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It took me probably 6 months of my toddler sleeping through the night before I stopped having the random wake up in a panic thinking I heard crying.
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The kid in the daycare who was always the first sign of an illness coming left for a few months for whatever reason and came back last week. Yesterday, we get a message from daycare about some cough going around. When I dropped my son off this morning, that kid was the only other one there and he of course had a runny nose. Thinking those few months were spent developing a powerful virus. King Hong Kong fucked around with this message at 16:19 on Jan 17, 2024 |
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I wouldn’t trade WFH for anything, but no school, no nap, no outdoor playtime days like yesterday make me wish for a commute longer than ‘open the office door’ to transition from work mode to dad mode.
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Jan 17, 2024 16:25
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orange sky posted:Same! Also a future boy dad. I think the Tate fans come from feeling unlovable and responding with outward aggression. I'm betting that loving my kid as unjudgementally as I can (and some coaching) will let him see those dudes as the lonely, hateful pricks they are.
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Jan 17, 2024 16:48
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If you're actively worried about your kid turning out like Andrew Tate, chances are your kid won't turn out like Andrew Tate.
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Jan 17, 2024 17:07
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CarForumPoster posted:Also a future boy dad. I think the Tate fans come from feeling unlovable and responding with outward aggression. I'm betting that loving my kid as unjudgementally as I can (and some coaching) will let him see those dudes as the lonely, hateful pricks they are. My fear is that my kid is going to be as gullible as me and he's going to get in with the wrong crowd. I guess the one thing I can do is teach him more street smarts than I had as a kid.
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Jan 17, 2024 17:15
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Renegret posted:My fear is that my kid is going to be as gullible as me and he's going to get in with the wrong crowd. I guess the one thing I can do is teach him more street smarts than I had as a kid. https://youtu.be/cdgfFMxgLfI?si=--dxomtcXNs_uKOu
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Jan 17, 2024 17:22
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King Hong Kong posted:The kid in the daycare who was always the first sign of an illness coming left for a few months for whatever reason and came back last week. Yesterday, we get a message from daycare about some cough going around. When I dropped my son off this morning, that kid was the only other one there and he of course had a runny nose. This reminds me of my wife and i’s (pre children) honeymoon in Nicaragua, where we met an extremely crunchy couple from the west coast that was wrapping up their month in south/central America with their 6 year old. They recounted, among other adventures, how he was a champ kayaking down the amazon river. At no point in any of our interactions did he look like he was having a good time. Maybe that’s where your kids classmate was!
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Jan 17, 2024 17:32
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I guess I'm also afraid of bullying. There's a zoomer my mom babysat. Sweetest girl I've ever met. She also spent her life being bullied and is now an extremely hosed up adult from it. On her last day of middle school, another student went up to her and said she liked her watch and wanted to see it. When kiddo stuck her arm out to show off her watch, the bully grabbed her forearm, jammed her fingernail into her skin, and pulled it down deep enough to require stitches. The school administration of course had the stereotypical "you're going to ruin this child's life over a mistake??" response when mom showed up wanting to press charges. Such a hosed up thing to say when the victim is getting loaded into an ambulance. This was just one event in a lifetime of problems so bad she ended up dropping out of high school just to escape it all. It breaks my heart. I was bullied, my wife was bullied, my brother had it bad enough to affect him as an adult as well. I don't want that life for my kids. So my wife has already laid down the parenting law that, if a bully starts poo poo with you, we're going to have your back when you finish it. I don't support violence so I'm having a hard time accepting it, but I don't have any better ideas. I just don't trust the school system to protect my kids. Thankfully it hasn't come into play yet but kindergarten is already next year and we live in a not so great district.
