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Black Shadow
Mar 21, 2014

by XyloJW

Laserface posted:

regularly smoking has had the opposite effect for me. I last ages while high, and that is now bleeding into not-high stamina.

Probably because stoned sex > not stoned sex.

I've had several friends exclaim to me that sex is intensified strongly by molly, and sex without it gets extremely boring because they've experienced a much better feeling. Same rule may apply with weed, and that's why I don't want to have sex regularly while stoned.

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Kimmalah
Nov 14, 2005

Basically just a baby in a trenchcoat.


Black Shadow posted:

My girlfriend and I had this issue when we first started having sex. Try to focus more on going up and down as opposed to forward and backwards. Don't bend over. Sit up with good posture and just bounce and see how he likes that.

Also, you wont damage his shaft.

A lot of women do that because the forward/backward grinding thing is often what feels good for them on top, while the up and down doesn't do a whole lot feeling-wise. So sometimes you've got to do a little of both for everyone to have a good time.

Bending over can work really well sometimes too, if the guy braces his feet and does some thrusting.

Skutter
Apr 8, 2007

Well you can fuck that sky high!



Techno Remix posted:

Since we're also talking about porn, I'm pretty sure there's live action smurf porn out there. I vaguely remember seeing it on one of those porn Youtubes years ago and it's infinitely more funny than sexy. Smearing yourself with body paint and then doing porn will only make it look like everyone's got some kind of skin disease by the end of it.


I have seen the smurf porn. You really get taken out of it when the blowjobs remove the make up though. Totally ruins the realism. :pervert:

Skutter fucked around with this message at 03:13 on Jan 16, 2015

DeathSandwich
Apr 24, 2008

I fucking hate puzzles.
What is the goon recommended bullet vibe? I have troubles bringing my girlfriend to climax and I think it would be easier if we had one for her to use while I was going down on her.

neongrey
Feb 28, 2007

Plaguing your posts with incidental music.
It's a little bit pricey (around 50 bucks if you catch a sale, check out Pink Cherry, they usually have a 20% off coupon active) but the We-Vibe Tango will blow her mind.

If you want to go cheap a Good Vibes Silver Bullet will suffice though.

empty whippet box
Jun 9, 2004

by Fluffdaddy

Black Shadow posted:

I've had several friends exclaim to me that sex is intensified strongly by molly, and sex without it gets extremely boring because they've experienced a much better feeling. Same rule may apply with weed, and that's why I don't want to have sex regularly while stoned.

Well, I've done a poo poo load of molly and while yes, it is loving amazing if you have molly good enough to not give you rave dick, but it also is really really hard to actually get off as a guy when you're rolling. I don't know why they would think sex without it is extremely boring, I sure don't think that and like I said, I've done a whole loving bunch of molly in my day.

e: to be clear, when I say molly I mean MDMA, not research chemicals.

Hydrolith
Oct 30, 2009

Kimmalah posted:

A lot of women do that because the forward/backward grinding thing is often what feels good for them on top, while the up and down doesn't do a whole lot feeling-wise. So sometimes you've got to do a little of both for everyone to have a good time.

Bending over can work really well sometimes too, if the guy braces his feet and does some thrusting.

Well, the other thing that works is up-and-down, but using fingers on her clit at the same time, or even just a thumb.

Kimmalah
Nov 14, 2005

Basically just a baby in a trenchcoat.


Hydrolith posted:

Well, the other thing that works is up-and-down, but using fingers on her clit at the same time, or even just a thumb.

True, but sometimes that's hard to pull off when everyone's moving around so much (in my experience anyway).

Black Shadow
Mar 21, 2014

by XyloJW

Kimmalah posted:

True, but sometimes that's hard to pull off when everyone's moving around so much (in my experience anyway).

It's much easier when she's in cowgirl and you're doing the thrusting.

potentiallycool
Nov 7, 2011

Homie
Fallen Rib
I know that delayed ejaculation is a side effect of SSRI medication and fixing it is not a simple solution. My previous girlfriend had a very low libido (another issue entirely) and so time between sex was infrequent and I found it easy to orgasm. With my current partner we don't often have sex in the week because of our work schedules and her libido is quite high. Last weekend we had six times which is a lot for me.

I was able to orgasm once on the Friday night and she had a good time the other times but it just seems to go on forever . I find it hard to know when to end and often I stop because I am exhausted she is usually keen to keep going. This means sex often lasts for about 30 to 45 minutes and twice this weekend it lasted nearly an hour which for me is a long time. I usually will stop and do something else but for her penetration is the best and I just let her ride me for as long as she wants to. I can maintain an erection for the entire time which she loves. I have tried to say that that much sex really tires me out but she says it's something she really has to do. How can I communicate my sexual needs/wants better?

