!

those friends told on themselves super hard if the idea that being 13 and trying to date much older dudes via discord was a completely normal thing for them

# ? May 25, 2022 04:09

Ghost Leviathan: Mar 2, 2017; Exploration is ill-advised.

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

The US is pretty heartless, but at least there are few homeless elderly people. How are their combined social security checks not enough to pay rent somewhere?

Last I heard, the homeless elderly are actually going WAY up. So many boomers and Gen X took social security for granted apparently.

# ? May 25, 2022 04:37

Absurd Alhazred: Mar 27, 2010; by Athanatos

Ghost Leviathan posted:

Last I heard, the homeless elderly are actually going WAY up. So many boomers and Gen X took social security for granted apparently.

Kept voting for government to stop giving out entitlements, then when it came time for their entitlement... :confused:

# ? May 25, 2022 04:42

pentyne: Nov 7, 2012

Ghost Leviathan posted:

Last I heard, the homeless elderly are actually going WAY up. So many boomers and Gen X took social security for granted apparently.

That plus the people getting wiped out because they clicked "donate $500 to TRUMP SAVES AMERICA" and it was actually a monthly charge they didn't catch until it was too late

# ? May 25, 2022 04:42

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Barudak: May 7, 2007

The first people retiring where their whole career was 401k is happening now and boyooooooo its not good. Its something like average amount saved of 200,000 usd

# ? May 25, 2022 04:45

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