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Jan 17, 2024 17:42
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lmao Kinda reminded me of a good story my wife told me. One day she was outside the house in the front lawn playing by herself when a white windowless van pulls up. The guy inside says, hey my dog just gave birth and I have a bunch of puppies in my van, you wanna come over here and see some cute puppies? My wife, with her STREET SMARTS, flips the gently caress out and runs inside screaming like she had never screamed before in her life. Her dad comes out to confront the man, and immediately recognizes him as the neighbor a few houses down. Turns out he was telling the truth, he had a van full of puppies and was so excited he just wanted to share in his excitement. For some reason it hasn't occurred to him that, like, you can't do that
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Jan 17, 2024 17:57
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BaseballPCHiker posted:It took me probably 6 months of my toddler sleeping through the night before I stopped having the random wake up in a panic thinking I heard crying. I still do this. Even (especially) when she's spending the night at Grandma's in the next city over
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Jan 17, 2024 19:38
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OneSizeFitsAll posted:If you're actively worried about your kid turning out like Andrew Tate, chances are your kid won't turn out like Andrew Tate. ok, but what if my kid turns out like andrew tate?
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Jan 17, 2024 20:29
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My boy has had croup for a couple nights now. He's pretty fine during the daytime but at night the stridor really comes out. It's loud enough to set off the baby monitor activity alert. It's pretty  to hear his weird breathing.At least I recovered from the covid pretty well, now he's just got to bounce back.
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Jan 17, 2024 20:33
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illcendiary posted:Welcome friend. Your life is going to change forever very soon. It’s going to be awesome and scary and infuriating and wonderful, consider investing in a Snoo if you do this please watch the videos before hand i fcuked up and didn't realize how to prep the baby for the snoo and well, it was a nice clotheshamper for awhile.
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Jan 17, 2024 21:14
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OneSizeFitsAll posted:If you're actively worried about your kid turning out like Andrew Tate, chances are your kid won't turn out like Andrew Tate. Worrying about something isn't the same thing as actually doing something about it, and considering that there are numerous forces actively trying to pull young men and boys into the alt-right/manbaby-rage pipeline, proactive prevention is probably a smart idea.
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Jan 17, 2024 21:15
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Eeyo posted:ok, but what if my kid turns out like andrew tate? Throw out the kid and start over.
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Jan 17, 2024 21:15
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One of my friends was saying his nephew's a nice 12 year old and he just found out he watches andrew tate all the time because that's what his friends watch and talk about at school and he doesn't want to be excluded I got no ideas for how you handle that poo poo other than just constantly setting a counter example
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Jan 17, 2024 21:19
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Chillmatic posted:Worrying about something isn't the same thing as actually doing something about it, and considering that there are numerous forces actively trying to pull young men and boys into the alt-right/manbaby-rage pipeline, proactive prevention is probably a smart idea. The point is that if you are worried about it then the chances are that you are a conscientious parent who will work hard to raise a child who is not like that. No, worrying about something is not the same as doing something about it, but it totally follows that if you are an involved parent worried about a certain potential outcome you will parent accordingly, thus significantly (though not guaranteed, of course) reducing the chances of said outcome.
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Jan 17, 2024 21:22
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But remember that kids also naturally rebel so don't try too hard or they'll definitely Tate it up. We gotta just embrace our little sportos, motorheads, geeks, sluts, bloods, waistoids, dweebies, and dickheads.
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Jan 17, 2024 22:20
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I always worry about the Andrew Tate thing too, because I'm sure a lot of parents just kind of lose connection with their preteens and teenagers and the internet/peers can be very influential. My kid is a young toddler though, so it'll probably be a different popular misogynist by then. We're two moms, so there's already a lot of worry about his potential male role models. Mostly right now he is really into vehicles/trucks and just spends time with his grandfather, who is a standard masculine boomer dad but not really problematic in a way I'd worry about. On public schools - it's a minimum of five years away, but my wife and I have been in a disagreement on whether or not we should send our son to a local charter school. We're both public school kids, but we're a same-sex couple and Texas in the past couple of years has become very hostile to LGBTQ people (particularly in schools) and hostile to the public school system in general. All the queer parents in the Facebook groups rave about a specific charter school in town here that is very progressive and has a lot of queer parents, so she is interested in sending him there. But one, sending my kid to a charter school feels like a shot against the public schools (though we have no idea which school district we'll live in by then). Two, more importantly to me, this charter school has the second highest conscientious vaccine exemption rate in the entire county - 23.4% in 2022 vs. most charter and public schools in town being under 5%. Pre-pandemic, it was closer to 35% though, so maybe the culture there is changing? Again, not a current concern for years, but my wife keeps coming back to it. She thinks the risk of something actually going around is low, but I would worry about younger kids we may have by then who aren't finished with their shots.