Another issue we have and I know this sounds like whining but she gets really wet and it gets really messy and I have to like change the sheets 3 times in the weekend. The only thing I thought of was using a towel but anyone got any better ideas?

Masonity
Dec 31, 2007

What, I wonder, does this hidden face of madness reveal of the makers? These K'Chain Che'Malle?

potentiallycool posted:

Another issue we have and I know this sounds like whining but she gets really wet and it gets really messy and I have to like change the sheets 3 times in the weekend. The only thing I thought of was using a towel but anyone got any better ideas?

http://www.boots.com/en/Boots-Pharmaceuticals-Staydry-Disposable-Bed-Pads-12-Pack_1222729/

Or if you are to embarrassed to buy them, get "puppy training pads". They are the same thing only with some sort of "piss here if you are a dog" pheromone in them.

Geoj
May 28, 2008

BITTER POOR PERSON

potentiallycool posted:

Another issue we have and I know this sounds like whining but she gets really wet and it gets really messy and I have to like change the sheets 3 times in the weekend. The only thing I thought of was using a towel but anyone got any better ideas?

My wife is a prolific squirter (has been known to soak through a comforter, blanket, both sheets and into the mattress pad) and we keep a collection of old bath towels in the bedroom specifically for this reason.

We've considered using waterproof pads or investing in some rubber sheets but both seem to be incredibly inconvenient or expensive, and the towels work fine and can be washed and reused.

neongrey
Feb 28, 2007

Plaguing your posts with incidental music.
I know I always keep suggesting expensive alternatives to things, but I've heard nothing but good about the liberator Throe (link nsfw) as being the absolute best squirting platform you can get.

KillHour
Oct 28, 2007


potentiallycool posted:

I know that delayed ejaculation is a side effect of SSRI medication and fixing it is not a simple solution. My previous girlfriend had a very low libido (another issue entirely) and so time between sex was infrequent and I found it easy to orgasm. With my current partner we don't often have sex in the week because of our work schedules and her libido is quite high. Last weekend we had six times which is a lot for me.

I was able to orgasm once on the Friday night and she had a good time the other times but it just seems to go on forever . I find it hard to know when to end and often I stop because I am exhausted she is usually keen to keep going. This means sex often lasts for about 30 to 45 minutes and twice this weekend it lasted nearly an hour which for me is a long time. I usually will stop and do something else but for her penetration is the best and I just let her ride me for as long as she wants to. I can maintain an erection for the entire time which she loves. I have tried to say that that much sex really tires me out but she says it's something she really has to do. How can I communicate my sexual needs/wants better?

Another issue we have and I know this sounds like whining but she gets really wet and it gets really messy and I have to like change the sheets 3 times in the weekend. The only thing I thought of was using a towel but anyone got any better ideas?

I was the same way when I was on Prozac - I could go pretty much forever (until I got dehydrated and exhausted). I never found a great way around it other than concentrating on how good it feels really hard and trying to think sexy thoughts (basically the opposite of what I try to do now that I'm not on it any more).

Ultimately, I just stopped taking meds, but that's probably not an option for you.

I know this sounds really, really insensitive, but as someone who has been in the exact same situation as you, my advice is "enjoy it." Because you (probably) won't be on SSRI's forever, and as annoying as it is now, it's the one thing you'll miss. Hell, it's basically like having a superpower. A sexy superpower that drives girls wild.

Skutter
Apr 8, 2007

Well you can fuck that sky high!



At the very least, get a plastic mattress protector to put under your mattress pad, just as a back up. But I'm sure puppy pad sheets would work. As could doubling up on thick towels. Just head to your local thrift store, buy a bunch of cheap towels, wash them in hot, hot water, and bam, squirt protection.

Geoj
May 28, 2008

BITTER POOR PERSON

neongrey posted:

I know I always keep suggesting expensive alternatives to things, but I've heard nothing but good about the liberator Throe (link nsfw) as being the absolute best squirting platform you can get.

I thought it sounded good until I read this:

quote:

Especially during sex, it crumples up and slides around.

Having to stop every 30 seconds to adjust pretty much ruins everything in my experience.

Kimmalah
Nov 14, 2005

Basically just a baby in a trenchcoat.


Skutter posted:

At the very least, get a plastic mattress protector to put under your mattress pad, just as a back up. But I'm sure puppy pad sheets would work. As could doubling up on thick towels. Just head to your local thrift store, buy a bunch of cheap towels, wash them in hot, hot water, and bam, squirt protection.

