Engagement and Wedding Megathread - You paid what for what?

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remigious: May 13, 2009; Destruction comes inevitably; Hell Gem

I hate to ask this, but what do I do if I don't like my engagement ring? I told him not to spend a ton of money and I knew I wasn't getting a real stone, but the stone he went with is way too large and it looks tacky. Should I be honest or just roll with it?

# ¿ Dec 31, 2014 00:56

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# ¿ Apr 28, 2024 18:36

remigious: May 13, 2009; Destruction comes inevitably; Hell Gem

testifeye posted:

I don't think there's one right answer to your question. There are probably cultural norms around gift giving and marriage that might influence what you choose to do.

If I were in your shoes, I would think it makes sense to be honest with my partner and tell him that the ring isn't right for me. Why start off this new chapter of my life feeling like I can't be myself, or say what I think? Why wear a representation of our relationship that doesn't feel right to me?

On the other hand, my relationship isn't summed up by some melted metal with stones sticking in it; it doesn't matter to me what the ring looks like at all. Maybe I know my partner and it's not worth hurting his feelings to get a ring I "want."

You could weigh both sides of things, but ultimately, I think it makes sense to do what feels right to YOU in the context of YOUR marriage.

I have given it some more thought, and I realized that I am just happy that we are getting married, and I think my admission would hurt his feelings, and I don't want that.

# ¿ Dec 31, 2014 05:10

remigious: May 13, 2009; Destruction comes inevitably; Hell Gem

Holy poo poo, the ring from that reddit post is hideous. My man and I spoke last night, and it turns out his plan was to buy fancy wedding bands instead of blowing his wad on the engagement ring, and we are going to shop for those together.

# ¿ Dec 31, 2014 18:49

remigious: May 13, 2009; Destruction comes inevitably; Hell Gem

Can anyone walk me through the name change process? I am in Oregon, if that helps. I thought that the way it works is I put the new name I want on the marriage license, but then when I went online to fill out the marriage license form it said the name I put down must match the name on my ID. Any advice would be appreciated, I don't want to screw this up.

# ¿ May 5, 2015 18:10

remigious: May 13, 2009; Destruction comes inevitably; Hell Gem

Thanks for the name change advice, everyone! That all sounds like a total pain in the butt.

# ¿ May 6, 2015 02:56

remigious: May 13, 2009; Destruction comes inevitably; Hell Gem

Well...I got my new Social Security card in the mail today, and they misspelled my middle name. It is supposed to be Elizabeth, and they spelled it on the card Elizebeth.
Jesus. Going to the SS office was a huge pain in the rear end in the first place and I am not eager to repeat the experience, so should I just accept that as my new middle name? As long as what I get on my new driver's license matches, it shouldn't create any problems in the future, right?

# ¿ Jul 7, 2015 20:36

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# ¿ Apr 28, 2024 18:36

remigious: May 13, 2009; Destruction comes inevitably; Hell Gem

Feral Integral posted:

Where can I find sub $500 moissanite engagement rings? poo poo in the op is all like mad expensive

I found mine on overstock.com. It�s lab grown but I get a lot of compliments on it. Doesn�t matter to me if it�s real or not

# ¿ Mar 8, 2023 20:51

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