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Senso posted:Also, we suspect he's hyperactive (maybe ADD too? We haven't read a lot on it). I don't know if he's too young for us to worry or if we should start working on that right away. It's obviously hard to find a specialist who speaks English in Saigon so our choices are limited regarding that. We just know that he has more energy than both of us, requires our attention non-stop, can not sit still for more than 3 seconds, shouts a lot, often doesn't listen to us, etc. It's slowly taking its toll, we are getting tired, might lose temper now and then... Some days are harder than others, overall we're hoping it's just a phase but it's been lasting huh, 3 years now. Out of curiosity, have you had his hearing checked? It's possible that he doesn't listen to you because he can't hear you very well, and shouts a lot because he doesn't know he's doing it. http://www.healtharticles.org/adhd_add_hearing_loss_071304.html
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ssjonizuka posted:Just chiming in to echo that I'm glad to have found this thread - it'll be nice to have an occasional sounding board and reminder that we're not in this alone. Congratulations! He's a cutie 
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Mnemosyne posted:Does anyone have any links to some scientific sources saying that I don't need to ignore my baby to keep him from being spoiled? I'm getting this "spoiled" stuff from both my family and my husband's family. They will literally call me on the phone and say "you're not picking that baby up too much, are you?" Here's one: http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=infant-touch My opinion is that if the baby wants held, hold him. He doesn't need held constantly but it's pretty unlikely that you'll overdo it, and there is no spoiling a baby - they're too little to really be spoiled - up until they're toddler-aged you can really only focus on providing for their needs. Here's an article about babies being spoil-proof: http://www.babycenter.com/404_should-i-worry-about-spoiling-my-baby_3446.bc. It's more advice than science, but it makes sense. Apart from that, the only thing I'd suggest is to avoid parenting discussions with your in-laws and parents as much as possible, and when it comes up, just politely say something along the lines of "This is how we're raising our child, and we'd rather leave the discussion at that."
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ChloroformSeduction posted:It's pretty hard to deal with the pressure of people telling you not to spoil your baby. When my son was born, his dad was constantly berating me for going to pick him up when he was crying, because (direct quote), "then he'll just learn that if he cries you'll come pick him up!" Which I thought was kind of the point of having a baby. It really got to me, because my instincts were telling me to pick him up, but he was insistent that I didn't, and would get my old-school family to back him up ("well, your mom babied your brother, and now he's marrying that guy out in Montreal because of it!") So then when I was alone in the house, it felt like I was sort of secretly picking my son up and holding him. So, so messed up. That's awful - they managed to combine the crazy idea that babies can be spoiled with the crazy idea that being nice to your baby turns him gay. It's terrible that they made you feel bad for acting on your perfectly normal maternal instincts.
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Superdawg posted:What does everyone use for baby gate solutions? My son is 9 1/2 months old and crawling like crazy, almost walking on his own and climbing the stairs like a pro. We used one similar to this: http://www.walmart.com/ip/14894740?adid=22222222227000542529&wmlspartner=wlpa&wl0=&wl1=g&wl2=&wl3=13689196750&wl4=&wl5=pla&veh=sem I'm not sure what your setup is like, so I don't know if it would work, but ours was pretty much just like in the picture with a wall on one side and a railing on the other.
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Awesome Kristin posted:You might have to just attach the gate to that first post and let him climb on the first step only. Yeah, this is the best option. He's not likely to get hurt on just one step.
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Awesome Kristin posted:He's in the middle for his age as far as weight and height. His head is like 90th percentile though. My kid had a 90th percentile head, too, as a baby. I always felt weird looking at other kids on the playground thinking "Why are their heads so small?" She's ridiculously healthy, though, and beautiful as the day is long, so it really doesn't matter as long as the percentile stays consistent (which it did).
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Crazy Old Clarice posted:At what age did your kid stop having any middle of the night feedings? E is coming up on 10 months and like clockwork wakes up at 2:30am to eat. How do I tell he is ready to drop that feeding? I counted the calories my daughter was getting during the day, and when that added up to her daily needs, we stopped the night feedings. And no, since that sounds weird, I wasn't feeding her based on calories, I just used the calorie count as a guideline to make sure she'd eaten enough during the day. Toadpuppy fucked around with this message at 14:44 on Nov 2, 2012 |
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Crazy Old Clarice posted:That sounds like a good method and I would try it, but since I am breastfeeding, I don't really know how many calories he is taking in during the day. When it was time to stop night feedings, we'd just go check on her when she woke up at night but didn't feed her, and she'd usually go right back to sleep. Maybe we were just lucky, though. If she didn't go back to sleep we were prepared to feed her, but oddly enough that never happened.
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Scuttlebutt posted:Does anyone have any experience with toddlers who don't talk? My 2.5 year old niece doesn't talk. Every now and then she will say a word (never consistently), and the family treats it as cause for celebration. Most of the time she just screams and cries. I know that her parents have a referral to get her evaluated, but they don't intend to follow through with it. Should we be worried, or is she just most likely a late bloomer? My daughter was a late talker, too. We had her evaluated just in case, because the doctor said she didn't see anything really wrong with her but not having something like 30 words by age 2 is a good reason to have her checked out. Her hearing was fine, and the evaluation showed that she understood perfectly well, she just didn't like talking. I would highly recommend an evaluation because at the very least it will put her parents' minds at ease. Kids do things at different rates, and some kids are more physical than verbal. She finally started talking after she started daycare, and now (at age 5) her vocabulary is surprising - for instance, if you ask her what vampires are, she'll reply "Flammable." She knows what it means, too, because she likes to pretend she's a fire-breathing dog princess with invisible wings.
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