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Jan 17, 2024 22:28
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There’s an unfortunately high overlap between liberal / hippie / non-vaccinating parenting circles. I haven’t lived in Texas in 30 years, but I could see how changing attitudes in the state could have driven those things to a very high concentration at this one school. Good thing is you can choose to wait a while. Maybe you won’t live in Texas! Maybe you’ll be in a different district, as you said. It’s important to feel out those convos and your relative viewpoints about it, but… I wouldn’t put a line in the sand now when there’s so much time and other factors that could make the whole thing moot.
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Jan 17, 2024 22:46
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Charter schools aren't anti public schools, they're still funded with public money. Charter schools are anti union and (among other things) teachers can be fired for a much wider range of reasons. Sometimes for performance reasons. That said charter schools often have better standardized results.
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Jan 17, 2024 22:54
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Slaan posted:Congrats y'all Don't trust the anti-hype: some* babies sleep really well, and will let you get a good night's sleep after a relatively short time of not doing same. * I have met several! You could be lucky! Also, as a recent boy-dad, I commiserate with everyone worried about raising an rear end in a top hat boy. He's barely two months old so I don't have much advice to share. My plan is to role model behaviours that I want him to pick up on, but other than that I feel like I'll be approaching the deep end of the pool as he nears school age. Hippie Hedgehog fucked around with this message at 23:04 on Jan 17, 2024 |
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Jan 17, 2024 22:59
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Hadlock posted:Charter schools aren't anti public schools, they're still funded with public money. Charter schools are anti union and (among other things) teachers can be fired for a much wider range of reasons. Sometimes for performance reasons. That said charter schools often have better standardized results. Charter schools are absolutely anti public school. They never should have happened. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news...chool-district/
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Jan 17, 2024 23:07
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Yeah it varies by state. In California charter schools get slightly less ($16,100) per student than public schools ($16,700) or 4%. If the school isn't converted to charter then yeah the district picks up the maintenance and staffing costs of running an underutilized school. Obviously it's a very charged topic. In my area (CA) one of the local public high schools converted to charter and lease the facility from the school district so the district isn't picking up expenses from lost students. In theory at least. I haven't looked into it much beyond that. Test scores and graduation rates are up more than 10% though.
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My plan is to relentlessly make fun of Andrew Tate when my son is 5 years old. I’ll report back results in 2036
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OneSizeFitsAll posted:The point is that if you are worried about it then the chances are that you are a conscientious parent who will work hard to raise a child who is not like that. No, worrying about something is not the same as doing something about it, but it totally follows that if you are an involved parent worried about a certain potential outcome you will parent accordingly, thus significantly (though not guaranteed, of course) reducing the chances of said outcome. I should clarify in more precise terms, that I'm basically saying you're naturally more inherently more likely to be proactive, preventative etc if you're concerned in the first place. As in was posting to be reassuring, rather than blasé. I'm certainly very actively conscious as a father how my attitudes and behaviour shape both my son and daughter's perceptions about relationships and healthy treatment of one's partner, and am constantly endeavouring through various means to instill thoughtful and conscientious attitudes in them, as likewise of course does my wife. Mistaken Frisbee posted:I always worry about the Andrew Tate thing too, because I'm sure a lot of parents just kind of lose connection with their preteens and teenagers and the internet/peers can be very influential. My kid is a young toddler though, so it'll probably be a different popular misogynist by then. We're two moms, so there's already a lot of worry about his potential male role models. Mostly right now he is really into vehicles/trucks and just spends time with his grandfather, who is a standard masculine boomer dad but not really problematic in a way I'd worry about. Do you have any close male friends or relatives who could take on a godfatherly (I don't mean this in a religious sense) or avuncular type role in his life as he grows? Also, positive male role models are not unimportant, but I reckon having two loving mums is probably also conducive towards a healthy respect for women! My daughter just turned 12 and has been getting more and more... teenagery for a good while, so I have lot of thoughts and feelings on the teenage thing, but not all of it relates to this and I might save it for another day.
