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loki k zen posted:I dunno about books but I find The Pervocracy to be a pretty good woman-friendly kink site. Funny. I was actually going to recommend the GF read 50 Shades of Grey, since bodice rippers tend to be popular with women who don't care for actual porn, and lo and behold that website is going chapter by chapter. God love the blogger for slogging through it enough to give a [very funny] breakdown. But, if your [The Door Frame] GF is porn squeamish, those wretched books may spark her BDSM imagination. It is an easy to digest overview on hard/soft limits, equipment, safe words, and even has a kink worksheet. If she likes Twilight, she'll love them. Shudders (The books are very bad; I read all three of them on a bit of a dare/challenge.) Since you said she liked some power play already with her being submissive, keep rolling with that and she may be open to eventually being a switch.
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/\/\ True, but it has only been part of routine infant shots since the early 90's, so if the poster is quite young, chances are they got it. If they're a bit older, they may have gotten it as part of the shots before entering middle school. It's a series of three shots that you can get just about anywhere. Walgreens will do it.
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May Contain Nuts posted:1. The first time (of the evening) the I have sex I usually last about 10 minutes. It seems like I need lots of time between rounds, about 30-40 minutes, and it's difficult to keep the mood going for that long without anything penisy happening. Then round two takes forever, 20, 30, 40 minutes if I end up finishing at all. Any advice for ways to shorten the recharge time and cum before I get exhausted during the second round? 1) How old are you? (zero snarkiness here) If you are older than your early 20's, going two rounds in quick succession like that can be difficult, no matter what. How about just don't? Masturbate earlier in the day if you need to for stamina, and just have a good, long sex with your girlfriend. 2) She needs confidence. Tell her how much you love her and her body. Tell her how hot it makes you when she's on top. She may feel better about being "on display", as it were, if she were wearing a cami, or something that makes her feel sexy. Self esteem leads to confidence. (Personal anecdote: I'm not overweight, but I have an unattractive "mommy" stomach that I dislike. Stretch marks, loose skin, etc. My husband does not care in the least, but I feel much better about myself in certain circumstances/positions if I'm wearing a cami or something, and confidence leads to better sex in all cases.) 3) I don't have much in the way of helpful advice here. If you know she wants you to do more, try asking her expressly what she has in mind. It could get worked into whatever you're doing even (she could top from the bottom, so to speak). "Oh, now that you have me all tied up, it would be so hot/dirty/etc if you..." Then, you may become inspired once you have more of an idea. Or just throw something out there, when she's prone. "What would happen if I...to you?" Or, delve into some literature or videos together for ideas. If you are both truly, naturally submissive, I'm not sure how you break out of that. But, if it's more of a case of both of you being somewhat inexperienced and just more comfortable with the other person taking the lead as a result, then I would really suggest exploring some inspiring media together. (Sorry, I don't really have any good suggestions for that; this isn't something I/we personally have an issue with.) Again, more confidence in bed always leads to better sex. Also, all the same goes for you if you want her to take charge. If it doesn't come naturally to her, she will really need some coaching. Also, if you really, truly, don't desire to go any further than you are, then you two need to have an honest conversation about the wills and won'ts of your sex lives. Honestly. Exploring and trying new things are awesome, and I definitely subscribe to the "don't knock it till you try it" school of thought, but everyone has limits in different places.
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Mak0rz posted:We used silicone lube for a while and got frustrated with it because it is drat near impossible to clean... Anne Whateley posted:Silicone stains sheets. You will also kill yourself if you're using it in the shower, on hardwood, on tile... Huh. We use Pjur for our silicone lube, and I've never had laundry problems. I use Clorox 2 with my detergent; maybe that matters? And for any play in/around the water, silicone is the only thing that works. But yeah, be careful on hard floors. We have hardwoods, and I took a comical spill once making my way to the bathroom after a particularly messy night.
