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Really glad to have randomly found this thread today, it's going to be a nice change to discuss parenting with gewns. My wife and I have a 3 years old guy and we have been living in Vietnam for over a year - it's definitely not always easy for him. He's blond/blue-eyed so he stands out a lot. The first few weeks, he didn't mind getting touched by old ladies and photographed by teenage girls (seriously, sometimes in a park there would be 12 girls surrounding him and taking pics) but now, he flips out as soon as a Vietnamese tries to pat him or something. Not being rich, we couldn't put him in a fancy expat private school so he's been going to a local Vietnamese daycare for about a year now. It was very hard at first since he obviously did not understand a single word (and nobody can understand him). We figured that at that age though, it would be easier for him to learn the language. It kinda works, he's getting better all the time and sometimes sings in Viet. But most mornings, he's quite reluctant in going to the daycare. Even if I get there with him and a few kids welcome him by shouting his name, he will start crying and hug me, not wanting to go. It's heartwrenching but there's not much we can do... Also, we suspect he's hyperactive (maybe ADD too? We haven't read a lot on it). I don't know if he's too young for us to worry or if we should start working on that right away. It's obviously hard to find a specialist who speaks English in Saigon so our choices are limited regarding that. We just know that he has more energy than both of us, requires our attention non-stop, can not sit still for more than 3 seconds, shouts a lot, often doesn't listen to us, etc. It's slowly taking its toll, we are getting tired, might lose temper now and then... Some days are harder than others, overall we're hoping it's just a phase but it's been lasting huh, 3 years now. Anyway, TL;DR Raising an hyperactive kid in a crazy foreign country ain't always easy! Obligatory cute pic!
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# ¿ Sep 26, 2012 11:19 |
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# ¿ Apr 28, 2024 22:15 |
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Canuckistan posted:We suspected at 3 that our son had attention issues and by 4 it was more than a suspicion and by 5 it was diagnosed and medicated. Little things like going to the bathroom would turn into huge delays because he would forget what he was doing and start doing something else. He's the epitome of "ooh shiny!". Yeah, I can relate to all of this. Medication loving scares us, we hate the idea of shooting chemicals into a kid that will numb his brain, etc. Care to tell me the product name and how long was the treatment? Last thing I want is some poo poo chemical compound that creates an addiction, I've seen a few kids... Medication will be our last resort if required, like if he's completely unable to follow in class when he starts elementary...
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# ¿ Sep 26, 2012 12:03 |
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Dear Prudence posted:Try this book instead: The No Cry Sleep Solution What's the gist of this "third solution", if I may ask? Let the baby cry sometimes and go see him sometimes? I can hardly imagine a revolutionary third way. Our son very rarely cries in the night (3 1/2) or even wakes up, he's a hard sleeper like me. Except that he gets up at 6am and comes in our bedroom to wake us up. It's so early for me that I don't even have the strength to tell him "no please, go back to your bed and and sleep another hour."
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# ¿ Oct 12, 2012 10:46 |
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Slo-Tek posted:Mozart, Talking Heads, KRS-One. This made me laugh for a long time, until I realized our son listens to whatever we listen, including KRS-One.
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# ¿ Nov 28, 2012 09:54 |