Dollar stores or places like Walmart are good places to get brand new towels for really cheap (especially if you're getting them for the express purpose of catching body fluids). I've honestly never seen a thrift store sell bath towels, that seems like the sort of thing that would get thrown out if donated.

KillHour
Oct 28, 2007


Geoj posted:

My wife is a prolific squirter (has been known to soak through a comforter, blanket, both sheets and into the mattress pad) and we keep a collection of old bath towels in the bedroom specifically for this reason.

We've considered using waterproof pads or investing in some rubber sheets but both seem to be incredibly inconvenient or expensive, and the towels work fine and can be washed and reused.


You can just buy a mattress protector. There's no stigma attached to them, you barely notice them (since they go under your sheets, they're waterproof, and they keep your mattress like new. It's even useful for when you're NOT having sex (since sweat gets through your sheets and yellows the mattress). Also, it's helped a few times when my wife had some particularly heavy periods.

http://www.amazon.com/Queen-Size-SureGuard-Mattress-Protector/dp/B00EJOYNBA

Just throw it in the wash once a week (or when it gets dirty).

Geoj
May 28, 2008

BITTER POOR PERSON

KillHour posted:

You can just buy a mattress protector. There's no stigma attached to them, you barely notice them (since they go under your sheets, they're waterproof, and they keep your mattress like new. It's even useful for when you're NOT having sex (since sweat gets through your sheets and yellows the mattress). Also, it's helped a few times when my wife had some particularly heavy periods.

We have one, that's what I was referring to with "mattress pad."

For us it's more so we don't have to change our bedsheets 3-4 times per week. It's also nice to be able to get it on right before bed and then just throw the towel on the floor and pass out.

neongrey
Feb 28, 2007

Plaguing your posts with incidental music.

Geoj posted:

I thought it sounded good until I read this:


Having to stop every 30 seconds to adjust pretty much ruins everything in my experience.

There's some other variants been released in the past couple years, I know she's reviewed one of the later ones too. I dunno if they'll slide around less, but she might mention.

potentiallycool
Nov 7, 2011

Homie
Fallen Rib
Thanks for the replies everyone. When I was in my 20's if someone had said you get to have sex 3 times a day I would have been hell yeah. But the reality of it is really odd. I have a mattress protector. I am going to buy some cheap towels on the weekend.

potentiallycool
Nov 7, 2011

Homie
Fallen Rib

KillHour posted:

I was the same way when I was on Prozac - I could go pretty much forever (until I got dehydrated and exhausted). I never found a great way around it other than concentrating on how good it feels really hard and trying to think sexy thoughts (basically the opposite of what I try to do now that I'm not on it any more).

Ultimately, I just stopped taking meds, but that's probably not an option for you.

I know this sounds really, really insensitive, but as someone who has been in the exact same situation as you, my advice is "enjoy it." Because you (probably) won't be on SSRI's forever, and as annoying as it is now, it's the one thing you'll miss. Hell, it's basically like having a superpower. A sexy superpower that drives girls wild.

Thanks for that. I find that with most problems in life trying to see the good in a situation is not always possible but in this case I think there is an upside here. I am helping her move house this weekend and then she is going to see Angels in America hopefully that puts a damper on things haha.

Shine
Feb 26, 2007

No Muscles For The Majority

Kimmalah posted:

Dollar stores or places like Walmart are good places to get brand new towels for really cheap (especially if you're getting them for the express purpose of catching body fluids).

Welp, that explains Black Friday.

hoobajoo
Jun 2, 2004

potentiallycool posted:

I know that delayed ejaculation is a side effect of SSRI medication and fixing it is not a simple solution. My previous girlfriend had a very low libido (another issue entirely) and so time between sex was infrequent and I found it easy to orgasm. With my current partner we don't often have sex in the week because of our work schedules and her libido is quite high. Last weekend we had six times which is a lot for me.

I was able to orgasm once on the Friday night and she had a good time the other times but it just seems to go on forever . I find it hard to know when to end and often I stop because I am exhausted she is usually keen to keep going. This means sex often lasts for about 30 to 45 minutes and twice this weekend it lasted nearly an hour which for me is a long time. I usually will stop and do something else but for her penetration is the best and I just let her ride me for as long as she wants to. I can maintain an erection for the entire time which she loves. I have tried to say that that much sex really tires me out but she says it's something she really has to do. How can I communicate my sexual needs/wants better?

I was right here a year ago, minus the high libido partner, and weed and butt stuff both helped a lot to reach orgasm. I know that's horrible advice, but it really did help.