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Vagon posted:Could anyone direct me to a post that I've missed while skimming the thread or offer some advice for my fiancee and I? We both love sex, find one another attractive, all that is good and fine but.. We're both very sexually adventurous and like to try more unorthodox things than doggy-style. Our primary issue is that we're both submissive when it comes to sex and each of us find it terribly awkward trying to dom for the other. For example, even dirty/down-talking is hard for us to get going. Humiliation is kind of our kink in the psychological sense, less so in the 'tie my up and make me helpless' sense. Can't you be sexually adventurous together without one of you explicitly dominating the other? (Hint, you can.) If you both are actually "very sexually adventurous" and like to "try more unorthodox things", then the next step is just to actually do that. If you are both waiting for the other to take charge, you will have a very long wait. Decide you are going to try ___(whatever) together, and just do it. Also, "dirty talking" (not a requirement in the first place) doesn't necessarily come naturally to people. Practice makes perfect; fake it till you make it. Can't go wrong with basic "I love it when you ___", "I love how your ___ is so ___", "It makes me so hard to see you ___" etc... Everything sounds better and less dumb in the heat of the moment. Explore what your kinks actually are, too. Sometimes people think their submissive, but it's really just inexperience talking, and they're insecure about leading the way. Or just don't actually know what they want, so it's easier to "be submissive", and let their partner lead the way. When two people like this get together, it sounds like your post ("We think we're adventurous, but both submissive, so we're not actually doing anything adventurous.") If you both are truly in touch with what your sexual kinks are, and you both like humiliation but neither one of you can learn to dish it out, then you will need to turn to resources outside your relationship. Like a cam girl making fun of you or something.
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For nice things, you can't go wrong with Victoria's Secret. Frederick's isn't bad, sometimes. For things that are a little bit racier, try https://www.spicylingerie.com.
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MAKE NO BABBYS posted:Uh... Victoria's Secret is poorly sized and poorly constructed garbage. Fredericks is worse/more so. I'm assuming you're a dude. Not a dude. My Victoria's bras fit me like a glove, and my favorite PJ's came from Frederick's. YMMV I suppose.
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The Door Frame posted:I was thinking more the acetone/mineral spirit paint thinner that I used use to pull permanent marker out of my skin as a kid. Either way, that poo poo will dry your skin out, is expensive in the quantities I'm looking for and reeks. Crayola kids washable markers. Not regular Crayola; they have a washable line. 8 color package is around $3.
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/\/\ Awww, that's not entirely true. But it does take an absolute minimum of 4-5 months, in my experience.  We got our game back pretty good, and the sex might be better than before...Honestly, I never understood the end of pregnancy horny. Pre-eclampsia, and feeling (looking ) like a swollen, beached, whale never much did it for me. I remember having sex for the first time after having Number One and sobbing afterwards--the hormone release, the feeling "normal' again, etc... But also feeling very weird/abnormal for it. But after Number Two, it was kind of like "the hormones are happening, I'm just going to take a quick shower and let it all out; alles gutte" in response to the tears. It's normal, and it's all good. It passes.
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Sexsomnia. It's a thing. I've woken up before, mid-coitus, because I didn't wake up when Mr. Cookie was being handsy in his sleep, and things just progressed. Happens during times of stress and/or extended lack of sleep--same triggers as many other sleep disorders. It's a comical, mild annoyance for me at worst.
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KillHour posted:The essure thing. I had an Essure and it was no big deal. I got sedated for about 15 minutes, (Propofol, but individual Dr's probably do different things), had a Coke when I woke up, and the Mister drove us home. You have to use back up birth control for 3 months, then you go in for a contrast dye scan (totally painless) to make sure the tubes are blocked. That's it. Now, unfortunately for me, I was one of the rare instances of one of the implants not taking on one side. (My OB said out of 500+ Essure procedures he'd done, I was only the third to have it perforate a tube and not work.) So, I then proceeded to have a conventional [laproscopic] tubal ligation. Which was also no big deal for me; it carries the usual risks that go with general anesthesia, but that's it. I got the IV, went down, was awake a half hour later, and we stopped for lunch on the way home. A little discomfort right at the incision sites (belly button, and another small one lower down) for the next day or two, but that was it. Didn't go with the Mister getting snipped because my OB himself had a failed vasectomy (grew back) and had another kid, and we have a friend who had TWO vasectomies that grew back (had kids, had a vasectomy, had another kid, had another vasectomy, had another kid.) It's the worst super power. Now, I know these are just anecdotes; the fail rate for vasectomies is something like 1 in 2000, and the fail rate for tubals is like 1 in 4000, but it spooked us. I think unless you are in a lifetime committed partnership/marriage, the person who really, really doesn't EVER want kids (or shouldn't medically have them) should be the one to have a permanent procedure done, like KillHour said.
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