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Nessa posted:You're right, and I have told my mom to get him to a mental health specialist before. She agrees that he could probably use some counseling, but doesn't really think he'd be diagnosed with anything serious. If he isn't going to be diagnosed with something, then what's the fear of taking him to get checked out? If he does need a specialist, then not taking him is a disservice and may be making his condition worse. Me may not be fully autistic, but he has all the hallmarks of someone on the autism spectrum. There may be some parental blindness involved, and anyway is she trained to actually diagnose symptoms? It's good that your brother has good role models. Some people can sometimes grow out of the less severe forms, but it's a risky gamble because the behavior can also get a lot worse. Having a role model to pattern himself after will definitely help, and giving him a reasonable amount of discipline is probably why he respects you. Children test boundaries to see what is and isn't allowed. If everything is permitted they will keep trying to find that boundary using more and more outlandish behavior, possibly learning how to manipulate people for what they want in the process. Having the power to check him is something worthy of respect, as is using a rational explanation rather than just a bare assertion of power. As something sort of on-topic, I've experience this first-hand with relatives. Two separate relatives' families had a Downs Syndrome child: one named Darryl, the other Charlie. Darryl's parents were religious ministers, and he was given strict rules of behavior and taught what was and was not acceptable. He's still a total flirt (he likes to get pictures taken with women, any woman really, including family members) and has occasional bathroom accidents, but he is welcome to any family gathering and restaurant. Charlie was originally going to be adopted, but when the biological father learned that he could get additional money for keeping the child he refused to sign the papers. He then proceeded to give token support to him and his mother, right up until Charlie's 18th birthday... and disappeared for good. In the meantime, Charlie had learned all the bad habits that come from a dissolute father and no discipline. He would steal money when visiting relatives' houses, he would rarely shower or wash his hands, he would track mud, oil, and grease through the houses, he was disrespectful and cursed inappropriately, and he would try to get young girls to sit on his lap. He had a few other distasteful habits, too, but you get the picture. When it comes to discipline I'm not saying "spare the rod and spoil the child," because if anyone was beaten it was probably Charlie, just that clear expectations and clear boundaries make things less stressful for everyone involved. It's especially true for people that may not be able to read body language or aware how their actions are being perceived. That goes for the "creepy but harmless" types - they literally cannot read when people are giving them the cold shoulder. A clear, no-excuse, no-ambiguity answer like "NO, this is not acceptable, it will NEVER be ok, stop doing this right now or I will call the police, I have no interest in you" has worked well in my experience. If it doesn't work, it's a lot easier to call the authorities because then it's clear they have no interest in your feelings and are probably dangerous. DarkHorse fucked around with this message at 19:52 on Jan 30, 2012 |
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# ¿ May 16, 2024 23:53 |
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Oh crap, I just remembered a short encounter with what probably was one of these guys. It was over quick and it isn't really that creepy in the least, but it was terribly awkward. I'd just moved to a new city, had no friends nearby, and was feeling adventurous and started talking to one of the apartment neighbors. He seemed a little weird and nerdy, but I was feeling confident and wanted to stretch my comfort zone. I asked if he'd be interested in playing video games, he said that sounded cool, and came into my apartment. And then selected a single player game. And played it for about an hour. Without talking to me once, except for the occasional ambiguous grunt when I'd ask him a question or spark conversation. I thought about asking if he wouldn't rather play a multiplayer game, but I'd long since learned that not-so-subtle hints didn't work right with his type. I ended up just telling him that he had to go, right now, polite but firm and no ambiguity or hints of, "maybe later". Later his much more functional sister made him come over and apologize, so that was kinda nice. I saw him occasionally working at the grocery store, but didn't interact with him beyond that.
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# ¿ Feb 7, 2012 05:20 |
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Space.Plant posted:- Is a homophobe. He hates homosexuality but not the homosexuals themselves. Don't ask me how that works. Also, to him, being gay is a choice. So basically, all these kids that desperately pray for God to change them, that hide and suppress their true feelings, that endure tons of failed relationships with the opposite sex, that deal with harrassment and mockery and threats and the occasional beating and murder... it's just a choice, man, and you can hate that choice while still "loving" the person. Because it's like drug addiction, or something
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# ¿ Feb 21, 2012 22:11 |
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It showed up in PYF Fandom Lunacy thread, though the PYF Brony Insanity thread is lovely in its creepiness and contained a copy of the post. http://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3474221&pagenumber=1#post401874248
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# ¿ Mar 30, 2012 16:07 |
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I love the way he's gently supporting it. What really gets me is the guitar on the right side - all that crazy and mis-sized armament, but you gotta make room in case you have to have a wicked solo!
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# ¿ Apr 14, 2012 16:09 |
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That is one broken, broken person and the most awkward wooing I have ever heard of. You just know that everything he did he considered the height of romance; archaic speech (he's an old-timey gentleman!), reading poetry (the soul of an artiste!), the whole "raw meat" thing (a tortured soul!), and then you had to ruin it all by running away with her (clearly because you were intimidated by his raw sexuality and afraid your girlfriend would give in to her lust). I bet he was congratulating himself on what a fine specimen he was the whole time. I still don't get how someone gets to the point of reading awkward poetry to someone in front of their significant other and carrying meat around in their pockets
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# ¿ Apr 18, 2012 01:18 |
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I think the most common onset of paranoid schizophrenia is in teens and early twenties when the mind is going through its last really huge structural change. There's still some baggage with people associating schizophrenia with "multiple personalities" so it's possible she just latched onto that as her mental processes started breaking down. Or she might be addicted to the attention, who knows. (Not a psychologist)
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# ¿ Jun 25, 2012 15:53 |
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Don't apologize, this is great, and your writing style is perfectly accessible.