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nachos posted:My plan is to relentlessly make fun of Andrew Tate when my son is 5 years old. I’ll report back results in 2036 Every time the name comes up, teach your kid to say "what's Taters, precious?" And then prance away singing "boil em, mash em, stick em in a stew"* *Maybe not actual good advice
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Send your kid to the best place you can, where they have the best opportunity for them. It'll take she research, and knowing your kid's academic needs. A typical smart kid still usually do well in most settings. I've had friends pull their kids out of private school, and place them in public because the competitive culture of the private school made her kid flounder. I've had friends put their kids in private school because of actual danger their children were in at the public school they went to. My oldest is gifted, and we've considered putting her in private school, but she also has ADHD, and the private school will not accommodate her special needs.
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adnam posted:if you do this please watch the videos before hand We used the SNOO for 6 months and I never saw a video or “prepped the baby”… what do you mean? You put him in the SNOO brand swaddle and slide the two clips on. Did I miss something?
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Must have skipped the anesthetic shot. Naptime's longer than you think, dad. Longer than you think...
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Hadlock posted:Test scores and graduation rates are up more than 10% though. Wonder why. I'm sure it's not because suddenly low performing kids were kicked out or simply not accepted.
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killer crane posted:My oldest is gifted, and we've considered putting her in private school, but she also has ADHD, and the private school will not accommodate her special needs. The usual advice for kids with IEP or 504 needs is to stay with public education, because most private schools will not accommodate. However, if your district underfunds and overloads the special education department, there are specialized private schools out there. My kid went from a (theoretical) 8:1:1 student:para:teacher ratio in math/English and mainstreamed with ‘accommodations‘ for other classes to 8:0:2 full-time and 1:1 with the reading specialist 3-4 days/week at their school now. Disciplinary referrals/ISS went from about every other week in public school to maybe three notes home in the last 2.5 years. Teaching grade level adapted standards, which is required in public education in my area unless you are in a mod/severe class, meant my kid was retaining basically nothing. And some teachers had no idea how to adapt their work for a kid reading at a K/1 level (worst offender was 7th grade health sending home 10 short answer questions plus vocabulary matching). Now my kid gets about an hour outside every day between recess and lunch, no homework, and they can read well enough to text, read road signs and bus schedules, and follow basic recipes.
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Sometimes glorious American capitalism really brings the goods - getting a snoo where I live would cost something like 2k, I'm pretty well off but I can't spend that money. Oh well, I'll spend it on therapy later for sleep deficiency induced psychosis
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My kid apparently ingested a hair at some point. It came out the other end intact and that possibility has derailed all potty-related activities for 2 days now.
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Pro: 4 month old is 19 pounds and growing like crazy Con: 4 month old in weighted swaddle feels like doing strongman work before sleep Pro: 4 month old has started inexplicably sleeping 8-6 every single night on a single dream feed Con: 4 month old’s maps are averaging 30 minutes a piece and trending down. How long does this sleep regression go? It was his first day at daycare today and he got a combined hour over 8 )974: in the building.
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Mistaken Frisbee posted:I always worry about the Andrew Tate thing too, because I'm sure a lot of parents just kind of lose connection with their preteens and teenagers and the internet/peers can be very influential. My kid is a young toddler though, so it'll probably be a different popular misogynist by then. We're two moms, so there's already a lot of worry about his potential male role models. Mostly right now he is really into vehicles/trucks and just spends time with his grandfather, who is a standard masculine boomer dad but not really problematic in a way I'd worry about. Does it matter if your normal immun functioning, vaxxed kid goes to a school with a measles outbreak? Serious question I’m bad at health science. If not, who cares?
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There still is about a 3 percent chance that the vaccine doesn’t confer immunity. Small but not negligible. Vaccines work best in a herd immunity setting. My 8 month old is dealing with excessive gas that keeps him up at night. The doctor just recommended upping the Simeticone dose since supposedly you cannot take too much of the stuff. Here’s hoping that it helps, our nights have been dreadful lately.
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Blinkz0rz posted:Wonder why. I'm sure it's not because suddenly low performing kids were kicked out or simply not accepted. Charter schools taking public money have to take all applicants within their district, up to ~110% of capacity. They're not private schools they're just independent of the local school district. At least in California
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quote:How long does this sleep regression go? It was his first day at daycare today and he got a combined hour over 8 )974: in the building. In my experience each one lasts a few weeks and they keep happening off and on until they're about 2.
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