As for the mismatch in libido, have you tried super stimulating toys like wands? When I run out of steam and my wife wants to keep going, I'll use the biggest, most powerful bastard I have and go at it until she can't take no more. Obviously you want to communicate that she needs to take it down a notch, but that might be a good compromise.

Kimmalah
Nov 14, 2005

Basically just a baby in a trenchcoat.


Fourthmeal Fanboy posted:

Welp, that explains Black Friday.

That's when you get the best deals on squirtin' towels.

Old Man Pants
Nov 22, 2010

Strippers are people too!

Warchicken posted:

Well, I've done a poo poo load of molly and while yes, it is loving amazing if you have molly good enough to not give you rave dick, but it also is really really hard to actually get off as a guy when you're rolling. I don't know why they would think sex without it is extremely boring, I sure don't think that and like I said, I've done a whole loving bunch of molly in my day.

e: to be clear, when I say molly I mean MDMA, not research chemicals.

Agreed 100%. If you want to be rock hard as long as you possibly can until you are both sore all the while feeling like you are allllmost there, MDMA is the way to go. You really aren't missing anything.

Herv
Mar 24, 2005

Soiled Meat

Geoj posted:

My wife is a prolific squirter (has been known to soak through a comforter, blanket, both sheets and into the mattress pad) and we keep a collection of old bath towels in the bedroom specifically for this reason.

We've considered using waterproof pads or investing in some rubber sheets but both seem to be incredibly inconvenient or expensive, and the towels work fine and can be washed and reused.

Pro Tip: Do it on her side of the bed. ;) (Unfortunately, yep... rubber mattress protector and 2/3 layers of super large towels, and a lotta laundry detail).
http://www.amazon.com/Utopia-Premium-30-Inch-60-Inch-4-Pack/dp/B008BOC2JY/ref=sr_1_3?s=bedbath&ie=UTF8&qid=1396480641&sr=1-3

Please let me know if you can find larger towels.

For everyone else reading, never let a squirter sit on your face unless you like waterboarding, full nostrils, and temporary blindness.

But hey, I personally love the extra fireworks, when she can pull herself off me and let me know how much she is enjoying things... Beats a girl that is too dry from taking the pill, even at the lightest prescription. :(

And always say 'HI' right after you make your partner come.

Slumpy
Jun 10, 2008
Hey guys, I started seeing someone recently and we're having a problem. Sex starts out fine, she tends to dry out so we tend to use plenty of lube but if I go too deep, her taint usually gets a burning sensation and the first time we had sex I believe her taint may have ripped a bit as she said she started bleeding later on (I'm her second sexual partner which I believe contributes). The pain from her taint usually persists for a few days (2-3) after sex and prevents me from even really entering her.

We've been looking up what to do about this, and though she's going to the doctor, we'd like to know if there's anything we can do for now. We've been looking it up and have we've seen a bunch of varying things from applying Monistat to using those butt hole stretching sex toys (http://i.imgur.com/0BGHqlo.jpg).

So far the only thing we really got to try to remedy it is copious amounts of foreplay, using a poo poo ton of lube on me, inside of her, outside of her and on her taint and me entering very slow to sort of ease her into it. This works for a while until we get going and she wants me to go harder and then her taint will start spiking with pain after a few minutes.

We've only hosed maybe 6-7 times so far, about 2 times a week, so I'm not sure if she's just used to my size yet or if there is something else we should consider?

AlbieQuirky
Oct 9, 2012

Just me and my 🌊dragon🐉 hanging out
Does it work better when she's on top?

She might have a fragment of corona (formerly known as hymen) left. The GYN should be able to tell her. She shouldn't start on a stretching regimen without a GYN's supervision.

SavageGentleman
Feb 28, 2010

When she finds love may it always stay true.
This I beg for the second wish I made too.

Fallen Rib
Seconding the suggestion of the gyn - because regular bleeding and pain is definitely not normal, even if you have a large tool.

Linguistic question: Is "the taint" really an acceptable term for the vagina nowadays? For a non-native speaker like me, it really has a negative connotation.

Slumpy
Jun 10, 2008

AlbieQuirky posted:

Does it work better when she's on top?

She might have a fragment of corona (formerly known as hymen) left. The GYN should be able to tell her. She shouldn't start on a stretching regimen without a GYN's supervision.

No, way worse on top (edit: To clarify, way worse when pain is already present, if it's when she has no pain she can be on top for a while but the pain will pop up regardless). The easiest time we have is missionary despite our best efforts. Curious as to why you think it'd be hymen related? My understanding of it may be off.


edit: to above poster, the taint is not the vagina in this context or any context I've ever heard of. It's basically the patch of skin between the vaginal opening and the anus. Also it is not regular bleeding, just the first time. Pain happens pretty regularly though.