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# ¿ Aug 24, 2012 02:35 |
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Captain Capacitor posted:Two updated images at the behest of an anonymous person:
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# ¿ Sep 5, 2012 20:20 |
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Nemesis Of Moles posted:I know a family who is, by all accounts, the neatest people on earth. They helped me out endlessly throughout my early years and had me over constantly. Great people, nicest folks I have ever met. Dudes getting jealous of each other and murdering all over the place, what's not to love?
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# ¿ Sep 10, 2012 19:20 |
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For what it's worth I liked your stories Haymaker_Betty, I just think people found aspects of them concerning.
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# ¿ Sep 13, 2012 03:09 |
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Blckdrgn posted:Time Witch It almost sounds like a person that is frustrated but has no idea how to approach people, so they come up with this weird oblique scenario.
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# ¿ Sep 19, 2012 23:15 |
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RazorBunny posted:I wish I had more stories, but we were friends in middle school and dated long-distance in high school (he was at boarding school), and I've actually either blocked or straight-up forgotten most of our relationship. I had a friend in highschool that followed a similar path. In high school he was a pretty accomplished martial artist, I think he even won some tournaments. The reason I'm not sure is that I found out he lied about just about everything. Over the course of our friendship, he said:
At this point the stuff he said was just plausible enough to either pass immediate inspection or else pass off as embarrassment. It was after I had graduated that he started to really go off the deep end:
All that stuff makes me wonder what else he was lying about. There are a lot of other inconsequential things I know he embellished or fabricated, but I don't know why. All I can guess is he felt the need to impress people and that he somehow wasn't good enough
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# ¿ Oct 18, 2012 17:07 |
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JohnOfOrdo3 posted:Thank you all for your advise and support. You don't deserve this, and making a poor decision does not excuse the way this person has treated you. You have nothing to be ashamed about, just get out of this situation.
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# ¿ Mar 2, 2013 21:53 |
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I am The Fury posted:You make some really solid points, obviously. I may have just originally gone with it because I was so loving lonely and she was the gateway to all the friends I have now. Now, of those friends, she is only really closer with one, maybe two of them than I am, so it isn't like severing with her will end all social possibilities like the situation used to be. Chicken Pox sucks hardcore, but thankfully does no permanent damage beyond a few pale scars if you get it as a child. You're hot, feverish, irritable, and feel bruised all over, and your skin itches like you've been assaulted by a swarm of mosquitoes. Getting the same virus as an adult (or if your immune system is compromised so the latent virus reemerges) results in debilitating pain and nerve damage, plus nasty rashes and suppurating wounds. From what I understand it usually either clears up as your immune system recovers or you're attacked by even nastier things and have to be hospitalized. She is using you for attention. Every time you interact with you she extracts a little bit of concern, or sympathy, or lust; something, anything, to make her feel better about herself. She has absolutely no regard for you, and will use you up and throw you away if you let her. The next time she threatens suicide, or says she has lost her memory, call the ambulance on her. No warning, no bargaining. If she's telling the truth, it's an emergency and needs to be handled by professionals immediately. If she's lying, she should have considered that before making claims and will have to live with the consequences. E: Because I'm a sucker for sympathy, she's probably severely depressed (perhaps from trauma she experienced as a child) and has lots of mental health issues because of it. She probably lacks self-worth and feels compelled to do this stuff to feel good about herself. All of her actions are attempts to get you to prove your concern for you; the "amnesia" is a convenient way to get you to explain yourself over and over again with plausible deniability for her. If she really is in chronic pain it's probably a symptom of depression. Regardless, it is not your responsibility to fix her and probably beyond your ability, anyway. Leave it to professionals and get this toxic person out of your life. DarkHorse fucked around with this message at 02:08 on Jul 31, 2013 |
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Excelsiortothemax posted:My friends father wanted to block Christmas but his mother won out.
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# ¿ Apr 1, 2015 21:52 |
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TunaSpleen posted:That's a lot like my grandmother, deep in the throes of dementia. Fortunately, I'm burned into her memory at the age she first started declining, so I'm perpetually ~21 to her, which is way better than being perceived as a child or even a teen. She keeps asking when I'm going to graduate but now I can keep honestly answering, just increasing the degree level every few years. She's always so impressed and proud. Then she started confusing me for my dad, her son. Then she thought both of us were strangers, until we reminded her. Then she couldn't even remember either of us, and eventually lost the ability to speak entirely. Basically what I'm saying is that dementia sucks, and I feel for anyone that has to watch a loved one go through that.
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# ¿ Apr 21, 2015 00:45 |
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Rexides posted:"Deformation of Character" is my very specific toon fetish. God drat but that poo poo is scary.
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# ¿ Oct 5, 2016 18:17 |
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Thank you so much for sharing this, and if there's any justice in the world out there KAK is going to have a legal freight train dropped on her.
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# ¿ May 16, 2024 23:53 |
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DicktheCat posted:
Transformer planet had a war between civilian transformers and warrior transformers. Decepticons were thus all military vehicles and the Autobots were all, well, cars and stuff. Fake edit: oh poo poo, trap sprung!
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