Slumpy fucked around with this message at 22:04 on Apr 6, 2014

Kaal
May 22, 2002

through thousands of posts in D&D over a decade, I now believe I know what I'm talking about. if I post forcefully and confidently, I can convince others that is true. no one sees through my facade.

SavageGentleman posted:

Linguistic question: Is "the taint" really an acceptable term for the vagina nowadays? For a non-native speaker like me, it really has a negative connotation.

Slumpy posted:

edit: to above poster, the taint is not the vagina in this context or any context I've ever heard of. It's basically the patch of skin between the vaginal opening and the anus.

Technically it's called the perineum. It's very common American slang, but I suppose it's still a bit of an ugly word when you think about it. I might try to switch up my vocab a bit, particularly since I'm sure your girlfriend will be feeling very sensitive about it right now.

Slumpy
Jun 10, 2008

Kaal posted:

Technically it's called the perineum. It's very common American slang, but I suppose it's still a bit of an ugly word when you think about it. I might try to switch up my vocab a bit, particularly since I'm sure your girlfriend will be feeling very sensitive about it right now.

She herself calls it her taint. We are not a proper people

Kimmalah
Nov 14, 2005

Basically just a baby in a trenchcoat.


AlbieQuirky posted:

Does it work better when she's on top?

She might have a fragment of corona (formerly known as hymen) left. The GYN should be able to tell her. She shouldn't start on a stretching regimen without a GYN's supervision.

This happens to me if it's been a while since I've had sex and then all of sudden I start having a lot of sex again (especially if it's like multiple times in a day). But it usually goes away on its own after I get used to it again, so I suppose I'm not much help really.

I notice it also seems to be worse if for some reason we aren't getting the angle just right, so that my partner ends up bumping into/rubbing into the area instead of just going straight in.

AlbieQuirky
Oct 9, 2012

Just me and my 🌊dragon🐉 hanging out

Slumpy posted:

No, way worse on top (edit: To clarify, way worse when pain is already present, if it's when she has no pain she can be on top for a while but the pain will pop up regardless). The easiest time we have is missionary despite our best efforts. Curious as to why you think it'd be hymen related? My understanding of it may be off.

The perineal pain could be referred pain from the corona, if present. The only reason I would hazard that guess is because most of the people I have known with vulvodynia had it on first penetration, not after a while of sex being fine. But. My pool is not a statistically significant sample, so this might well be a common variant of vulvodynia!

Hope that she can see a GYN soon, and that the doc will be helpful. Pain sucks.

Kimmalah
Nov 14, 2005

Basically just a baby in a trenchcoat.


Slumpy posted:

No, way worse on top (edit: To clarify, way worse when pain is already present, if it's when she has no pain she can be on top for a while but the pain will pop up regardless). The easiest time we have is missionary despite our best efforts. Curious as to why you think it'd be hymen related? My understanding of it may be off.

The hymen never completely goes away once a woman becomes sexually active. It just tears/stretches, but remnants of it are always around.

Slumpy
Jun 10, 2008

Kimmalah posted:

The hymen never completely goes away once a woman becomes sexually active. It just tears/stretches, but remnants of it are always around.

Oh, no, I'm aware of that, just didn't really think it'd be tied to pain to a non vagina related part

Kimmalah
Nov 14, 2005

Basically just a baby in a trenchcoat.


Slumpy posted:

Oh, no, I'm aware of that, just didn't really think it'd be tied to pain to a non vagina related part

Well apparently they were talking about referred pain, which is when you feel pain in another part of your body rather than the one that's actually being irritated/injured or what have you.

Slumpy
Jun 10, 2008

Kimmalah posted:

Well apparently they were talking about referred pain, which is when you feel pain in another part of your body rather than the one that's actually being irritated/injured or what have you.

I see. I mean it's possible, this is still new to me. She just got off work and is on her way to an appointment right now, so hopefully we'll find out.

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Spaceguns
Aug 28, 2007

Backing up the perineum theory. When she goes to her doctor I would recommend specifically asking about the area and seeing if she gets swelling/pain from the obgyn's light manipulation of the area with a qtip or whatever they use.

Try this yourself as well or have her try it herself to check (lightly touch the back end of the vagina vicinity of the perineum and note when/where / if pain happens.

Disclaimer - I am not a woman myself but I have encountered this issue before.

Also lovely phone posting

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